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Tips Be more matured Be more honest and authentic from beginning to end. Stop pretending. You are not only fooling the other person but also yourself Be more giving Understand your own exploitative nature. Do not be too possessive or obsessed. Cut down your domination and bossiness. Be honest and admit mistakes Know that you will always need her in some way Be more open Do not be calculated or calculative Ask what the other person gets from you or what you can really offer Be more loving. Love is not about showering gifts but also about care, time, attention, affection, sharing, understanding, caring and giving. Love is not about testing. Stop testing. Test yourself before you test others. This is a real commitment for life not a one day commitment show. Be prepared for what you are signing up for and be ready for it for the rest of your life otherwise drop it altogether. It's not a child's play. Action speak louder than words. Commitment should be in action and not in words. Be less expressive about it because it can be deceptive if not followed by action. If a person is too gregarious about it, it's most likely deception.. Show your commitment more in action than in words. Brutal honesty is better than zero honesty. If he is brutally honest, it's a good sign he won't cheat or do something drastic. Do not discourage this habit. Less likely to be sly or sneaky. Accept failure. If your ego is too big, it cannot accept failure or inability. Do not guilt trip her into having the lowest expectations out of you just because you can't fulfill them. Blame yourself for the inability instead of using blame and guilt tripping as a weapon to shut someone down or make them feel guilty or wrong. That's manipulation, gaslighting and abusive. Stop guilt tripping, shed the ego and be honest about your limitations and boundaries. Men who are secure, confident, capable, strong do not feel the need to blame and guilt trip. Men who are insecure, weak, incapable feel the need to blame and guilt trip excessively to mask their incapabilities and push the blame so they don't have to feel the guilt or shame.

Premise A does not match premise B Like A has a value you assigned but the value is not even close with minimum deviation but it's too far with maximum deviation. That's why all the conflict. Also all of it is just baiting and gambling with maximum risk and zero payoff. The return on investment is not less or little or minus but zero.. Plus the investment is lost too. What kind of a deal is that...

"You are not ugly, life is ugly."

Ok fine fine fine.. Just relax. It is okay to not have a boyfriend in my life. I know I'm too needy. But it's ok.. The last one was terrible and left me with emotional scars. There is no need to hurry. It's not worth it if it doesn't help. Being with a man only to ruin myself. That's not a good recipe. Next time don't give any false hope to any woman in your life. It was terrible I know. I felt desperate, depressed, suicidal, lonely everything under the sun after that. I didn't deserve it. It was awful. A roller coaster ride of mistakes. But better burned than dead. At least I learned my lesson. Don't depend on a man for affection. I know it's hard. But the deep need is still there. Maybe social conditioning that men are good. But that needs to be scraped off. It's a cruel game. Just like any other. A game of survival. A game of tricks and cutting losses. No point of being with a man who doesn't respect. It's hard I know. Loneliness is a struggle and a tough battle. It makes me an emotional wreck. But better be lonely than betrayed and depressed. That's even worse. I have felt betrayed thrice now. Enough is enough. Enough trying to search for love. Love is a word used to fool women. I wish the word didn't exist. It plays games with your heart. Last week has been an emotional crisis. Going to write a email to my ex. Want to tell him to get lost. He is not a bad person but he didn't do right and there's no forgiveness to play games with an emotionally fragile person. I didn't deserve the pain and the betrayal. The pain needs to end finally. Pull yourself up by the bootstraps. It's time to say "f off" and let go and accept reality that it's harsh for many. But whatever.. There is no point in thinking of what's bad. Bad is gone. Welcome good. I have been depressed and feeling lost since the break up. It's hard to come to terms with it. It was hard to know that my trust was completely broken and the person I trusted never existed. It was traumatic. But I guess this year will be better. And I will look forward not anymore to love though but to other beginnings.. There are much better things if humans can't fulfill the need of love. Love is not the end of the road.

Self entitlement syndrome....... Lol In some cultures too much Narcissism is considered sinful and bad In others it's a thing to wear with pride like a birthright..

Give yourself today some.......... Bliss

Half knowledge is always dangerous. Worse than ignorance.

Don't be a blubber in life

Doing something that is irrelevant and inconsequential and of little to no real benefit is what both young and old blubbers do.

It's only crackheads who talk about stuff that isn't relevant.

You're focusing on everything else except your own life. Major Distraction Syndrome Why do I or anyone does it To keep away from the fear or anxiety of emptiness.. Therapy To keep attention off stress inducing events or chores... Therapy... Distraction therapy To keep the dopamine validation stimulation momentum circuit going on. To feel stimulated which might indicate low dose depression or lack of stimulation, focus, drive and motivation to do something in life. Loss of interest in one's life. To feel that everything is okay and nothing is going wrong. Sort of therapy Block stressful memories, events situations past or current To feel better about oneself like feeling you're achieving something in life. A false sense or perception of it to feel better. Again therapy To relieve accumulated stress.. Again therapy To feel full or meaningful about life.. The TV slot effect.. The show must go on kinda thing As a way to heal from long term undetected underlying tapering- off depression To feel happy... Again therapy

Lol So true. Eh

@egoeimai hey that's awesome suggestion Thanks. ❤️❤️??Hearts.

What to do in a situation where you feel like another person has ruined your life in some way. How to either forgive or let go. One thing is that you have to understand that maybe you think that the person is really responsible for ruining your life but even then you have to know that it doesn't matter if it is someone. It will always be something either a person or a thing or a situation or condition or event. For example, your damage or problem could have been caused by an earthquake or your problem is because of your bad health. There is really no point in blaming your suffering on someone who is destructive to you because you just have to become free of that person to escape the damage. Life is like a bad poker game and if you lose, it's really not the opponents fault or its not him or her but it's the game itself that's unfavorable. There is no point in blaming others. They are a part of the problem too. They are just another channel of causing frustration in your life but there are one channel out of the many channels that give you pain and frustration in life. You show resentment towards them because they are living beings capable of feeling your hate. You wouldn't show resentment towards earth for an earthquake that destroyed your house or fire that burned your house down because you just can't show it to non living things Therefore extreme resentment is pretty much useless. You gotto move out of that situation, call it quits, start a fresh new chapter, put all that behind you, move on and create a better situation for yourself, buckle up and never make the same mistake again or never let the past situation happen to you again and move on and let go. In this way, you're taking the higher road and you don't need to forgive the other person if you have trouble forgiving, you just have to let go and move on. This is a matured way of handling situation where you have tremendous resentment towards the other person.

Happiness is important because it reduces the chances of entangling into negative thinking and therefore less chances of attracting or having dark emotions. But a little suffering in the early stages helps the person to wisen up and not make mistakes in future. So really there should be a balance between suffering and happiness but overall there should be more happiness.

Suffering has a good side and a bad side. The good side - It makes you wiser It makes you matured It makes you appreciate happiness much more and even be grateful for all things and not take them for granted It teaches you important life lessons It makes you cautious of future dangers and prepares you for the greater struggles in life You are more sober and complacent and take lesser risks. People who have suffered least dive into dangerous behaviors because they tend to take everything for granted unaware of consequences. People who suffer or have suffered are less likely to create chaos and drama. But people who don't have much problems have nothing to engage their minds with and tend to create chaos and drama to feed their empty life. The bad side - It attracts misery You become miserable with long term suffering Ripple effect. Now your misery makes you want others to be miserable It causes you to develop a negative thinking pattern Negative thinking when gone out of hand can attract dark emotions like jealousy, insecurity, hate, anger, rage, resentment and revenge to a level that it can even lead to murder.

If there is so much distrust why even call it love.

It's awful to have to defend yourself when you know you didn't do wrong. My soul is as pure as it can be.

Poker problems The app does not have many tables with choices for less crowded ones. You end up with the same crowd Some bettors are like bingo players and they love to throw in a big bet first even before a flop is shown and that messes up your choices especially if the bet is too big or they betted the entire buy in or all in. Then you are either made to call the raise or go for all in or fold that makes it very difficult because you aren't ready to lose on that level. Kinda unfair if you want to have a Check of the flop before you can bet in any amount. These are the highest risk takers but they create a losers table because they can lose but they make everyone lose along with them and there are a few chances where you could have gotten a good hand dealt to you but you lost it because you didn't wanna bet that much before a flop. So it's a lose lose situation. Game killer. Mid round bettors.these are okay if they are too sure that they will win, in that fold will help cut loses because it's a no game if they are gonna win, but the problem is that they don't have a good hand and you have one and you are not totally sure because you don't see the river yet and even if you did see the river, what if someone else has a better hand or cooler, then you are in for a bad surprise if you kept hoping and betting. So you can't be sure and want to take a low risk but the middle round betting obscures your potential chances to win the pot, and you have to withdraw or call a fold which is worse than before because in first round betting you can directly fold but now you are folding after a bet or first round call. So after you fold you either realize that you had a good hand at winning or the person wins before showdown because all players folded, thus obscuring a well dealt hand. Again creating a losers table. Showdown betting is good if there are just a few and you are too desperate for a win or the Flop is anyway not very favorable so no big potential loss. Accidental calling. If you get distracted and someone before has betted huge or went for a showdown bet, you could accidentally hit the call against your wish and end up going along a bad hand knowing you are going to lose Crowded table. A full table reduces the chances of winning per person because now the hands are distributed amongst more people. Your chance will come late or never. Rigged game. The probability of getting any good hand like straight or royal flush is already too low. The same applies for straight, three of a kind, flush or full house. But they are still frequent. If the game is rigged, the probability furthers narrows down to almost zero because another player is getting all the good hands. No point of even playing or betting. It's like playing to lose or make the other player win.. These players could be the ones who have paid their way in the game by buying benefits or features. Rigged game makes it all boring and you never win no matter what strategy you use. You are made to fail. That's even discouraging and annoying and boring. Takes away the excitement to play.

Been missing in action. MIA

True wisdom comes with knowledge and knowledge comes from hard work, knowing every minute detail and with maturity, experience and humility.

What's lacking on the outside, try to create it inside.