Preety_India

I obviously realize that. You aren't getting my point. My point is women want more than sex. But if you come across a woman who wants only sex, not sure how to put it, but to each his own. I believe in wholesome relationships that involve sex, romance, commitment, loyalty, emotional bonding. Maybe it's alien to you but for me it's natural to want a more long lasting wholesome relationship that leads to marriage eventually. Yes it can look like a waste of time to you, but like I said to each his own, don't take this as shaming.

What do you mean? What's SrS? I have never approached a guy. I'd rather a guy approach me.. Is that odd? I thought it was not ladylike to approach a guy. Would gross me out. Not sure how this is taken.

I do believe in Reiki and chakras. A Chakra therapy I did a few years ago really helped me. I think it's closed mindedness to not be open to new ways of exploring the Self. Let people do what they want. It's Trial and Error. Eventually they will realize what works and what doesn't. Some of it is bullshit and scamming and some of it is genuinely helpful. You wouldn't know without trying. Also let's say you wanted to try acupuncture for the first time but didn't know much about it and you come across a scam artist who charges you a hefty amount and actually knows nothing about acupuncture. You come out of that experience with the obvious conclusion that the whole field of acupuncture therapy must be a scam. That's because with things like these, it's quite easy to scam people because there is no standardization or a certification or an international board of certification and supervision to weed out scammers and keep it legit. So most people are going to have negative views on matters like these. I'm pretty sure back in the 1960s even meditation and yoga must have been looked at with skepticism and a lot of people must have been scammed causing controversy and lack of acceptance. But today it's a standard practice and most people just naturally accept without questions. The world is in a rapidly evolving state and in the future a lot of the things unacceptable or ridiculous today will appear more meaningful and appealing. There will be a huge market for alternative therapy in the future. It's already picking up steam.

For some odd reason I don't believe this guy. He gives me the goosebumps after "that" incident with his ex. He seems more talk less authenticity. Typical Hollyweird.

Good. +1 And even flirting along with statements.

Work on your communication skills. Girls like flirty talk Get flirtatious with her. Don't ask boring questions. It puts her off. I remember an Australian dude asking me a bunch of nonsense questions 2 years ago. Very nauseating. I had to turn him down although he looked handsome. But he was making the first encounter like a police interrogation. He asked me if we could do a short question answer session. At first it was fun but a little later his questions got more intense and uncomfortable for a first encounter things like family and personal life which I definitely won't open up on a first time conversation. I'm shy so it was getting clumsy and his questioning felt like intrusion. I can say it honestly felt like a job interview. At the end I just said no thanks and I moved on. He got pissed. But that's how it is. In the beginning of the conversation I was happy to answer his questions and wanted him to flirt a bit with me but after 20 minutes I really wanted out, like I was just giving one word answers. Like Arcangelo says here, that's true, he knows from experience, I started giving 1 word answer because I got too tired of the questions and then it was like GTFO. That's what one word answer means - She is bored and doesn't want it. Try not to ask generic questions at all. Instead of that, go like this "hey I like how you do this" "would you mind if I did this for you" "hey, let me take care of it" Any friendly gesture, show appreciation, girls like praise, it's turn on, appreciate them on their appearance or the work they do, get sneaky, show interest like you really want her, the questions you ask are because of thoughts hovering in your mind, your doubts about her or if she will accept or reject, remove those doubts, focus on showing her that you want her. A very flirtatious guy will directly ask out for a date like "hey I'd love to hang out with you someday, how about this weekend?" or "would you like to have coffee?"..... Something along those lines. Personally If I were a guy I would have been extremely persuasive and direct like Arcangelo because I will let you on a secret, girls love the direct way, the energy of a guy, his persuasion, his wanting, his flirting. They get turned on. Only thing is it shouldn't appear creepy. But this is the biggest secret in getting a girl, show her you want her, sometimes it can come off as needy/desperate but only to some women, others might find it pleasantly surprising and refreshing to see the confidence in a guy!! " That's why they tell you to be confident. Confident doesn't mean boasting, I actually get turned off by boasting. Confidence means the need to directly express your wanting and interest. A woman likes to be chased, to be desired. Show that she is being desired. Your low key questioning will turn her off and make her feel like you are trying too hard. Don't do that.. Act natural. I had an encounter with a Mexican dude once.. He was from Puerto Rico. Don't know if he is Mexican or not. I'll just say Hispanic. He was obsessed with me. He was being very persuasive not ready to leave me. It did creep me out a bit but it was also a huge turn out. I was gushing, I would have wanted him but I already had a boyfriend so I had to turn him down. He wouldn't let go and insisting I leave my boyfriend at the time. So I had to politely turn him down but if I didn't have a boyfriend then I would have certainly fallen for his flirting and persuasion. Women do resist for many reasons, wanting to have sex with a desirable male can be a tough decision for a woman because she doesn't want to easily get emotionally involved, her mind isn't always ready to say YES, but if she feels free and secure with the guy and goes beyond the sexual tension and frenzy then she is ready for it. It just takes time. Most women reject and sometimes regret it. Their biology gets the better of them. But when in a state of relaxed and calm, a woman is more likely to say yes, the trick is to gain her trust and get the momentum. But all of this only with genuine intent to want her and have her Best of luck.. I get all of my information on female nature from Arcangelo's posts .. Women don't know themselves very well, sometimes men know them better. Gotta give him credit for being a good chaser. He seems to have comprehensively studied women. So from the Yoda of pickup Sincerely Arc, Only on Actualized.org

I have written extensively about toxic relationships in my journal from family to exes and friends, the list goes on and on, cutting them out feels like rebirth. Get toxic people out of your life, they suck your energy and your will to live. When you offload them, you are truly free and liberated. Then you can freely focus on your life goals. You don't owe anyone anything,especially not to a toxic person. Any idea otherwise is pure Gaslighting. I was gaslighted by my ex to stay in the relationship. He said that we were together even when I told him that we were done long ago. Energy vampires is what I call them. They're moochers. They mooch off your energy and bring you down with their negativity and pestilence. You're better off and you deserve joy, love, care and happiness. Gift yourself that every day and break the chains of emotionally toxic bondage. Happy Journey.

A cold coffee brew can fix my morning dullness. I'm so grateful for another day.

February 20 Today is Day 18 of no contact challenge Day 4 of Implementation Days. So today I'm going to use my rudimentary kit for productivity along with a timer. Yesterday I completed 1 goal. And successfully used my planning kit. This is finally working. My engine is running. Time to get going.

There is a reason those threads are closed here. Because there are not about fostering love or spiritual growth. Are you kidding me? You think that a woman will be genuinely interested in you when all you do is objectify her for your instant sexual needs. If you want a high quality woman, like Anna pointed out in another thread, then learn to be high quality yourself or be happy with rejections. And yes. Nobody is manipulating you. You are the only one spewing your red pilling here bringing in your misogynistic views on women. Maybe you like to see women cry to satisfy your ego. You're the only one who is constantly talking about money in a marriage. A wholesome good quality woman doesn't need your money trail. Bullshit. She needs love and care and attention and commitment. Doubt you can offer that. Till then be happy with your bar girls who like to hook up for a dollar or 2. Get ready now for your next one night stand or pickup joint whatever bullshit you call it. This time there are many paragraphs. Goodbye.

Yesterday I told him he is so sweet. He really is. I think I'm falling in love. But this time be careful lulz. Don't marry a jerk

Move out of your home. Honestly you won't regret it.

This rudimentary little artifact is really working for me. All I have to do is use it with a timer. Yesterday I did a 20 minutes meditation session. Felt amazing. Hadn't done meditation in months. Now I'm able to keep track of my time better. Yesterday was a good day. Productive. Got my tasks completed Yay.... And tomorrow is my birthday. So tomorrow is a cheat day. I can do whatever I want. I'm just going to relax with my friends and or Netflix lol. Just registered for Netflix. Let's see how it works or will cancel it if it's crappy. My boyfriend told me to cancel it yesterday. He said it was crappy. So let's see. He is going to come tomorrow and maybe wants to take me out. But I'm not in the mood to go anywhere. Too tired for that. I'd rather chill at home. Will update this journal in a few hours regarding the progress in making with productivity pie chart.

All I'm going to say is that you have a skewed opinion on marriage and relationships. But people who are successful in their relationships won't say that. Not every marriage ends in divorce. Life's choices can't be defined by statistics, you can always choose to be the exception from the norm. Whatever fits you, you do that, but do not radicalize others. Your bad experiences do not shape their worldview. You can't demonize the institution of marriage. Understand that divorce is a separate process. Nobody gets married with the expectation of divorce. So marriage and divorce are two separate things. You're automatically associating marriage with divorce. Divorce only happens when a marriage fails, so marriage is not the cause of divorce, but failure of a marriage is. Now focus on why the marriages fail rather than on marriage itself. Look at the content rather than blaming the structure. Marriage can fail due to so many factors. So if a man (or woman) worked on his issues and worked on his marriage, maybe he would be able to save it or at least not make the same mistake next time, try to see what's lacking in you that causes a relationship to break and work on those weak spots, a failure of a marriage /relationship teaches a lot of things, lot to learn and lot to improve rather than just dumping blame on the issue itself, that's what the egoic mind does, but an empathetic mind tries to see what can be done to better a situation and admits his/her role in the situation. The empathetic mind cultivates qualities and skills required to resolve the situation and find a way through it and focuses on self development, the cultivation of self, nobody is perfect and so everyone needs to cultivate their best self and its only in a marriage that we get the opportunity to closely see our flaws and imperfections and work on them, and also how to accept the flaws we can't change or accept the flaws in the partner for the sake of patience and unconditional love and forgiveness. Relationships are never meant to be easy but finding a way to cut short them is escapism. Maybe divorce laws can be changed to be more fair to both parties and to be less annihilating but just because divorce laws are biased or misused does not mean that relationships are pointless or culture is degenerate. Work on issues that need legal change, start social revolution for this change rather than creating an alternative culture as an escape route. At the end of the day it's not a solution just a satisfaction that you didn't have to face the consequences of a flawed system Good luck

Agreed

I made a rudimentary cardboard box paper sheet as a planner along with the pencil pocket drilled into the cardboard box.. I couldn't find anything better.. I could use a notepad but won't work it doesn't have space to tie a pen or pencil to it. So this was a good DIY quick homemade planner pad. With the option to unhook and portable pocket or purse size.

And I'm heart broken. Rest in peace beautiful spiritual soul!

If 80% is initiated by women, then what you're implying is contradictory. That means it's the women who are not happy!

It doesn't matter. It doesn't apply to all.

Nobody is shaming you for dating whoever you want to date. Probably you're the one shaming yourself. And all the phrases "Bible belt talk" and "beta male Shame tactics" and "degenerate culture" and "women crying" is your own invention and your own delusion. People are happy in whatever relationships they are. No need to shame women for their choices. Smh

You have to understand that everyone has their own perspective. You cannot stereotype and generalize people. You trying to criticize people with family values can also be considered shaming as well. Why do you fail to see that? If you're okay with casual sex, nobody is stopping you or shaming you. But if a man wants love, marriage and a lifetime one woman partner, HE IS NOT A BETA CUCK. Maybe it's time for you to revaluate how you see the world. Why do you think that you are some kind of a winner if you get young hot sexy chicks. Dating is not about losing or winning. Maybe it is for you. So if a man found an older woman who is matured and understanding and loving and not your stereotypical hot young sexy girl, and he is happily married to her, is he a Loser???? Maybe he is a loser in your eyes.. Not in the eyes of everyone. He is happy he found what he wanted. Move on dude!!

You, me and Jenny

February 19 Today is Day 17 of no contact challenge Day 3 of Implementation Days.

I forgot that I could listen to endless sea waves and rain and birds.. Just anytime... Life can't get better than what I already have What am I grateful for Food every day My beautiful window curtains My understanding boyfriend My work My room My journal My close group of friends A clean place A roof over my head My cozy blanket My garden My wind-chime My Tibetan gong My event management earning My unmarried status My pets A hot shower Ice cream My witchcraft Nature My divine feminine