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@lostmedstudent She can do the following She can work on her appearance. I don't wish to chastize. Every woman is beautiful in my eyes. But if I had a younger sister, I would have advised her to take care of her looks and body, not in a shallow way, but to raise her self esteem and make her feel better about herself. I would have told her to cultivate other qualities that will make her feel great like learning skills, art, dance, flirting, seduction, being humorous. Because personality also matters I would tell her to socialize with a lot of men so she can get a hit. At least one man will want to look beyond her average looks and appreciate her for who she is. And most importantly I would tell her to love herself, man or no man.

I have never had a single relationship in my life through text. I don't understand this texting culture. I can also text but I don't see a point in this. My first boyfriend was in college. My second boyfriend was someone I met my workplace with an interaction period of 4 months. My third boyfriend was at a supermarket or a grocery store when he approached me very confidently and I was secretly very impressed by his confidence. My fourth and current boyfriend was at a meditation retreat center last year. All of my relationships began in real life, not by text message. All of them approached me with relative levels of confidence. Some were less confident and some were more confident. Why are these guys thinking that they will get a Woman by sitting on a laptop computer or a phone. A woman needs touch and warmth. What will she do with your words. You need to look at her straight in her eyes for her to feel some emotion in her body. You have to take her out on dates.. There should be sexual chemistry You can't create such a chemistry over a text message Go out and meet many many people and you will end up meeting a woman and more women. If a guy texted me "I love you" I will be like "hahahahahaha" I will see such a person as lazy and non committed. I will most likely give a cold response. Because I am not feeling any attraction in such a texting. Texting is very limited. It will not help you get a girlfriend. It is a waste of time for you and also for the girl. Go out and date and fix meetings. See the girl every weekend. It will then blossom into a relationship. A lot of women will think that a guy who is messaging them is a creep and they will reject very quickly or show no interest. And don't keep hanging on to a woman who is already showing lack of interest. It's a waste of time. If she is interested in you, she will ask for a real life meeting with you and going out like parks, beaches or movies or other stuff. She will take the next step if she is really interested. So if she is not interested you need to drop her thought and move on to the next new woman. If they are not replying, it means that they are not interested and they are not attracted. You are liking them but they are not liking you. You will have to find someone who likes you. But for this to happen, you will need to research what makes a man more likable or attractive to a woman and try to be that.

Why should a woman say yes if she is not attracted to you. Women get bombarded by requests by men everyday who they are not attracted to. So it's hard for them to make a choice because they are not attracted to any of these men. They'd rather want an attractive desirable man to come their way which happens very rarely. Sometimes a woman has to settle for a man who she is not attracted to because the desirable man never comes her way. She has to live with this frustration for her entire life. The sex is not enjoyable to her if the guy is not per her standards. Women don't like to show frustration as much as men because it will make them appear desperate and bimbo because society likes to shame a woman, call her a whore or a slut if she were to express how much she desires a man. If you can't attract a woman it's not her fault, so don't say it's easy for her. Women also have to live in the constant fear of safety for their lives, they don't want to get raped. A lot of women reject dudes simply out of fear or safety reasons. They might reject a guy out of the fear of rape and stalking. Statistically speaking, women are subjected to more gender violence and sexual assaults than men. Now don't jump at me and say that men also suffer violence. I have used the term gender violence. Women get raped and suffer domestic violence at an astronomically higher rates than men in relationships. So a woman has every reason to be afraid of a man. For this, men are themselves responsible. They are digging their own grave. Threat and fear do not translate as freedom. A guy I might date can be a potential rapist. I can't say YES to every guy on planet earth. Understand and comprehend the limits of female sexuality before jumping to conclusions about women.. If a woman enjoys more freedom and less threat then they will free to date as many men as possible. They won't have to screen men with fear in mind. They won't have a constant mental radar going on in their minds. Plus a woman doesn't have the opportunity to fuck every guy. Her opportunity is limited by biology. She can get pregnant despite her best efforts at contraception so the fear of unwanted pregnancy is always looming on her mind. Men are also more likely to abandon a woman if they are not married to her. What is a woman supposed to do, spread her legs and get pregnant and be a single mother and raise kids for the rest of her life??? That's why her womb is precious. A woman has every right to decide who has to be the ultimate daddy of her future child because she doesn't have the capacity to have a 100 children in her lifetime. So she has to pick a man wisely, a man who is suitable to her needs, both emotionally, physically and security wise. And don't kid yourself. If you had 1000 girls approaching you, then even you will become selective and picky.. Women have different needs then men. They have survival needs and security needs and their emotional needs are extremely important to their health. They don't want stressful asshole boyfriends. That's why women are more likely to break up relationships because their tolerance limit for bullshit is very low. Men only tolerate a woman because they are getting the sex. Even they will break up at the same rate as women, if they were easily getting sex from other attractive women. A man knows all this deep down. So no kidding yourself. A woman will look for a man who is very attractive(emotional needs met) , financially stable(financial needs met) , successful(security needs met) and loyal, trustworthy and family and committment oriented (family needs, loyalty and trust needs).. Don't want to deal with reality?? Then it's your problem, not of women. Learn to handle rejection in life. Rejection is not a woman's fault. Don't mock, victimize, chastise or envy women because you get rejected. This is the nature of reality. Men who successfully got a woman they wanted have been through countless rejections to get what they want. They have the capacity to deal with rejections. Because they are fundamentally aware that getting a woman is not a child's play.. Improve yourself, work on your skills, approach many, get rejected many times, don't have the mentality of "need a girl for sex only" and show that you are capable of handling a woman, relationship, children, fatherhood and would become a good husband and be serious about dating and relationship Relationships are not meant as an outlet for sexual frustration or as a means to lose virginity. That's not called a relationship but "using a person for personal enjoyment" Relationships are meant for love, companionship, friendship, partnership, marriage, family, responsibilities and children. That's why women have such strict attitude towards dating and relationships, their goals are not about "fulfilling sexual desire or jerking off" but to create a life long partnership for themselves and a great stable environment for their children's future. That's why women have to be selective and men have to work hard to meet those standards. Try to meet those standards rather than whining about not getting a woman.

Women don't have it easy. That's why a lot of them say no

It's time to reflect I will need to change my style. To keep myself safe.. See the greater truth.

Did he not have a backup of his data somewhere?

I will have a color code for these qualities. This is not SD. Nicholas qualities.. Justice Truth Courage Righteousness Fronshia qualities Purity Decency Innocence Authenticity Friendliness Politeness Emotional maturity Verdana qualities Love Compassion Empathy. Humanity Charity Generosity Helpful Protective. Poinsettia qualities Intelligence Wit Adaptability Orderly Perception Prudence Organizing Gladiolus Qualities Calm Transcendence Wisdom Clarity Abundance Psychic qualities Aesthetic qualities Sexual qualities Freedom. Burgundy Qualities Perseverance Resilience Strength Endurance Hope strong Determined Positive Visionary Enduring Positive Passionate. Godetia qualities Companionship Trust Integrity Honesty Faith Loyalty Calliandras qualities Sharp wit Manipulation Defensive Aggressive Alert Clever Sadistic

Certain qualities I want to focus on Integrity Purity Morality Decency Friendliness Emotional maturity Politeness Innocence Beauty Wholesome Loving Caring Sacrifice Empathy Intelligence Perception Wisdom Prudence Wit Serenity Peaceful Logical Organizing Orderly Truth Courage Justice Righteousness Perseverance Resilience Honesty Compassion Loyalty Companionship Faith Trust Hope Generosity Helpful Protective Enduring Strong Determined Passionate Positive Visionary Freedom Decency Humanity

I have been through multiple failed relationships that I ended because of the toxicity I had to deal with. Some were good relationships and some were bad and some didn't pan out for different reasons. I'm currently in a relationship after breaking up with my ex and this relationship feels safe. I have had exes stalking me and trying to contact me over the past 1 year or so and I have felt the temptation to go back to them or at least respond when they're trying to reach me. This has caused me some frustration over the last few weeks. I don't want to talk to people who have hurt me in the past. I want to quit social media and social contact for a while. {the other thing is called nofap, I don't know what to call this} So I want to challenge myself to ward off the temptation to connect with people for a while. I don't know how to exactly go about with it. I know that there are options to block people and so on but there is always a way to end up talking to them. I just want to stay away from it all. Is it wiser to do quit all social media and social contact? I don't want to deal with the toxicity of it all. What are your opinions and experiences about it? I just need time to heal from my toxic relationships and I think the best way to do this is to stay away from people generally. (I've tried staying away from my family because there's a lot of dysfunction in there and I've suffered chronic abuse as a child and teenager and I come from a broken dysfunctional home.) So my only social contact(right now) is a guy called Andrew (with whom I feel safe and he doesn't bother me or obsess over me like my exes used to and we have like a casual friends with benefits sorta relationship although I might make it a serious commitment, just not now because I'm still healing but I can take it to a serious commitment in the future if I'm mentally prepared. And I have my pets. Other than Andrew and my pets I usually do not engage with anyone. I do have a close circle of friends that I interact with in case I need emotional help. So it's not like I am going to be totally lonely. I just want to stay away from new experiences because I feel a bit weird and guarded and frankly scared of the dating world and even the social media because there's always a risk of running into toxic people online. {offline it's much easier to avoid bad people because they don't come knocking on the door unless it's serious stalking. But online and phone is very different because it's much easier to click and much easier for people to get a hold of you.} I am going to keep like a "NO SOCIAL CONTACT FOR 6 MONTHS" just like they do NOFAP. I'm not exactly addicted to social things but it's the toxicity that I don't deal very well with. Although I love making friends and exploring new relationships and experiences but that habit has come with a huge price tag. I don't want to feel like a weirdo doing this. I'm not anti social although I've suffered some social anxiety but I have still managed to get along with lots of people and people around me usually like me. I like to socialize, make friends, express, vent out, rant, talk a lot, it's just that I have ended up talking to the wrong kind of people sometimes and gotten in trouble. So I decided to give it a long break and stay away from it all so that I don't have to worry about hanging out with the wrong kind of people and spare myself toxic relationships. I'm very emotional and vulnerable very often and that's when the wrong kind of people approach me. Am I doing something weird or is this behavior/decision of mine completely okay?

@Amit I'm glad I was able to help.

Pine Grove will be about certain mentalities that are toxic.

@Robi Steel It seems to me like you are worried about certain things.. I can't put my finger on it though.

@Epikur So tell me the definition of xenophobia which seems independent, unbiased and objective according to you?

@Epikur shouldn't everything be both left wing and right wing at the same time, because that would make sense from the point of view of objectivity and fairness. Would you rather have everything to be right wing?

@wwhy You are going to be a tremendous contribution to the forum.. You make better arguments than me. I'm very impressed at your skill. A hearty welcome from me buddy. You are a gem.

4 divine virtues Truth Courage Justice Righteousness

I think any humane society will support 4 fundamental virtues Justice Truth Courage Righteousness I see these as the fundamental necessities of morality of a system I cannot imagine a system thriving without these 4 virtues.

So you care about truth!! Should I drop the greatest truth bomb on you? The greatest truth bomb is this . Law does not see the race of the person who commits a crime. And if it does, it's a prejudiced law and not a humane law.

@Enlightenment I care about the truth. That's why I don't believe statistics. Because they are man made invention. It's Ground Hog Day. I will patrol the grounds and see the reality for myself. Pure raw truth. To seek real truth needs real courage.

You can say anything you want to me. Nothing will change my mind. I don't believe those statistics. And nobody can prove that they are right. And I don't wish to argue further.

Thank you for your kind words .

@wwhy don't mind me. I just asked out of curiosity.

@wwhy where are you from?

This forum is filled with some crackos. I'm done with this shit Like why am I even wasting my time trying to change the world. Let them think whatever they want. Not like they are cut from my cloth Talk to people who at least have an iota of decorum in them This is some GTA level 6 insanity. Like girl, gtfo from this pile lol.

I really need a teepee now.. Like NOW