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@Eph75 yep. Thank you for your response. It helped me get some clarity.

@Eph75 It seems that is the case. You are right He was always bit controlling in the relationship. So it was difficult for me to get out of the relationship but finally I did. He had a lot of possessiveness with him. So he does communicate with me sometimes. He feels better after talking to me. I don't have the same feelings for him anymore but he is struggling to move on. He hasn't forgotten me and doesn't show signs of dropping me completely. He says that he cannot hate me. Since the relationship was emotionally volatile, I let him vent out his frustrations whenever he wants to. I don't block his feelings because it's not good for him. He doesn't have an emotional impact on me. And I don't think about him. Maybe sometimes. But it's been steadily declining over the months. It has faded. I found it very strange that today while talking to me, he brought it up and he made this strange request. I guess you are right about the ego chipping /possessiveness on his part.

@Sucuk Ekmek he wants me only for himself even if I have broken up the relationship. Which is strange. That's what he means by the word. He doesn't want any new man in my life.

Certain things I learned from my previous relationship Proofreading communication Recognize a source of discomfort in a relationship and understand that if you feel trapped or miserable then it's a red flag. Recognize patterns of mind control or mind programming in a relationship. This is more like emotional mind control. You almost feel like you cannot escape the relationship or the partner. You have to deprogram the mind. This is like deaddiction. Like not going cold turkey in breaking up but taking it slow. After some therapy, desensitization, coaxing by family and friends, temporary separation, acclimatize the woman to the break up situation. Use simulation techniques. Usually a mentally weak woman gets abused and controlled in a relationship. Also the reason she can't escape it or she goes back to the abuser can also be explained by her mental weakness. Setting criteria for potential relationships. Cut out those who do not meet the criteria Blaming and judging doesn't help. Compassion and understanding helps. Vaginal penetration. Vaginal penetration induces the hugging hormone in a woman. This is my personal experience. It induces oxytocin. This hormone and the strong feelings produced during sex with the man is very effective in keeping the woman tied up in the relationship. The resistance is considerably reduced once the man has achieved sex with the woman. Abusers/Manipulators/ players use sex as a way to keep the woman tied up or trapped or addicted to the relationship even if it's toxic. Her resistance is systematically and progressively reduced by sex. This is to entice an emotional submission from a woman, especially a mentally weak woman. Guilt tripping is a very common way of preventing a woman from Escaping a toxic relationship.

Certain things I learned from my previous relationship Someone who is moralizing you too much is also like a violation of who you are or basically you are not allowed to be yourself. You don't become completely undesirable or unworthy or bad just because of a few flaws or imperfections in your personality. A person constantly holding you to very very strict moral standards is tantamount to moral abuse. They are not able to accept you for who you are. Moral behavior cannot be directly designated as right or wrong. It's not that simplistic. You also have to see factors that are underlying and causing that behavior. Immoral is not when a person is behaving out of character as a result of a personality change or due to some compulsion or problem. A bad behavior could be because of a defect of personality or because of inherent sociopathy. The latter is a cause for evil.

When you can't even give basic respect to someone, you can't expect anything better beyond that. It's stalled right there.

What If the vaccine is not appropriate. How can anyone trust this vaccine? A vaccine has to undergo numerous trials and specifications for its safety. Or else it can turn into a hazard. If they're hurriedly innoculating people with the vaccine, then it can be a disaster, can lead to people either getting the coronavirus if the vaccine is not sufficiently inactive or causing them to go into anaphylactic shock. You can't force an immunization. That's a violation.

@Dutch guy that is so true.. I'm getting sick of how animals are getting treated. It's time to have a change.

A high quality product only goes to the highest bidder.

Life has suddenly changed in so many ways.

I have been having so many dreams and nightmares in the last 3 days.

More examples of goodness in humanity shining through a pandemic. https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-8113985/amp/Social-media-shames-greedy-price-gouging-brothers-selling-1-hand-sanitizer-70-each.html The irony is the part where it's written "family man" on his shirt. Couldn't have been perfect.

March 13 - Friday March 14 - Saturday March 15 - Sunday Today is Monday March 16 Tuesday - March 17 I'm going through a horrible 4 days. The food shortage is affecting me. I have been having a stomach illness now. I'm having stomach upset and acidity. I am eating erratically and feeling weak. This is a challenge. I am also having huge anxiety and stress in the past 48 hours. Just emotional ups and downs. My family is feeling like a dead hollow. Everyone is just sleeping. Honestly feels like I'm in a graveyard. I have never felt so depressed before. Neighbors aren't talking to each other. The guy who delivered a letter today didn't want to look at me. Nobody is looking at each other. Feels like social isolation. People are avoiding and looking down around me. My neighbors didn't say a hi. Unbelievable.

@unicity@unicity That's a long time

Any behavior that causes change in personality is trauma inducing or abusive behavior. How to detect abusive behavior Feeling of sudden fear or Insecurity Feeling of abandonment Feeling of isolation Feeling of loss Feeling of stress or pain Feeling of discomfort or pressure Feeling of unable to open up Feeling of heightening stress Feeling of being suppressed Feeling of being bullied

Some bad stuff happened since March 13. It's just ridiculous and I'm still trying to recover. It was bad. But I'm going to make it. I felt traumatized. I tried to stay calm. It's so hard but I'll try. I can't sleep because of that.

@unicity I'm still thinking about what Browne said. That's the most bizarre thing.

@unicity what do you mean by man altered?

I think this virus is a warning not to mess with nature anymore. It started that way, with the abuse of animals in wet markets, the illegal wildlife trade and inhuman treatment of animals for human consumption. The lack of caution while handling animals and animal products. And then the virus spread. Maybe a wakeup for everyone to understand and respect nature and to not engage in substandard careless illegal practices.

It was like a death wave. And my silence was deafening.

One way to respond to bad communication is to have a strong social setup A strong social setup needs a proper criteria assertion. Assert criteria that a person needs to mandatorily fulfill in order to be in the setup. Those people can be incorporated into your special personal team as they assist you in your processes and help you with things.. Learn to raise specific criteria and boundaries and requirements and conditions that cannot be breached. Although this might look narcissistic this is important to do in order to not allow the breaking or exploitation of boundaries and barriers and to avoid toxic buildup. So this is a prevention measure and not a narcissistic dictation.

How to filter and what to filter Filter information which is good for you Censor information which is bad for you Censor words that are not pc Filter information that needs a reaction How to respond or react React first to that information to which a reaction needs to be given. Learn to ignore that needs to be ignored. React in a pleasant manner. Respond to the extent to which the information is needed. Give zero response to things that are difficult to respond to

Respond like a professional reader and listener. There are only two modes of communication. Written text like email, text messages and instructions or words written. Audio messages or spoken words or discussions Both are the only means of communication. Both need extreme censoring and filtering to make them appropriate for the listener or professional reader. Word to word analysis and breakdown is important. Any word that doesn't fit the context should be removed.

Ignoring and selective responding Ignoring that which is harmful for the self Selective responding to that which needs responding.