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The time has finally come when I need to collect the pieces of my life together and press the move on button. Get down to the work part of my life. Carve out a career that I really want. I'm currently working as an accountant that doesn't pay me much yet I can put all my energy into work that I can eventually find emotionally fulfilling.

Past few days and weeks I have been a bit lackadaisical. Lot of new changes have happened in my life quite unexpectedly and suddenly in the last month. And I'm trying to reconcile all of that. I need to bring back my focus on my current state of life. And work from there. It was almost like I was on a holiday for the past 25 days starting August 20. But things have become more mundane now and I'm desperately trying to get back to work where I can combine all my strategies and finally weave my dreams together and set the ship sailing

Look at how much your immediate environment is influencing you?

5 things that I would want to contemplate on - What's my purpose in relation to my community? How should I love myself? How can I improve my self esteem? How can I separate myself from reality? What is the best solution for mental paradoxes?

One example of this paradox can be whether you should decide something using your brain or the heart.

Sometimes we just question reality and some of these questions are very intriguing..

Do you feel like power is being taken away from you?

My period is generally quite heavy and painful. The first three days are quite heavy. Any suggestions are helpful.

Finally Indian women are asking the right questions I am so glad. At least some Indian women are getting basic sense after all. Like wtf does donating a daughter even mean????

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One of the most important factor missing in me is self confidence. Like I feel absolutely wonderful when I get even a tiny amount of self confidence "I feel like I can do this" that's the feeling that runs through my mind

I think I need to cultivate a bundle of these traits Self esteem Self respect Self Introspection Self worth Self awareness Self confidence Self love Self care Boundaries Ego I think I'll call this the self regard and ego bundle

I remember having a panic attack and an asthma attack in a park one day and he was with me He physically grabbed my arm and dragged me half a mile into large bushes and open ground. And I was about to faint because I was feeling quite weak. And I still didn't say no to him It was brutal. I ended up with injuries on my feet. He was very Persistent and persuasive. The relationship was very bad for my health.

My second ex used to make up gang rape scenarios and tell me that it was okay to be sexually abused. I had rape fantasy but it was nothing like what he was alluding to He was saying some really bad stuff One of the reasons why I was attracted to him because he presented himself as a very pious pure hearted religious and decent guy He was quite decent for three months where he would constantly ask me if I was offended by anything sexual or non sexual But he completely changed after 3 months. He started saying a lot of sexually abusive stuff And I began to feel very uncomfortable and nervous at times But I didn't have the confidence to just say "hey I don't want this." My boundaries were extremely fragile I would never talk over him. He would always talk over me I was extremely submissive

With my second relationship, my ex used to make unusual sexual demands And I used to not say "No" I did not have the self confidence to say "I'm breaking this relationship." I did not place any boundaries. I used to feel afraid in that relationship And I used to feel like it's my fault if I wasn't able to please him enough. I used to guilt myself if I didn't satisfy him Also I wouldn't feel very humiliated even though he used to humiliate me. The fact that I wasn't feeling much humiliated was probably a bit of lack of ego This can be a bit unhealthy as well

? I was not taught self respect ? I was not taught self worth ? I was not taught self esteem ? I was not taught self love ? I was not taught self confidence

#be with those who give me unconditional acceptance. #don't pander #do what's right for you and do what's best for you.

Respond to questions in the being more masculine thread. Also work on self confidence and self esteem. Total self empowerment.

I have mostly shown a ton of forgiveness and acceptance and humility. I can't keep extending it. That would mean complete lack of boundaries and zero judgement wbjcv doesn't sound logical to me. Seems like idiot compassion to have zero judgement. I am not too judgemental but a certain amount of rational judgement is protective of principles. Otherwise we would have a hedonistic society which is more dangerous than a stage blue shaming society. So a balanced is reached at stage Green without sacrificing core principles and without the baggage of stage blue dogmatic mindset. An Openness exists at stage Green. However this Openness is not to be confused with absolute hedonism. Basic moral principles still apply. Yet if someone has behaved immoral due to their circumstances and low self worth and they are willing to change and show enough remorse, then I'm all forgiving

Wanted to note some deep contemplations about this topic.

@Tim R Yea I agree with you. It's already hard enough. At some point drastic measures will have to be taken

Don't do this just to please her. It seems you haven't fallen in love with her. Spare her the trouble of heartbreak and let her go now. Better now than later.

I have already dated such guys. Some guys were insecure that I made more than them. Insecurity kills a relationship. But not every man was that way Some did not feel any insecurity. I would completely okay to marry. I only look for a deep emotional connection and I don't need anything.

Ok got you.