Preety_India

Why do people act in toxic ways? Because good people don't act like that. Good people don't put their nose into stuff that doesn't belong to them Good people want to help those that they can help Good people stand up for what's right Good people don't bully others Good people don't engage in character critique when they don't know the person inside-out or personally Good people don't go around witch hunting Good people aren't constantly engaging in shaming and finger pointing. Good people want peace yet they can fight for what's right. Good people feel guilty if they hurt others. Good people are open and frank and not sneaky Good people have the same side privately as they do publicly Good people don't provoke others to a fight Good people respect other's space and opinions and don't try to invade or threaten or impose or dictate others or excessively oppose someone's opinion. Good people don't trigger others.

@soos_mite_ah Keep yourself grounded as much as possible and not let events sway you from your position. Keep your mind clear of these things. Pick a hobby that will completely absorb your attention. Remember that your world is completely separated from the rest of the world and this world should be pure and sacred, it's for your life only. It should have nothing to do with the purities of the world. Also focus on mindfulness, be more in the present moment, practice self love and self care diligently, focus on the self and make it your center, look beyond past, present and future and focus first and foremost on your own personal life and goals and understand that these things are separate from the world. Consume information regularly but don't let that information dictate your everyday activities. Keep a vision board or dream board and follow that strictly. Don't talk to people that you don't get along with on topics that are uncomfortable, it's best to avoid. The more you engage yourself in a state of peace and happiness, you automatically attract better options to put your attention to and grow from there. Hope this helps.

What do i need to do here? Be super aware of yourself and what you put out. Stay away from creeps. Peep from your burrough.

Sometimes I felt like I was dying slowly and gradually. It felt awful At that point, someone asked me - what was the point?

I think people with greater empathy frequencies will never act this way. So people who act this way must be lowest on empathy if they think being emotionally aggressive is fine.

What exactly happens when you reach the highest levels of maturity?

You cannot call it a spiritual environment, when someone lifts their finger at you and calls you the problem. There is no resonance there. There is no understanding there or no effort put in to understand you. Simply judgement. How can that come from a place of goodness? How can that come from a place of empathy?

What's the best piece of advice that you could give to someone? I think it is this. ... Don't judge a book by its cover. People judge so much - but that judgement is missing one important thing - understanding. When do you realize that you understood everything the wrong way? To love someone truly and deeply is to understand them and to understand them the right way. Whatever "right way" means. If you realized that they don't love you or are being wicked, it's just love showing you the way. If you understood their "heart" then you must know that they never meant anything wrong and your understanding should naturally be in sync with who they are. You'll put the necessary effort to understand someone deeply only if you really care and really love them. The task of loving someone truly and deeply is a huge task. It is about getting down to an existential level where you understand them inside out. (somehow sociopaths are better at this ability than regular folks, we often confuse a sociopath for a highly intelligent person/Empathetic )

Somehow this song means everything to me. It makes me feel loved, like I'm in the company of my lover who fully understands everything about me. Who else is a true lover other than someone who completely understands you?

This reminds me of deep romance.

I wished people didn't communicate with me. Because everytime they do, they simply manipulate me.

You're right about that. But still feels that way when someone doesn't fight. I would personally feel ashamed if I was being raped and my brother was simply standing there. Something just doesn't feel right about it. Can you say I'm conditioned? I can't really be proud of my brother can I?

I think I need higher intelligence to deal with things and a lot more maturity. To look at things from a Meta perspective.

There's nothing toxic masculine about it. Violence is needed for protection. Stop making it something else, your fragile ego is not my problem. And Iike I said,not interested in argument, then be civil and leave them alone if they ask for it, because what you're doing it is aggression. I would have engaged with someone who is personally slut shaming me otherwise I won't Care. It's not my business to decide if someone else got slut shamed or not. You are not some moral authority on opinions. Go police the whole internet. And remember, what appears as toxic to you might not be toxic to someone else Because right now you are not leaving me alone and trying to provoke me unnecessarily, I consider it as very toxic, yet you might not agree. So everything and every opinion and thought at the end of the day is subjective. If you can't handle someone's opinion and feel the need to impose your own, then you're intolerant of others,if you believe in witch hunting people just because they had opinions. I believe the major problem lies with you not having the ability to accept other's way of thinking, just because it's unacceptable to you, does not mean you start on a witch hunt, quite narcissistic to say the least. If it is something deeply racist, or sexist, that's understandable and I would have easily corrected myself but this is not even that, it's almost as if a person cannot even say anything freely here without feeling threatened, so having a different opinion is an offense now? You cannot keep persisting on arguing when the other person doesn't want it. Violation of personal boundaries. And freedom to opinion exists, whether you agree to that opinion or not. And nobody gets to be the arbiter to decide which opinion is right and which is wrong, ultimately everything is subjective, by your logic every opinion can be considered toxic if it doesn't comfort you? Sorry this is the internet, thought free zone, unless you're personally targeted, you acting offended over other's opinions is your own personal responsibility. And if I was expressing intolerant opinions, you can then talk to Leo about it.

I agree with this.

@Jacob Morres I have an opinion about what I find hot. Learn to chill and leave me alone. Didn't say anything personally to you.

I don't wish to argue anymore. Enough with it already! Just expressing my opinions doesn't mean I'm interested in arguing

Thank you.

Yea too much dysfunction in your post. Thanks. Enjoy instead of going after other's opinions. No time to argue. Peace out.

Sometimes I feel like a sad angel with wings. Just tired, lost, Hopeless, gone. Tired of the world. Tired of everything.

Not toxic masculinity per se. Just natural instinct. Men enjoy catfights too. Btw toxic masculinity is when a man is blocked from expressing his emotions. Men like to show their machismo anyway. Btw, I'm so tired of every little thing being labeled as toxic. Guys could fight and throw a few punches without it being a bloody violent mess or they could have a verbal fight. I didn't even imply a violent bloody fight. I simply used the word fight. I'm so done with all this judgement bullshit. Like get a better job than constantly criticising and jumping on people over little things and making a mountain out of it. Grow a bone maybe.

@Esilda

@Esilda no worries. I'll turn up the heat in the interrogation room with him. Just joking haha.

I made the following outline for my life purpose. (currently I do a peanut paying job). If you have something to add, I'll be more than glad. Looking for more ideas that I can integrate into my life purpose. Charitable element. Steady income. Passion.. Something I'm passionate about Generates enthusiasm High Conscious Activity and Contribution (I want to do something that is worth my time and worth my Life) Creative expression - this is huge for me because I'm an expressive person. I can't live without some form of creativity or creative expression Encompassing of my skills Aspects of spirituality(the outline for this is very unclear at the moment) A comprehensive life purpose. I'm a multi faceted person. I can't settle for one particular activity. It has to be comprehensive. Thanks.

My ex was each one of those. It was too tough to deal with his emotional games. I still suffer from all that he did I call it emotional scars.