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@Hardik thanks for sharing

So beautifully said

Tomorrow I want to talk about broader aspects of healing. Change in belief patterns. Tired of writing for now.

Positive sex. I have had some hangups regarding sex for some time. The last time I had sex was with Andrew. It was in December. It was great and pleasurable and I was single at the time when I was with him. Weren't really in a relationship with each other but we were attracted to each other nevertheless. Andrew is in another city right now and can't come here because of the coronavirus at least for a few weeks. When we meet sparks fly. I'm not sure about our relationship status but maybe we are just trying to establish a relationship between us that will take time to fully form. I have had some difficulty with thoughts regarding sex. Last night I was thinking about sex and a striking thought swirled in my head and that was, when was a discussion associated with sex ever positive and kept thinking and mulling over it for so long and I figured that as a collective culture we really never had a positive discussion on sex ever. Like right now if I look at the media, I see several examples where sex is discussed or associated with and these associations are generally of several types including something like Rape Sexual assault Groping and molestation Pedophilia Porn Masturbation Nudity Toxic masculinity Feminism Objectification Teenage pregnancy Human trafficking Prostitution Perversion Sex addiction Bestiality Shaming Slut In each of the labels above, sex is discussed often with a negative prerogative. It seems like we want to bring up sex only when we talk about something bad like a crime or a disease or addiction or a general unwanted condition or situation. Have we ever discussed the positive aspects of sex? How many news channels open a discussion saying statements like "oh let's see how beneficial sex is?" "so what's so good about sex?" "sex can be good for so and so reasons" other than only having children.. The simple answer is....... No Religions around the world are notoriously known for their Demonization of sex throughout centuries. It seems like we as a collective species are very narrowly focused on the negative aspects of sex and too often we forget the , soft, gentle, healthy, productive, fulfilling, beautiful, curative, loving intrinsic value of sex. We only want to focus on the negative returns of sex. This can be a very debilitating phenomenon. Because it doesn't encourage the positive aspects of sex. The aspects which are nourishing. I feel sex is like fire. Now with fire, if you use it right, then you get to enjoy its warmth but if you play with fire, you get burned. I look at sex like that. When I look at the positive aspect of sex, I feel like it's a fountain of energy. India is known famously for its book called Kamasutra, a famous ancient manuscript on different sex positions for the mates. However there is a lot of cultural repression. Sexual sculptures on walls of ancient Hindu temples. At some point my culture was probably sexually free, I would need a time machine to figure that out.. Chuckle. What I found is that the good part of sex can be discovered if we minus the bad part. That is if we stop looking at fire as something bad then maybe we can have the chance to look at fire as a source of energy. Look at sex as a source of energy. I've begun to look at sex as a source of infinite energy, of infinite love, of infinite or eternal loving energy. Like with birth. When a woman gives birth to a child she feels like she created something, a explosion of creative energy, same with sex. It can be an explosion of loving energy. Toxic masculinity looks at sex as instant gratification obtained by the objectification (looking at a woman as a piece of meat) of women and by treating them like a faceless headless (existence-less) sex toy that needs the male sex organ to be drilled into for intense excitement and pleasure and nothing more. This is a very reductionist materialistic unloving in-joyful unenergetic and robotic bullshit way of looking at sex. The one way of looking at sex positively is by elimination. Eliminate all the following labels and what remains is pure wonderful loving beautiful energizing sex. Rape Sexual assault Groping and molestation Pedophilia Porn Masturbation Nudity Toxic masculinity Feminism Objectification Teenage pregnancy Human trafficking Prostitution Perversion Sex addiction Bestiality Shaming Slut ..... Look at sex as a fountain of loving energy..

Don't be a sponge that absorbs dirt @Sombra yup

When someone fails to integrate you within them despite your best efforts to integrate, then it's their failure not yours. Don't make someone's failures your faults.

I think the next part would be learning how to keep a relationship strong and functional and how to have relationships that bring you maximum fulfillment and growth in life.

I wonder what the opposite would feel like.

Trump only decided to start responding when the pressure started mounting So he should thank the fake news media for creating his so called hoax, at least for once they inspired him to take the right action.

Since the breakup and with this coronavirus crisis, I've been geared towards focusing more on my marketing career and the small business I have which I plan on expanding further. So far so good but I still need to focus on drumming up more income. This will only happen when I improve my social and communication skills and get more dealers invested in my business. Right now it's only two dealers that I market with. But I hope to have at least 6 by the end of this year. People in the marketing business can be very cruel especially when it comes to sharing profits and "trust" is not an easy word to use in the marketing circles. I remember 2 years ago when I invested in a scheme for increasing income and it turned out to be a massive failure, thanks to trusting a marketing agent who was very manipulative and successful at gaining my trust. Never going to make that mistake again It's very important to carefully deal with people and know their intentions beforehand or look for red flags in interactions to see if the deal is going to be profitable to both parties. My event management work which was my primary source of income has taken a huge toll since the crisis. No more appointments from clients. No one calling because of the social distancing. The phone line doesn't ring anymore since the past 2 weeks.. The last client had canceled. I'll need to wait till the whole coronavirus situation is over with to start all over again and reconnect with old clients to conduct events.

Writing has been very therapeutic for me especially on my road towards healing, I've always been the writing type and the more I vent myself through my innate expression, the better is the purging, the release thereafter feels like magic, lifting me up from the depths of despair and showing me hope towards a better person that I can become. Relationships have a profound impact on the beliefs we have about ourselves, whether we realise it or not. During the course of a relationship, it’s very normal to ‘intertwine’ with a partner. Goals and directions change, as well as wants and needs for now and the future. This isn’t because you lose yourself, though certainly that can happen, but because intimacy involves opening up to another person – opening up to their love, wants, needs, feelings, opinions, love, goals, dreams. When that happens, you can’t help but be influenced and eventually move in the same direction. Sometimes that involves adjusting your own sails. It’s all a healthy part of being with someone fully, and part of the unpredictable magic of relationships. A breakup means the undoing of this merging, which is painful to go through. However strong and independent a person may be, the fracturing of a relationship can also mean the fracturing of the self-concept. One of the most painful parts of a breakup is that it up-ends things as you’ve come to know them. The familiar is gone, plans are changed and the future all of a sudden has too many blank spaces where happy things used to be. Part of the healing is re-establishing who you are without your partner. Anything that can repair and re-strengthen the self-concept, will accelerate healing. I try to ask myself, "who am I?" the first step towards healing is simply knowing oneself well Writing repeatedly about the process of the breakup as though speaking with a stranger about it, is another way to move towards healing. As well as being an emotional release, it also encourages a fresh perspective and new insights.

@Anna1 I pray for you and for your colleagues. Proud of you for being so strong during this crisis. You are a warrior. ❤️

I need to sometimes focus on the occam's razor technique with some of the issues in my life. This is a concept that focuses on the simplicity of things. On implicit nature. Occam's razor. It's used in a wide variety of ways throughout the world as a means to slice through a problem or situation and eliminate unnecessary elements. But what we call the razor is a little different than what its author originally wrote. There are two parts that are considered the basis of Occam's razor, and they were originally written in Latin: The Principle of Plurality - Plurality should not be posited without necessity The Principle of Parsimony - It is pointless to do with more what is done with less Taken together, they represent the basis of humanity's investigation into the universe, and the way we see our environment is largely based upon Occam's razor. There's no telling what kind of world we would live in today without Occam's razor. Would we have the Internet? Would we have inoculations? Consider simple systems in nature, like viruses and plants, and their ability to carry out complex tasks such as infection and photosynthesis. We value these simple models. And when it comes to man-made systems, we tend to base structures upon what we already know works - the simplest explanation to us - like computer memory modeled on our own brain processes. All of which points to the principles of plurality and parsimony. However, one of the key things that Occam's razor reveals is the subjectivity with which we view the universe. Sure the sky is blue, we know that by looking at it, but what shade of blue is it exactly? Anyone who has ever engaged in a debate over whether a dark-colored sock is black or navy can appreciate the bias of our worldview and how it affects our decisions. The simplest explanation is usually the right one. Detectives use it to deduce who's the likeliest suspect in a murder case - you know, the butler did it. Doctors ­use it to determine the illness behind a set of symptoms. How to use it in my life? Just focus on the most obvious things that need to be done or not done Why not do the obvious?

Emotional distress is the first sign that something is amiss Some more signs The first sign of emotional distress Breaking of boundaries Passive aggression Inability to connect Inability to humanize Lack of support Lack of accountability Passive ignoring EDS

@Bill W Hey, why did you change everything? I'm not even able to message you.

Come November, maybe he will pay for this?

You're sure you aren't joking.

If anyone can donate masks and essential things if they are in New York or arrange something.

Raising barriers is an absolute necessity to freedom. Barriers Barriers Barriers (you know what, when you are a thug and when someone out-thugs you, you have a big reason to get pissed.) Completely dblked

A paradoxical way of achieving freedom is to raise barriers. This might seem odd because freedom and liberation should mean freedom from barriers and no barriers at all. Zero barriers. But that's not how it works. Freedom obviously means breaking the barriers that are trapping you or making you feel trapped so you're liberated to pursue a higher cause, a cause of serving yourself in the highest way, and this means that you need to break those barriers but at the same time raising barriers is also a big part of feeling and being free, this means that you raise barriers to protect yourself from harm, sometimes when you are a free spirit, you neglect this aspect of your life, you forget that raising barriers means the unwanted one won't encroach your space and thus limiting the entry of only positive energy into your inner world.

One thing I realized is the importance of freedom. Freedom is an important word for me now. It means a lot.. I need to cherish freedom in my life. Once you're free you're able to have a better focus on your healing journey. Healing begins with freedom

A prayer for the world May God help those in need. Help those who are facing a shortage Those who have contracted the virus Give them strength to overcome And protect them from its effects Keep everyone safe and protected from the virus Those who are seeking and looking May they find what they are looking for Give hope to those who have none Give light to the ones who cannot see Give peace to the ones who are restless Bring healing to the earth Give strength and protection to doctors and nurses Give hope to the debilitated Let the soul of man awaken And Discard money, greed and materialism Let all men and women come together And seek love, hope, peace and joy within each other And take away the sufferings of each other And come to eternal peace and healing Amen