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This issue is really complicated. The cops have to nab the bad guys, they do the dirty job for us, they are trained to be aggressive and fight hard because the job needs that, at the same time, becoming too aggressive or violent can cost the person's life. But they have to use force and sometimes this force can get excessive. I'll say this job is like playing with fire. And while playing fire you could burn yourself or others could get burned I wish there was a better way of arresting people where excessive force wouldn't be needed. Also the idea of resisting arrest is very subjective. The visceral reaction of the human body is not easy to control. Extreme fear and anxiety can create natural resistance even if you wanted to play by the rules. So I wouldn't blame the guy who resisted arrest. He is simply acting out of survival. That's him being human. I think the whole arrest process needs to be revamped because a person loses his life and the other ends up in prison with guilt. This is obviously not a good outcome

If you are the type of guy who does that all that comparing and only looking for flaws, then your relationship is over lol. This is a cognitive dissonance in certain men. It plagues the relationship like a virus. I'm sorry but this is the truth. You could find the best person in the world and lose that person because you can't lose those thoughts. Even you're not perfect. What if she left you because of your tiny flaws. Would you have liked it? Don't judge someone that you truly want to love. Because then it's not love, just empty affection.

Your idea of love is very dysfunctional and simplistic in a very illogical way. You are thinking of love as liking ice cream in a very literal sense as in when a person says "I love ice cream" but they are trying to imply that they have a preference for ice cream. Love is not a preference or a taste or a passing feeling. We do not define our relationships as lightly as a passing feeling. Now love is a state and a quality. Some people are more loving than others. Because they have that quality. Also the cultivation or expression of this quality depends a lot on how conscious the person is. People with a natural instinctive bend for the spiritual are generally more loving unless they are fake or hypocrites. Love takes different forms, it's like water that fits and takes up the shape of the container. Similarly love can be a romantic love, a love for a purpose or a cause, a love for God and the universe, a love for a child, a love for the self. Infinite love is like infinite capacity or infinite space. Now imagine you have the spring water flowing from the mountains and let's say this flow is a never ending stream. This is how infinite love will look like. It's abundant, eternal and never ending. It has no start or stop. It is flowing eternally. When you experience this love, all judgement comes to an end Please try to be more spiritual or grow spiritually. With your thinking, you will get blinded by a false society. In simple words I'll say love is the experience and being of the Divine Eternal and note that this experience and incarnation is not subjective. Anyone who experiences it will look at it the way it is to be looked at or felt or become. There are no versions to this divine eternal love. It's one and only one but reflected in so many actions and sentiments. Yet it's fundamental nature remains unchanged. So water remains water, as pure as it can be, it doesn't change even if different people are drinking the same water

5 feet 3 is not really short. It's an average height for women. Most women are within that range slightly lower or higher. If you find her short, then it could be that you are too tall. But you have any girl, as a tall guy you'll face this problem, then you will need to look for a uniquely tall woman who is taller than most. But it will limit your choices. A woman who is closer to 6 feet is very rare. And it probably wouldn't look very good to look at, like a tall lamppost. You can see many celebrity basketball players with wives that are much shorter, but they aren't really short, it's the husbands or players who are too tall. If you really like her, I doubt you would be so concerned about her looks. Personally I never really cared how my boyfriend looked. But I got a looker so I can't complain.

Police are and should be the protector as well as the enforcer. They enforce the wrong people. And they protect the wrong people That's what's wrong. Obama is very eloquent and wise. I like this part of his response "I saw an elderly black woman being interviewed today in tears because the only grocery store in her neighborhood had been trashed. If history is any guide, that store may take years to come back. So let’s not excuse violence, or rationalize it, or participate in it. If we want our criminal justice system, and American society at large, to operate on a higher ethical code, then we have to model that code ourselves." Well said.

@Anna1 you too.

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@Onemanwolfpac enough. Instead of commenting on people's comments, try answering the OPs question directly. Saves a lot of drama.

Living in victimhood is different from fighting victimhood. Fighting victimhood means you don't accept it and want it to change. It's liberating rather than limiting.. On the other hand perpetuating victimhood is what limits you.. Of course everyone knows that you do the best with what you got. But you also do your best by breaking social barriers. Thats called creating change and not limitation.

So I tried to get information on this and it's currently trending on social media.. And this woman is some Malaysian beauty pageant winner, Miss Malaysia Universe who made this comment on her Instagram. Her mother is Chinese and her dad is Brazilian and she calls herself "a white baby" And she doesn't even know that this is more about cop abuse. I think she just wanted to say something and ended up looking dumb. So this is the article and the organization that hosted her doesn't want to do anything with her anymore. So the following is the excerpt from the article about this woman who made that instagram post. A former Miss Universe Malaysia has been criticised after she posted a series of offensive comments about the Black Lives Matter protests taking place across the US. Samantha Katie James, 25, used her Instagram account to post several stories commenting on African Americans who have been demonstrating against police brutality and racism in the US for six days straight. She told over 160,000 followers that the protests were proof that “the whites [have] won” and called protesters who are angry about the killing of George Floyd “foolish humans”. “I don’t live in America and it has nothing to do with me, but to me, it seems like the ‘whites’ won,” she wrote in her first post. “If you’re angry, you response in rage and anguish and that means it has power over you. They have power over you.” “You chose to be born as a ‘coloured’ person in America for a reason. To learn a certain lesson. “Accept it as it is, till now hunger and poverty still exists. It is what it is. It’s inevitable. Best you can do is remain calm, protect heart, don’t allow it to crumble. “That’s your responsibility,” she added. In another post, she answered a follower who asked what she meant by “chose to be born ‘coloured’” and said: “Like our souls. Chose this life, this country, this race, this human form, specifically… I always wonder why I’m born in Malaysia, as a white girl, with Chinese mom and Indian grandparents and Brazilian dad. Ms James’ remarks have been met with anger, as many Malaysians have stood in solidarity with black Americans and their fight against systemic racism. One person said in a comment: “While you may mean well, you’ve made some grave errors that are both disrespectful and hurtful in the extreme. African Americans have not been treated with anything near equality for close to 400 years.” Another said: “Actually embarrassing, I can’t imagine telling black people to ‘relax’ and take the fact that they’re getting killed by the very people who swore to protect and serve them as a challenge. Kindly delete your story posts and take a moment to consider something outside your own little bubble of privilege.” The Miss Universe Malaysia Ogranisation released a statement on the issue, saying: “Miss Universe Malaysia Organisation (MUMO) notes with dismay the recent social media posts made by Samantha Kate James, a past winner of Miss Universe Malaysia. We also note that these posts are inappropriate, offensive, unacceptable and hurtful. "The views expressed on Samantha’s personal Instagram account are her own personal views and are neither the view nor position of MUMO. Samantha Katie James is not contracted to MUMO and has not represented the organisation since June 2018. “MUMO stands for a non-racial society and strongly condemns all acts of racism and prejudice anywhere in the world.” ........................ I think enough said. The article is quite self explanatory.

@IJB063 If you need more evidence, look at Dylan Roof. His victims families forgave him. That was astonishing. Because what he did was unthinkable.

What truth?

@IJB063 I can't have sympathy for her. Because she doesn't know how to put things. Instead of saying "your situation will make you stronger and you will win" which is the right way of showing stoicism. She on the other hand is coming off as completely callous and insensitive. You mean to say that black people aren't strong. Black people are probably the strongest people in human history. They had to take so much shit and they still survived. They survived more discrimination and injustice on planet earth. How can someone even tell a black person to be strong is beyond me. People have to be grateful that it's black people who got discriminated because they tend to suffer in silence they are more forgiving and they don't bear animosity despite their cruel experiences. Yet if it was any other human race facing this level of injustice, there would have been a nuclear war. Black people take a lot of shit day in day out and stay strong. That woman's post was rightfully criticised. If she is not a black person and doesn't identify with their struggles, maybe it's not her pejorative to preach on how black people ought to react. . When a person is feeling victimized, the last thing you could say to them is "take it as a challenge" instead of giving validation to their struggles. If her intentions were pure and she only meant the best and not rubbing salt into wounds, then her choice of words was really poor. She could have worded it differently Like Be strong and resilient. Be stoic. But keep fighting and don't lose heart. Instead she said "best you can do is" which means she thinks or assumes that the best that black people are supposed to do is suck it up and stay strong and don't end up being too damaged. Sorry but I am not seeing any positive connotation in those words. And if I'm being so triggered despite not being a black person, I can only imagine how a black person must feel after reading it. Don't overestimate peoples good intent..

It's an awful post. Had it been her own child born in poverty and facing discrimination would she have said the same thing? I don't think so. People can use rosy words to downplay someone's suffering. It's shows their callousness. How different is it if a person said to a rape victim. "you were chosen to be raped. Relax, take it as a challenge. You have to learn a lesson. Rape always exists. It's inevitable. Best you can do is remain calm, protect heart, not allow it to crumble. That's your responsibility." I'll end with this thought in my mind. Brave people bring justice. Insensitive people bring excuses.

Hmm. It's not just one cop killing a black person.. It's a trend, a series of incidents where black people are disproportionately harassed and targeted by the police and then killed. It has reached a level where something needs to be done about it on a serious level. At this point black people would be less likely to think of essential services and more about their most basic rights like the right to life. And they are completely justified in their Protests. They have no obligation to think of essential services when their lives at risk almost on a daily basis.

@Parththakkar12 because I'm a citizen. You forget that it's a democracy. The government has a constitutional obligation to listen to people. Otherwise the democracy can be safely disbanded and jungle rule can begin if the government doesn't listen anyway then its no different from a dictatorship.

Hahaha. I'm laughing. Protests means they aren't going to put up with nuisance. Protests are the reason why they opened the Arbery case. Protests are the reason why Obama called for police to start using bodycam. I don't believe in protests that leads to violence and someone innocent losing their lives. But protesting is important and can be done in non violent ways. It's about showing diffidence and raising awareness.

Not really very ambiguous as you would like it to be. So you automatically assume that it's all for all the mothers and sisters. And not for their brothers? It's for collective survival and not just the survival of women. Women also have died during pregnancies to bear you children.. Women take care of families and raise families sometimes sacrificing their health. Done deal? I thought you weren't about stereotypical gender roles. And who can say men fighting war is not for their own machismo and ego. Just like men who defend and serenade women because they wanna be seen as white knights. Not men think this way. A lot of men assume themselves to be darwanistically more important but I hear your epiphany. I didn't say it's an evil cabal. But men want to set the rules. They want to be the commanders. That's why women were historically oppressed. Gulp down the truth. Yea you mean women just love to play victim for their own imperative. Nope. Women have been victimized and denied their own freedom for the benefit of men. This is a fact that is being proved in the times we are living in. Today lesser and lesser men find women. Because most women who are independent and free want their own lives and not be sacrificed for the biological imperative. We don't have to break our bellies to give your children. We can live our lives without being mothers. Without being your sex providers. Without being your girlfriends and wives. And the simple reason women feel victimized is because they were never prioritized. Their lives all along were about the priorities of men. Men who wanted sex, children by any means they could. And that involved domination and suppression of the vagina. How else are you gonna get it? You and Arthur say this. I spend my own money. I don't care what he thinks. Arthur died in 1860. That wasn't a society that supported women doing jobs and raising children on their own. Unwed mothers were sent to institutions. You quoting him is laughable. Maybe learn to live in 21st century reality. You are probably still living in 18th. No woman is acting entitled. Women are living their own lives. Sometimes men can't handle that. And only some men. Much better men out there who support women and their empowerment. This is again 18th century thinking, or even far before in time, you have no clue to make such absolute assumptions about women. That's your red pill brain on steroids. Women have already done a decent job since the turn of the 20th century after their freedom from emancipation. All this bullshit thoughts are nothing but radical ideologies. Grow out of it. Accept new reality. Men who think like this is the reason women were oppressed. But the new generation of woke men see equal potential in women and support their growth and Flourishing. I respect Camille Paglia and her "take responsibility" feminism. But I don't take this quote. At some point in the future, women will outpace men and society will realize the futility of such quotes /thoughts. I'm not frothing at the mouth. You're suffering diarrhea. Because you can't see women doing better. So there has to be a flaw in women and somehow it has to be justified. It's the Diarrhea of your self bias . Please don't use just stupid analogies. Animals in general is fine. But specific animals and applying to humans is stupid..You do know that different animals behave differently. Let's take the example of male lions. They can kill cubs to the female in heat. Do human males do that, nope. Then why all these bullshit studies on animals and then applying them to inappropriately to humans. It's just ridiculous. Monkeys are monkeys. Humans and humans. Im not even going to read that. Don't tell me what feminists. You have been purely tripped by feminists.. There are ideological male hating feminists just like there are ideological female hating sexist. They are the part of the same bunch. I relate to none of it. Healthy men and healthy women are not images of feminists and sexists..so this argument is invalidated. I don't care what feminist goes out there and tries to chimp men. She is just the female version of the male oppressor. Sam Harris, Anita Sarkeesian. These people only exist to trigger people with their extreme opinions. In real life, it's nothing like what they want you to believe. In simple words, they are drama queens who make a mountain out of a molehill. I used to follow some of these youtubers 3 years ago. But thanks to my American woke ex, he opened my eyes to all this bullshit and now I just call it misinformation propaganda machine.. They bank on extreme sentiment and make dollars out of it.. Old thinking. Men conditioned women to be dominated because that's what they wanted. Today a lot of men don't need to dominate women. But some still try. Nobody says that. This is the reason why you should be neutral. I have always supported gender neutrality. Putting women on a pedestal leads to princess syndrome. I get that men need validation for their biological imperative success, but strong men have a nerve and they don't fall for silly bullshit of "support because she is a woman" only men who have no basal integrity will do that. And feminists who want or demand undying obedience from men are stompers. They don't represent real femininity. They represent only femaledom. Good for you.

@Amit this discussion isn't about porn.. I like to stay on topic