Venting journal

[Preety_India]

Venting some of my frustration here. 

 

[Preety_India]

#Addressing forum frustration

You know what (this means anyone who is reading this) 

I remember when I did not stand up against the trolls and stayed silent. That time someone told me that I was being weak. That I was cowering back in fear. That I don't have boundaries or self respect. 

 

 

You know what...... Listen up. 

 

When I actually tried to fight off trolls, you're the same people who said, "omg you're being so defensive and angsty," and you are such a fighty person and why can't you simply ignore the trolls. 

 

Huh???????!????????!!???????????????? 

So when I ignore the trolls, I'm WEAK AND PATHETIC and I don't stand up and I don't have boundaries. 

And when I stand my ground  and protest the trolls, I'm fighty and defensive and annoying?? 

MAKE UP YOUR MIND. PICK ONE. 

DAMNED IF I DO AND DAMNED IF I DON'T. 

 

I'M NOT GOING TO PUT UP WITH SHIT ANYMORE. 

I don't give a damn of what anyone thinks of me here... That's my power. Got it????!!?? 

Venting whatever is building up inside me. 

 

Letting it out for anyone to read. 

I have been mistreated mercilessly.. 

If I am angry, NO BIG DEAL. 

I HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE ANGRY AFTER SILENTLY PUTTING UP FOR SO LONG. 

I have the right to vent. 

Hate me then fuck off. 

 

[Preety_India]

You'll need to unpack a couple of things here. 

Did the women you dated considered you vulnerable? If yes, then how did they define vulnerable? 

To every woman or groups of women,definition of Vulnerability can be different. 

For some women, vulnerable means soft, sensitive, understanding, kind and respectful. 

For other women, vulnerable means passive, lacking in masculinity and emasculated, weak, lame and undesirable. 

For the third group of women, the opposite of Vulnerability means anything that is toxic, threatening, masculine, "social construct," "no polarity" as you said. 

Which type are you dating. Because it matters how a person views vulnerability.. 

The feminists that say vulnerability in the context of demonizing standard male traits as toxic are also the same women who demonize vulnerability as weak, passive and useless. 

In short these women are like covert narcissists who target men who are strong and attack men who are sensitive. 

It's like bullies on a street. They'll attack strong ones out of the need for power and jealousy and attack the vulnerable out of contempt 

 

An example of a more balanced and healthy feminist or a healthy woman, is someone who appreciates men who are strong for their strengths and appreciates men who are vulnerable for their kindness, softness and understanding. 

You have to look for a niche group of highly conscious women who see the positive aspects of both strength and Vulnerability.. 

Did this make sense?