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Always remember that love should be at the core of everything Love is the guiding force. In life everything is about empowerment.

Deflect the disempowering Do not show reactivity

A floozy is always a floozy Remember to focus on the empowering and to deflect the disempowering

This is so beautiful. Thank you so much for this.

You basically sacrificed me for that cheap pathetic fareshekel. That's what you exactly did. You could have traded me for a pack of cigarettes. You lousy loser That's what you did. You said you made so many sacrifices for it. And that's exactly what you did. And now you feel like the biggest loser I will always remember fareshekel as the reason why we broke up and why you got distant with me. I will curse that fareshekel forever. Forever. I will proudly write on my grave - My boyfriend decided to dump me for Fareshekel.......laughter Emoji.. Celebrate. Bring in the drums and the trumpets and celebrate on my dead body. That place needs to burn down. And it will. It destroyed my love my hopes my dreams.. Not your dreams. Only my dreams.. I thought that I might break your heart. But I never knew that you were the heart breaker all along. You have lost all credibility.. I'll be one of the greatest losses in your life. But then I forget that you are a loser. What's a loss to a loser. I won't be a big loss for you. Fareshekel was a big loss not me. I meant nothing to you anyway. Yo what a floozy

Weren't you the same guy who said before fareshekel that the thing that scares you is that I am throwing away 2 years of relationship in a fit of rage. Hahaha. Now what. You get a new job and you decide to flip on me. Because this time you decide to throw away 2 years right when I'm 15 days short of the visa. Right right right You are a sick joke

The cat came out of the bag This is crazy. I wake up feeling heavy about you. You must have done something unthinkable. There's always a sinister reason for a breakup. A couple of fights don't lead to a breakup. You didn't talk to whoever. You sexually flirted behind my back with whoever. This is disgusting. I couldn't imagine this. This is the worst thing. I just wake up dreaming your face and some disgusting things you must have done to hurt me. I literally feel you saying the most hurtful things to me the way you did to Crystal. You are a heart breaker. I don't want to talk to you. Bye. So you flip on me just because you get a new job but it was completely okay for us to have fights a year ago because you needed me back then. And now when you get work and I process a visa, you plot to dump me right at the point when I could be living with you. What sort of a man does that. We had all our plans lined up. We had made plans. So you basically decide to get out right at the moment when we plan everything to work out together when it's finally going to happen. Hmm Something doesn't look right. You were so angry at me for leaving you. You said that I was the one who you wanted while you were in jail. So now what.... Hahaha . You just couldn't carry your game any more. It showed. Your loyalty showed. How badly you wanted me showed. You wanted me back even when I left. But now you didn't want me. You were acting funny. Because guess what your hubris got the better of you and for a minute it really exposed who you are. You are a bitch. You did all this because you felt you would get a new woman in your life. You got wings. I was no longer relevant. You just used me as long as you could. Guess what karma knocked. You lost your job and came back to me. . Hahaha now you act like you want to marry me. Because now you need my money. Now you want things. You are a flunkie. You will betray the hand that feeds you. You can say to a woman that you love her just to be able to live in her house so you don't pay rent. And the moment things get better for you, you'll dump her because now she is no good for you. You play emotional games and use people whenever you need and manipulate them into believing that you want them. And as soon as the need is over you dump them without caring what they did for you or what sacrifices they made to go live your life. You're a flunkie. A flop. A user. A person with no integrity. You just use people for your benefit and drop them when you are done with your benefits or when they are no longer useful. Now suddenly you talk about marriage. Wow. But just a few weeks back I was nothing to you. I meant nothing. How much you wanted me. You brought me back after jail. And now you don't want me. Oh so sorry. And now you again want to marry me because you have gotten into trouble again...... Hahaha You're exposed. I'm done with you forever. I ain't coming back. Your true colors showed. Never imagined you were such a cheap loser. I knew something was off about you. Now when I talk about leaving you forever, suddenly comes up marriage talk. Oh how much you miss me. When I'm talking to you, you don't care about my feelings. When I decide to stop everything you want me back. Emotional abuser. You never loved me. Everything is a farce. You shed no tears. God showed your true colors in time to get me to move on you fucker. And now done. Didn't you say that I lost myself and I found myself.... Hahaha indeed you found yourself to lose yourself again. Now. What. Planning to come to India. Wasn't my country not suitable to you. Hahaha. It's your words that are absolutely hollow. They mean nothing. You can do just anything just anything for your benefits. You do not care who gets hurt You used Dawn. You used Crystal. You used Rebecca. And then you used me. You wanted to use Jeff. You use everyone. That's why they don't care about you. Probably your own mom saw your colors. Maybe your brother did. Maybe Rebecca did. You are dumped. There's nothing about you to trust anymore.

Through my insight work I will try to define 3 terms and what they mean to me Ego tripping Ego inflating Ego tricking. Ego tripping - this is the most basic thing that a person does to help his ego. Let's a say a teenager learns a skill just to master others in the group. A woman takes a lot of selfies to get the attention of everyone to herself in the classroom. Both are examples of how people love attention seeking and doing things that help pump up their Egos. They can fall for it and this can be dangerous especially if they go too deep down the rabbit hole. Certain things can help. But not always. Sometimes it's difficult to keep up the false ego just like it's difficult to keep up with a mountain of lies. Ego inflating - you inflate your ego to make yourself better who you are. I mean you want to look better. Example. Let's say a guy says something like "I have a big house in New York." in reality he doesn't own a house at all. Ego tricking - this is about tricking others into feeling bad in return for a pay on your ego.. For example if a marketer says something like, "you have no idea how this scheme works. It works beautiful. For me this trick has always worked and given great results. It will for you too." the person who tries it does not get any benefits from that sort of investment or method and he feels miserable for even having tried it but he always has admiration and awe for the marketer believing that he is top notch and really telling the truth. All the lies fed to this person was an effort from the marketer to mask his failures and up his ego. To feed on the insecurities of people and claim them and make it look like he has achieved triumph over their insecurities meanwhile masking his own behind a mask of lies and deception and manipulations.. He doesn't wish to be questioned so he makes it sound like magic. In reality he is not himself to the test to prove it and he can only do the talk but can't prove shit..yet his yapping makes people believe him. He does this to create an elaborate blanket of security to hide those insecurities he is secretly dealing with that he doesn't want to be exposed so he already pitches tent in advance before an objection is even raised at him. Example - a dating coach.. He might come up with scenarios like how he got 100 girls by so and so technique. But in reality he never did. He never had a girlfriend or woman. But he never wants to be questioned for it in his business. That's his greatest insecurity and he doesn't want to feel like he doesn't have it so he creates lies and stories to make it seem like his dating history is awesome. And this is all a farce to keep his ego intact in public. Since he suffers from horrible insecurities with respect to dating he has chosen exactly the same field to create a blanket for his ego and make it sound like he is perfect.. This he does successfully by playing and feeding off other's insecurities with regard to dating. This works because people with insecurities are easiest to prey on, they readily believe that someone has it better than them, so they are less likely to ask for evidence or proof or question the audacity of the dating coach... This audacious covering up of the insecurities of the ego and tricking others to get an advantage out of it, I will call it chutzpah.. Although this is not the classic meaning of the word but I'll call it Ego Chutzpah. A beauty marketer. She might be advertising how wonderful a face cream is dealing with skin issues when she herself hasn't tried it. And she never had to. But she puts up fake before and after pictures to show what a transformation she has achieved with that cream. Meanwhile if she herself develops the skin problem that her clients complain about, she won't be able to solve it with the cream she sells to them. Now this was an example of massive deception.

Sometimes we inflate our egos by tricking others because we want to cover up our deep insecurities that we don't want to be exposed or questioned. I feel that way about this dating coach also

The other thing I wanted to learn about in terms of a spiritual paradigm is ego tripping. Is this worthwhile. Does it help Maybe sometimes with self esteem. Sometimes like ego tricking. Like tricking others for your ego needs. This will be so psychopathic. I will call it inflating ones ego. I think this is also an important predatory behavior.

Bringing back balance is a concept I wanted to talk about last night. Where it's bringing balance to a structure. The structure you live with. And fine tuning it to balance and bringing it back and nurturing it to how it always was. Fighting obstacles and reducing and minimizing impact.

I think nothing works better than psychedelics.

You gave yourself away lol when you said that..... Hey cheater... Hahaha. Gotcha When the truth about a man is pointed out to him, he gets so pissed off. Funny.

I'm sorry but that won't happen again. My heart can't be a lover to you again . but there was a certain coldness in you that put me away. Our relationship as lovers is ruined forever. The fire has been put out. I love you but I can no longer be your lover after having been hurt and discarded People who are really in love don't use others A man who is honest with his intentions is the best man. But then again I won't ever trust a man again. So doesn't matter anymore.

I have suffered the biggest heartbreak of my life. I have never begged any man to stay before. This was the most important relationship in my life. I thought you were my soulmate. But you stabbed me. The breakup was really painful. My heart was broken very badly. Love is not a game you play. At least it wasn't a game for me. The breakup shattered me to pieces. And no I'm not coming back no matter how much you miss me. I just want you to know that I will never be a lover again because my heart is broken very bad. Maybe you are manipulating me. It's not okay Joe. It's not okay. Don't do it.

Hey don't fight with him and waste your time. A good person wouldn't want you to do that Be clear and keep your boundaries. Stay away from people who target your weakness. It's exploitation Take care

Nahm Moderator 14,549 posts Posted 10 hours ago · The hardest thing about meditation is starting, because you don’t know how beneficial it is until you practice. The second hardest thing is feeling so good you start skipping the practices. Walking Meditation Walking meditation is a great way to begin integrating the power of meditation into your daily life. It is the first stage of meditation in action, that is, learning to be meditative while "out and about" in the world. It is great to do while, for example, taking a walk in the park, at the beach, or in another natural setting. Walking meditation is often recommended for people who are doing a lot of sitting meditation. If you are getting to sleepy, or your awareness is getting to "muddy," walking meditation can perk you up. Alternately, if you are getting to concentrated and mentally "stiff," walking meditation is a perfect way to loosen up a bit. Walking meditation is a common practice in Vipassana and Zen Buddhism. Pay close attention to the physical activity of walking slowly 1. Before walking, stand still in an open, balanced posture. Bring your awareness to the feeling of your feet touching the ground. 2. Now begin walking. Keep your gaze fixed on the ground about six feet in front of you. This will help you to avoid distraction. 3. Note and mentally label three parts of each step you take. The labels are "lifting," "pushing," and "dropping." Lifting - when you are picking your foot up Pushing - as you are moving it forward Dropping - as you are lowering it to the ground As you make each label, pay very close attention to the actual physical sensations associated with each of these actions. 4. After these three components become clear, you can add three more, so that the entire sequence is: "raising," "lifting," "pushing," "dropping," "touching," and "pressing." 5. Your mind will probably also engage in thinking extraneous thoughts, but just allow these to go on in the background. Your foreground attention should stay on the physical sensations of walking. 6. If you find that you have been completely lost in thought, stop walking for a moment and label the thinking as "thinking, thinking, thinking." 7. Then re-establish your awareness on the feeling in your feet, and begin the walking meditation again. 8. A typical session of walking meditation lasts a half an hour. CAUTIONS: Make sure to watch where you are going, especially if you are around traffic, other people, etc. https://sites.google.com/site/psychospiritualtools/Home/meditation-practices Awareness of Thoughts Meditation By learning to watch your thoughts come and go during this practice, you can gain deeper insight into thinking altogether (such as its transience) and into specific relationships among your thoughts and your emotions, sensations, and desires. This practice can also help you take your thoughts less personally, and not automatically believe them. Additionally, this meditation can offer insight into any habitual patterns of thinking and related reactions. Observe your thoughts as they arise and pass away. · By “thoughts,” we mean self-talk and other verbal content, as well as images, memories, fantasies, and plans. Just thoughts may appear in awareness, or thoughts plus sensations, emotions, or desires. · Sit or lie down on your back in a comfortable position. · Become aware of the sensations of breathing. · After a few minutes of following your breath, shift your attention to the various thoughts that are arising, persisting, and then passing away in your mind. · Try to observe your thoughts instead of getting involved with their content or resisting them. · Notice the content of your thoughts, any emotions accompanying them, and the strength or pull of the thought. · Try to get curious about your thoughts. Investigate whether you think in mainly images or words, whether your thoughts are in color or black and white, and how your thoughts feel in your body. · See if you notice any gaps or pauses between thoughts. · Every time you become aware that you are lost in the content of your thoughts, simply note this and return to observing your thoughts and emotions. · Remember that one of the brain’s major purposes is to think, and there is nothing wrong with thinking. You are simply practicing not automatically believing and grasping on to your thoughts. · When you are ready, return your attention to your breath for a few minutes and slowly open your eyes. Optional: · There are various metaphors and images you can use to help observe your thoughts. These include: o Imagining you are as vast and open as the sky, and thoughts are simply clouds, birds, or planes passing through the open space. o Imagining you are sitting on the side of a river watching your thoughts float by like leaves or ripples in the stream. o Imagine your thoughts are like cars, buses, or trains passing by. Every time you realize you are thinking, you can “get off the bus/train” and return to observing. Awareness of thoughts and emotions is one of the areas of focus developed when cultivating mindfulness. In Buddhism, mindfulness is one of the seven factors of enlightenment and the seventh instruction in the Noble Eightfold Path. The Seven Factors of Enlightenment: https://www.accesstoinsight.org/lib/authors/piyadassi/wheel001.html The Four Noble Truths:https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Four_Noble_Truths The Noble Eightfold Path: https://tricycle.org/magazine/noble-eightfold-path/ CAUTIONS: Please be gentle with yourself if you notice that you are constantly caught up in your thoughts instead of observing them. This is both common and normal. When you realize that you are thinking, gently and compassionately return to observing your thoughts. If the content of your thoughts is too disturbing or distressing, gently shift your attention to your breathing, sounds, or discontinue the practice. · Remember that you are not trying to stop thoughts or only allow certain ones to arise. Try to treat all thoughts equally and let them pass away without engaging in their content. · This practice can initially be more challenging than other meditations. As you are learning, practice this meditation for only a few minutes at a time if that is easier. · It can be helpful to treat thoughts the same way that you treat sounds or body sensations, and view them as impersonal events that arise and pass away. · Some people like to assign numbers or nicknames to reoccurring thoughts in order to reduce their pull and effect. Breathe Awareness Meditation Stress is an extremely unhealthy condition. It causes the body to release the chemical cortisol, which has been shown to reduce brain and organ function, among many other dangerous effects. Modern society inadvertently encourages a state of almost continuous stress in people. This is a meditation that encourages physical and mental relaxation, which can greatly reduce the effects of stress on the body and mind. Sit still and pay close attention to your breathing process. Take a reposed, seated posture. Your back should be straight and your body as relaxed as possible. Close your eyes, and bring your attention to your breathing process. Simply notice you are breathing. Do not attempt to change your breath in any way. Breath simply and normally. Try to notice both the in breath and the out breath; the inhale and the exhale. "Notice" means to actually feel the breathing in your body with your body. It is not necessary to visualize your breathing or to think about it in any way except to notice it with your somatic awareness. Each time your attention wanders from the act of breathing, return it to noticing the breath. Do this gently and without judgment. Remember to really feel into the act of breathing. If you want to go more deeply into this, concentrate on each area of breathing in turn. Here is an example sequence: 1. Notice how the air feels moving through your nostrils on both the in breath and the out breath. 2. Notice how the air feels moving through your mouth and throat. You may feel a sort of slightly raspy or ragged feeling as the air moves through your throat. This is normal and also something to feel into. 3. Notice how the air feels as it fills and empties your chest cavity. Feel how your rib cage rises slowly with each in breath, and gently deflates with each out breath. 4. Notice how your back expands and contracts with each breath. Actually feel it shifting and changing as you breath. 5. Notice how the belly expands outward with each in breath and pulls inward with each in breath. Allow your attention to fully enter the body sensation of the belly moving with each breath. 6. Now allow your attention to cover your entire body at once as you breath in and out. Closely notice all the sensations of the body as it breathes. Repeat this sequence over and over, giving each step your full attention as you do it. Suggested time is at least 10 minutes. Thirty minutes is better, if you are capable of it. If you find yourself distracted by a lot of mental chatter, you can use verbal labeling as an aid to concentration. For example, on the in breath, mentally say to yourself, "Breathing in." On the out breath, say, "Breathing out." Another possibility is to mentally count each breath. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=92i5m3tV5XY User Quote Bookmark Nonduality & Meditations Now “ ...every revolutionary act, is an act of love...” - Zach de la Rocha Quote this ivory Member 462 posts Posted 9 hours ago · If I had to pick two practices to maintain for the rest of my life I'd pick breathing exercises and going on daily walks. In learning to breathe properly a good majority of thinking is reduced. If I had to estimate, I would say that 2/3 of my thinking ceases when I am practicing regularly. Imagine being 66% less stressed out. Also, breathing reduces the intensity of emotion making it much more bearable. Sometimes, difficult emotions even have a "feel good" quality. I do also do a 45 minute brisk walk to get my endorphins flowing. With a daily practice I tend to be much happier even when I'm not doing anything in particular. I used to run, which was even better, but after so many injuries I decided to take things down a notch. Walking is at least sustainable. User Quote Bookmark peanutspathtotruth Member 410 posts Posted 15 minutes ago · @AwakenedSoul444 Next to of course going to the root of it, there is nothing more relieving I found than Yoga Nidra. It's complete, absolute relaxation of your body. You might not have done that for years. Even in sleep you are not as relaxed as in Yoga Nidra. I highly recommend "Tripura Mandala" on YouTube. Lovely man. Take the beginner Yoga Nidra session and work up from there. 1 hour in complete relaxation = you feel like a newborn. User Quote Bookmark Anton Rogachevski Member 788 posts Posted 2 minutes ago · Acceptance of suffering. Not wanting to not want it. The desire to stop suffering is in fact the source of suffering. User Quote Bookmark https://antonsjournal.home.blog "A fool thinks himself to be wise, but a wise man knows himself to be a fool." William Shakespeare Reply to this topic... Follow4 Actualized.org Terms Privacy

I'm starting this journal for anyone and everyone to record any forum threads or posts that you found useful for your everyday living. Any topic or valuable insight offered in the forum question answers that you might need for reference or recollection. Anybody can post. Share or copy paste the post or quote. Whatever you choose. Thanks guy.

I wanted to talk about fatal self esteem and low self esteem and normal self esteem and high self esteem

True that. Great suggestions.

Me and Andrew are getting along really well. He is so passionate. I like that. Yesterday it was so cold when we were sitting in the park at night. Just before midnight. Like heeeee cold breeze. Tingling and shivering. We were laughing so hard. It was the best night ever. I like when we spend time like this. It's not really romantic just like buddies. But we feel that tug. He is awesome He can literally read my mood. I liked his black jacket.

Just be authentic and very honest. That way she is never insecure with you. But always let her know that she is your top priority. Being a nice guy doesn't help if you are manipulating her. Any woman will respect honesty above else. A very useful tip to have and keep a woman - don't be an asshole or jerk. Never works Men want a woman who is genuinely committed to them and very loyal. If they see a woman being nice to all men and being flirty with every guy she sees, it's a huge turn off for most men. Because she begins to look like public property. No guy wants that. Same way women look at nice guys. Because they are going to be nice to all women. It shows desperation and lack of genuineness. Like a front or fakery In real life most nice guys are just fakes. No man likes a woman with a fake smile. No woman likes a man who takes a passing interest in her and offers her help just to get her attention and then gives up when the shit tests come up. A very important question you can ask yourself if you are buying a woman a drink is "am I liking this woman just because she is an attractive female or because I like her because I only like her and no one else" ... Women like exclusivity just like men. They don't want a man who likes all women because that creates insecurity. Often times a nice guy always gives this impression that he is going to be nice to every lady for her attention. This looks like a male model or akin to a male escort. That looks cheap like a sell out guy. That's why nice men don't get women just like women who get with all sorts of men don't end up getting a real man. Also women judge men a lot on the basis of past relationships. If they were with a nice guy before who was nice only for a few days, they will be inclined to think that nice guys are "time pass" and not husband material or serious relationship material. How to bypass this problem Be very persuasive of the woman you want. Make your choice clear. Show loyalty. Don't flirt with everyone you see, you are sending the wrong message. Be ready for shit tests Show your nice guy behavior even 3 months into the relationship and not just for the first 2 weeks. Be open about what you are looking for. Don't make her feel she is an object for your desires. Your heart will show no matter how much ever you hide. If you are fake it will show. Treat her with respect. If she treats you bad in return, she is not worth it. Be an honorable guy and if she is a lady, she will admire you for that.

Values are not aligned in a way that they will create a comfort space for another person. Spiritual development means you have to focus on Emotions Psychology Morality and conscience Value structure Qualities Traits Intentions Beliefs, values and mentality /attitude Awareness Consciousness Depth and substance Authenticity Aesthetics and Desirability Maturity

I'm focusing on creating a comfort space for myself from now on. This is important for spiritual growth. I was thinking about the whole comet concept and the lotus concept of spirituality. Shedding the baggage and about becoming a more universal purer beautiful form

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