Preety_India

Mr/Miss Eyes - By focusing on yourself. Getting rid of distractions. Being in your own element. Navigating through life is not easy. But you can use tools and resources. You can find your path. You can look for solutions. You need to do what you got to do.. Use patience. Manage your time right. Focus on what you need to achieve and work 100% towards it.

I don't know. Who cares? I'm not here to be an intellectual heavyweight.

So wait a minute. Just because someone's parents are well off, they should keep donating money till they empty their parent's bank account? What kind of grift is that?

I actually really thought his sessions were absolutely free. I mean I give so much free advice on here. One guy here pmed me and told me that it was wonderful that I was helping people for free. So many people here have personally thanked me and I don't mind it at all. If I had to make someone pay for my advice then I would make sure that I'm really making a significant impact on their life.

Are you kidding me? 6000 dollars? Plz. You better start charity. Please don't spend that kind of money.

@Loba actually this reminds me of the guy who committed suicide not long ago whose name was Soonhei on the forum and the last person who he had a communication with on the forum was Nahm. Not saying that Nahm is in anyway responsible for the suicide. But Nahm's conversation might have had a negative impact on the guy causing him to think what he was doing was right. I mean these are the situations where social acuity gets tested really badly. Plus Nahm was in the position of a mod. That's very influential to some newbie. All I can say the mods here should tread carefully with their advice. It can drive someone over the edge.

I had many disagreements with him and I also directly voiced it to him because I felt completely invalidated by some of his replies. His style of communication leaves a person totally confused. It can lead to feelings of "spiritually undeveloped." I had told him that it's spiritual bypassing what he was doing. Although I didn't heckle him with it because I respected that he is a mod and he has been here for so long with good intentions. Yet I can't call a spade a bow. A spade is a spade. I got very little from his answers. Also there were certain points whereby I felt that there was no point in me asking a question because his comments would completely invalidate it People come here to seek help. They don't want such platitude to sabotage their threads. I had confronted Nahm long ago in this thread. I'm not saying that he shouldn't on the forum. But he can make his communication less confusing to members who open threads. Not fair to people who ask genuine questions.

If someone doesn't understand what's written, it's really not their fault. It's up to that person to explain with greater clarity, you cannot guilt the listener. This is like emperor has no clothes.

I understand your point but do you see that his posts could be misleading to the OP?

@Leo Gura @mandyjw I had noticed this problem long ago in this thread I made last year and told Nahm that. Sorry to break the bubble Mandy but Nahm doesn't give psychologically sound answers. It can harm the person who is asking the question..

Oh come on. Leo isn't like that. Don't guilt him like this. Leo has valid concerns. That kind of talk is cheap. Please respect Leo's work here.

I think it's this. I really feel I can't. I feel like I have no love for myself. Sometimes I tend to love others than I do myself. I leave very little for me and give everything to others. The core essence is that I simply don't know how to love myself. It feels alien to me. It doesn't come naturally. If I had to pamper myself, it would feel unnatural and I'd end up mocking myself. But I know that self love has a lot of value in it. So I really want to push myself to love myself. Note - I don't hate myself. No. Not at all. I like who I am although I don't care about myself. I tend to simply abandon myself so much.

Sad situation but understandable. You don't need to beat yourself up so much. Do what's right in your eyes. Why this guilt?

I'm looking for methods of self love because I think I neglect myself badly. I just don't know how to love myself more.

Next question : how should I navigate through my life?

@gettoefl sorry I need more resources.

The devil tightens the noose so does the Good. It's time to tighten the noose.

This is a situation only when you're trying to create extreme polarity with a woman. However if you're the kind of guy who wants less polarity and more mutual collaboration with a woman, in other words harmony, then you need to stop thinking like a hunter and more like a protector.

I agree with you. His approach is problematic.

If I actually thought that I'm going to be losing my legs in a car crash, I would never drive a car again.. You see what I mean? The mere thought that something bad might happen automatically induces stress. Although I get your "being grateful for what you got" point. But still I can't wrap my head around how I can exactly perceive the future as negative and still not be anxious.

@UDT thnx.

What are your interests as a man?

Based on the above post, major questions ? What prevents you from doing personal development work? ?How to organize, schedule and coordinate your effort in the right direction to achieve your goals? ? How to cultivate different forms of intelligence? ? How to motivate myself to get results? ?How to navigate through self help and filter information correctly? ? How to stop feeling blank and unmotivated? ?How to love myself?

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