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It takes a strong person to go through what you've been through.

It does tend to have a different flavor to it Everyone is different, too. Some may thrive from this forcing of sorts. I don't.

Yes. I am now enlightened as I did not know this, however none of that changes what we are going through today as a byproduct of the colonization that this map is referring to. For the sake of this conversation: let's say what happened with the Zulus had as big of an affect on their neighbors as the European colonizers did...then subjectively morally speaking: no, it's the same. But we aren't in the Zulu tribe. People across the globe need to reconnect with the land NOW.

There is a time to "force" as you say, and a time to flow. Notice your choice of words around this Also, men and women are different. Women thrive more off of movement, flow, even chaos as opposed to the the single-pointed-ness of thought that men have.

Definitely! Here’s some tips for those things that come to mind: Pimsleur courses are amazing for learning a new language (and a worthy monetary investment). They help with correct pronunciation and being able to put sentences together. That is half an hour each day. You also want to watch a TV show or movie in the new language (without subtitles ime) and listen to podcasts/books/music(active listen). Duolingo has easy to listen to podcasts that are great for beginners. Google “how to learn a new language” and explore a bit. Knowing how the language learning process works is essential. You can even listen to a podcast or music in that language while drawing to familiarize yourself with it. Practice piano a little bit each day. Don’t try and commit to an hour a day right away. Half an hour is much easier and you will still make great progress. A teacher is really helpful when it comes to music but it’s absolutely doable without one!! Thank god for YouTube. Being an artist and musician is a MESSY process. It may not feel like you’re making progress and you may get discouraged a lot. It takes a LONG time to get good. You have to have a goal in mind and be passionate and consistent. I like having a calendar where I mark what art I practiced on what day. That way I feel accomplished when I see them lined up in a row and it inspires me to keep going. Mostly and above all, don’t bite off more than you can chew. You might overwhelm yourself. Doing a little bit each day is eons better than practicing 4 hours a day for a week and then not practicing for another month. You got this!

@silene I don’t know. Is this question pointing to the fact that indigenous tribes were once not indigenous and as such justifying the violence of colonial settlers?

I've been doing these for about a year now. Ideally one would do it about once a week for best results. It has made a massive difference in the quality of my skin. I hope you give it a try if this is the type of thing you're into! Just copy and paste the title I've listed here. YouTube won't let me post the video itself. Follow Along Facial Massage | Full Version | Lymphatic Drainage Face Massage | Anti-Aging Massage

@Jennjenn yum!!

Sometimes I forget that Leo is a hardcore philosopher because he's here on the forum making jokes and talking so casually so I remind myself it's OK not to be where he's at.

I love this woww. Definitely going to remember this.

Definitely not a turn off. I mean for me (I'm 30 though, so younger women may feel differently?), it's a necessity that we have a chill follow up text about the date on the same day. It's important for me to know he had a good time/likes me etc. If I don't hear from him in the few hours or so following our first date I do like to send a light-hearted text letting him know I had a good time (or that I didn't, lol) because yea I think that some guys aren't sure if they should text the same day.

Native Americans were very respectful of animals and their spirits. Part of decolonization is about giving them back the rights to their lands as well.

I love this. But not necessarily. Inspiration and playfulness can often be far and few between. Being a creator of any sort you may go through long periods where you are not inspired, yet you are Blissiplined and work at your craft anyway

I almost always want the man to text me after we hang out. I want to know that he cares. Especially if we were intimate in some capacity. If you had a good time let her know.

Going back and trying to remember everything that happened may or may not help you heal. In fact it could re-traumatize you and keep you stuck in unhelpful patterns. Remind yourself that sexual abuse is never "mild" so, honor what you went through. I get what you're saying but sometimes the "mild" types leave deep scars because they are more sneaky and the damage is harder to uncover.

@Yarco It’s not about guilt at all. I’m fact, guilt is one of the things we must overcome in order to do the work of decolonization. If you are feeling guilt that is normal. I’ve hated myself for being white many times. But that does nothing to help. In fact it just puts the attention back on myself, when this is not about me. Because neither of these things would help.

I think the word narcissism gets thrown around too much these days. Yes it does point to a problem, but I don’t think defaulting to the word helps explain anything. Social media can make people more self-absorbed but being self absorbed isn’t synonymous with narcissism. I think the bigger problem with social media is there’s just so much crap and cheap entertainment on it that it can be a huge waste of time and it lowers consciousness.

My words of wisdom on gratitude are that it: creates more of what you want because you recognize/place focus on the thing you are grateful for.

I had good success with contemplative psychotherapy

That’s what I was thinking. I’m still understanding teachings from years ago.

If there’s something in your life that hasn’t been worked through like a painful situation especially in childhood it can sometimes come out in under achieving.

I like to do daily detoxes where I turn my phone off for a few to several hours at a time.

I’ve met met lots of guys who only like short girls or who feel weird around tall girls.

I need to feel like my man is physically bigger than me in multiple ways I didn’t have standards on this before because I was stuck in scarcity and neediness mindsets

If you think it would really benefit you then go for a diagnosis. My advice is not to get hung up on it though, I think it’s nice to know as it can help you explain things but don’t let it get you down if you can help it.