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My intuition is strongest If your goal is to boycott me If you don't support me you are not my friend Tired of Fake people

Learn to say no to fake friends

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The magic cure to narcissism. If you are attracting narcissistic people, then this is the cure. Be so so entitled and act so entitled that the narcissist is simply bored of you Instantly kicks out every narcissist from your life.. Narcissists cannot stand entitlement Bwahahahahahahahahah.

I'd agree with whatever Vzdoh and @Ilan say here. Become more of a narcissist yourself. It's a defense mechanism. A tiny amount of narcissism is not going to hurt and gives great protection against actual narcissists. You basically become a servant in such relationships where that person's needs only matter and your needs are dumped. You also tend to attract such people, I don't mean to say that it's your fault and I don't mean to say that you are consciously attracting them, sometimes you are simply in love with someone without even realizing that they are narcissists, so not your fault, yet the mystery(of why you attract narcissists) lies somewhere in the middle of you being unaware and you having low opinion of yourself. Both aren't your fault per se. Not being aware only means such experiences make you aware. This was my actually my case more than lack of self esteem. Having a low opinion of yourself, which is the latter case where you're quite aware that you tend to tolerate narcissists, now this is where the real risk lies, get out of it, learn to be determined and stop being a doormat to such people. In both cases, experience is the best teacher and you need it for a future free of narcissists So don't beat up yourself, simply work harder on areas of awareness, boundaries and self esteem and then narcissists become a thing of the past. All you need is Self power and freedom from fear And you will have insane growth.

I feel like I'm insanely growing with you. It's unbelievable. You are my love.

My ex used to spend too much time talking about other women than me and him. In the end, I discovered his cheating. He used to tell him that I was a jealous insecure girlfriend to feel uncomfortable about his behavior. Guess I was a jealous insecure girlfriend then. Better be a jealous insecure girlfriend than be a doormat where he cheats all the time and I'm not even aware of it or tolerate it. "jealous insecure girlfriend" is a code word for manipulation. When that word appears in a relationship, you're dealing with a narcissist who is projecting his own insecurity onto you. If he says "you're so jealous." Then your reply should be - "better not make me more jealous." If he says "you're insane" Then your reply should be "you made me so." I never knew how to reply to such remarks in my previous relationship where my ex would constantly call me insane for simply asking basic questions. I didn't know how to defend myself. I used to sort of believe whatever he said. I didn't feel any power in that relationship, never felt powerful enough to give him back, he was extremely dominating asshole. So i suffered a ton. I remember feeling nervous and scared all the time and my self esteem was the lowest. I don't ever want those days back and that mental state. If I ever meet that person again and he said anything to me, I feel so much empowered now that I would give him a really hard time verbally with my insults, his ego would crush to pieces. That's the difference between who I was 2 years ago and who I am today. I had a huge growth in terms of self esteem. Now no asshole can take my power away..

The Spiritual change starts now.

@Marcel That post is here.

My ex used to spend too much time talking about other women than me and him. In the end, I discovered his cheating. He used to tell him that I was a jealous insecure girlfriend to feel uncomfortable about his behavior. Guess I was a jealous insecure girlfriend then. Better be a jealous insecure girlfriend than be a doormat where he cheats all the time and I'm not even aware of it or tolerate it. "jealous insecure girlfriend" is a code word for manipulation. When that word appears in a relationship, you're dealing with a narcissist who is projecting his own insecurity onto you. If he says "you're so jealous." Then your reply should be - "better not make me more jealous." If he says "you're insane" Then your reply should be "you made me so." I never knew how to reply to such remarks in my previous relationship where my ex would constantly call me insane for simply asking basic questions. I didn't know how to defend myself. I used to sort of believe whatever he said. I didn't feel any power in that relationship, never felt powerful enough to give him back, he was extremely dominating asshole. So i suffered a ton. I remember feeling nervous and scared all the time and my self esteem was the lowest. I don't ever want those days back and that mental state. If I ever meet that person again and he said anything to me, I feel so much empowered now that I would give him a really hard time verbally with my insults, his ego would crush to pieces. That's the difference between who I was 2 years ago and who I am today. I had a huge growth in terms of self esteem. Now no asshole can take my power away..

I'm in love again ❤️?

I'm in love with a man who is more feminine than most men I like it because it's a relief from dating those hyper masculine brawny muscular men who don't know how to respect their girlfriends, who dominate but in a low conscious manner. I wanted a dominating man but not an abuser. A man who is dominating but supportive. I found one

I can't help being all over the place and versatile.. Versatility was one of my core strengths. But I understand your point and how it can stop me from pursuing one particular thing.

That Was super helpful Michael. Thanks a lot for your insight on my post. I appreciate your time.

I WAS ALWAYS IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH EXTREMELY MASCULINE MEN WHO COULD BEAT THE SHIT OUT OF OTHERS. BUT THESE SAME MEN CLAIMING HOW MASCULINE THEY WERE, ALWAYS ABUSED ME TO SHOW HOW MASCULINE THEY WERE, BEAT ME, PHYSICALLY ASSAULTED ME, VERBALLY AND EMOTIONALLY ABUSED ME TO SHOW THEIR POWER AS MEN. THE SOCIETY 'S PERCEPTION OF MASCULINITY IS SO SKEWED THAT MUCH OF WHAT IS CONSIDERED MASCULINE IS JUST PURE TOXIC. AND I MEAN FUCK YOUR DEFINITION OF MASCULINITY IF HURTING A WOMAN IS CONSIDERED MASCULINE. AGAIN, WHAT DO I GAIN BY YOUR MASCULINITY....... ABUSE?? NO SORRY DEAR PROUD MASCULINITY. I DON'T NEED SUCH MASCULINITY IN MY LIFE THAT MAKES ME FEEL BENEATH AS A WOMAN. I REJECT YOU. I WANT MASCULINITY THAT SUPPORTS MY FEMININITY INSTEAD OF PUTTING ME DOWN FOR BEING A FEMALE. DID YOU HEAR MY SCREAMS FOR FREEDOM FROM YOUR PATHETIC MASCULINITY THAT SERVES NO PURPOSE OTHER THAN ABUSING MY FEMINITY. I DON'T NEED IT. TIME FOR ME TO SAY NO TO WHATEVER HURTS ME AND STOP BEING SILENT ALL THE TIME AND GET DEMONIZED FOR STANDING UP JUST BECAUSE I'M A FEMALE, I'M NOT SUPPOSED TO BE HEARD... NO NO NO NO HEAR ME OUT LOUD LOUD LOUD. I WILL SCREAM LOUDER IF YOU DON'T HEAR. MY FEMININITY WILL SCREAM EVEN LOUDER THE MORE YOUR MASCULINITY OPPRESSES ME. I'M A FREE BIRD. I WILL ALWAYS BE. YOU CAN'T DICTATE MY FEMININITY TO ME. YOU CAN'T KEEP ME IN YOUR GOLDEN CAGE. I DON'T NEED YOUR CAGE.. I AM NOT YOUR OBJECT OR FUCKING DOLL. I HAVE THE RIGHT TO PROTEST IF I WANT TO DON'T TELL ME NOT TO. DON'T TELL ME WHAT TO DO AS A WOMAN. I HAVE BEEN TOLD ALL MY LIFE WHAT TO DO AS A WOMAN BY MEN. I WANT FREEDOM FROM IT. I CRAVE FREEDOM. LIBERATION FROM SOCIAL BULLSHIT. I TAKE MY POWER BACK AS A WOMAN. I'M PROUD OF MY FEMININITY. I'M PROUD OF BEING A WOMAN. YOU CAN'T TELL ME WHAT'S GOOD FOR ME AND WHAT'S NOT GOOD FOR ME.. I KNOW WHAT IS GOOD FOR A WOMAN. I'M FREE FROM YOUR CAGE. I AM FREE FROM YOUR JUDGEMENT.

I say to a woman right now - be who you want to be Break the pathetic Patriarchal Mold that you were brought up in. BREAK THAT CEILING THAT WAS PUT BY MEN BREAK OUT OF IT. IF YOU ARE JUDGED FOR WHO YOU ARE AS A WOMAN, THEN THOSE ARE PATHETIC PEOPLE DON'T STOP YOURSELF FROM WANTING WHAT YOU WANT. FUCK THOSE WHO HATE YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE.

But I am slowly trying to be more masculine. One part of this struggle is that women are constantly put down and insulted and shamed if they try to integrate the masculine

I liked this particular post. Google 'splitting': it's a psychological defense mechanism the mind (sometimes) uses when it doesn't get what it wants. It's always easier to look at things as either black or white. Luckily, the real world is always more nuanced than that. The attributes you mention are, actually, not mutually exclusive. A conscious woman wants a man: - that can lead when leading is called for - that can be strong and control his emotions when the situation calls for it - that is at peace enough with himself to be brave enough to show authentic vulnerablity; show his innermost emotions for his woman -- when the situation is right - and much more. Go work more on yourself. Never stop. You are of course already perfect and beautiful and loveable as the amazing soul that you truly are. But your post shows your mind still doesn't really believe it, cos of the illusory ego (the illusion of being a fragmented separate, mortal self). And thus, if you want to show a flat-earther that the Earth is round, you have to walk with him all the way around. And just like that, if you want to show yourself (your mind) that you're a goddamn perfect divine miracle, you first have to try as hard as you can to become better (self-development). Keep trying. What makes you think you aren't strong? You're breathing and alive. That's the opposite of being weak. Life is filled with endless suffering, you're strong as fuck in my eyes ? keep your head high and be brave enough to try and try and try and fall and fall and thuw: endlessly learning, growing, becoming the best version of yourself every minute of every day. Don't care about other people's opinions of you. Fuck them. Even the hot women. Fuck em. They are all fucking apes, most of them, and currently you're behaving as one as well, sitting here whining about other people and their opinion of you and men in general. Fuck other people. Focus on yourself and your visions and goals and your own path. What VALUES do YOU want to embody with infinite integrity in your life? Hopefully one where you don't say 'fuck other people' :)).... you see what I did here? I did say two things that to a fragmented mind, operating from the spitting-defense-mechanism, would sound like they were opposing each other. But notice how they don't. Focus on yourself. Love yourself, so you can love others. Don't love others so you can get love from them. That's putting the cart before the horse. The biggest paradox about human people is that most of them love themselves the highest but value the opinions of others the highest. But which self are we even talking about? Where it is? I see no selves. I only see magical divine undivided light shining eternally now.

@Marcel I agree. That part is correct. But I still need to look deeper.

I still have tons to explore about myself. My relationship with evil.. And decoding my psyche as to how I perceive evil.

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Chill music Morning guitar instrumental. Nice to listen to while sipping tea.

I need to relax more often.

Relaxing and Peppy. Kenny G - G force.