Preety_India

This has happened to me too when I started my spiritual journey. It seems like a common thread. I'm more than glad to not have anymore relationships in my life. My spirituality helps me cope with the space in life.

I especially like this paragraph because it highlights how believing too much in yourself can itself be a limiting belief which is a paradox. So there's a need of a balance.

I would have to agree that approaching someone with the set belief that you are not good enough for them is already very limiting in itself.. And doesn't bring any good results. If you want fulfillment in life, you have to let go of many limiting beliefs that hold us back from a happy life

This is my break up week lol.

My life is too precious now to give into narcissistic abusers. My future plans will not involve anymore narcissistic abusers. No more of those - men who only think of themselves and have zero concern for the woman. Go ahead and do it. It will just confirm the idea in my head that you weren't the right guy to deal with it. He is delusional, narcissistic and arrogant. He got his job on 8th October. I left him on 15th October. 2019. He is bipolar, narcissistic, abusive, anger issues, unreasonable, delusional, unrealistic, selfish, cheap, sex addicted, egotistical maniac, manipulative, trouble maker, psychopathic, sociopathic, bully, he sees people as objects and uses them to his purpose and has absolutely no regard for someone's condition or emotions.

The silence is deafening.

Another spiritual lesson that I learned today is When you start with honest and genuine intentions you have honest results.

It could be taken in a positive way. A method for you to grow and understand the partner. See where you did things that caused issues, work in those areas and next time you probably won't need to hear those words. At least be grateful for the fact that your partner is giving you an opportunity for further negotiation. It would be extremely cruel if the person just made up their mind to move on silently without having a prior conversation or giving you a chance to understand and know their concerns. Depends on how you look at it. I'd be more than glad if my partner brought up an issue in a civil way like a talk, to me it would translate as a form of respect for me and a chance for me to learn what I can change about myself in the relationship to better accommodate my partner. I would be happy to know that I can resolve it and that a roadblock in the relationship is getting resolved which means more clarity and maturity in the relationship and one obstacle less to deal with. The more opportunities to resolve conflicts for me would mean stronger and better relationship and lesser misunderstandings for the future.

It's okay if someone has a different opinion than yours or disagrees with you. You don't have to be so rude or worked up. This is a public forum where you ask questions and people can give a variety of opinions some of which might not resonate with you. And you don't have to respond to each and every comment from every user. People have the right to comment to a public question as they please and you cannot really tell them not to do so. If you do not like what people say, be chill about it and learn to let it go rather than being rude to me on a public forum.

I don't think you need to be a sex God to begin a relationship. That would be a tinder kind of thing. It would be equivalent to a woman saying she needs a plastic surgery to start dating!! You are perfectly normal as you are. That's the crux of the problem you are facing. You are thinking that you cannot get a certain type of woman because of certain reasons and one of these reasons is sex. But who says that you have to be a sex God. Nobody. This insecurity is arising in you and causing you to withhold yourself from meaningful relationships. Sex has absolutely nothing to do with. Both men and women can be bad at sex in the bedroom. If your relationship gets impacted by the quality of the sex, then that's not a relationship at all to begin with. The point I'm trying to make is that you don't need anything in the world to have relationships. No skills at all. What you are possibly looking for is a a date and in the dating game all these parameters matter because that's how it's designed to be but in a real wholesome relationship these things do not matter. You have to be confident of who you are and what you are. Or else your insecurities will plague any relationship you enter into. And confidence does not mean that you have to go out of your way to prove it. It only means you are comfortable being yourself. And that way you find a person who is also comfortable being with you. Just chill. It's not a hunting game. It could be that your own fears are holding you back. Sex is a journey and not something like cooking you get good at. You are already approaching a woman with a negative mindset that she might reject you for not being good at sex. This could be a self limiting belief in you, an assumption that creates fear in you around women. You might very well find women who like you and accept you and you can sexually experiment with them in all sorts of ways. You kind of make it look like people who aren't good at sex just shouldn't be in relationships or just cannot get partners. It's nothing to do with it. Be confident and comfortable and when you find a loving caring partner you will never have to worry about your insecurities regarding sex.

@Bridge to Infinity I'm bad at articulation so my replies are long and winded. you are feeding into social bullshit. We have a gigantic population on this planet, thanks to women. If all women decided to pick men by aforementioned parameters of security, decisiveness, competence, confidence and high social status all women would have been Melania Trump. Nope. We have so many kids born into poverty every day because women choose to be with men who are broke. Be real. Maybe you are looking for a woman who is liked by all men and has an unusually high standards for men and in that case you will always meet with disappointment. Just regular average plain girls are way easy to date but most men don't want to look across them. They always want the stereotypical "babe"...Men only date down when the chances to date higher run low. Most regular girls are not considered a trophy or a prize and are just shunned or deemed not worthy enough for male attention and are passed off. Competition exists on both ends. It's unfair to say that only men find it difficult to date. Both men and women are selectors. If a woman tried to approach first, she will most likely be considered too desperate or a bimbo/nymph. A man wouldn't like that either. Females are mostly dummies. If they weren't, the whole world would have been full of rich kids by now. There are women who date jailbirds too. A man is less likely to date a woman if she is even slightly fat. That's a lot of men who dump their old wives for younger prettier women. Hence the body issues that women face. Women even stick with abusive partners hence the rates of domestic violence are still high despite massive awareness. In reality nature is brutal to both men and women. It's way easier to get a woman, all you have to do is be a lothario and manipulate her mind and her pea sized brain and weak heart dives right into it. Rich men only get more goldiggers, not really women. Poor men don't get goldiggers, they get the plain stuff which they are not really happy with. The kind of women who complain about a man's sexual performance in bed is probably the wrong type because she is not really into loving the man but satisfying her needs. Same can be said of the other gender. Men despise women who don't give them enough sex or get fatter or older with time. That's why all the plastic surgeries and a billion dollar cosmetic industry to make women stay youthful!! It would be wise to look for a partner who is non judgemental and committed which basically translates as 'real love.' As long as you don't find true non judgemental love, your eternal quest for love will continue. It's hard and you have to be damn lucky to find it. When you ultimately do, it will be this one person with whom things like sexual performance, body image, wealth, social status, confidence will not matter at all and it will be pure joy unless you begin to judge that person as beneath you for having accepted you. Keep an open mind and an open heart. But remember one thing. The day you meet a person who truly loves you and doesn't judge you, don't be foolish and lose that person because a lot of men do that, lose the only person who ever cared and come back whining on the dating market Goodluck.

Different types of Santa Muerte La Nina Bonita or the beautiful lady La Nina Blanca or the white lady La Dama Poderosa the powerful lady La Calaca or The Skeleton La Flaquita or La Flaca or the skinny girl Nina Santa is Holy Girl La Hermana Blanca or the white sister. La Madrina or the Godmother La Huesuda or the Bony Lady La Santa Sebastiana the Revered or Adored Lady. Señora Blanca or madam or miss white ‘Señora Negra or madam/miss black Lady “Señora de las Sombras or madam/miss of the shades or colors. La Santisima Muerte or Santa Muerte or (The Most Holy Death) Black represents total protection against black magic or sorcery, or conversely negative magic or for force directed against rivals and enemies. Blue candles and images of the saint indicate wisdom, which is favored by students and those in education. It can also be used to petition for health. Working with Santa Muerte The beauty of working with Santa Muerte is that she is a complete and total magical system in herself. This means that she can be called upon for every single need a person may have. Unlike the Saints and other deities who can only be called upon for issues that are within their particular workings or patronage, Santa Muerte has no limits or restrictions. Santa Muerte does not separate good and evil. There is no distinction between the two in her eyes. Petitions are just petitions, cries for help in time of need. She will respond to requests of any nature and will never cast judgment upon a person for what they ask or who they are. Santa Muerte will grant many requests that are otherwise shunned by Saints. Santa Muerte Colors There are three basic or traditional colors used when working with the Santa Muerte: red, white, and black. In the following, everything that is not mentioned falls in the white representation. White represents… The removal of negative energy, cleansing, purification, removing obstacles, balancing the emotions, mental clarity, healing grudges, overcoming arguments, solving hurt feelings, envy, jealousy, anguish, disputes, healing, motivation, courage, overcome fears, peace, happiness, good luck, spiritual blessings, counseling and guidance, the white is an "all purpose" color and like the black image it can represent protection. Red represents… Love, passion, heat, lust, sexuality, fidelity, excitement, commitment, marriage, relationships, calm for a rocky relationship, overcome relationship problems, and anything to do with feelings of the heart. It also represents blood. Black represents… All forms of protection, overcoming problems and worries, obstacles, blockages, ridding someone from your life or vicinity, combat negativity, healing spiritual illness, reverse and return spellwork, spiritual or psychic attacks, enemy spellwork, revenge, and both cursing and unhexing Other Colors of Santa Muerte Bone represents… Spirit contact, necromancy, ancestors, peace, success, harmony, and is an "all purpose" color much white. Green represents… Justice, fairness, legal matters, court hearings, legal disputes, law enforcement, winning the favor of a jury or judge, good luck, money, asking someone for a favor, increase business sales, improving financial situations, selling a home or a piece of property, gambling luck, pay raises, and job promotions Gold represents… Money, prosperity, success, spiritual blessings, asking for special favors, reaching goals and deadlines, abundance, riches, material gain, overcoming bad habits, self improvement, motivation, courage, strengthen a particular talent, gain new insight of a matter, overcoming fear, gaining new and fresh ideas, landing a new job or blessing the opening of a new business, Purple represents… Mental health, physical health, emotional health, spiritual health, psychic abilities, divination, Blue represents… Wisdom, education, study, learning, luck in taking exams, retaining information learned, strengthening the memory, overcome fear of public speaking, help a person get their point across to another, understanding, and knowledge. Rainbow (also known as The Seven Powers) represents… The gold is used for abundance, wealth, and family matters The purple is used for change for the better, health, and letting go The silver is used for good luck, stability, and blessings The red is used for passion, love, romance The copper is used for removing negative energies, cleansing, and protection The blue is used for spirituality, study, and prosperity The green is used for money, justice, and success Santa Muerte Symbols Some images of the Santa Muerte may be found with different symbols, holding different items in her hands or including different objects at her feet. Images of Santa Muerte usually have her carrying the symbols of a scythe and a world globe. The following are the most common symbols. The Scythe… The scythe or sickle has several meanings. First it is symbolic of endings. It can mean the ending of a time period, a routine, a dispute, an adventure, a relationship, etc... Endings come in many forms. Santa Muerte uses her scythe to cut away a persons link to something. It is also symbolic of death since it is believed by her followers that when a person's time is up she is the one who comes to escort the soul into the next existence. The scythe is also a symbol of harvest, prosperity, and hope. It can be said that the scythe she holds is a symbol of harvesting our dreams and desires. A sign of a persons request made to her will flourish, grow, and manifest. It cuts away obstacles that hold a person from making progress and clears a path for guidance. In addition, the scythe can symbolize power and strength. It can symbolize the power and strength that Santa Muerte herself carries over all humans and over her realm of the dead. It can also indicate power and strength in a person's spellwork with Santa Muerte, or power and strength over enemies. The World Globe… The world globe represents Santa Muerte's power over the entire world. She is not held back or limited to whom she can rule. She will eventually claim everyone living on earth. Santa Muerte is not limited to location or held back by time or space. She can claim judgment at any given moment. There are no boundaries. It's believed that after God, death (Santa Muerte) is the most powerful figure in the world, since without death there is no life, there is no existence. The globe is an indication that Santa Muerte rules over all race, religion, culture, and belief.....she's just known by other names....but most, if not all, religions have a ruler over death. Here, we call her Santa Muerte. The Owl… The owl is symbolic of darkness, nighttime, and keen vision. Santa Muerte's owl companion indicates powerful guidance for those who ask. The Hourglass… The hourglass symbolizes the hands of time. Each grain of sand is a moment of time itself. Each grain that her hourglass contains is indication of a person's lifespan. When the hourglass is empty, life on earth is over. At the same time death is a continuation of life. This continuation can be in another realm or again here on earth. The hourglass also symbolizes patience. Ask and wait. The Lamp… The lamp represents a reflection of her...her presence, her help, her existence, her guidance. With her lamp she lights the path of those who follow her and those who work with her. It lights up a person's direction and/or mental capacity, giving the person a more expanded train of thought. New ideas, new insights, and deeper levels of clarity. The Cloak or Robe… Most commonly Santa Muerte wears a long hooded cloak which extends to her feet, much like the one the Virgin of Guadalupe wears. It drapes over her boney frame covering almost all of her with the exception of her face, hands, feet, and sometimes the lower half of her legs. Her cloak is symbolic of the protection she extends to her devotees. She opens her cloak wide and covers the person with it to keep them safe from whatever it is they need protection from.

Enriqueta Romero, the Godmother of Santa Muerte devotion, at her shop in Tepito months I had anticipated the 15th anniversary celebration of Enriqueta Romero’s famous Santa Muerte shrine in the notorious Mexico City barrio of Tepito. Doña Queta, as she’s affectionately known, unintentionally launched the fastest growing new religious movement in the Americas by setting her life-size statue of the Bony Lady out on the sidewalk in front of her home on Halloween of 2001. Enriqueta Romero, the Godmother of Santa Muerte devotion, at her shop in Tepito I feel sorry for whatever happened to this guy. Tragic

Now you get help quickly or I'm done with you

I left you but I still love you. Can't help it. I care so much about you that it hurts. Wish things were never this way. I love you infinitely but I'm equally scared. I won't run that risk. You are unstable.

You make my worst fears come true lol You really are a paranoid dummy. Maybe it's your PTSD. But thanks no thanks. Got no time to deal with that. Go get help dummy. Go to a therapist. You are in a few days btw. Hope the therapist sheds a light on your awful victim behavior. You really do what your ex did and still whine about her. I don't know who is worse, you or her, both look like two peas in a pod. Thank God you got a job. Now you can be engaged in fruitful things. Helps a mind like yours to be away from general neurosis. Your Italian neurosis indeed. Get help dummy.

I'm done being his punching bag. Time for him to take off his punching gloves and give it a rest. Try this shit with Rebecca and you will have another night in jail. No you wouldn't. You could only afford to be a beast to me. Enough is enough. Seen and taken a ton of your bs. Supported you, loved you. To the end of my rope. Like I said when you find a bad woman, you whine about her, when you find a good woman you use her and abuse her, dummy you are the biggest jackass. And as usual I should have known better Ofc it won't ever happen again. I'm done with the whole relationship drama and BS. Don't wanna lose my life.

He could have easily taken out that resentment on me. I could easily be in jail for nothing, for something I never did, for no fault. I don't want to look forward to that possibility. He says that he is remotely capable of such evil. But how would I know. I don't be with such a person and I'm glad about the decision I finally made after a long time. I could easily be staring into a disastrous future with him. Homelessness, jail, loss of reputation and violence. Rape. When he made that threat of exposing me and disparaging me in public, he took a huge risk on our relationship and made himself completely unreliable in my eyes. If he can blame me for his family problems and failure what else can he blame me for. If he can falsely accuse me of something I didn't do and invent stuff to make me the bad person out of his victimhood, victimmitus as he calls it, out of his sensitivity as he puts it or over sensitivity and if that causes him to be illogical and paranoid in his fear about me, he can do anything out of his paranoid delusions. How is he reliable at all. He is bipolar on top. I think this was truly the final nail in the coffin. His paranoia and illogical rationale. His need to frame me for his failures. His complete indifference to my sufferings and problems. His extreme elitism, condescension and self righteousness. His awful skewed judgement of me. His lack of ability to ask for a clarification and a distorted perception of me I could have easily played the victim card just like he does but I chose not to. And does he even allow it. How fast does he attack when he sees another person acting a victim. How fast does he object to something like that and finds it completely unreliable and wants to walk away from victim players for his own safety. Why can't I do the same. If he plays victim, I could be in big trouble over nothing. Shouldn't I be scared for my life. Shouldn't I worry about my safety and have concerns. What an asshhole. He never thinks how his behavior projects on him. How his behavior will be taken.. He is completely justified when he does the same he accuses others of. This is where his self righteousness gets annoying. Now that I'm done with him for good, I feel truly free. Never going back. Never. No matter what. I'm not gonna run a risk on my life. Never.

I think the simple answer is a flat no. Girls {as far as I know about myself and others} would not risk cheating on their boyfriends even if they got the best sex from another guy. It's female brain and thank god for that. It could be temporary especially if she had a string of fights with her boyfriend. But sooner or later she usually winds up back with him. If the boyfriend is persuasive then no chance at all. No way is that guy losing his possession to someone else! Be careful with such situations, you could run a risk on your life creating love triangles. You might be right that those are suitable girls just like guys who are in established relationships and fully settled are suitable guys and some women find a married man or a settled man more attractive for the same reason. But look at the outcome. A husband most likely doesn't want to cheat on his spouse and therefore the other woman has to most likely walk away. Same goes for a man chasing a woman who is already taken. Things can get unusually and unnecessarily complicated for you and the other couple and can be a easy recipe for a total train wreck. Usually men do not want to date a woman in that place because they can't have a sense of ownership with that woman. Yet there can be this temptation to take away or steal another man's girl and the thrill in it can be exciting. But beware of the other guy. If in the same place and the guy finds out this can lead to a physical altercation. So it can kind of bring bad karma! Like they warn women to not get engaged with married men and women usually suffer later after that, and people blame it on bad karma attracting from disrupting another woman's home. You kinda get cursed for destroying another person's peace. Of course men and women in relationships appear more attractive because of the security factor but you are always taking a huge risk although there is nothing wrong in trying and sometimes you end up saving someone from a bad relationship they are stuck with. But that's rare. Sometimes you gotta think in other ways. People who are in a relationship but not happy may be that way because of their own flaws. It's not always the other person's fault. For example the reason a woman is not happy in her relationship with her boyfriend might have more to do with her own flaws and whiny attitude or behavior rather than the boyfriend. Would you want to be with someone who is already difficult to put up with and someone else is going through a hard time with them. All in all, it's not always necessary that being in a relationship is a stamp of approval or validation of suitability. Many people are toxic and still have relationships. It's society that creates fixed perceptions. But perceptions are the root cause of problems. Being on a spiritual path means the first thing you want to do is get rid of perceptions and illusions because they can be so deceptive. They create a world of delusion, a world of premature judgement and preconceived notions. Use discretion, discernment and proper judgement rather than feeding into a stereotype or a mindset fed into you by an organization, cult, group or social thinking. Being free from that is real liberation. Don't give into brainwashing. Look for a healthy single partner who is not holding back and wanting to be with you as much as you want to be with them. That way you stay free from both drama and karma.

I don't think it's a good idea to start off like that. You would either not know how to feel in a relationship or you would have a skewed view of relationship with a huge craving for sex. Lot of guys do that sort of thing to feel manly in their teenage years and that's a huge price tag of a lifetime on that. It creates a different sexual attitude, being overtly sexual in a relationship means you cannot thoroughly enjoy a relationship for what it is or have a relationship only for a sexual purpose, that again attracts partners who are dysfunctional in the whole context of relationships. I just broke up with someone who had a similar experience in his early life and he gave me the impression that the only thing that matters in a relationship is the sex part which I completely disagree with. I would obviously want wonderful sexual experiences with him but that would never be the sole focus in my relationship. It's skewed that way. It's like hunger and ice cream relationship and that is not a normal relationship dynamic. You only rely on the partner for the "ice cream", but that's exactly what makes the relationship volatile and unstable and easily prone to cheating. How easy will it be for a man to find another woman sexually desirable especially if his marriage is centered around sexual pleasure and my would be partner who I broke up with already made that mistake. He left his first girlfriend for another woman who he found more sexually desirable but the first woman was very wonderful and he suffered horrible abuse in the second relationship he had. Sex is beautiful between lovers. There is no passing test for it. The whole anxiety around it is created by society. And that can lead to tremendous frustration. No partner can always deliver highest sexual pleasure just like anything else. Built up sexual frustration can lead to the demise of the relationship. There's nothing like bad sex between two lovers who love each other in the most wholesome way because they would give each other maximum sexual affection and all sorts of affection. So encouraging teens to have early sexual experiences is putting them on a path towards confused ideas about relationships and sex. Also preparing them for a future possibility of sex and porn addictions. If you have a sexual experience within the confines of a relationship that's completely fine because it's within a meaningful context. But having sex outside the context of a relationship is preparing oneself for a selfish path that seeks different elements of a relationship rather than the person or relationship itself. It's no different than having chats with random strangers to make up for the loneliness of not having a partner. This leads to seeking a certain thing rather than seeking a person. It's like seeking a random dwelling place rather than creating your own exclusive place you can call home. Such people usually end up with phrases like "hey I don't get enough sex in this", "you don't talk much" "we don't go out much" "you don't give me this or that" "you don't chat with me so I'll chat with someone else".... This is exactly the foundation for a divorce because relationship is about loving the other person unconditionally rather than sitting and calculating your amount of benefits you gain in it. When you love that person deeply, nothing matters the kind of sex or any other thing in the marriage, every activity is enjoyable as long as you get to spend time with that person. Because all you want is that person's love and affection and presence. So you would never get attracted to someone outside the marriage because you find your partner so special, even if other people find your partner not very attractive. By your logic, a fat person should never get a partner or have a relationship but that's exactly what is wrong. A true loving relationship does not see undesirable, fat or sexually lacking or no money or any other parameter. It is totally non judgemental. I have seen couples around me where one partner is obese and fat and yet they are extremely happy with each other. The joy of a wholesome relationship is not based on dating parameters and gains and losses. It is based on the warmth of having the person you consider family and soulmate. It's unfortunate that society has corrupted the whole notion around sex and because of it a lot of people are never able to be truly satisfied in relationships.

Thank you everyone for all the support. I'm recovering

I broke up with my boyfriend of a long time yesterday. It was extremely difficult with him attacking me constantly causing me great emotional distress. He always tries hard to get me back by apologizing and explaining with tons of reasons. Today I have been feeling extremely anxious and a constant feeling of unsettling is rushing through me with heart pounding and discomfort. I don't know how to deal with it. This is the first time I am dealing with a breakup this hard. I am experiencing intense emotional pain. I don't think it's worth going back to him. I also feel a guilt feeling like I did something wrong by breaking up. I want to move on peacefully but I don't want these feelings to hound me.

God is stronger than everything. Let him create a mini gang, a Bonnie and Clyde or a mini cult. God will defeat everything and protect the innocent. God can defend a man against a crowd.

it lookup wrong yeah look 56:01 cabrona 56:02 the the she-goat or the bitch is what 56:04 you know that's that yeah that's that 56:07 that's an amazing personal level that it 56:09 comes to I mean we like with with the 56:11 cigarette offerings and the the 56:13 marijuana offerings it's you don't just 56:16 like leave it to her you know it's 56:19 expected that you're smoking a cigarette 56:21 as well with her you know I mean it's 56:23 like hanging out with your godmother 56:25 smoking a cigarette and talking about 56:28 whatever you need yeah this amazingly 56:30 personal relationship with this despite 56:33 you know some of the stories that come 56:34 out about you know being afraid and and 56:36 being very respectful in that there's 56:39 also this level I mean the the bitch 56:41 stuff the the cabrona thing that comes 56:42 out of an interview where a lady on the 56:45 street a devotee was being interviewed 56:47 and she was like she's a bitch like us 56:48 you know that's why we like so you know 56:52 there's this incredible just acceptance 56:54 and very you know very homey you know 56:57 just very domestic feeling with it that 57:00 you wouldn't expect with grim reaper 57:04 figure you know or really any kind of 57:07 devotion it's it's an amazing devotional 57:10 tradition in that it is so real it's so 57:14 just you know daily life everyday stuff 57:17 you know and some of the here's I kind 57:20 of I'm gonna track back some the 57:22 confusion over the offerings sure one of 57:25 the one of the things that the people in 57:28 the US have a hard time recognizing

185:37 to mind is that the big thing with Santa 185:39 Muerte that I realized is that it is 185:41 both contemplative and practical and 185:44 immediate and visceral and existential 185:47 and just happening yeah I think that's 185:52 yeah that is true that's a good that's a 185:54 good capstone I think it's best half