Arrogancy

[real_number]

Hey, I've been experiencing this problem a lot throughout my whole life.

I don't personally consider myself an arrogant person, I am mostly shy, introverted, talkative, friendly, but also very reserved. When I have long talks with my friends or people I know, I always think if I am being arrogant, because I know few people who are arrogant (whom I'm an acquaintance) so I want to avoid being like them. The feel of overarrogancy or being hated always comes after long talks. Also, most of my talks are actually very interesting but when I don't have anything to say, I just start talking not-so-interesting things, and people often make negative body language when that happens. I just want to have more things to say when I'm running out of ideas and not to feel being overly self conscious about it. I'm very social during talks and when I build rapport, but when it is lost I act like a dumbass just because I'm afraid, but I also don't want the person I'm speaking with to perceive me as boring or untalkative.

Please help me, I've been struggling most of my life with this. Can you reccomend me some books, exercises or share your experience?

Much love

[Fadl]

It is very common for the shy introvert people to think they are arrogant.

 

If you run out of words don´t talk, if you want the conversation to keep going on start asking interesting/provoking question instead of talking nonsense.