What Do You Do To Spice Things Up?

[Annie]

I'm basically looking for some ideas to spice things up a bit and become inspired.

What do you like in bed? What would you like to try?

[Will]

From a blokes perspective??

I am a visual creature.. Its nice to be teased but not too much. maybe like tease for a bit and then go hard then stop for a bit.. Thats always fun..

Heaps of sensual attractive looking gear. again its all about the buildup.. poses and role playing is always fun. photo shoot. games. in a naughty or not normal environment. maybe somewhere where you can get caught??

Is that what you mean??

[Annie]

Yes, that's what I mean

Thanks for your input.

[Will]

In that case.. 

Be cheeky and flirt.. smile or be cheeky bossy (with a smile)

Say things like oops I drop my...

 Its such a great thing to challenge your self to do acts or have thoughts that you have not tried before with the total acceptance of a partner.. If your partner is receptive and accepting and supportive  of your desire and experimentation you will get very intimate..

You do have to read the situation as well.. 

Just be mindfull that what you project will aaffect him so you may need to understand your own inner desires and really understand what you want and why..Never ever think about his faults. Think of it more in terms of what is happening i.e. instead of thinking he does not like me,, think I am not getting the attention I want.. Its not about blaming yourself. Its about taking charge of you.. 

If your partner is not being receptive you may need to change your approach. Men can sometimes get in there cave..If you have this going on come back and I can think of some other things..

So whats going on are you finding your not feeling lush enough or you having some trouble getting attention or do you just feel bored?? Or maybe he is not paying enough attention to pleasing you???

PS its ok to be selfish and go for what you want.. youll learn about yourself and your partner.. In general just accept him for whoever he is. i.e. good or bad and adjust yourself to fit, but there may be some occasions where he is not what you want .. thats when the reall work comes in.. if so come back and ask here for more ideas.. plenty of people here know plenty about this..

[Sarah Marie]

@Annie Tie me up and I'm happy... Also role playing, record it, toys are fun to use together, sexting, sexy pictures throughout the day. I seriously love to be in a public setting being my sweet self and then whisper something totally kinky in my mans ear, then just continue talking. 

[Sarah Marie]

Just went back and read the comments, quickly learned my answer wasn't the norm. HAHA. 

[Stef]

@Sarah_Flagg is one naughty girl  Listen to her.

[Will]

@Sarah_Flagg hahahaha. If only the norm was like you.. Your guys is a lucky man!!

 

 

[Annie]

@Will I'm just asking this not because of any issues in particular, I just want to try something new. After 10+ years it's good and necessary to do so I believe, neither one should become bored. I have all of my partner's support by the way. He told me "we'll do anything you want"

@Sarah_Flagg Toys are a definite yes so are blindfolding and tying up. Record it, done that too I never role played, never even knew how to approach this to be honest so I don't know if it would be something to try or not.

What do you guys (and gals) think about watching Porn with your partner? What about masturbating in front of each other?

[Sarah Marie]

@Annie I have done both!!! And I love both. You can also try having him lay down, strattle his face and masterbate that way. Like on top of him while you're on your knees. New meaning to front row seats. I have had zero complaints lol. I like porn alone and together. 

@Will My man has zero idea he is "lucky" lol. Pretry sure he thinks all girls are like me.

[Dhana Choko]

Meditate everyday and you will get ideas.  

[Guest]

Pure chimping ITT

[Sarah Marie]

@Annie I just thought of a couple other things...

Suck on some ice before giving him a blow job. The contrast is awesome. 

Have you heard of the grapefruit and pop rocks trick? I have not tried either but I have heard a lot of guys like it.

Do you have a lot of sexy outfits? Kind of goes with role playing. School girl, nurse etc. 

Check out the new toy called the womanizer. I hear great things about it.

Im sure someone will chime in on like mindful orgasims, I am interested in trying to learn more about that too. 

I also just like to randomly surprise him (well when we were together and still sexually active, lol). Think of it this way if you were a guy would you rather ask your women for a blowjob. Or have her randomly drop to her knees and start sucking.  I always think about "if I were a man..." And go with that. 

I hope this is helpful. 

 

 

[Will]

@Annie Its more fun if your man does something to engage you so do things with the intention of driving your man wild. Tease the crap out of him. If he is not receptive you might need to try dropping subtle hints, that your having fantasies of being thrown around a dominated. think of sneaky ways to make conversation about what you want and really try and get him to think it was his idea to learn how to please you.. It really is the best if your man decides for himself he does not know how to please you and he starts researching how to actually do that.. there is a tonne of info out there on seduction but it mostly has to come from the guy.. 

You could try to just be open with him and honest and say he does not have a clue about seducing women, and suggest that he really needs to decide for himself if he wants to learn otherwise you will forever be dissapointed as this is something you find really important..

[Will]

@Sarah_Flagg hahahaha some guys have no idea what they have.. Well done Girl.. 10/10