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They do not neglect themselves

They aren't careless They are sometimes penny pinchers because they realize the value of money They can sometimes boast which can be a bit nasty They like to achieve things. High achievers.

Characteristics of strong people They look beyond the current situation They make things happen They have reserve stamina.. That means they are not going to stop just at something they will continue working harder. They aren't complacent. They have a strong will They are motivated They love and support each other They care for each other They talk with abundance Their spirit is generous They allow growth of themselves and others. They aren't weak They don't just give up They keep calm and rational. They don't easily give into fear psychosis of survival. They are able to take a lot of stress They dont get tensed easily They need stimulation

The one thing that I learned from these stories is resilience. I want to use a different term for it.. Because I have observed some of these strong women. And what I noticed in them is that they are not exhausting their energies right away. They keep up the struggle. They accept the nature of challenges. They are ready for it.. They are ready to embody tougher things because they aren't broken within. Once you overcome the survival stage of life and have the love and support of people around you then your next focus in on bigger things in life. You don't want to have a narrow focus. You have a higher goal.. These goals can be anything ranging from Financial independence Fruitful relationships Great health and fitness Wealth building Children Community building Environment care System focus Happiness Mental health Travel, learning and adventure Learning new skills other than survival skills Self esteem and ego needs Social status

Lot of people just assume that they are meditating for therapeutic reasons. They feel better when they announce that they are meditating even when they aren't. Be easy on them. It's a lonely planet. Meditation may not necessarily cure loneliness but it's great for the soul. Human relationships depends not only on good behavior and integrity but also availability. You may be the best person in the world and yet not find a partner if people around you choose looking into a phone over communicating with each other. Loneliness, desperation and lack of guidance and or lack of family support leads people in to dark corners of toxic relationships. So don't be surprised by that. If these same people were to experience natural joy and real healthy wholesome relationships combined with personal healing, maybe they wouldn't be stuck in toxic relationships and wouldn't feel this needy. So judging others is a bit harsh. You cannot take the condition of patients as a sign of success or failure of a hospital. It only reflects an unhealthy society. And we can't have a quick fix for that. Meditation will definitely make you feel better. But if what you need is human connection, meditation can't fix that. You will need to seek love and connection..

This thing These stories are so inspiring.. Stories of hope. Stories of strong women who try to make something out of their lives. Meanwhile some form of violence snatches their life away. But their families, their moms, their parents, sisters, friends always were by their side to support them through the way.. They were loved.. They were strong. They were struggling through life and yet making it through.

So I was suicidal again on December 22 and it was really bad. I was sitting outside in the cold contemplating stuff. But I have improved over the week. Much better today. Mood uplifting. Felt a lot of despair and hopelessness. But feeling like the new year is going to bring some good news for me. Maybe finally I will have what I always wanted.

Forgiving is only productive when that person understands. Forgiving that leads to distress is no forgiving

The wheels of karma are always turning. Always. Those who make others suffer won't have it good themselves. Be fair to others if you want yourself to be treated fairly. This is the ultimate lesson of life. So often we cross these boundaries and tend to give into the absurdity of the ego and its need for power You don't need enlightenment to know this basic truth that everyone is born free and you can't rule someone's life You can't expect to treat someone awful but not have to deal with the consequences of it.

I am so tired of everything and I want to give up. Yesterday my ex called and begged for me to talk to him I wasn't having it. Sometimes it's just too much. I had to block him. What in the world makes people think that they can have their way with someone. Lesson learned... Never ever be with a controlling person.. They always cause damage and a lot of it. Just fed up with such people Like why can't they just shut the hell and mind their own businesses. Goddamn weird. The need to control someone makes a person lowest of the low.

I have enough to deal with on my own plate to bother about any of that crap. So I'll pass it. At the moment I'm thinking about confidence and how important it is. I wrote these lines in my diary I'm a flower that cannot be crushed I'm th3 wind that cannot be stopped I'm the ship that has set its course I'm the bird whose wings are free I'm the building that will never fall.

I am dreaming about a beautiful world where there are no boundaries and only freedom

I have had that happen many times. People asking me money and I have given them but they always said they will return back but they never did. I've learned never to trust people with either cash or with other stuff that needs money. It's a loss. It's also an emotional loss because it breaks trust. The one thing that helped me deal with being a sucker every time was this question - What is the cost of disappointing someone? Answer - Nothing We attach meanings. We feel guilt for not having helped. But help only those who really need and when you do that there should be no expectations for returns because maybe that person is not able to do that. But do not help a person who is really not in need. Huge mistake. Of course they can give back but they don't want to and without paperwork they don't need to. So lesson learned - help those who are really in need and be ready to lose. Those who pretend to be in need or can return back, don't help them, most likely they're just bullshitting. The other mental statements that helped me deal with this are 1..I'm not going to put my emotional safety at risk. 2.. I'm not going to put my financial safety at risk..

Pork is eaten by Satan.

The best strategy is to keep it static. No more changes to it. Earn valuable resources like gloves and seyds. And I was laughing so hard when Cindy said if there exciting new pins. Haha she gotta be kidding me No she is just another person who got suckered into it And she doesn't realize that. That's why it matters so much to her just like it matters to others. It's nothing but a money pit and a frustration pit. How to recover Stop putting more money into it Don't change it anymore. Keep it static Don't engage in events Don't get lured by rewards Be careful not to get frustrated Vent out frustration on Farzilveg forum. Keep an eye on what other people say Learn beforehand what the new rollout is going to be out. No more rollouts. There's no room for more rollouts and no energy to deal with them

When it gets worse with time, a time will come when it will need to be completely abandoned. It will be a complete shock to all those loyal people who have been involved wit it for 7 years like Pauline. And for people like me who put money into it. Now my money is tied. Telling myself - be prepared for it darling

Basically what should have been a fun enjoyable thing has become full of sadness and frustration. That's because the company's greed has ruined it. I can't believe this But thank God im now aware of how this thing is messing up my mind I'm not going to pay for it.. I'm not stupid. I already paid enough. I will work with its basic process. I'm pretty sure that even in the future they will come with ways to change stuff and change the nature of it all so that they can continue to bank on it. Little do they realize that frustrated consumers will give up and stop paying lol There is a difference though. They know all too well that even if the consumers are frustrated they are very addicted to it. To the highs and lows it delivers. To the interest it generates to new features. To the constant feeling that it gives of being productive. Therefore they know that people who are not involved in it for 7 years are not going to give up on it especially if they have put so much money and effort into it. Now those who put effort for 7 years, they can't give up because their effort is at stake and those Who paid money like me, their money is at stake. So now everyone is somehow tied up to it Some people are here because their friends are here. So again they need to keep up with their friends so they have to be in it. Wow. Wow wow. What a trap. I have been in this only for a year. I'm surprised that people who are in it for 7 years do not realize this mind game. And they are so brainwashed that they don't care. They won't believe it. This is not only a money pit but also a pit of tremendous frustration and luring. Constant luring with the anticipation of rewards. Maybe I can reward myself on my own hahahaha. Like deal with Nick twice today for some orange juice something like that. Hahahhaha I will have to be careful not to get manipulated and suckered further into this. I will do my own thing rather than go by the rule.. I will also not do the events. Those who think that they have succeeded at this are so crazy. They dont realize that it will take away everything from them their wellbeing their resources their money. It gonna get worse with time

I think this event thing (you know what the F thing) it messes up with my mood a lot. Not good for my mental health. It suckers me into it. I feel victimized when I am not getting what I want. And then it leads to frustration. This is like mind control and I've become aware of how subtly it is controlling my mind for the very first time. The Pike caused all of it. Now I know better. Not to get messed.. For the first time it gave me a mortal anxiety as to how I'm going to proceed with it. It's not late still.. Good that I came to know that it controls my mind. I need a word for this. I will call it Farzilveg. So yea I'm going to let Farzilveg conto my mind anymore. If I don't do well, I will just tell myself it's completely okay. It's supposed to be fun and not stress. But I saw it is stressing me out. That's not a good idea. And it's doing the same to people on fb. They are all complaining the same things. It makes them for the keys to the place. And buy everything. Not fair.. It creates this general anxiety that you are falling behind others or others are doing better. This is a mind trick. Like the stock market controlling the mind. When it goes up it gives a elated feeling and when things aren't going well it creates frustration and anger. That's why Pauline is so frustrated all the time. Now I get it. She has been into the for years. Even Cindy is becoming like that. Also it makes you survival oriented and not really a helpful person.. It's definitely not a source of joy. What it did to me was cause me panic and intense frustration like I'm going to lose something. Then I felt unhappy. Not even happy about the achievements so far. It doesn't make you grateful. It only makes you think now what now what now what This is not healthy. Plus the whole consumerism with show off. Like buy this buy that.... This will make you happy. This is a new thing that will make you happy. Only to disappoint you later. What a stupid lame thing Also there are so many people complaining already. Multiple complains and no one cares to address them.. That sucks. When I got the panicky feeling because Nick stopped working I felt absurd. I couldn't focus on anything. My mind was consumed by it. I waited for hours to get Nick to get it right. This was a huge waste of time. Lot of panic and frustration. Is it worth it. Not at all That's when I realized that it was controlling me. And consumerism works when something is your favorite because you instill into people that they are missing out on something so that makes them depressed, they are already depressed by the way that's why they turn to it, now they are more depressed because they feel like they need something they don't have even when they actually don't need it and then it plays a mind game. People then lose money buying it. Once they realize how much effort they put into it then they see that the benefit is close to zero, thats when the frustration begins Anyone who gloats about it is a sucker who is a loser who basically got sucked into it. Note to myself - beware of the mind control. It's a permanent cycle of frustration that one should be aware of.. The support team does nothing they are evasive. What they do is try to diffuse the trigger. They know that they are critical errors in the system. Instead of addressing it openly and because it's a costly business fixing these deep errors all they do is try some temporary patch solutions to fix it. This does not actually solve the problem because a complete renovation and makeover will be needed but the company hates to do that because it will eat a lot of money So the company finds new ways to make money to make people pay for its new features.. So cringey. This has everyone frustrated beyond the limits They give stereotypical answers to all the consumers. Wow. I didn't realize it until now.

I'm not going to do the events anymore. It's been too much. This was a crisis. But I will rise again to face it Also I'm going to reduce my interaction (sic) May God help me through this troubling times. Jesus help me.

Time to go underground and hide. Time to stop trusting Time to take urgent action

I will have to do this for my survival These two will destroy my survival.

@Raptorsin7 what makes you think that you are a narcissist. First you should make sure that you are a narcissist. How have you come to this conclusion. Can you elaborate and give examples. Side note :- If you feel that you have behaved in ways that are similar to narcissists then you need therapy. But since therapy costs a lot in our so called modern world, you will need to work on yourself on your own. Read a ton of material on narcissistic behavior. Suggestions on how to avoid narcissistic tendencies ? Narcissists have a deep need for power and control. When you have to react to a situation or deal with a person try being as polite as possible. Tell yourself that the other person is entitled to their way of life as much as you do. That you cannot control them. Narcissistic parents try to control their children to the maximum. Therefore whenever you have the urge to say something which means telling someone what they should or should not are early signs of narcissism. You should recognize and avoid it. You should let the person be who they want to be. Self criticism is the key. Narcissists are blind to their own behavior. They lack an inner voice that objects to their behavior. They are smug and self righteous. Therefore a lot of inner questioning is needed. You have to do self inquiry and become aware of your behavior around others. When you catch yourself being negative to someone you need to stop and doubt yourself rather than being self righteous. You need to ask yourself "am I being authoritative here. Is my behavior intolerant of that person's presence?" "who am I to tell this what to do" "am I unconsciously trying to control this person's destiny? Am I able to let go when this person disagrees with me or am I seeing this person as a thorn that needs to be removed for my own ego's sake? Such questioning will help you to recognize your thought patterns and behaviors that are making you a narcissist. Once you recognize them as toxic you will be less likely to display them. ? Narcissists are psychos. They make unusual rules and expect others to follow it. They get paranoid very easily. A simple example of this is where a boss is acting like a typical narcissist. Lets say there's a project that needs a minimum of 200 points from each employee for it to become a success. To reach these points every employee has to do certain tasks. He makes a rule that the employee should contribute a minimum of 200.points or else they will be fired. Now every employee is working hard to finish this requirement. One particular employee doesn't get along very well with the boss but is usually good at his work and always contributes 200 points. Certain times the boss gets triggered by the employee's cold responses. The employee does not praise him or act subservient to him. There are many employees that do not achieve the goal and contribute only 150 points. Now for the next month this employee contributes 198 points he is short of only 2 points for 200. Yet the boss seeks this opportunity to chastise the employee and treats him miserably and even decides to fire him This is a classic example of narcissism where the need to punish is very strong since the employee failed to please the boss or succumb to his domination. The boss wasn't being productive in is decision. He was using his control narrative thus causing more loss to himself by losing a potentially good employee because of his dumb narcissism.. He could have easily let go of a minor shortage of 2 points but he didn't. It wasn't a big deal. But he got paranoid about it. Yet he did not do anything to all those employees who were contributing much less. This is his narcissistic bias. Narcissists use their bias and hurt their own cause. This is their short sighted paranoid behavior caused by their need to carefully monitor or supervise even the minutest detail. Notice that they try to interfere where interference is not necessary. They blow things out of proportion. They make a huge deal just to make a statement. They can easily let go but they choose not to. In other words psycho behavior. Narcissists end up making stupid business decisions. They operate from their egoic paranoid psycho needs and fail to see the benefit in the bigger picture. When you are being psycho about every little thing. Catch yourself in this behavior and practice letting go.. Ask yourself "why am I being so concerned and paranoid when this is such a small thing. Does this look reasonable or logical. Can I let this go. Is this really a huge deal or im just making it up." ? Narcissists see others as a threat. This is because of their deep insecurities. Nobody is being a real threat to a narcissist more than he or she is being to others. They operate from a scarcity survival mindset. Therefore any disagreement appears to be a threat controlling everything means there is no threat. This is where the need for extreme control comes from. When you get thoughts and anxious feelings about a person, learn to see them as independent entities rather than as a threat. Understand that if you feel they are a threat it is most likely your own paranoia causing making you feel that. Address and calm that paranoia. Let go of thought that someone is a threat. Desensitize yourself by engaging more with that person rather than jumping to such a conclusion. Over time you begin to realize that the other person is as much a human as you are and your thoughts of that person being a threat are invalid.. ? Narcissists usually try to be punitive. They always find a way to punish a person usually for nothing. This is a sign of controlling behavior. You will need to do shadow work and learn to be sympathetic and forgiving another person instead of finding ways to punish them. ? Narcissists waste a lot of time concerned about little things rather than the bigger picture. Use systems thinking and big picture thinking and let go of the need to control little things. ?Narcissists project a lot. This means they suspect that a person is doing something that in reality they themselves are doing. An example of this is like this. A man is in a relationship and he often cheats on his girlfriend. Now when he sees his girlfriend being busy he raises a concern and assumes that she is cheating. This is an example of Projection. His girlfriend has done nothing for him to come to this conclusion. Yet the narcissist is fully convinced that he is right on the mark.. It's purely his projection and it has no substance to it.. This projecting creates a toxic pattern where the other person is constantly having to defend themselves to the point of frustration. This way the Narcissist keeps the victim feeling constantly judged and terrorized. How to avoid this. If a thought comes to your mind that causes you to think that the other person is behaving in ways that don't suit your preference then learn to first see if it is just an assumption or if it has any validity to it

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Narcissism is of 2 types. One is casual and easy narcissism. This is where the person shows narcissistic tendencies out on display. Their narcissism is toxic and they easily get into patterns of narcissistic abuse and people around them suffer their narcissism This is usually observed in men. The other type of narcissism is hidden deep narcissism. This is usually observed in women. They initially act very docile and cooperative and friendly and generous. As time goes by, they begin to show a domineering side of themselves. All the innocence and empathy is lost. They start acting rude and hard and bitter and do not care for consequences and just get plain bossy and hard to agree with. They create disagreements for no reason and start shit over little things that eventually leads to bigger consequences.

That person will never be happy in their life because that person is a maniac. They will always have something to bitch about all the time. They will never leave me in peace and constantly hound me. I have understood that. It's my bad luck that I can't get freedom from such people.