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@Don Wei no worries. I wish you do well. Please never care if people accept you or not. You are a good person. So you be yourself and not think about people at all. That's the most important thing I can tell you. Have a great time

@Matt23 @Opo Canada is a good choice as well

@Opo well. I have money. I have already lived in America for some time. America gives you a drive to work hard. Succeed. Compete. Learn. Grow. Diversity in America means you learn quickly about white culture, black culture, Mexican culture, native american culture and every other culture on planet earth. Where will you get such a rich experience? American politics is interesting and gives you space to learn how to struggle against Orange Spiral as a green person and you see real life transformation towards green. America is famous for its historic record of the most progressive movements in the world.. America respects hard work. American laws are strict. You have a lot of security and freedom as an individual. Nobody can simply tell you to go back to your country. American people are very motivated to self actualization. America has tons of opportunities for self actualization and achievement in life And finally, Americans are extremely sweet and loving people. For stage Blue, Green and Yellow and Orange, you absolutely need America. You don't have a shortcut to other stages. You need to be grounded in these stages first and foremost and then move upwards. I'm only looking forward to Stage Green with some turquoise. I don't want to be a full turquoise. The thing is that if you wanna be at stage Turquoise, then you don't need any country for that, because it's more of a personal thing. You can be a stage Turquoise anywhere in the world. You can live in a mountain. Mountains are everywhere. But to be a Stage Orange or Stage Green/or Yellow, be in a country like America where human rights are valued. You have money, you have power and you get huge public support from liberals who support your Green policies. What more can you ask for? America is a battleground country for mass development. It is moving ahead at rocket speed Europe is no match. . @Opo see if you wanna be like Osho, you could have your own ranch in some mountains in India or America or Europe. But if you want Stage Green at the least, then choose America.

Red Dye Page 6 I love this video

@Etherial Cat because you're a highly conscious woman.

@Don Wei Look at this picture below I posted here Maybe this kind of dressing is more applicable to your style. That way you don't need to wear a shirt. You can keep the t shirt and wear a jacket over it to give a fuller more muscular look, also helps to hide arms/wrists. I think wearing glasses like this guy in the picture will make you look more confident because it removes attention from your face and makes it look less girly. Also the hairstyle of this guy is perfect for you. It's jet black with a little messy. Good hairstyle for guys with curly hair like yours. You can cut your hair and remove that Dye or re-dye it to jet black. You could wear jeans on this or plain matching trousers. This dressing style is quite sophisticated and good looking for thinner body men.

https://www.actualized.org/forum/topic/51652-i-get-a-tingly-sensation-lo

America

@DrewNows totally

@Someone here ? @DrewNows

I am not sure if this is abnormal or not. Like I definitely like my man being naked in bed with me or having a sexual talk. And love his "deeeeek"... But I can't see a random dude nude. Like you know what I mean. I can't look at the (penis) of a random guy, you know what I mean. I would feel uncomfortable or give out a nervous laughter or cover my eyes. If I saw a man walking naked or acting weird down there, like touching or you know a boner, I would never look in that direction and feel a bit grossed out. I wanna know if other women feel the same way. Or if they are comfortable looking at deeeek* pics. One day I accidentally typed something in Google images and suddenly the page was full of completely nude men and showing their ".." you know what. And I felt that tingly sensation and immediately closed the browser. I'm not trying to be mean towards men. But I feel a bit ewww ewww. I don't like much of masturbation talk especially when random guys say it. Won't have a problem if my own guy discusses it with me. But if a dude on the internet tried to talk about masturbation or no-fap or his guy parts, I get a tingly sensation lol. I immediately feel a bit gross. Like a real visceral reaction. I don't have problems with female parts or females discussing anything under the sun. But if a female discussed "male stuff" like you know discussions about male masturbation,. male sex, p size, I again that same reaction. I usually start laughing non stop nervously. The male parts on someone other than my boyfriend and discussions related to it make me feel tingly tingly and gross. I don't find it beautiful. Any other woman feel the same way.

@ApeInTuxedo nope. Be it any guy.

Actually feminine women like me like the masculine appeal of a man. But there's a catch. A tiny bit of feminine in you as a male is necessary. We women feel very dry and drained if we constantly see you as pure masculine. Usually you have to be masculine but don't try it too hard because that is also a problem. I like a cute play of masculine and feminine in a man.. Some masculine men are so raw that they forget to say lovey dovey things to a woman. That can make us feel a bit deprived. Women need some affection. So cultivating the feminine in you can make you more interesting. Try talking to a woman as though you knew everything about women. Act like you know them since 80 years. Be both masculine and feminine. Switch it nicely. That will make her feel very lively and happy around you. Women will be gravitated to you by both your masculine and feminine traits. Play it up. Do the dance.

@Opo oh, gotcha

I'm a true romantic at heart. I really need to go with that. My romantic energy guides me in poetic ways. Sometimes it bugs me so much. I feel this huge romantic energy in me but I'm in the middle of work and I can't enjoy the feeling it brings me. I feel my body moving. I feel like submerging myself in the world of romance. I have always enjoyed the romance with all of my exes. They would be affectionate, kiss me and take me to places. Romance was always a big deal for me. Gladly I had a huge experience in this area of life. Joseph was extremely romantic. I never had to tell him what to do. He would do exactly what I pleased.. I used to love spending time with him. We would go out on walks in late evenings. Holding hands. He was very warm and attentive. I would lean on his shoulder. We absolutely loved each other's company. Romance makes me come alive. I used to laugh a lot around Joseph. A lot.. There was a never dull moment. Either I would have a furious crazy fight with me or passionate sex or a beautiful romantic time. I remember we used to laugh at each other and poke fun at each other. He would make me laugh over every little thing. Sometimes we would laugh for hours till we got tired laughing. He just had a way about him. He would laugh and then I would laugh triggered by his laugh. We were like love birds. We could never get enough of each other. We both loved the same things. The same interests. The best part was that we weren't even trying to make each other laugh It was simply effortless. I remember giggling so hard. He would feel shy. Back in those days, living without Joseph was impossible. We were like chicken feathers to tar.. Forever for each other

@Etherial Cat @Etherial Cat yep. Absolutely. @Member the funny thing is that I don't have a low sex drive. I really like it with my man. I have a high sexual desire for him and I find him very hot. But I don't like it when some other dude does. Like for me to feel great about it, the person needs to have an intimate connection with me, like a spouse or boyfriend. And I thought maybe otter women weren't like me. But it is good to know that other women feel the same way. But your are right about one thing. I do seem to have an aversion of ugly men. I mean I wouldn't like them at all even if they were flirtatious or romantic with me I wouldn't mind if a hot guy flirted me. But even in that situation I can only talk or look at that sort of stuff on him if I was already intimate with him. Without that intimacy, I would feel very odd and embarrassed. I never had casual sex. I always had sex within the context of a long term relationship. One night stands are not okay with me. Because I always crave emotional connection before sex. I can't be sexually intimate with strangers. It would gross me out.

@Etherial Cat thanks lol. You eased me.

What kind of behavior in a guy turns me off 1 Extreme Neediness 2 Emotional immaturity 3 Argumentative 4 Arrogance and stubbornness and egotistical 5 Controlling 6 Lack of responsibility and accountability

*using you as a third person reference. One important point that I wanted to make about the situation of a healthy relationship is this. That there should be room for growth in a relationship. I gave the layout of a healthy relationship with a woman. Often times you don't come across the best woman in life. It doesn't matter. Don't be too absolute or judgmental or else you will never be happy with almost any woman. The most important thing is that she is willing to be with you, that she wants you genuinely. In that case she would be ready to change herself and outgrow her flaws. Her flaws should be forgiven. This applies to both gender. Let her grow. If today she is not a perfect woman for you, maybe tomorrow she will be. At least she is willing to give a shot and wants you for real reasons. So you being accommodating of her flaws also reflects your emotional maturity as well. You can't be constantly carrying a microscope or magnifying glass around in a relationship. You are making the other person walk on eggshells. That's emotional immaturity and shows that you can never be really content. Such behavior comes back to bite you. If you (not the OP here) went looking for the most perfect woman and perfect every day, it means you have a chip on your shoulder, you are very punitive or too neurotically skeptical, or you assume you're too perfect for everyone. That is never the case. Nobody is really perfect. It would be arrogant for you to assume that you could never do wrong in your relationship. You are not perfect either. If you want the woman to forgive you for your flaws or shortcomings, be ready to give room for her flaws as well. And if she truly loves you, her flaws are Infinitely smaller in comparison to her love. Don't blow up her flaws. You could be losing a woman, who probably looks flawed to you right now, but has the potential to be a great partner for the future. If both the boyfriend and the girlfriend are "perfect perfect", then where is the area for growth? An unhealthy relationship is not always each other's flaws. An unhealthy relationship is often just the inability to have any growth at all because either you or her in the relationship is allowing this growth.. For example with my second ex, I gave him multiple chances to stop his needy controlling behavior. Every time I had a discussion with him, it was pointless because he just wouldn't agree to anything at all. His pure arrogance and stubbornness meant that he just wasn't ready to change. He also wouldn't give me any time to explain anything and get very impulsive. Despite his behavior, I tried to make the relationship work by all possible means. Yet he wouldn't have the patience to try any strategy with me. He would be completely uncooperative. He would be nice for 3 days and then back to his nagging behavior. I wasn't in the habit of texting him all the time because I was busy with my job demands, yet he would grow very impatient even if I was just a little late in getting back to him. Certain days were impossible with him especially if I had an urgent and important work. I would calmly explain it to him, but he would start getting neurotic if I forgot to check my phone at work. He wouldn't even allow a couple of days to go by to let me sort things so that I could bring everything to peace and stability and simply keep non stop complaining about little things. In the end I was left stressed out by his incessant neediness and since he never allowed any growth to happen, I realized the fruitlessness of explaining him everything. He would disagree just to disagree. This means no compromise, no accommodation for the other person's concerns and therefore zero opportunity for growth. The relationship reached a dead end where I could see no way out for a mutual resolution and I finally put my foot down and I told him I'm leaving him after this long empty struggle. Two weeks after I broke up with him, he called me to tell me that he is ready to change as a man and become better. His expressed his regret at his behavior. Well, it was too late for me and I wished him well on his way Maybe the relationship would have worked if he was accommodating and not so stuck up, bitchy, not allowing any room to understand and cooperate, but it was too late for him to realize that. I always look for growth in a relationship, so even if my partner has flaws, I want to see the scope for growth. Because even if there are problems in the relationship, it's not a dead end, things can always work out if both show understanding, it can be a beautiful relationship in the future even if it's not the best now. if one partner is willing to sit and discuss, the other person shouldn't get up from their seat and go, that's called not allowing any growth. Such a relationship should be immediately abandoned.

Well I think you're a great guy in your relationship. That's a great sign that you're not insecure or immature in any way when you don't expect her to report to you her every moment in life. It would be very controlling of a man to demand an exact schedule of a woman, this happened with my second ex and I got fed up with his control of me. I think your woman is fine in my opinion by all the collective descriptions of her that you have given previously here and there. But if she is excessive in telling you little things then is she scared of losing you? Is she paranoid about you? You will need to take her overall behavior into context. If she is doing it in a very uncomfortable manner like constantly reminding you of her presence, then she is probably doubting you or feeling insecure about things. Or thinking too much about what you think of her. It can be toxic.. Try to test her. Do you ever say something triggering to her simply as a shit test? Does she go furious and feel absolutely awful immediately creating and imagining catastrophic scenarios of you leaving her. Maybe testing her just a little bit can help you understand her mindset. Or try telling her some day that you are hurt that she didn't inform you about something. If she is needy and insecure, she will go in an overdrive to secure your validation, she will increase her frequency of telling you, that means she is worried that you're insecure. If she is not thinking of you as insecure, she will do the opposite and tell you that she is absolutely fine and you are simply making a big deal out of nothing. Your shit test will be clear.

If she is caring she will be more than willing to take such a responsibility. Otherwise she simply wants a man like a toy to manipulate. That's not fair for her to do.

Can you explain me what you mean by uncomfortable? If this is about your girlfriend and she says that, can you be a bit clear what she means exactly when says that. What's making her uncomfortable To the rest of the question I will answer in point form 1. You should expect a lot of emotional support from a woman. I'm extremely supportive of my boyfriend. This is essential for the man to be happy. 2. As a guy you should expect her to be kind and gentle with you. She should not be very demanding. That can be a problem. 3..she should care about your needs both mental and physical otherwise it's neglect. 4. She should be emotionally interested in you and not merely use you as a convenience 5. She should invest a reasonable amount of time with you. In the beginning of my relationship, I spent 4 hours with my boyfriend everyday. Can be a bit excessive. But her investing time with you, means she cares and loves you 6. She should give you priority. Not do anything on her own without letting you know. If she values you, she must ask you and your activities need to be mutual 7. Guys don't want domination in a relationship, and if she is too dominating, then it can be a red flag. This point is important. 8. She should be a loving caring partner. If you feel she is emotionally unavailable especially when you are very nice to her and appreciative of her, then she is not being nice to you. That's bad. If you're nice to her and fulfill her. she should be very grateful in the relationship. One thing I always tell my boyfriend is that I'm very grateful for having him in my life. This way I show my gratitude and passion for him. He becomes very happy whenever I say that. It also shows that I really want him. Does your girlfriend do that? Do she put the effort to show you that she is happy with you? So these are the things in short, of course there are many more things that I can't think of right off the bat right now, because I'm hurriedly writing this reply, but these are in short what I would recommend you look for in a healthy relationship.. Also one last thing... A nagging woman in a relationship is always a very bad choice. They can be very arrogant bitchy, by all means avoid that, no matter how beautiful they are, they become a headache very soon Also choose the more humble ones

@Someone here well to each his own..

The problem is that you have set it like a priority system. To me it's not about priority. You're getting me wrong. I want the complete package. If you want the complete package too, then we're both in the same boat. Only difference is that you have set priorities but in the end we both want the same things. But there's one big difference between you and me. If you're ready to compromise on personality, then I am not in the same boat as you. Because I'm not ready to compromise on that..

@Someone here well. I don't think. I think a lot of people want both looks and personality so of course I'm not alone. So a lot of people are actually like me. Look at this thread itself. Most people responding how they want both looks and personality. Look at the comment before my comment.