Root cause of all my problems- I'm not Selfish

[Preety_India]

So Emerald (from Diamond Net) made a neat and cute list for me on how to become more masculine and how to integrate masculine qualities that I lacked.

And I really love the list. It's concise and has every quality on it that I struggle to embody.

 

It's very important to integrate the masculine side as a woman because it helps you temper the Shadow Feminine qualities of indecisiveness, fretfulness, and vagueness... among others.  

I recommend integrating the following masculine-principled qualities...

• Emotional mastery
• Stoicism
• Ambition
• Purpose
• Assertiveness
• Strong boundaries
• Self-focused drives
• Individuality
• Intellectuality
• Discipline
• Courage
• Generosity (Giving orientation)
• Having principles
• Endurance
• Having a focus towards something bigger than you that you're willing to kill and die for 

 

[Preety_India]

This answer by another user is extremely helpful and insightful, in fact the most important insight on my problem. I can't believe it. It really goes deeper into my problem. 

 

I'm insightful and creative. Yet some deep introspection is missing

 

this is great.......

 

Well I guess the first question to act yourself is what is blocking you from meeting your own needs in these situations right now?

 

The reason you can't act more 'selfish' is because you have a certain fear behind what will happen if you do. Only you can know/ figure out what that is.

 

 

There seems to be an underlying need you're meeting that is taking priority over meeting your other needs.

 

Your job is to introspect and figure out what that block/ fear is so you can consciously choose what needs to meet rather than unconsciously.

 

 

[Preety_India]

Where things really went wrong and how..