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Repetition of chapter 127 Persecution by association. Three types . World wide view based This or that person is bad because everyone hates them. They are most hated. Everyone says they are bad. So they must be bad. No logic is used . 2. Model based . Usually the victim perpetrator dynamic is like a model. This means it's automatically assumed that the victim is blameless and good and the perpetrator is bad. In many situations the perpetrator is a good person driven to the edge by the nasty behavior of the victim. 3. Historical based . Since historically it was always perceived a certain way it will continue to be perceived that way without using logic . If the other woman in a relationship has always been perceived as a bad person, miss A will be persecuted and hated by the public even if she is innocent.

Chapter 130 There are two types of tolerance. Positive tolerance Is when you need to put up with something in order to reach a compromise and handle the situation effectively. Example When a person is just a little late on an appointment and you just blow up. This is a case of lack of positive tolerance. When your partner is being a little annoying or cranky or pesky or constantly being rude then you need to be a little forgiving and wait till they are calm and relaxed and back to good behavior. You need to be patient and show positive tolerance. Also when your partner is yelling in your face, you need to be calm and wait till they pacified. If there is a system where you are given a set of natural rules that require pain and effort but they will yield a good outcome in the end then you will need high tolerance to be able to sustain and get through. For example ,raising children . Working on a cure for a disease. Working hard on a project that will promote you to a better place. Creating change in yourself or circumstances. All these will need patience and whining will not help you get the required outcome. You will have to tolerate as long as you can before you reach the goal. This is positive tolerance. Having the tolerance to put up with something painstaking, arduous , relentless, strenuous and taxing to achieve the desired outcome or to get through something hazardous or to overcome adversity and get to a safer place. This tolerance is also needed in solving major problems or "life issues" or challenges. Negative tolerance Negative tolerance is when you tolerate even those things that actually should not be tolerated.. Example If someone is showing real control and extreme obsession or control or lack of concern for your well being by completely ignoring your needs, it's time to let go and not tolerate them for the sake of your neediness. Stop tolerating and cut off the person from your life or else it is negative tolerance. Learn to defend and fight back when it's getting too toxic. Learn to punish and not take the aggressor or person for granted . When a system of laws and rules is deleterious to your long term health,then you need to rebel and fight back to win your peace and normalcy. If you continue tolerating like sheep it's negative tolerance. There is another kind of tolerance which is rare but admirable . And it's closely correlated to positive tolerance. I will call it dispassionate tolerance. Which means you are not only showing deep patience and lot of tolerance to overcome an adverse situation or predicament or ordeal but at the same time not getting too affected or influenced by it . Not allowing to have an impact . An example would be that you are trapped in a remote place and your only way out is to walk a lot or survive without food for many days and tolerate all harsh conditions till the rescue team arrives. Now you somehow showed a lot of tolerance and grit to do everything to help yourself . But in the end when you finally overcome it, your health and condition is still pristine and showing little impact despite the hazardous conditions . This means you have high tolerance, endurance, resistance and the ability to bounce back to good or normal health (regenerative capacity) all together .

Chapter 129 When everything is fair in love, it's not true love. A truly loving person or true love cannot do wrong things. -------- - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - Keep what you can use and let the rest go. Have your own power and do not seek power in others. Do not let them be the source of your power..... Happiness, security, normalcy are necessary to curb the destructive nature within us that can erupt when we feel deprived, miserable, abandoned, depressed, frustrated. If we remain sad for a long time then we can become unhealthy destructive and criminal individuals. Being kicked to the curb and feeling abandoned and not having enough sense of self worth can lead to festering resentment. Being light hearted helps in keeping intense negative emotions at bay. Happiness reduces crankiness and emotional neuroticism. Even boredom can cause depression and demotivation and over time it can manifest as destructive feelings. Or even rage. In such a case, boredom can be alleviated by healthy distractions. Human nature is very complex and it needs a lot of factors for it to be aligned in a proper way. 23 essential needs and sequence boxes. {I want my life back } { I want my life back } { I want my life back..... That's it.} carpe diem

Chapter 128 When someone doesn't give you clarity or loyalty and they are not so much into you or not devoted to you, you as a good person should tell them to fuck off. That's the best thing to do. Love is love. But when love is unhealthy, you should just cut it off. There are 23 things that are absolutely essential 23 ESSENTIAL NEEDS 1.Absolutely high IQ, on many bases, like emotional, sexual, social, daily life, scientific, psychological. Intellectual maturity 2. High self awareness. 3. Life experience 4. Spirituality 5. Energy and will power. 6. Healthy behaviors. 7. Innocence and decency. Innocence sharpens the intuition. 8. Maturity 8. Pure Mind. No bias. Perfect clarity. A pure mind is also a mind free from bad thoughts or diabolical thoughts. 8. Lots of Resources. Intellectual resources, financial, health, material, guidance, a break, a rehab, therapy, knowledge, information, attention, care, love, healthy love, respect good food, spiritual resources. Deprivation can bring big problems. 9.Good decision making 10. Avoiding toxic elements 11.Self care and self awareness 12. Abilities. Mental abilities. 13. A good heart, true love and empathy. Goodness and morality. 14. High Positivity and optimism, courage, manhood, faith, hope, heroism. 15. Security and happiness and normalcy. Freedom. Social interactions and social distractions. 16. Your own power. 17. Self worth 18. Distractions. Healthy distractions. 19. Healing and therapy..... It soothes the emotional inflammation. 20. Attention. Sometimes attention can work as therapy and healing. Sometimes a break can serve healing. Sometimes letting out and expression can be healing. Sometimes confusion resolution can be healing. 21. Love and comfort. Care 22. Grace. 23. God

Chapter 127 Persecution by association.

Chapter 126 3rd sequence box

Chapter 125 December 5 2018 The relationship ended on 16 November 2018, when he said he was waiting for her. Waiting for her to take him back. It was over then. He loves her of course.

Maybe the person did not have those intentions initially but the building up of resentment planted those intentions. Or the resentment and frustration were the seed for the intentions.

Chapter 124 Im trying to learn I'm trying to move from naivety to maturity. Hopefully I will get there some day.. Not easy I know. But I will make it. I've already made tremendous progress.

Chapter 123 4 things in a relationship Do not be in a relationship with a married person no matter what. Second let's say they are divorcing. So even if he gives this picture that he is sad and that he is just going to separate from his wife, it's all bull, he or she is manipulative. They are seeking their needs or in other words trying to take advantage. He is keeping a cloud of doubt whether the divorce will really happen or not. Maybe it wont, maybe it will. This is a situation of high uncertainty. It's very chaotic and toxic and best to avoid.. Do not be in a relationship with a person who is already divorced. Let's say he is trying to involve his ex. That's again uncertainty. He may not have completely gotten over or moved on. Again there could be another love triangle. This can be unnecessary psychological burden or stress. Do not ever play second fiddle to his family, friends, ex, wife, boss etc etc etc... You have to be number one priority any case. Move on immediately when a person makes an odd comment and it didn't make any sense. Do not wait for him to cover his bases and justify himself. In other words do not give him a chance to manipulate you and make you forget the situation. This is dangerous. You could get too lenient in the name of love. So the moment you see a red flag, you can confront and argue but stick to your decision at the back of your mind and dump the person promptly. Ignoring red flags can be very dangerous. Right there when an inappropriate thing has happened which doesn't feel right to you, just walk away. Fall in love. That's not a bad thing. But try to figure out next whether this is healthy or not. Love is something else, relationship is something else entirely. See if it is toxic in any way to you. And if it is not healthy for you mentally to be involved with someone who is either manipulative, creating a triangle situation with someone else, not committed, emotionally abusive, uncaring, not trustworthy, not faithful, all these situations and more which are basically signs of unhealthy behaviors or unhealthy relationships, get out of it, love is fine but the relationship needs to end at the earliest and you gotta save your time. Love is not so cheap to be wasted on an unhealthy relationship. Save this love you have for someone who is more deserving.

Chapter 122 When a discussion is confusing, you are talking to a narcissist. A wonderful quality is called decency. And people who are decent just avoid certain behaviors and words. Decency is a representation of humility, innocence, purity, intelligence. High IQ folks bring peace and humility and talk with grace and are productive and understanding. Low IQ people are destructive, less cohesive and bring chaos and misery. They are not growth oriented. They create problems. And they are not humble. They are either bratty, arrogant, snobbish,.aggressive.

Chapter 121 Back. 2nd box is

Chapter 120 It's finally over. November 28.

Chapter 119 Ist box. Today is

Chapter 118.. So tired right now Innocence can be expressed in 3 ways Innocence of intent - that is there was no intention to cause harm. The innermost intent is pure and free from blemish or corruption. It's not fraudulent. It is pure and it does not want to harm. So any wrong that happened is a result of accident or retaliation or self defense but not with a cold hearted bad intention. Innocence of natural instinct - whatever happened was genuine and not cold hearted or premeditated. It was the spur of the moment or many moments and raging instincts that cannot be controlled. It might also have been caused by drugs. So it is innocent because it is purely out of uncontrollable instinct and not by setting the mind or heart to it. Innocence of admittance. Now admitting to some wrongdoing can happen in 2 ways- pre or post. Before the wrong act or after the wrong act. Before the wrong act means maybe you are looking for a solution or preventive measure. You want to prevent the wrong thing from happening. Admitting after the wrong act means you are looking for a curative measure.. What is innocence aimed at It is a foundation or a stepping stone towards the building of morality and good behavior. Maybe that's why it's attractive. It's like the number zero, where any positive integer starts from it. And all negative integers end to it. There is something naturally appealing about sincerity, honesty, innocence, purity that makes it more vulnerable and also more deserving of fair treatment. Justice is done to those who have innocence in their hearts.

Chapter 117 When you wake up in the morning, you can ask yourself. That's the very first thing "what do I want to have accomplished today?" Make a list... Short one. At the end of the day, Say, "my day has been very fulfilling" "today I'm fulfilled." Remember brick by brick and sequence boxes and building.

Chapter 116 Zvether is the outer ego and zvethiss is the inner ego. God's beauty is reflected through us. For this we need to connect to his greatness. God works through us. God's greatness is shown through the journey of our life. God can turn our lives into a beautiful piece of glory and memory. Into a work of art. What do we need for life Survival.... Conditions and provision. Food... Provision Work...... Provision Wealth... Provision Material resources... Provision. Purpose... Grace Adventure and Passion.. Grace Inventions and creativity.. Grace. Talent, ability and skill.. Zvether and Grace Health..... Zvether Beauty...... Zvether Protection from harm/toxicity... God's Guardian spirit Problem Resolution... God's Intelligence and Guidance Motivation /Will....... God's nurturing spirit. Challenges... God's tough love. Love...... God's love and grace Good nature.... Zhin Knowledge.... Provision Longevity... Provision Family... Provision Joy... Love and grace Strength.... Zee. Life force... Zveth.. Grace. I'm fulfilled by God's grace.

Zveth Zvether and zvethiss Zhin and Dzhin Zee.

Chapter 114.. Desiring - - > visualization - - >crystallization - - >manifestation

nothing will be impossible. Only good intentions are needed. And the power of divine grace will always take care of the rest. You only need a honest pure heart with goodness and purity.

Chapter 112. Two great qualities are empathy and innocence and honesty. God does not create anything. Because his creation cannot be imperfect. God heals everything. Godliness heals.. Godliness makes all the good happen. Everything gets tainted when there is a selfish motive behind it. For example, love is considered sacred. But when there is a selfish intent in love, then it's selfish love, it's no longer sacred. Therefore there is always a human aspect to everything and so it cannot be perfect or sacred. It is sacred only when it comes from God or when its pure and with good intentions. Otherwise it's neutral or selfish.. So even the best emotions or qualities or virtues can be tainted when there is human selfishness attached to it.

Chapter 111 The truth is everything is all about intentions. There is something that is human, something selfish or something sacred or innocent. Human kindness and divine kindness. Human compassion and divine compassion. Human love and divine love. Selfish kindness or fake humanitarianism..

The person who loves you deeply will show blind devotion, unbreakable loyalty and trust, no judgment. All judgment is selfishness and emotional manipulation. Those who love you truly will also be truly invested in you. If they get calculative and savvy then they can't love because they are selfish. They are not showing devotion or loyalty. They are using their brains and not their heart. When someone shows deep trust and unquestioning loyalty, that is they choose to ignore your wrongdoings or your flaws it could be for many reasons 1. They truly love and they are weak in love. They choose to let go and forgive because they don't want to lose you. They are weak and so they show complete loyalty. They don't want to judge you. They want to love you beyond judgment. Despite knowing everything about you they still want to love you. They don't seek their good, rather they sometimes sacrifice their good for your happiness. They love you no matter what. So they try to get along with you. They can even put up with abuse because they don't want to lose that person. 2. They are getting something from you. Therefore they don't care what you are, what good or bad you do. They are using you. So as long as they can use you, they don't care if you are good or bad. 3. They have a selfish loyalty to you. They want to keep the relationship. They don't want arguments and conflicts. All they care about is you and them being happy. Rest does not matter. They are not wanting to offend the spouse. As long as they get along with their partner and they are happy together, someone else's suffering does not matter. They are like, "I don't want to ruin my relationship." 8f they are happy together, nothing else matters, everything is fine and happy. They are like a team. So they show a lot of loyalty to each other and do not disagree or fight with each other especially not when other's feelings are concerned. They are not going to fight with each other over other people. They are not going to allow others to become a problem between them. There is this eternal battle between love and morality.

Chapter 109 Sequence building and boxes Every sequence box contains information which is useful to carry the next set of tasks or goals. Boxes connect to each other in a cohesive fashion to contain both related and unrelated pieces of information and help build a sequence throughout the day. These boxes also contain bricks. This is exciting. Once all boxes have fallen into a symmetry or a flow or a rhythm then a sequence or pattern develops and follows.

Chapter 108 I'm trying to explore the idea of love. From philosophical perspective, love should be ethereal innocent, Empathetic, beautiful, giving, caring, discerning, wise. In reality love is blind, sometimes foolish sometimes smart, emotional manipulation, self-centeredness, love is control, a contract, abusive, stockholm syndromish, selfish, bonded, not generous, love is selfless sometimes,love is weak, love is submission and control, turning a blind eye to the bad things that the spouse does. Love is unquestioning uncritical unshakeable, unbreakable, selfish blind devotion and loyalty. Love can take two forms. Selflessness and Selfishness. Both are forms of love. Wisdom lies in protecting everyone's interests. Wisdom is above love. True love is not selfish. Love which is selfish is just a bond. True selfless love is sacred. Good people seek the good of all, not just themselves.