Thoughts on contingent self worth vs unconditional self worth?

[BobbyLowell]

In Leo's videos he says to love and accept your flaws which I completely agree with. But it kind of suggests that love is based on characteristics. But everyone is able to be loved because a human being has value solely by just existing and living. When one has the characteristics we like or don't like, it doesn't make them more or less lovable, it just makes them more or less useful to us. Any thoughts?

[supremeyingyang]

I think you may confused love, the thing you do without wanting something back, with love, the concept of a ideal relationship there you get your ego validated for giving 'fake love'.

[BobbyLowell]

@supremeyingyangare you saying true love is not based on characteristics and fake love is?

[supremeyingyang]

Like I use the terms... yes. You have maybe a different definition.