Rilles

Some questions to ask yourself: How much do I trust other people? How important are others opinion of me? Have other people ever hurt me deeply? What do I think of other people, what do my daily thoughts tell me about them, what are the core themes? @Blackhawk

Why is that? You have to deeply analyze what led you to your loneliness, go back in time, years back... it cant be only not being liked, even unlikeable people have friends, like narcissists for example. Ps, I doubt youre that unlikeable.

@Blackhawk Are you on medication? Are you for it or against it?

Okay and why is that? Youre obviously looking for some way out of this, what do you hope to get out of talking with a non-professional?

@Blackhawk You seem to have some form of clinical depression and I highly recommend you find a good therapist instead of hoping that this forum will help you. It literally says in the guidelines to seek help for serious issues. Were just random people here, were not trained for this.

@Gianna Or maybe you just THINK noone understands you... You really think out of 7 billion people noone has or is experiencing what you are experiencing. Come on man...

Nighttime dreams are just daydreaming turned up a notch. Your imagination while for example thinking of a pink elephant or fearing your rent is due is very complex too but more fuzzy. If youre stonwd and close your eyes your imagination seems to get way more intense too. Everything is complex, I dont see why reality cant just be complexity and intelligence itself without needing to add anything behind the scenes.

Its such a deeply feeling rooted feeling that you will never really get rid of it. I have been alone for about 2 months in a new city(I mean physically, I still had contact with family through my phone), now Im back to socializing with real people and feel fine, but these months have provided me with a deep insight of social we really are. I have entertained myself as much as I can and sometimes life was fine by myself but that feeling of "wrongness" was always lurking in the background. Anyway, it was a good experiment, I definitely feel stronger now with more self-esteem, could easily do a retreat in the woods sometime in my life. TLDR: True loneliness is one of the hardest things to face. Probably incurable. Edit: Changed title from "Literally Impossible" to "Almost Impossible"

@4201 Nice (thought) story, bro.

No self, no problem. Unfortunately I am living under the control of ego right now.

What.

So you have had friends. Which means youre not unlikeable. So scratch that idea from your mind.

Elaborating on how it felt during the past two months. I could live life and do what I enjoy but there was a gnawing feeling of not being fulfilled, it was hard to fully relax. Another insight was that when I think of what other people think about me being alone it makes me actually feel lonelier, so the social pressure definitely adds to it. @Tim R Great point!!

Totally. This was probably an important phase for me to go through. I am a human with needs, true. It has made me more outgoing in the sense that I was so desperate to make friends that I stopped caring so much about how I come off when I reach out to a stranger, something has definitely changed in me. Im not pushy though, its more mentally that I have overcome a hurdle. "Just do it!" mentality.

I like the friends in my head.

What are you referring to?

Agreed. Im sure if I was fully Awake loneliness would not be a big issue but Im a very basic human ego right now.

Dont strawman me. Im just saying you have options. Your hill is probably steeper than mine, but if you gave 110% for 5 years to solve your problem you would be a different person by then.

I sympathize with that but I dont sympathize with a victim mindset, the reason Im not lonely anymore is because I literally reached out TO people and made friends with them. This post was made for me to share an insight, not to wallow.

Yes, Im mostly by myself, I like that since Im introverted. But I mean totally alone without anyone to hang out with for a month or year. Could you handle that? That would be miserable for me. You need some socialization I feel, Its like oxygen, of course you can walk around suffocating but its nice to breathe properly sometimes.

The worst generation was ironically The Greatest Generation born from 1901-1927, the literally almost ended the world with their bullshit wars. Millennials are saints compared to them.

Its the best we can do. Honestly to me I dont give a shit. Im not that sensitive who is in my public bathroom, I try not to stay there for too long anyway. Take a shit and leave quick.

Dont know. Speaking of bathrooms, I think a gender neutral bathroom without urinals would be fine. That way it doesnt matter who is in there.

Its literally in the name my dude. TransGENDER.