Q: Responding to projections of self.

[ARMeeeeRA]

Hi Guys,

Not sure if this is where I’d post a question but here goes.

I’m pretty new here, have been following Leo’s work pretty closely for about a year now and I’m at the stage where I am sharing on social media certain techniques and methods that are yielding wonderful benefits for me personally BUT I notice the projections of “others” and their own biases, usually religious webs of belief etc, that of course bring up plenty for me to integrate from the shadow haha. That’s not the problem though.

The question is how can I respond in a timely manner to these people without unconsciously projecting myself or my own perhaps unresolved ideologies etc onto them?

Please help, I want to be helpful to “others” and I want to be able to respond effectively.

Is it just a skillset that improves over time with practice, is there something I’ve missed?

yours,

[VincentArogya]

19 minutes ago, ARMeeeeRA said:

Hi Guys,

Not sure if this is where I’d post a question but here goes.

I’m pretty new here, have been following Leo’s work pretty closely for about a year now and I’m at the stage where I am sharing on social media certain techniques and methods that are yielding wonderful benefits for me personally BUT I notice the projections of “others” and their own biases, usually religious webs of belief etc, that of course bring up plenty for me to integrate from the shadow haha. That’s not the problem though.

The question is how can I respond in a timely manner to these people without unconsciously projecting myself or my own perhaps unresolved ideologies etc onto them?

Please help, I want to be helpful to “others” and I want to be able to respond effectively.

Is it just a skillset that improves over time with practice, is there something I’ve missed?

yours,

Watch out for your own projections on others. That's more important than responding to what they say.

[ARMeeeeRA]

Thanks, you are right Vincent. Silence is a powerful ally indeed. Namaste

Edited July 21, 2020 by ARMeeeeRA
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[Zigzag Idiot]

@ARMeeeeRA That is a great question, And one which is very relevant in dealing with others. It has been a conundrum for me as well. I'm afraid there's a large percentage of the population, even in the spiritual or work on Self community, that don't realize the extent of projection which takes place with all its subtleties. Rarely it seems that one is able to point out others projections without them getting highly offended. 

More often than not I tend to just kinda go silent in as non-offenseable a way as possible and the with some silence and space given,  the other may bring up the issue again later. It is at this time with some skillful means, it seems there's a possibility of reopening the subject in a way that certain things can then be addressed.

[ARMeeeeRA]

Thanks @Zigzag Idiot. In a funny kind of way it's comforting to know I'm not the only one with this hurdle.

I mean, it's very easy most of the time to point out others projecting but much harder to point out my own particularly in a high paced kind of a setting, like when I inadvertently challenge someones web of beliefs. Then it all becomes about scrutinising how my grammar is set out and justifying world views etc. I'm sure you get the idea.  

I implement the method of saying nothing also and in many cases it speaks volumes anyway.

In the social media format, the difficulty there for me is that it isn't just a one on one conversation and there are others looking to see how I respond. Of course the balance there is Diplomacy vs Authenticity. In any event I have come to realise in deep meditation today that the need in me to "correct" anybody is what is actually in question.

Why do "I" need to be correct? I found myself playing another role of like "shepherd" and realised it was only another role and was able to let it go.

Another helpful technique today was to actually write out a draft of my response and read it a few times filtering it down and down. In the end of that I had a pretty good response BUT did not have the desire to post it anymore. Things seem to have worked out.

I appreciate you taking the time to reply to me today, Zigzag. Namaste

[VincentArogya]

5 hours ago, ARMeeeeRA said:

Thanks, you are right Vincent. Silence is a powerful ally indeed. Namaste

Creation stems from Silence, my friend