Preety_India

He lost me. He lost his job. Lost his place. Basically lost everything. Karma I guess Hubris got the better of him.

How did I go through that ordeal One is Positivity Having a bigger heart

I wish it's a bright morning again. Yesterday I had a lot of panic attacks. The relationship stress was showing. But hopefully I'll cope well. There was a bit of separation anxiety.

had a string of boyfriends. Not healthy. Need a break from it all for some time before I start dating again. The ride hasn't been easy. Or maybe I'll never. The last hurt was too much. One day I'll find peace... The song in my head right now....how deep is your love. I really need to know. I know your eyes in the morning sun I feel you touch me in the pouring rain And the moment that you wander far from me I wanna feel you in my arms again This was a memorable experience.. I grew into another plane. And the moment that you wander far from me....I feel the pain. The days are lonely. Without you it seems lonely. Those moments were lovely. Now I retreat in a shell, interspersed with memories of happiness and underlined by peaks of pain And the moment that you wander far from me....I feel the pain. I'll never be truly able to get over you Joe. It was too much. I always thought you were my soulmate. Maybe some day ....you'll understand How deep was my love....I really need you to know. Cause we're living in a world of truths Breaking us down When they all should let us be We belong to you and me How deep is your love. Mine was deeper than the ocean

Hehehe you're funny. Baseball cap lol. Sorry to hear about that. It's never too late though. You seem to be warm. Tide is on your side. Just be yourself and your beauty queen might walk up to you. Sorry you had such a terrible experience at the supermarket. You must have felt really awkward. Nevermind. You never know when things can suddenly brighten up. You seem to be warm and funny. So everything will work out for you. Cheers .

Did you have girlfriends in your younger years? Were you ever married? How was your past dating life ?

@Arcangelo I'm hilariously surprised why you didn't include all these details in your original post. It's like you're gradually leaking all the details.

This scenario is a bit atypical. But you can always try

I respect your honesty. But I disagree with the whole age factor. Don't let age restrict you from enjoying life. Laughter is great for you. You don't have to be sad or angry about anything at all. Life plays you but you gotta laugh at the devil. Actualizing happens throughout your life whether you are 16 or 60. It's your happiness that matters more than what people think. And society's idea of happiness is warped in show off and social status. Hard to not get overwhelmed by it. Please take everything lightly because in the greater scheme of things, whatever you say, whatever I say and whatever people say means nothing. If you can enjoy the moment, you got life by the bull's horns. You'll do well Wish you all the happiness

Thank you so much for your support. Appreciate it and it means a lot to me.

I have no idea what made me think that you're just 21, but as they say age is just a number. Maybe the whole supermarket thing. I have nothing to advice you anymore other than just being confident and comfortable in your skin. Sorry if I caused any disrespect.

It's very hard to get laid these days. Nobody wants PTSD or STD. Lol just joking At your age range, it would be a bit of challenge but it is not that bad. Because most people in that age range are already settled. Try joining some local community and being out more often. Don't waste money on pickup stuff. You have to get out of the box.

Try to seek women who would value you. That way you'll have less rejection. Online dating is not necessarily a scam. But I can understand why you feel that way. The only solution is to socialize a lot with just everyone. That improves confidence overall. Don't be embarrassed because you havebeen single. It means nothing. If you get rejected, no worries at all. You're saved from something that wasn't meant any way. Be happy in life. Take things light. Focus on personal growth. Not having a woman does not translate a loser. That's social perception peer pressure bullshit. Don't chase too much and waste precious time of your youth. You might regret not spending it on personal development. It can be a lose lose situation if it continues. Try putting some effort in getting a relationship. I know it's hard especially because of feminism. But you can't waste your life on it. A woman is not everything, (so also a man) Be happy. There are lots of things to do and to be happy about other than women,dating, relationships and the merry go round. Be patient or you will get increasingly desperate resulting in depression or low self esteem. Relationships take time especially if they are going to be real and not some shallow bullshit. Be safe and don't engage in relationships with huge red flags just to fill the loneliness,can be a recipe for emotional damage. Lastly , nothing triumphs confidence. As long as you are confident of who you are, you'll continue to flourish with or without a woman. Never give up that as a man. Keep building it life long. That's the greatest high or fuel.

If you have average or above average intelligence and freedom of thought without leaning into peer pressure, then it's very easy to avoid the bad parts of the internet.

It messes up a man emotionally. It's the emotional exploitation and manipulation of men. Deep down it will lead men to be permanently psychologically and emotionally damaged for their rest of their lives. Men are emotional creatures. Just like women. A man's emotions are deep and rigid. This one thing is almost never taken care of in the whole rsd pua whatever this woman attraction snakeoil selling community is called. Without emotional harmony, a man will get messed up.

I can say it can be used to learn some skills for shy guys and a way of upgrading skills. But other than that, don't go too far with their mentality, don't drink their coolaid because it's mostly snakeoil.

Glad you get it.

In the 21st century I'd have expected a woman's emotions being valued. The OP suggests he is worried about the future of men. Looking at the attitude of the pua community, I'm worried about the future of women !

You act like you're too bold and brave. Like you said you'd risk anything if that's what it takes to talk to a woman and ask her out. At the same time you say it's a numbers game. I do wish that you show the same boldness after winning her with your wooing, like "hey you are just a numbers game for me, are you still interested?" Because guess what most probably you won't be bold enough to do that.

I couldn't agree more !

Thanks a lot.

I wanted to be able to download my journal in a Word format or readable/convertible format like a pdf. Is there any way to either download or export it in one swipe or trick?

Umm. No comment.

You don't have to feel so offended. You're not approaching someone who you already know. This is not a party or a place where people usually hang out to get to know each other, it's a supermarket!! People are not there to date. So a feeling of oddity is natural. Given the amount of stalking that women experience every day,it's quite expected for a woman to feel startled by a stranger who approaches her and asks her name out of the blue. I'd get nervous if someone approached me in a supermarket.. because I would have no clue who he is or what his motives are. I might think of him as a creep..I'm completely reserved to my right of not disclosing my name because a name and number are very personal details. Why must I disclose my identity to a stranger ? I'm not obliged to do that at all!!! There's nothing feminist in being protective of oneself. A woman has every reason to want to feel safe. So I don't find her reaction unnatural or unusual at all. I'd never feel safe enough to tell my name to a stranger or even have a conversation with him. Because you can always get more information on a person just through their name mainly because of the internet making information so easily accessible. I'm sorry but there are way too many weirdos out there to expect a woman to feel safe. And not in a place which is obviously not meant for dating A dating site would be a nice place to visit and begin with. The other place is your classroom, your neighborhood, your workplace, places where you can have some preliminary contact with a person and they don't feel that you are a stranger. They have had a couple of friendly conversations with you as a result of the company you share with them. You can then take the conversation to the next level by inviting that person to an informal date. Don't expect much out of a person who is a complete stranger. They're bound to feel weirded out unless they are someone who is from a dating website or a friend's friend and given you a green signal to go ahead and get friendly with them. Women already have enough concerns to deal with on their own. It gets very upsetting to see men not having any consideration for their concerns but only worried about their hunting game. We're not feminists. Just normal women. Don't make us the reason of your misery.

@28 cm unbuffed I'm sorry but you're showing sociopathic tendencies of manipulation and control pretty early on. Please remove those thoughts out of your mind. The need to hurt a lover just to get at them is downright dangerous. It's emotional manipulation usually seen in sociopathic behaviors. It can either stem from deep insecurity or the need to sake revenge as seen in borderline bipolars. If you have a girlfriend who cheats on you in order to hurt you, she is a huge red flag and should be dropped immediately. Such behavior from either you or her only leads to long term emotional damage. Recognize that in a healthy relationship you do not have to say "don't mess with me or else"....not at all. You're showing distress signals. You're already building up your defense in dysfunctional ways in order to avoid getting offended or betrayed. This will totally dismantle your relationship. Solution- Work on your anxiety Seek therapy Open communication with partner No playing games Draw boundaries and communicate them succinctly. Learn to reject if something is very bad Do not jump the gun. No premature judgement Remove cognitive dissonance or inner conflict that she might do so and so. Be on your best behavior. If the partner is not on their best behavior, leave them Have readiness to confront. Don't be scared to confront. Let feelings show instead of bottling up. Don't be sneaky about it. Don't let your ego ruin it. Have enough self control. Nothing is going to hurt your ego as long as you don't allow it. Keep calm under pressure Work on anger issues. Suppressed anger management. Practice forgiveness and letting go when tension builds up. She is subject to damage as much as you are. Try to keep your emotional state safe and don't get worked up. Avoid predatory behavior. Focus on positive things. Keep negativity away. The only reason you attach to negativity is because of deep rooted survival need and the paranoid need to scan for threats . This is a fear based mechanism but it can quickly become out of control and unnecessarily paranoid. Be balanced and reasonable with your fears. Don't get carried away by your primal survival based fears. Good luck