"How To Be More Self Aware" by Charisma on Command

[CreamCat]

I think this video delivers some useful tips quickly, so I summarized it.

The person who's most likely to lie to you is yourself

• We have ego defense mechanisms that want to keep us safe from a survival perspective and safe from a self-image perspective.
• If we behave in a way that doesn't suit our self image, we tend to discount the evidence of that behavior.
• Look at all the emotionally charged areas in your life. You're likely lying to yourself.

Put honesty before integrity

• We block ourselves from ever being able to be honest in the first place because we feel so much pressure to immeidately act with integrity.
• The way to deal with this is to give yourself permission to live in paradox.
• You have to use actions and the responses of people to describe who you are.
  • Your actions might not be aligned with your self image.
  • Your actions are better examples of who you are than your self image.
• Go to people who know you well. Ask questions about yourself. Be ready to embrace harsh feedbacks.
  • Compared to other people you know, what is something I struggle with?
  • In what ways, am I hypocritical?
  • ...

Make self awareness a habit

• You need at least 10 minutes of space every day
  • It could be meditation, a walk outside, a massage session, and so on.

Edited September 26, 2018 by CreamCat