Preety_India

This forum drama will always continue. It's best to detach from it. Lesson learned.

Still feeling a bit sleepy.

Yea for someone who has worked too hard for it or someone who is cash strapped and if they happen to cough up that kind of money for sessions and then realizing that it's not helpful, it can come across as quite a shock. I remember spending my own hard earned money on some charlatan for investing in his business because he promised me that it was extremely lucrative and then I completely lost the money to the tune of $3000 and he went into hiding because he had taken a lot of money from other people like he did from me and the day I discovered that he was operating a scam, I collapsed on the floor and after that I couldn't eat,drink or sleep for nearly 15 days, I had almost lost all of my savings to that scam and then I would repeatedly faint and lose consciousness in the coming days after the incident. My health suffered terribly and I would get panic attacks at night thinking about how I get back my money. He was a very rich guy so he paid bribe to the police and escaped far away and I could never see a dollar from him again. I had lost all of it. The financial loss was huge for me. But the psychological and emotional loss was even bigger knowing that I acted foolish and gave away so much trust and knowing that I was betrayed and got no compensation in return I think people brush off such things as "not a big deal" until it actually happens to them. The money never comes back. But the psychological and emotional ramifications of such losses and betrayals is even bigger and lasts a long time. A lot of people don't realize the damage it does to the psyche. I mean I was suicidal for many many months after that charlatan ran away with my money. He later changed his name and escaped to another city.

Do your parents even know that the money was used, spent and lost in this manner? Also I expect a refund in such a situation to your parents. It's their hard earned money.

Also there's an important lesson for you here and that is to be extremely wise with your money (more wise if it's your parent's or someone else's money) and to not trust someone so much in the future to the point that they use your trust against you. Don't assume that if someone is known to be high conscious they can't engage in unethical ways, the point is that it's not completely and entirely your fault but if you want to avoid such a thing happening to you in the future then you'll need to revise your mindset and be hyper aware, not rely on credentials, learn to judge people correctly, learn to be skeptical and critical and not always assume the best of a person in any situation, accept reality and understand that even the best people fail and that you shouldn't become a victim of their flaws and failures, keep a watch on how things unfold, judge a person by action rather than reputation and learn to criticise whenever such critical thoughts arise, not to be too trusting to the point of being waylaid and keep a skeptical outlook no matter how positive you think about a person.

Yes exactly. It's all about putting too much trust to the point that one simply cannot see bad consequences happening. One is always wishing that only good is going to come. Important lesson learned.

The problem is that I don't hate myself. I do admire myself for being beautiful and intelligent and hard working. But I just neglect myself a lot. I don't motivate myself to be caring towards myself

Totally agree. For me it would have been earth shattering. I would have felt very guilty and regretted it so much especially if it were my parent's hard earned money.. It would led to feelings of shame and guilt. I feel for the dude @Raptorsin7 not only did he end up spending that but also be gaslighted by everyone for opening up about his situation when he actually did the right thing by sharing it with everyone. He basically saved others from a similar fate.

If it wasn't Nahm but some regular member would have done the same thing to you, what would you think would have been the reaction of the forum? In my opinion I think it would have been taken strictly, because it's Nahm so... you get what I mean. I kinda smell double standards.

What do you think in your mind would have been the case if someone else here would have done the same thing what he did?

What do you mean by this?

Woke up today feeling a bit tired.

feb-16-to-feb-24 feb-23-to-feb-28

Woke up and not feeling great.

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I feel so upset after reading all this.

I don't want to be invested in this forum anymore, not to the degree that I have been so far, it can/might turn into a gaffe. There is too much power vested in mods. And that's not ethical by any means. I already witnessed one incident. I'm not going to wait for more. It has caused me to lose faith in this forum entirely. It means anything can go by here and anyone can get away with anything and people will still support that behavior just because that person is their favorite. No thanks. I'm going to detach myself from this whole thing, I don't want to be entangled in this or even deal with it. The learning lesson for me is that I can't trust this place anymore. You deal with mud, you bring dirt on your hands, goodluck with all this. I'm out. (I thought this was an ethical place).

@Inliytened1 I don't even understand you. You're a mod and by that reason alone, you are expected to be more strict with guidelines and ethics. How can you not see what Nahm was doing was against guidelines and unethical? Are you saying this because he was a mod? You should oppose that behavior.

I had no idea that he was charging money. I thought he was simply helping vulnerable people with free Skype sessions. No. Taking money from users here for whatever reasons should be absolutely unethical. You're not here to market your business. That's grossly illegal behavior. I'm surprised this was not even investigated into.

I don't know how you say that. Leo has already made it clear that a user cannot advertise their product here or leech off the audience here for their own private business which is exactly what Nahm was doing. He was using the members for his private business. He was charging them money. In essence he was leeching off the audience here for his private services which is unethical and clearly against forum guidelines Guidelines are strict for normal users here. But guidelines are even stricter for mods here because they are the ones who are enforcing them. Promotion of a website /social media is allowed. But leeching the members financially is not allowed. Huge difference

Actually it is unethical for a mod to accept money from users. This is not the place for that. That is a serious breach of forum guidelines and in general bad faith behavior.