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What you are saying is basically that she should sleeze her way past your defence mechanisms, against your will? This is not how progress is made in therapy. How can you build trust with someone that is scared? By forcing him open? "Getting past his defence mechanisms"? Nothing in therapy will happen against your will.

@StarStruck What is the significance of this statement? Did it 'solve' your problems with 'social quirks like codependency', 'productivity', and 'self-confidence'?

@StarStruck The premise of therapy is that you are discovering yourself, and the role of the therapist is to facilitate this discovery. A therapist is not supposed to tell you what to do, or give you insight into the mechanics of psychology. She is supposed to facilitate your self-discovery by being open, receptive and supportive. It is a person that is well-versed in her own self-discovery and is willing to sit by while you do this yourself, and learn alongside you. The benefit comes from the difference in experience. Good psychotherapist can interpret your whole-body reactions while you share yourself, and spot lies, inconsistencies, wounds, and other things that are not apparent to you. Some of them are hidden from you because you are conditioned to avoid them, or because you don't have the language to name them, or awareness to notice them. She does this to listening to her own feelings in reaction to what you are saying. Psychotherapist is not supposed to talk about psychoanalytical knowledge with you, discuss Freud, Jung, or philosophy. This is a distraction and a defense mechanism. If this is what you are doing in therapy, then you are avoiding doing the real work.

I know, right? Mathematics and physics are amazing. You would not believe the things that are possible to calculate and use to increase your effectiveness. Crazy stuff. I like to think that mathematics are a very flexible language that has inference rules that give you conclusions based on premises. I have no idea why it is so damn effective though. It always fascinated me. It's like the most stripped down, abstract way of viewing the world, to the point where you can apply it almost anywhere.

Context of existence is non-existence. But non-existence does not exist.

In my opinion, as it currently stands, cryptocurrencies will not replace fiat money. This is because of how they are designed. Imagine if the Internet was such that in order to view actualized.org, you would have to download the whole internet and store it locally on your hdd. This is what cryptocurrencies are currently like. This is clearly unsustainable. What has to happen is we either have to have an unprecedented advance in communications and storage technology, or someone has to come up with a clever way to verify whether blockchain is secure without having the whole copy of it. What I think will happen in the future is that we will, at some point, stop caring about the global blockchain security, and start treating it more locally. We will start to watch people we transact with and verify them, instead of verifying everything that is stored on blockchain. There will probably also exist another breed of blockchain service animals alongside miners/verifiers, which will deal with blockchain security specifically. They will be an analog of blockchain police that will track frauds by downloading larger and larger portions of data. They will be awarded based on their findings. Another thing that will probably change is that most already establish cryptos will transition to proof of stake and this protocol will allow stakeholders to vote on the coin supply algorithm parameters. This is how blockchains will scale their coin supply based on market demand. This is crucial if they were to replace fiat money. Without it, they will only ever be held.

Oooh, Thank you! I really appreciate it! Marry Christmas too! @Preety_India

The pyramid scheme occurs when new participants pay dividends to people who joined earlier, at their own expense. How is it true for Bitcoin? The net worth of the currency increases, which is beneficial to every participant. The relative loss late adopters experience does not benefit the earlier ones. I think it would be beneficial to this conversation if you defined what is speculation in the domain of currency. I don't think that the price of Bitcoin is volatile because people cannot reliably predict its "intrinsic value" because there is no such thing. The BTC price is volatile compared to standard currencies, which are deliberately stabilized by centralized authorities to serve social needs. Bitcoin has no such constraints because it does answer to political institutions. It's like saying that newspapers are better than websites because they the internet has no editors. These are two completely different domains. Apples and oranges. Also, please note that when you say that a currency is worth something, this worth is always expressed in another currency. This does not mean that one currency is better than another currency. It simply means that more people want to own it relative to its supply. Also, when viewing financial systems via the lens of reputation, the reputation concerns the system that provides the money. It's government, or technology, not USD or Bitcoin. To predict the price of USD, you have to understand American politics, not the printing press. When you want to predict Bitcoin price, you have to understand the problems it solves relative to other cryptocurrencies, or how it advances decentralization of finance. And this may tie back to my question about your definition of speculation. At best, speculation is simply using unreliable sources of information, with no understanding of underlying principles. It's making decisions based on hearsay. No system can prevent it because every person should have the opportunity to learn from their own mistakes.

Bitcoin cannot be thought of in similar terms as regular money. That is because its supply cannot be scaled to match the growth of the economy that uses it. There is no incentive to spend it, because there is a limited amount of it, and its value will only grow in the long term. This why most users buy it to hold it, because there is no other incentive. Even if there was incentive to spend, then there is still a massive issue of integration between blockchain and regular money. Bitcoin fees are astronomically high, so it only makes sense to spend a lot of it in a single transaction. If Bitcoin was designed to replace fiat money, it was designed incorrectly. It is, at best, the first approximation of what digital currency should look like. Its killer feature - decentralization is exactly what makes its price unpredictable, and it supply uncontrollable. This is a speculation. What you call "intrinsic value" is identical to "reputation". There is no objective, intrinsic, reason why gold is more valuable than dog shit. The only difference is that we deem it more valuable, we want it. Gold is not even used all that much in industry, compared to, let's say - steel. Even if you compare usefulness of resources, it is extremely sketchy to compare actual resources that are used in production to abstractions of value, such as money. The"intrinsic value" of money is the ability to spend it, to exchange it for other goods. That, in turn, is dependent upon your trust in institutions that back it up. If European Union was in distress, Euro would be worthless - which is, again, why "intrinsic value" is "reputation". When you compare the trustworthiness of cryptocurrencies vs trustworthiness of fiat money, the former is backed up by political institutions, and the latter is backed up by technology. This is a matter of personal preference, but I strongly believe that cryptocurrencies in general will do to finance, what the Internet did to information.

The "start" part is tricky. It is usually easier to tell when you are knee deep into the relationship phase. The signs of a relationship are that you are coordinating your everyday life together and that you depend on each other to work as a single unit, a team. There may be some tension arising between individual freedom and needs, and what you should be doing so that he ship is sailing smoothly. Also, you may start to feel that there are things that you are giving up so that you can be with your partner. You may start to see that a lot of things about her were pure fantasy on your part and that she is a real human being with faults. A comprehensive answer to this question is worthy of a book, if anybody cared to read it. In short, know yourself, know where you come from, how you have been hurt and what triggers you. Know what you want and don't try to act as if you don't want anything at all (repression). Communicate what you want with full understanding that what you want is your own idiosyncrasy and it's up to her to give it, or not. Trust that she wants to give it to you. Listen to what she wants and don't chalk it up as nonsense simply because you don't feel this way. And most of all, remember that the single most destructive force within relationships is control. When you lose the trust that your partner wants to satisfy your needs and try to control her, it's a road downhill that leads to forms of violence. Most violence is covert, rather than overt (i.e. emotional, financial, withholding sex/bartering, etc). It's very difficult to rebuild when it gets there, but it is possible.

As someone who went through 6 years of psychodynamic psychotherapy, I can say that it was invaluable and that I highly recommend it.

So, I will be working at the new place starting from 3.1.2022. A lot of things on my plate recently, a lot of fear has been coming up. When I'm stressed, I tend to be extremely self-critical and perfectionist. I want everything to be exactly right, with no seams between systems. It's been driving me nuts because there's a lot of things I have to get in order before I will start working. I had to start a company, I had to organize my living space to work from home, I had to buy a new computer and configure it properly. None of it seems to turn out exactly how I want and I really, really want it my way. The computer I bought does not mesh with linux too great and everyone in that company works either on Ubuntu, or Debian. I spent the last week configuring windows WSL and getting it to work, and it seems like it works fine, but I'm very uneasy. This puts me in the spotlight when something won't work properly and I really want this transition to go smoothly. I really like how this laptop looks and feels and I decided to stick with it. I could have returned it, but I decided to trust my gut. It feels right for me. I will be working from home, which I never did before. I don't know whether or not my internet connection is up for the task and I hope that it will turn out for the best. There were problems in the past, but I hope that I managed to solve them. Another thing is that my wife counts on my income to start her own business. She has rented a place and will be moving out soon, so that I can have a room for myself. I will now be paid by an hour and my income will double compared to my previous job. I hope that everything will work out just fine. I'm depending on a lot of things to work...

Something isn't nothing. Nothing is not. Nothing isn't. Something is, nothing isn't, it is not. That is why it is called nothing. No-thing, not-a-thing. Things exist, no-things don't. You have a concept of nothing, a word that does not point to anything in actuality. This is diametrically different from something. There isn't anything that is more distant from something than nothing. And yet, try to grasp what it means for something to exist. Take any ordinary object and see how it comes to pass that this thing exists. It exists because it is different from other things. Now inspect what is difference. Does difference exist? Difference is not something, like an object, it is nothing, and yet-everything exists because of it. Something and nothing are unified via difference. This is completely paradoxical, I can't explain it in any conventional way. When I speak of it, it seems like I'm violating every way in which language is supposed to work. Sorry if it seems like rambling.

@Bruins8000 I dare you to find one single thing that starts and ends without changing form and turning into something else.

You have to distinguish between suffering and pain, or difficult emotions. Suffering is ignorance, it is acting in accordance with false beliefs, having no results, and not learning from your mistakes. Suffering causes pain and difficult emotions, but they are not suffering. Suffering is inextricably connected with knowledge, which can blind you, and the antidote to it is consciousness, a.k.a. clarity, or truth. The point of spirituality is not to live a life without any difficult emotions, or with no pain. The point is to respond to your suffering in constructive ways. This is actually done via listening to all of your emotions and sensory experiences and responding to them with clarity. As humans, we need connection. This is not optional. We are highly social animals.

Happiness and enlightenment are not necessarily connected. Enlightenment concerns knowing your true nature, while unconditional happiness is related to emotional mastery. You can know your true nature, and yet - you may not know how emotions work, and how to be effective in this domain.

This thread is a study of how 16 century men thought of women. Why do you develop rational systems that dictate what is healthy for women, when you clearly have no experience with them? This is redpill and incel ideology in a nutshell. Unhappy men speculating about what is right or wrong for people they have no experience with. It's like how Catholic celibate priests teach how to raise children, or build a loving home. Ridiculous.

@Salvijus What kind of bullshit dogma is this?! How on Earth did you come up with that flawed analogy that equates sex with literal dirt? This is the kind of spiritual idiocy that should be banned from here. If you pursue minimization of your karma via some sort of spiritual yogic system, then that is fine. But don't you ever dare to judge other people's behavior simply because they follow a different path. It is even fine if you want a partner that is similar to you in terms of your beliefs. But don't make these beliefs into universal morality that all people should oblige with.

@Ineedanswers Who are you asking this question of? Does it matter to most men? Probably yes. Does it matter to me? Yes, I enjoy having sex with experienced women. Does it matter to you? That's a tricky one. What you really want to know is whether you should care about such things so that you appear more or less attractive in the eyes of other men. There are people in the redpill community that consider high body count a disadvantage and you want to know whether you are justified in liking what you do. First of all, notice how you feel when you listen to such voices. You second-guess yourself. Why do you consume thoughts that make you feel bad, and then come to us and ask whether or not they are correct? You have every right to have every thought you goddamn please, and like everything you goddamn like. There is no reason to align your thinking with the mindset of the group you partake in, ESPECIALLY, when their belief system feels wrong. Just stroll ahead, that's it. Now, for the real question: does a woman's body count matter for you, this is a very worthwhile question to explore. This is, however, best done in a private journal on a piece of paper. This is where you can be most vulnerable with yourself, and authentically express what you think, without regard for other people's opinions.

The illness is God's will, but so is your willingness to be healthy.

Also, it may be important that this entity visited after I had a visitor from abroad that was very distressed, enormous shadow, to the point where he would visibly switch between two personalities. The shadow was so large, that he barely was able to tell what he was doing when he was possessed by it. He also had latent psychic powers. In frustration he would move my wife's energy around her body and he broke a vase with flowers from across the room.

@Kay100 I had one instance of a disembodied entity occupying space in my home. First of all, realize that these entities are not dangerous. They are attracted to sensitive people and enjoy the attention you are giving them. The more you personalize them and the more you dress them up in mysticalities, the more they are willing to play these games with you. Your fear and other reactions feeds them. In my case, it was probably a dead person looking for something. It enjoyed showing its presence at night, to the point where I was waking up, thinking that someone is in my empty flat. Or it would show up as a foreign presence in a forest, behind trees, when it was barely out of my field of view. My wife had vivid dreams of a dead acquaintance few days beforehand. To get rid of it, I did several things. First of all, I noticed that it enjoyed staying around a black chair that I had at home. It liked black a lot, so I covered that chair with colorful clothes. When I did that, the entity threw a bauble off my Christmas tree. I also spread these colors around the house in places that were not lively enough. When I did that, It cornered itself in my wife's study that I usually don't sit in. So, I claimed that space with white sage smoke. After I did that for two days, white sage and lots of colors, the entity disappeared. Haven't seen it in a year. All of these things that I did ware purely intuitive, I was sure that this was the right thing to do. Maybe if you got to know your entities better, you could understand why they are attracted to you?

Knowledge is finite and it is possible to know this.

Spirituality is not about living a life in opposition to what you want. It's about exploring the relationship with yourself, discovering what you truly are, and having no inhibition to being it. There is no conflict between spirituality and wealth.

@decentralized I'm sorry that you feel this way. What you feel right now is important because it teaches you what you want, but believe me, it is temporary. You will feel better after some time and you will be occupied with something else. There will be things in your life that will make you forget that he ever existed. Just like when you behaved in ways that make you feel that you deserve to be dumped. You are a valuable person even when you are not beside him. Please be gentle with yourself, please don't pour gasoline into the fire. There were reasons for why you behaved the way you did. Try writing your thoughts on a piece of paper. Write a letter you would not be ashamed of writing to your best friend. Please stand by your own side.