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@vizual it's very hard to thrive in such a society. It is completely loveless. In my building nobody even talks to another person. If anyone talks they only do it to gather information and laugh behind their back or spread gossip. There are no child protection services, no 911 Once I felt threatened by a man so I called the woman's helpline, this was years ago, nobody picked the call on the helpline The society and government is heartless and bureaucratic. There is Generational trauma People don't look at each other with trust. The only security is family and If you don't have a family or if your family is unkind, then you are ROYALLY FUCKED. Its like there is absolutely no help if you are in any kind of trouble. You are completely on your own. The government doesn't help.. The society doesn't help. Nobody helps except family. But sometimes even family who are greedy don't help.. So.in India people mostly feel very desperate.

You don't judge them. But Indian society does. In fact a rape victim is sometimes encouraged to commit suicide Because in the Indian mindset a woman with no husband has no identity. A woman violated is better off dead. A son who doesn't earn the salary of a doctor is a worthless person and a failure in the eyes of the parents. A single mother is a brainless slut who gave her virginity to the wrong man and deserves lovelessness and loneliness and every bit of suffering coming to her. Any person in Our society who doesn't satisfy expectations that are set ridiculously high are to be shamed and judged and abandoned into anonymity and should deserve nothing but disdain, contempt and suffering. How will you feel in such a society? That's why the suicides Half of the suicides don't get reported.

What needs to change is the level of empathy. Awareness. Stage Green values of acceptance into society instead of treating someone as unwanted. Western society is very open, kind and inclusive and doesn't judge people so hard. Heck even criminals are not judged so harsh in western society, even they have rights and freedoms. But in Indian society even normal individuals are made to feel like criminals If you don't become a Doctor or Engineer in India and if you don't get married or have children, you're basically considered a loser.. No matter how intelligent or nice you are as a person. If your parents are Indian and if you don't fulfill their social expectations out of you, you will essentially be treated worse than a criminal in the West. It's horribly judgemental, strict, greedy, unempathetic, insensitive society.

It's question of mentality. Not about hot or not hot. The mentality is very judgemental and considers anyone who doesn't have a perfect life as "unwanted 'or" beneath. " And a perfect life is someone who has a great job, career, unmarried, single, young, upbeat with lots of money or social status. Of course people who don't satisfy all those requirements also get married but they aren't in happy marriages, it's just compromise and lifelong feeling of being judged or considered inferior or loser.

This is very helpful to me. I will try to Embody this kind of love in my life Maybe in the past I always expected something. May God give me the strength to be capable of such love. Thanks for sharing this beautiful post. We make mistake. We are only human.

In my country single moms don't get married at all, forget young or old.

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@BlueOak yes almost everywhere @vizual this is not true. You might think that in western countries men think conservatively but this is not true or else I won't see so many single mothers getting remarried there. In Indian society even divorced men and women find it difficult to get remarried. I was just giving an example of the mindset. And if you visited India, the social culture is very judgemental and bad, you could be demonized simply for being divorced. It's pure hell. The lack of empathy is on a disastrous level. There is simply no room for anyone who isn't perfect enough Suicides in our country are extremely high You simply cannot thrive in a society that offers you little beyond survival based on tough competition. You would feel like you are living in a social hell unless you're among the top 20% of the social class. Most people in India report feeling depressed, stressed, lonely and suicidal. This is shown in a study.

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I don't hate Indians, let's be clear about that at the get go. But I'm sick of Indian communities wherever I go. There are legitimate reasons for this. They are extra extra smart and meanwhile there's nothing wrong with being smart, but this attitude of always topping others, hyper competitiveness and this oversmart mentality and behavior causes them to become hard nosed and judgmental and reject anything that doesn't fit their success doctrine in life. It feels very reductive, hurtful. Most Indians would actually agree with the Right Wing US mentality if you asked them. I don't see any empathetic understanding in Indians. If you asked a regular Indian guy what does he think of a single mother looking to date then his immediate response would be that she is baggage and that it's all her fault that she chose the wrong person or didn't have better judgement. Now I'm not saying that all Indians are this way but this is just an example of their judgemental nature of the overall social psyche of Indian communities.

I myself Subconsciously put an end to it. But let's see if there is any understanding in the future

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Some time ago I wrote this for a user here called Pepper. I can feel the weight of the words. Miss Pepper I don't wish to deal with people who are cold to me. That doesn't serve my purpose. So I eventually cut them off. You need drastic measures to feel better Be around supportive people. It's a huge boost to self esteem. Learn to cut out people who don't serve your purpose. Brutal truth. Its not about self love. It's simply about cultivating general love within yourself. This love will then water the plants of your body and mind. You're a beautiful soul Ms Pepper. The only thing is you are horribly misguided. And that's not your fault. You haven't been prepared for your best role and best potential. This could be the society you live in that simply doesn't try to bring out the best potential from you and rather sabotages who you truly are I say seek answers within you Ms Pepper and you will find that you deserve so much more than what you have been given. There is deep deep love to be found Ms Pepper and that love is within you.

Miss Pepper I don't wish to deal with people who are cold to me. That doesn't serve my purpose. So I eventually cut them off. You need drastic measures to feel better Be around supportive people. It's a huge boost to self esteem. Learn to cut out people who don't serve your purpose. Brutal truth. Its not about self love. It's simply about cultivating general love within yourself. This love will then water the plants of your body and mind. You're a beautiful soul Ms Pepper. The only thing is you are horribly misguided. And that's not your fault. You haven't been prepared for your best role and best potential. This could be the society you live in that simply doesn't try to bring out the best potential from you and rather sabotages who you truly are I say seek answers within you Ms Pepper and you will find that you deserve so much more than what you have been given. There is deep deep love to be found Ms Pepper and that love is within you.

I don't wish to deal with people who are cold to me. That doesn't serve my purpose. Be around supportive people. It's a huge boost to self esteem. Learn to cut out people who don't serve your purpose. Brutal truth. Its not about self love. It's simply about cultivating general love within yourself. This love will then water the plants of your body and mind.

You have to heal that inner child. You have to find healing not judgement.

I liked this Without a doubt managing self-talk, cutting out everything negative about yourself, minimize the need for self-criticism/judgment, which also stretches to the criticism of others. Often we criticise others to indirectly meet a need to lift ourselves. Know when you judge, and try not to. Even smallest and seemingly benign self directed comment like thinking "cluts" when dropping something. Don't. When seeing yourself in a mirror, there should be zero judgment. The mirror is just a reflection, make it functional. Be very careful what you say to yourself, because you're listning. The second thing I'd say to make sure that you're being authentic. If you're not allowing your authentic self to hsibe through, then you are literally faking life. Be authentic as much as possible, minimize personas/façades. Feelin fake is detrimental to self-esteem. Authenticity allows for confidence in self, and helps bringing a stronger positive self-image.