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What to do in a situation where you feel like another person has ruined your life in some way. How to either forgive or let go. One thing is that you have to understand that maybe you think that the person is really responsible for ruining your life but even then you have to know that it doesn't matter if it is someone. It will always be something either a person or a thing or a situation or condition or event. For example, your damage or problem could have been caused by an earthquake or your problem is because of your bad health. There is really no point in blaming your suffering on someone who is destructive to you because you just have to become free of that person to escape the damage. Life is like a bad poker game and if you lose, it's really not the opponents fault or its not him or her but it's the game itself that's unfavorable. There is no point in blaming others. They are a part of the problem too. They are just another channel of causing frustration in your life but there are one channel out of the many channels that give you pain and frustration in life. You show resentment towards them because they are living beings capable of feeling your hate. You wouldn't show resentment towards earth for an earthquake that destroyed your house or fire that burned your house down because you just can't show it to non living things Therefore extreme resentment is pretty much useless. You gotto move out of that situation, call it quits, start a fresh new chapter, put all that behind you, move on and create a better situation for yourself, buckle up and never make the same mistake again or never let the past situation happen to you again and move on and let go. In this way, you're taking the higher road and you don't need to forgive the other person if you have trouble forgiving, you just have to let go and move on. This is a matured way of handling situation where you have tremendous resentment towards the other person.

Happiness is important because it reduces the chances of entangling into negative thinking and therefore less chances of attracting or having dark emotions. But a little suffering in the early stages helps the person to wisen up and not make mistakes in future. So really there should be a balance between suffering and happiness but overall there should be more happiness.

Suffering has a good side and a bad side. The good side - It makes you wiser It makes you matured It makes you appreciate happiness much more and even be grateful for all things and not take them for granted It teaches you important life lessons It makes you cautious of future dangers and prepares you for the greater struggles in life You are more sober and complacent and take lesser risks. People who have suffered least dive into dangerous behaviors because they tend to take everything for granted unaware of consequences. People who suffer or have suffered are less likely to create chaos and drama. But people who don't have much problems have nothing to engage their minds with and tend to create chaos and drama to feed their empty life. The bad side - It attracts misery You become miserable with long term suffering Ripple effect. Now your misery makes you want others to be miserable It causes you to develop a negative thinking pattern Negative thinking when gone out of hand can attract dark emotions like jealousy, insecurity, hate, anger, rage, resentment and revenge to a level that it can even lead to murder.

If there is so much distrust why even call it love.

It's awful to have to defend yourself when you know you didn't do wrong. My soul is as pure as it can be.

Poker problems The app does not have many tables with choices for less crowded ones. You end up with the same crowd Some bettors are like bingo players and they love to throw in a big bet first even before a flop is shown and that messes up your choices especially if the bet is too big or they betted the entire buy in or all in. Then you are either made to call the raise or go for all in or fold that makes it very difficult because you aren't ready to lose on that level. Kinda unfair if you want to have a Check of the flop before you can bet in any amount. These are the highest risk takers but they create a losers table because they can lose but they make everyone lose along with them and there are a few chances where you could have gotten a good hand dealt to you but you lost it because you didn't wanna bet that much before a flop. So it's a lose lose situation. Game killer. Mid round bettors.these are okay if they are too sure that they will win, in that fold will help cut loses because it's a no game if they are gonna win, but the problem is that they don't have a good hand and you have one and you are not totally sure because you don't see the river yet and even if you did see the river, what if someone else has a better hand or cooler, then you are in for a bad surprise if you kept hoping and betting. So you can't be sure and want to take a low risk but the middle round betting obscures your potential chances to win the pot, and you have to withdraw or call a fold which is worse than before because in first round betting you can directly fold but now you are folding after a bet or first round call. So after you fold you either realize that you had a good hand at winning or the person wins before showdown because all players folded, thus obscuring a well dealt hand. Again creating a losers table. Showdown betting is good if there are just a few and you are too desperate for a win or the Flop is anyway not very favorable so no big potential loss. Accidental calling. If you get distracted and someone before has betted huge or went for a showdown bet, you could accidentally hit the call against your wish and end up going along a bad hand knowing you are going to lose Crowded table. A full table reduces the chances of winning per person because now the hands are distributed amongst more people. Your chance will come late or never. Rigged game. The probability of getting any good hand like straight or royal flush is already too low. The same applies for straight, three of a kind, flush or full house. But they are still frequent. If the game is rigged, the probability furthers narrows down to almost zero because another player is getting all the good hands. No point of even playing or betting. It's like playing to lose or make the other player win.. These players could be the ones who have paid their way in the game by buying benefits or features. Rigged game makes it all boring and you never win no matter what strategy you use. You are made to fail. That's even discouraging and annoying and boring. Takes away the excitement to play.

Been missing in action. MIA

True wisdom comes with knowledge and knowledge comes from hard work, knowing every minute detail and with maturity, experience and humility.

What's lacking on the outside, try to create it inside.

How to feel more energy throughout the day, any tips would help. I feel very lethargic and exhausted all the time

Today is 2 May 2018 and I guess it's time to start making some real changes after a long time. The entire last week of March was tumultuous and was spent in dealing with a lot of stress like eviction, homelessness searching for a new house, it happened on 22 March, the entire Charles incident and this woman was violent and nuts. Goodness gracious. Got freedom from her. I don't even remember what I did in the first two weeks of April. Maybe I was just fighting with my mom all the time most of the days, it was an awful time, like one ordeal stops and then another starts, felt the same way, the ordeal of 22 March had not even subsided enough that problems of sleeplessness started hogging

My progress is taking place at a very slow speed. Its annoying. Never works out as planned. Decided to take screenshots and pictures of my diary entries in my book. I don't have the patience to type them out.

I see myself having a new beginning

Those are destructive who are Unwise or lack wisdom Lack knowledge Work from a deficient mindset Lack Empathy and Sensitivity Lack Intelligence Do not respect personal space Egotistical and Narcissistic Narrow minded or closed minded Are negative or bring negativity Are hostile Are gullible Stubborn and arrogant Ignorant Bipolar and mentally ill Are Jealous and greedy Evil Are foolish or stupid Unconscious Lacking maturity Vindictive Aggressive and mean Sociopathic Psychopathic

Three divine qualities that cure every problem Courage Empathy, Care and Love Wisdom True knowledge and full knowledge along with experience brings wisdom

There should be an "Energize women" program... For like 3 years.

When you are not shit, you are dealing with shit... When you don't have to deal with shit, you become the shit lol....

I have somehow begun to have some faith in feminism. And turning to it might be a cure to my ills. I mean I know the destructive part of it. But there can be a positive side to it too. I think feminism should be about helping women in distress before they get too desperate. Helping them when they are in trouble and giving them support and resources so that their lives are saved. So she doesn't reach the end of despair.

First work on those things that are workable and then on those that look imaginary or at least infeasible right now. Maybe they can be done later when everything else is settled and done. It's like you are more worried about an advanced degree without even passing the basic or beginner level. People who get too whimsical or grandiose in their ideas about the world like they want to change the world all by themselves and they show like it's all going to happen in a day are just unwise impractical idiots. I call them blubbers and I call all this nonsense blubbery. The world ain't changing that soon so quit it. Quit thinking that you are going to do something historic. You are just having delusions. I remember having those as a teen, what I would call maladaptive day dreaming. A lot of teens do that but we kinda grow out of it and realize that we have to deal with whatever we have at hand first and then see other stuff. First try to get the basic things right. Be on the plane you are. Work from there. No point of jumping on a plane that's impractical or at least infeasible at the moment.

Don't be deprived of anything. The deprivation needs a cure.

Today I want to talk about the concept of deprivation. That we are so deprived of everything that that's the biggest reason why we can't achieve things. We have been deprived physically, emotionally, mentally, intellectually and spiritually. The cure for this is healing. Healing that is physical, mental, emotional, spiritual. I have talked before about deficiency and abundant mindset. Also there is a need to understand that it's not just evil that causes harm but also absence of wisdom giving rise to unconscious behaviors that are toxic, foolish, egotistical, narcissistic, stupid and destructive. That which is toxic, destructive, ignorant, unhealthy is just as damaging as evil. Deficiency mindset is just an example of toxicity. Deprivation is never good.

"what did she do to herself?"

In the following months I need to work on both mental and physical regeneration. This is not going to be easy. When was my life easy! It does seem like an impossible goal. The only thing that will inspire me is beauty. The only thing that motivates me is "work hard, get peace."