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That's great.

@HypnoticMagician. I do agree with this to a certain extent yet I think I'm looking for the kind of intelligence that helps a person take proper decisions in important areas like relationships and family where emotions tend to cloud your judgement. Also what kind of potential or intelligence (I mean how would you define it), is necessary for a person to be good at looking after their well being? I mean how would you define such capability? I seriously lack in the department of "well-being of self" and I tend to be quite stupid around it. I'm trying hard to figure out why I'm being so stupid with my own well being and how I can resolve this? Thanks.

So they locked the topic before i could answer you(kinda absurd tbh). What I mean to say is that sometimes intelligence cannot be solely measured by IQ tests especially if a person lacks emotional intelligence, tact etc. Money in the bank account can be a measure of success, however I still feel that despite having monetary success a person could still make many dumb mistakes in life

One insight by @HypnoticMagician is really helpful A similar question I also asked myself when things didn't go as I predicted. Smart people are more likely to realize their stupidities. If you have a self-criticism ability at this level, you are smart. Although I am a versatility obsessed polymath, being stupid in one area isn't the same thing as being stupid in general. If you are showing glimpses of intelligence in one area, it is pretty probable that you have the similar potential in other areas as well. You can become good at the things currently you are not capable of if you put your mind into it. Understanding whether you are stupid in one area is easy. Comparing yourself to better or worse people than you at that field so you can measure how far you have progressed in your target field of endeavor. You can measure your process with the amount of money in your bank account, with the test results your brain training application prints, with social network you can reach, of course, depending on how you define success, being smart or what fields you wanna become better at.

I have come across this technique that I would call a circle on the beach or a circle in sand. Draw a circle in sand with 4 quadrants..

Since time runs too fast for me, I should customize my life, my goals, priorities, strategies, needs, my actions around this fast running time. Also it could be that I feel time is running too fast for me since I'm too slow? Quote

I don't think this is true. If you read the Bible, lots of things said by Christ are like nuggets of gold. Also Christ is the highest embodiment of compassion I can think of.

When you have weighted all perspectives and you see clearly that toxic habit is overall negative thing, something may click on you somehow and you change behavior.

I also think that time is different for different people. Time runs too fast for me. Also I'm a bit slow. Quite slow. Much slower than others.. Quote

So all in all what I see in myself is a shit ton of immaturity. I can't say I'm fully or completely dumb. But I could be extremely immature due to how I was sheltered (but not coddled), and how I was never allowed to actually be myself.

I think if I have to rate dumbness on a scale of 1 to 5, I would rate myself somewhere near 3 on that scale.. So I'm not the dumbest because there are too many factors that make taking intelligent decisions very tough for me.. Yet I'm not "average" smart either because I'm aware that average smart people in my position would not have done what I did. So i would say that most people don't fall in the category of 1 to 5. Yet a lot of dumb people fall in the category of 1 to 5. And they can be rated in that. The least dumb can be assigned a score of 1.. The most dumb can be assigned a score of 5 And the ones like me are closer towards the higher level so I'm somewhere around 3. Im not least dumb because I have done some pretty stupid stuff. Yet I'm not the dumbest. Because there are also a lot of mitigating factors to my behavior in the past. I also need to see that my personality didn't develop fully due to an abusive household.

It could be that I'm doing all sorts of dumb things without realizing it.

I don't think I am exactly dumb. But I'm not too intelligent either. I wouldn't have fallen for toxic relationships if I were that smart.. I think I am more anxious than dumb. Also I think I am more emotional than average and that clouds my judgement. I also observe that I have a tendency to do things that attract toxicity towards me. Especially in the emotional and psychological sense. Part of the reason why I neglect myself is because I was never taught to take care of myself like other regular children in my childhood. I was always told to push my priorities away and consider other things as important "first."

Maybe sometimes it's important to know that you are dumb because it helps you to humble yourself and know that you must be on the wrong path When I thought about how much I need to use objective thinking, I can see how dumb I'm acting. I am not sure if the imaginary characters of Greta, Sabina and Jessica are really helping me. Greta was the gazer. Sabina was an intimate friend.. Jessica was a therapist. Quote

I don't like to consider myself dumb but this question has been coming to me quite often now. Am I really dumb? Sometimes I feel like I am the dumbest person out there. I feel like I am stupid.

I don't need to talk to bricks lol.

The time has come to take all the bunch of concepts together and start implementing them in my life. Here I go.

Thank you so much.

How should I face these emotions and how should I integrate it?

I want to look at everything scientifically.

Wear the right key.

If you told this to Christians they would tell you to stop fooling around. Lmao. Never tell Jesus to Christians. They hate it like the plague, the irony. On a side note — I deeply connect with Christ. That's actually what I'm going to be looking forward to. <don't hunt me please >

I have to string all my concepts together. And start implementing them. I also need to start implementing diamond keys and golden keys.

This was the most helpful thing so far.

Well I have been through a few relationships. Yes they add value, lot of value both good and bad. Good value because they make you feel motivated to do better, you learn something from the other person, bad because toxic relationships cause a lot of hurt and pain, but even then they add value because these mistakes teach you what to avoid for rest of your life. It's like betting on something. You win the bet, you hit the jackpot and you feel good, although this jackpot is not the biggest deal in life. You lose the bet, then you learn what not to put your bets on. Relationship is like a game, a very complicated game. If you win, you get to keep the treasure. If you lose, you learn important lessons. Either way you gain something, you lose something, just like in any game. Is what you gain worth the trouble? That will depend on how much this gain eventually matters to you. End.