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  1. Yeah, that's true. It hurts to think about those ideologies, and it's clear that I should just focus on my growth. Well, actually I appreciate when people help and accept everybody, and I've never hated on someone like you or self help teachers. I always like them a lot. Because they tend to help everybody. But seeing terrorists and crazy ideologues makes me scared and angry because they don't show compassion to people. I know that I have a self agenda, but with these people what I don't like I seeing them attacking the next person, for no reason. I never hate on successful and positive people. Yeah, it's true that Peterson is not happy discussing with these ideologues, and it's somehow two opposites wasting time... But I still like him a lot because he likes to help people and promote freedom of expression. Freedom is in my self agenda of course, but I still strongly believe that freedom is in everybody's best interest. Maybe even this message is self deception, I don't know....
  2. Thanks a lot for the response, Leo!! Yes, i get it. In fact terrorism triggers me even worse LOL. I freak the fuck out with terrorists. I rationally understand that everything is the oneness, since I follow you and am starting this actualization process, but I still have a strong ego, and like to detach myself from those who commit certain hateful acts. And i get it, it's a self deception, but I still can't get it emotionally lol. It's a very deep reply, I appreciate it.
  3. I love deep insights like this. Yes, sometimes I'm obsessed with crazy and violent news because I deeply fear disorder and hatred, and danger. I recognize this as a mirror of my insecurities and fragility. It's hard to stay focused on yourself in these moments.
  4. I appreciate all the challeging responses, and I get it that I have to focus on myself But you're excusing their violent and hateful behaviour. I'm not talking about hippies. I'm talking about violent marches on the streets, destroying property, destroying buildings, attacking people from the political centre and the political right, damaging random people. I don't care if I judge them, I've never done anything violent in my life. I don't understand why you're defending them just because they are pro-democrats. And I'm not a republican, I'm libertarian and centrist. I just don't like violent and anti-freedom people. Are you sure of being pro freedom, guys?
  5. Yes. It's the same as chauvinism, but for females. It's a hate ideology, and its core strategy is to claim egalitarianism while in practice exerting discrimination. It's a very clever and deceptive ideology, that deeply damages true egalitarianism. In fact a lot of true egalitarians are threatened by fem terrorism and bullying. it will go away only when women will start to take full responsibility for their lives.
  6. Hi guys, my problem here is with an old breakup, happened 6 months ago, and it came back biting her and then me. We've been together for 8 months, (I'm late 20s, she's 22), and she broke up with me at the end of summer peacefully, asking to remain sincere friends, actual friends. I agreed, because I appreciated her as a friend too, and I also already introduced her to my group of old friends, so I wanted her to stay with them. In the first month I was aching inside because of the breakup , but i kept cool and after 3 weeks we ended up in a """"friendly""" date and had sex again. I fell again in love, while she tried so fucking hard to hide her feelings for me, saying bullshit like "I don't want you to get attached, it was just a mistake because I like you and I find you a cool guy, but I don't feel love anymore", which I DON'T believe, because she kept contacting me as a "friend" every single day, including confidential talk, and confessing her deepest fears to me. Then we decided to stop texting, and became loose friends. Then she finds a new guy to go out, but she never kissed him, only 2 dates to try to know him. She comes to me to confess these dates and she reveals to me that "he is not on your level. you are still my best boyfriend, i've never been so close to someone as with you. i want to find someone similar, so I ditched him". In the meantime I went out to find girls and new people. At new year's eve she freaks the fuck out with me, even though the friendship thing was already cool to me, since I already was thinking about finding new girls and I was ok with her. But at this party she freaks the fuck out because I'm "too close" to her as a friend, and she feels like all the old problems of the pre-breakup are coming back, and that I don't understand her. I try to calm her since i was already calm and cool. I had no problem with her, and was a perfectly fine friend. In the first of january she tells me on the phone that she is SICK of hearing me. I am TOTALLY shocked since we had NO problems, only normal discussions as friends, and a simple fight as normal friends two weeks before. She tells me that that stupid fight as friends is the cause of her sickness of me, and of course I tell her that it's BS, since it was a stupid fight about organizing my birthday party in december. A fight which was already resolved the day after. She insists that she is sick of me, sick of the feelings related to me , and sick of all the problems we had in our couple (What the fuck?!). She blocks me on all social media without warnings, closes the call brutally, and since then I have zero clues about her. I'm moving on with my life. Can you explain what happened? where did I fuck up? I'm still somehow sad but I want to learn and go on. And rescue our friendship maybe
  7. Thanks a lot! I was always honest with her, since I always told her my insecurities, my fears and my ideals about love. I was affectionate and very present with her, but at the same time i was VERY insecure about leading this relatinship. She wanted me to be confident and positive about it. But I kept on telling her that this relationship might end badly, and that I was so scared of making mistakes... that's why I was always "ready to leave", like wainting for the moment to be dumped.... Until it happened. She dumped me saying that she's sick of hearing me being scared of potential problems in the couple. We had a great emotional and sexual connetion but I completely made her paranoid about my confidence of wanting this couple. Never cheated, never left her alone, and yet... I made an emotional mistake. I will go out and interact with new people. And start over again. I hope to regain the friendship with her one day
  8. Thanks ahah well, I'm not so young, I'm in my late 20's. She is 22. I will follow the advice, since I want to self actualize and learn how to love better I've already improved since my previous relationship, which was 3 years ago. And i will continue to work on myself. Regarding being impulsive.. yes, I tend to be impulsive with girls and passionate, and I make mistakes, but I'm ready to learn more.
  9. Because I was insecure about the relationship. She was the one asking me to become a couple, and I accepted it, but I kept on expressing insecurity about wanting to be with her (never cheated, never insulted, just insecure). After a lot of time she started to become sick with it and asked to breakup politely.
  10. I get what both of you are saying. My mistake was accepting her "magical friends frame" in an instant. And she payed that mistake too, since she freaked out. I need to set some distance the next time I break up. Do you think I can regain the friendship with her in the long distance? After months of no contacts I mean.
  11. Looool I love your profile picture! I totally agree. I took full responsibility for my bad choice of a gf, and that's why my advice is completely honest and in tune with taking responsibility. But don't fall on the trap of taking away responsibilities from women. If a woman manipulates, it's her fault for choosing to do it. And your responsibility takes place only in avoiding contact with her.
  12. Open relationships benefit only the woman. It's a manipulative form of relationship. She goes around sucking carrots while you provide her with dinners, stability and as emotional tampon, and masturbate to porn like a loser. And if you DARE to approach a woman you're a cheater while she's and empowered strong wahmen who don't need no man lol. Don't do it. Stay single. Value your freedom and self respect. Meditate and approach people. If you really want a gf, date someone who INSISTS to have monogamy with you. Avoid women who talk about cuckoldry.
  13. That's nice! happy to have exchanged opinions with you
  14. Textbook feminist indoctrination. Using statistics blindly is just... ignorance. Is there a discrimination against males in primary and kindergarten education? The percentage is very low. See? it's the same argument. Free market, free speech, free choices. Free choices. The majority of men don't like teaching to kids. The majority of women don't like politics and dealing with stressing and depressing politics (me neither). Women rarely run for high grade politics, they like to pursue emotional and more warm educational paths. Angela merkel, which has won elections without any discriminations, is HUGE proof of the toxic indoctrination you are victim of. It's not your fault. Universities are huge communist headquarters. I love everybody, and so I love you too stop listening to BS and start living life with passion, and cherish freedom of choices and freedom in general love life, love people, men and women. Cheers
  15. I kindly invite you to re-read what I've written. Also you're evading my question. Which usually indicates not having a valid argument But I'm not judging, I'm open minded for the discussion. Nobody is oppressing women in the west nowadays, since every divorce is stealing off of men, and the culture is all about shaming men on tv. What you seem to NOT understand is that I want a free society where EVERYBODY is free to be themselves. I don't give a F*CK about loser male chauvinists and rotten feminists. I want a society where everybody, male and female, is free, and responsible for themselves, without shaming and manipulating the opposite sex. Do you agree with that? You know that IF you don't agree with that... I have bad news, you're sexist.
  16. Please explain logically to me where exactly is the domination in wanting a world where EVERYBODY is responsible for themselves and men and women are treated as human beings and not sexes. Explain it. I must be very sexist and dominant to want a world where men and women are free to love eachother and to enjoy eachother without one or the other manipulating. Explain your position without shaming, since I'm here respecting everybody and hearing your argument.
  17. By the way I agree and like a lot what Teal Swan says about empowering BOTH sexes. This should be the goal of our societies. Not making EVERYTHING about the POOR WYMENZ (nor men).
  18. @Leo Gura Don't get me wrong, Leo, I love your content and your work, but I don't understand your support of toxic manipulative and dystopian feminism. You should support egalitarianism, not feminism, which is the exact counterpart of male chauvinism. I'm a strong libertarian and egalitarian, and if you JUST look at the damages feminism is doing to men and young sons is disgusting. Manipulating men to get married, and then rob them of all UNEARNED wealth from them. Or sending them to jail over nothing. Also teaching young boys about ONLY feminine values and hating healthy positive masculine ones (not talking about aggression, only about charisma, leadership and independence). Feminism is the embodyment of all the worst of female nature, and is completely corrupting the NATURAL symbiosis between men and women. Men and women should love eachother and complete themselves with they polar opposites, and cooperate. Not in a tradcon way. I'm NOT a traditionalist. I believe in self responsibilities, not in robbing men (or women) or resources and shaming them. I believe in working your ass off for yourself. Women should learn to be responsible and stop fucking men over. Grow the fuck up, women. Men don't want you to be submissive, we just want you to get out in the world and fend off for yourselves without suck our blood. Be free and let men be free. Sorry for the rant, Leo, but I'm sick of this anti egalitarian shaming LOL.
  19. I have had two relationships until now. I'm in the late 20s. My exes were both good girls who cared for me, and were both co-dependent and affectionate. The first gf was very co-dep, as I was. With the 2nd I was less dependent and she too. But still today I have THIS FEAR about girls, even though it's reduced, and more controlled. ...... I like to cuddle and exchange hugs and affection A LOT. My first gf liked it, my second liked it too, but once she said "it's a bit weird for a guy to be this physically affectionate, but I like it. I have this obsession that girls don't like affectionate and cuddly guys. I have this fear of being dumped because of my hugs and affection, and my emotional talking, since I'm very good at empathising and girls notice it quickly. I studied pickup and both exes are a result of knowing how to lead a woman and show sexual intent. But PUA also taught me that soft emotions are toxic to a girl in a relationship, cause you habe to be tough, leader and cold pimp with her. I wanted to hear from the men in this forum what's the truth. Do girls love these gestures or are they disgusting and weak?
  20. I beg to differ, because in my pua experience, even though it was short, I heard a lot of female opinions, and they are often full of bullshit lol. Women are socially conditioned to find beta males as supporting partners, but deep inside they need a confident and charismatic partner. Society tells them that they desire these needy and codependent men, while in fact they find them boring. The female advice you usually hear are just lies that women believe since they are very in tune with group thinking and group consensus (hence society).
  21. Well, I appreciate a lot your perspective The reason why I tend to ask men is because women usually DON'T know what they like, as the classical "i want a nice guy but I chase all the assholes" demonstrates. The problem is that women DON'T like affection out of insecurities and possession. But they like it out of genuine and pure expression, as you said This is why a lot of female advice is WRONG, because women don't understand that nice guys are often affectionate out of fear and possession, and not out of pure bright peace of mind. A lot of men are afraid of showing affection because women turn them down if they are needy. So these men don't understand that in reality affection is GOOD but it HAS to come from a solid and strong place inside. I somehow already undestood this, since I show affection for the sake of affection, and for the sake of sharing my personality. But I had to ask this question because I had this little doubt still stalking me- But in fact both my exes loved my affection and never complained a bit
  22. Yeah, being their psychologist is not good... I know that thanks to pickup. I was talking about revealing my past and my hardships of the past to my gf. I did it with both of them and they seemed to like it. I don't think it's a problem to share hardships and insights about your past. But I never did it as a form of "let's relax on the bed and let's find out the therapy for your psyche". Just as a form of bonding in a relationship.
  23. Thanks, bro. I know shit tests from the PUA community. What's the purpose of this specific one? Should I quit the hugs if she throws the test? can you also explain the second quote?