RendHeaven

Totally normal.

I wonder what kind of things you were saying/doing (subtly or otherwise) that would get someone to accuse you of mansplaining? I appear strongly opinionated around my peers, but I am never accused of mansplaining.

@Logan you gonna be that role model one day?

lol

@soos_mite_ah Ok seriously you gotta stop being my twin ? Yes, yes, and yes. Material ownership + structural inflexibility in general just doesn't do it for me. A house is so obviously not something to want (for someone like me). No.

@Emerald Oh my god Emerald ? I'm so sorry. And thank you for taking the time to paint the picture so vividly.

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Hey I just read your comment on soosmiteah's journal, and wanted to casually respond without derailing her journal... I hope it's ok if I post here? I think that this is the biggest issue that anybody with any great idea will face... Streaming/Video does not erase this problem in the slightest - even on twitch you'd be competing for eyeballs day in and out. I have a buddy who's been streaming his video game playthroughs on twitch for years now and only gets like 3 viewers per stream lol (now to be fair he's doing a lot of things unoptimally, but my point is that the struggle for eyeballs is universal and inescapable). This is fucked up but 100% valid lol. I've noticed a really interesting phenomenon (at least on this forum) where female members on average gain nearly double the followers as their male counterparts -per post count (ESPECIALLY if they have a face-shot in their profile image). I can only theorize, because the "facts" of this matter are vague, but I am guessing that female members effortlessly follow each other out of a sense of empathy and shared perspective, while male members will also follow female members because of pretty profile face shots. I mean there are girls on here with content post counts in the low 100s that already have almost 10 (majority male) followers, like dwarniel, barbara, jessichell, etc. They all have extremely high post-to-follower ratios! On the contrary, I find that women don't follow men as often due to a disconnect of perspective (not to mention that there are many many more men here, so if a woman is to follow a man it's more likely that they'd go for someone established like Nahm rather than a nobody with only 100 posts). In other words, I don't think it's possible for a new male here with no prior clout to replicate the high post-to-follower ratio of a semiattractive girl after just 100 posts, (unless each post was somehow GODLY in quality a la TJReeves or BeingFrankYang) and I think we can reasonably attribute this disparity in attention to visual appearance... All in all leads me to the half-baked conclusion that "looks," especially if you're a woman, is definitely a valid way to get your message more heard. That's not good or bad or right or wrong, it just is what it is...

Dear God this entire post speaks to my soul on a molecular level. My parents had the exact same parenting "strategy" as you're describing... and I've dealt with the same personality shadow that that produces. I'm determined to end the generational ignorance here and now: I'm prioritizing trust, acceptance, and love over "correct action" with any children I ever have responsibility for.

Smile with your eyes. Words come and go

@Flowerfaeiry yeah pretty much

I'm so relieved that you're gay lmao

Interesting... can you elaborate? This goes against conventional wisdom, do you think you can anticipate counterarguments and articulate why "emotions = logic" nonetheless?

I felt this especially with Leo's newest episode. His words mean nothing to those without Direct Experience. On the other hand, those with Direct Experience do not need Love to be "logically explained" to them Mm. Yes. Please chill though, I'm still mildly attached to my heterosexuality

Lol there just happens to be a new episode addressing this exact question... But long story short: Love = Acceptance. Acceptance = To Embrace. To Embrace (in the Highest sense), is to Contain Wholly. To Contain Wholly is to exclude nothing. God, as All Things, excludes nothing, and thereby Contains Wholly (All Things). Therefore, through simple substitution, we arrive at the insight that God (as All Things) literally equals (The Highest) Love.

~~imagination~~

lol

@MatteO22 You seem to have a giant shadow against submission. Consider that submission (coming from a pure heart) IS ultimate feminine empowerment, but I don't believe you recognize this since you work so hard to denounce and disown it. Not to mention that you made the connection between submissiveness and inferiority, to which I say, "says who?" Be careful of conflating the full scope of submissiveness with our stupid cultural notions of submissiveness. At the highest level, all finitude submits and surrenders to Infinity, and such an act of submission is Greater than any petty human domination. Likewise, all degrees and gradations of human submissiveness mimic this Divine Process (some degrees and gradations more pure than others). When one realizes this, there is no room left to ascribe "inferiority."

To "come to [any] conclusions" IS to define. Without first defining (explicitly or otherwise), there is no thing of which to make a conclusion out of. So you can't really separate definition from conclusion, which you seem to want to do. It's like you're saying: "better to draw a square that isn't a quadrilateral." --- But maybe I'm being overly technical, I feel I understand what you mean to say

I agree with the bold, but let's be real - there does seem to be a strong correlation between self-identified femininity and sexual submissiveness. No, that doesn't mean that the feminine is weak, lol. I never said that. It's just an acknowledgement of general social trends, void of value judgement. So, does all femininity literally equate to submissiveness in a one to one ratio? Obviously not. But at the same time, to say that femininity "has nothing to do with submission" is naive.

@Raphael AUGHH THE DISCOMFORT BURNSS

Bingo. Might as well try it... you're not alone... --- @Bob Seeker On it

~~just being feels sooo gooood~~ ?? ?? ??

Of course! But how often do we see this?

I feel like this is a toxic judgement, but my instinct is to agree. From my POV, every single heterosexual male "friend" that a conventionally attractive woman has is covertly gaining proximity in hopes to fuck. While I continue to (lightly) hold this belief as true, I won't weaponize this "truth" to judge women's decisions. To me, it's a no-brainer for hot girls to instantly disown their straight male friends - "if I were a hot girl..." I'd say - but then I stop, because maybe she has different needs than my myopic male lense of worldly sense-making. And so I honor her autonomy.