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Oh wow!!! You sort of answered all threads that men write here in one post. What you describe is like the problem with nearly 99 % of men in relationships. They never get the point you're making. All is within that post. The cognitive dissonance that causes men to get unnecessarily needy and not be rooted. Constantly getting shifty and unstable in a relationship creating constant tension causing stress to the woman and making her undo the cognitive dissonance he suffers from and eventually tiring her out. Because it's an endless loop based in the false confidence of a man that is the source of the problem. Most men show false confidence to win a woman and then get flaccid and clueless as you mentioned. This crumbles the relationship eventually. At that point it doesn't even matter whether he is a nice guy or a bad boy because he is already on the path to the demise of the relationship. He set himself up for failure and its the woman's job to relentlessly work at saving the relationship taking a toll on her. And if she is the type who gives too many shit tests then the demise is going to be much earlier. Golden points in your post.

That was an awful amount of projection.

I disagree. Confidence can't come without real inner work. Confidence just for the sake of confidence has no real source and thus its foundation is shaky and easily crumbles under pressure and test/obstacle.

I keep like a larger goal in my mind. Then I think about the moment and like you said I think if what I'm doing in the moment is reflective and supportive of my larger purpose. I have just recently started implementing this technique. I call this process engineering. Fitting smaller things into a larger plan. It's not my life purpose. Just a thought process I have recently begun to practice. When you mentioned it, it reminded me of what I had been doing.

Tradgie/trudgie Drudgie sludgie/shludgie mudgie /messdgie

Hope you are doing fine. I went through a similar experience recently where I overdosed on sleeping pills. It wasn't the right thing to do but I was overwhelmed by my relationship troubles. After having broken up I feel much better. Recovery takes a lot of time, self love, distraction and inner grit. Best wishes.

Funny because I had this same insight a few days ago. And I labeled it as "engineering"...

Thank you

That's the ultimate alpha thing to do.

There was a minor difference. A small word that was missed out which can make a ginormous difference in context. And that word was "shallow" Treating an immature shallow woman like a princess is same as me treating a jerk as a prince. I shouldn't be surprised if I get shit on by him. Go after a golddigger. You get a golddigger. Go after a jerk. You get a jerk.

the definition of consciousness. Nothing boring about it. Not boring for me though.

That's a matter of semantics. And how one takes it.

Nope because most highly conscious people agree with me and I agree with them. So it confirmed to me that it's not an illusion or delusion of my creation. Some examples are right here.

Some criticism is necessary for growth. Acceptance is important.

What he meant was that men who like slutty and women who like baddy are both immature from the point of consciousness. And he is right in my opinion. People with higher consciousness don't think in limited ways. They look for values and not casual fulfillment of desires. By the way its okay to blame women. Blaming only men would be very sexist.

What are these shit tests now?

So true. It takes an animal to stay an animal. It takes consciousness to rise above the lowness.

Ultimate truth!

They aren't worth dating if they can't respect someone's time or resources. So no real loss.. (if you treat shallow women like princesses, expect to get shit on by them.)

Everything is construction. That's why we go to school.

@ajasatya this thread needs locking

I have to talk one day about my past life.... What I felt like.... The whole geronimos Cadillac thing

Aeris Member 1,729 posts Posted 25 minutes ago · 7 hours ago, Arcangelo said: Because most girls have had dates with high value men. These men are not good nor nice they are arrogant assholes because they have options. You don't have options, that's why you are so nice. You are basically kissing a girl's ass thinking that if you kiss her ass long enough she might give it to you. So, you by not being an arrogant asshole tells her you are NOT a high value man with a lot of options. If you don't have options something must be wrong with you. The girl thinks: ''Why would i like you if no other woman likes you.'' Your SMV is determined by how other women perceive you not by how you, society or your friends, your boss etc. perceive you. My comments are not gonna be welcomed because this forum is blue pilled AF. Yes. Absolutely. IME guys that lie the most are the ones that get the most (and the best) women. There is a direct correlation between being dishonest and a liar, and having success with women. Again my comment is not gonna be welcomed because this forum is blue pilled AF. Everything, because good guys have no value. For a woman to get a nice guy is not that difficult, because they are everywhere, there is no challenge. And women in here are gonna tell you OFC we do. But you girls are not attracted to nice guys, you actually feel repulsed by them. It's only when a woman realizes that she is not getting any younger and SETTLES for a nice guy right around when they're 30 something. And that's the bottom line. That's just the way it is. Now i am gonna lay back and watch how the whole forum tells me i am wrong, deluded, trapped and projecting go ahead, it amuses me. I am teaching you, not the otherwise. Remember I am 40 yo. Respect your elder's wisdom. ARC Aeris The truth is all thinking is projection to the relative. We eat tons of red pill. But most people didn't eat the one that tell that everything is bs. That all conceptualisation remain the imaginary thoughts of animals There what we have is ALWAYS relative observation. The truth is that all thinking is 'imaginary