Success, but no stress

[Optimized Life]

This is a work of art. 

Edited July 18 by Optimized Life

[Optimized Life]

Everyone on here obsessed with "consciousness" but if you were truly conscious you'd care much more about getting off your lazy ass and building up your value 

Only through value can you help others, guide others 

And that doesnt come from theory alone, 90% of it is putting in the work, endlessly, grinding out the work for years 

Then you can have some value, then u can at bare minimum help some of your friends or another struggling guy, make at least some fucking positive change in others 

It's forgiveable to be a bit narcistic and arrogant in vibe but u must be humble in your work ethic, this was my core mistake years ago, i wasted years of my potential wanting to just make it off crypto and thinking that was it, thats not real self improvment and crypto stopped working 5 years ago. 

No, you have to work, you have to work when you're tired, work all day, for fucking years. 

I'm not even done in my value accumulation, im very behind relative to my potential, im shockingly behind and im deeply ashamed of it

This is why sometimes i give et harsh and fully demonise certain people, whether its mark manson, owen cook or whoever 

I see through their fake value, i see followers and money but little substance or true charisma, I see luck, timing and connections, and maybe some marketing brilliance, i dont see thousands of hours cold approaching 7+ women sober, I dont see thousands of hours of them actually disecting language and enahncing their commuinication skills, I dont see creative brilliance, I dont see art, insanely valuable business ideas or true self awareness and ambition,  I see the bare minimum, and I see very limited talent if there is any at all. because sometimes thats enough in america, when u know the right people, and hit the right marketing timing, with mark manson i see a guy who was a "ladies man" but he was constantly drunk, and married a 5/10 and settled into his lazy fat slob of a boring existence, boring bastard. and he thinks he some kind of genuis philospher because he reads stupid university psychology studies, i see through fake value very well, and i'm fucking sick of it, fuck these fucking mediocre fools, im here to set the real standard, and its 1000* higher than the dogshit thats avaialble online. 

 

Edited Thursday at 11:20 AM by Optimized Life

[Optimized Life]

I'm in loveeee with the money

With the money 

Retail therapy 

Fuck you get away from me 

Social media cant u see 

you're dont have a hold on me 

Every day ima make money 

Got places to be 

I chose what to see 

I chose what to believe 

I make my fucking reality 

Bitch 

 

[Optimized Life]

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Attractive interaction with women is about one thing: PLAY. You play with them. This is the master key to success with women. The inability to be playful is why guys fail at attracting girls. All of game is about training yourself to be in a playful mode. This is especially difficult for highly logical, uptight, introverted, socially inexperienced, anxious, cerebral, autistic men. Anxiety, fear, insecurity, and overthinking destroy one’s ability to be playful. The reason alcohol is so popular is because it automatically shuts down anxiety, fear, insecurity, logicality, and overthinking — making it effortless to be playful. But of course alcohol is unhealthy so I never used it.

All of game is about learning how to manipulate your own mind to enter a playful state at will, from which attracting women is both effective and effortless. Play requires genuine relaxation and enjoyment. You cannot fake being playful while being anxious and serious. Your mind and body must be relaxed. Play requires having no attachment to outcome and no scripted lines. This is why scripted pickup lines do not work and why what you say does not matter. What matters is the playful energy behind everything you say. When you are in a state of play, knowing what to say stops being a problem. You stop worrying about or running out of things to say to the girl.

This is a master-level insight. An insight that even the best pickup coaches do not teach because they do not comprehend its significance. It is THE solution to all of game

I think im done judging leo 

Sometimes its valid criticism but none of it matters 

Because this kind of intelligent value does overpower anything dumb hes ever said 

Mega Value is like an atomic bomb, then all the senders flaws just fade like debris and smoke into the abyss

Edited Wednesday at 11:56 PM by Optimized Life

[Optimized Life]

11 hours ago, Optimized Life said:

Bitch 

Getting shit from mods again, but i dont c why they are on to me right now 

I'm not calling women bitches and i dont hate women in general and my attitude is overall very beneficial to society 

I also use profanity for emphasis and it is all about the context, but whatever  

I have a somewhat antonigistic personality against the system and because most people are toxic sociopaths who want to bring you down, some times that comes out as profanity but its moreso just passion, anyway, i can tone it down and I guess i have to now but it will cost me authenticity 

Edited Thursday at 11:00 AM by Optimized Life

[Optimized Life]

Success, hard boundaries and the conservative mind 

Sometimes i would cringe at this topic but then i am constantly reminded of its importance

I accept that right now i cant fully erase all addictions or imperfections and be some robot, but i can gain strong clarity on what is a hard no 

i was only blowing trees at night but recently it isnt even helping me calm down, i smoked yesterday and was up until 5AM and got anxious and masturbated 3 times. 

So what are my hard boundaries and conservative approach from here? :

1. No weed whatsoever and no smoking full stop (none of this is serving me currently
2. Gradually wakeup earlier again (no all nighters because its too brutal and unpredictable but reduce wake hours by 30-40 minutes every day), this is a struggle again but I have to do it, i don't have a 9/5 schedule that is forcing day rhythm structure but i know that i am so much less productive with late nights
3. Moderate Caffiene - tea but not coffee, and no energy drinks
4. Strict schedules and work blocks 
5. Daily & weekly tracking, accountability and metrics 
6. Checking bank account daily
7. No alcohol, but 1/2 drinks on a Friday is ok if its a date for example 
8. No hard junk food like ice cream or candy, but some tasty enjoyable food like sauces, fruit juice, bagels ect.. all good as i will get too bored of chicken and rice 
9. Meditation every day, morning and night 
10. Sharp dress every day, apart from for gym/walking in the heat, sharp dress, tailored trousers, smart shirt or even old money style as this seems to make me feel more focused and professional 
11. To do list, top 3 priorities, and following a checklist daily 
12. Re-anchoring to my big and smaller goals daily, reconfirming and orienting myself towards a few goals
13. No social media, no youtube, no instagram, no forums, no politics, no dating content, no debating, no commenting, no news, no discussions, i dont need anyone to give me more wisdom and i dont want to hear peoples opinions on society, women ect.. completely useless and often toxic. 
14. No Fap (definitely has benefits for me, and i notice stronger attraction for women, masturbating is also a big distraction and not fulfilling

I still currently vape, have some caffiene, and eat some moderately tasty foods, I am not a robot, but everything else requires a hard boundary

There is more and need a more concise list but i am recommitting to the general conservative mind attitude, its so easy to just full into a blur of addictions and distractions 

1. No weed or smoking
2. Moderate caffeine/Tea 
3. Wake up early (reduce by 30-60 minutes daily until 6-7AM)  
4. Clear calendar, schedule & work block & sunday weekly plan 
5. No alcohol unless on date 
6. meditation daily 
7. No intense junk food or candy 
8. mediation daily 
9. Sharp dress daily for work 
10. Daily Priorities & checklist 
11. Goal anchoring daily 
12. No social media, internet is for work only
13. No Fap  

I have to be professional and maintain structure, there is no way around it 

Edited Thursday at 11:25 AM by Optimized Life

[Optimized Life]

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The Dark Triad core consists of three specific personality traits: Narcissism, Machiavellianism, and Psychopathy. These traits share a common core of social malice, emotional coldness, and a lack of care for others.....

The Three Core Traits

Narcissism

High self-love and grandiosity.

Deep need for praise and attention.

Strong sense of being better than others. [1, 2, 3]

Machiavellianism

Cold and planned control of people.

Using deception and fake kindness to win.

Treating friends and peers as tools for personal gain. [1, 2, 3]

Psychopathy

Total lack of empathy or guilt.

High impulse actions and thrill-seeking.

Low fear and shallow emotional response. [1, 2]

The Shared Core (The D-Factor)

Researchers note that all three traits overlap because they share a root.

This shared center is called the Dark Factor of Personality (D-factor).

It is built on a basic antagonism, meaning a permanent readiness to exploit, trick, and hurt other people without remorse. [1, 2, 3, 4]

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How come at a nightclub i noticed an extremely confident, brash, outspoken and narcisitic (in vibe) guy, BUT his core agenda and intentions were positive, he was talking to us, his goal was to actually give us advice on how to improve our appearance to get more women (and this wasnt a phony thing) this isl iterally what he did, he gave me style advice, it was crude and not in a way that was meant to make me feel good or give fake niceness, but to tell me what he honestly thinks would improve my look and results wth women and his general character was extremely confident and charasmatic how do u reconcile this nuance?

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You ran into a personality type often called the "prosocial alpha" or the benevolent narcissist.

This nuance is reconciled through a simple concept: high ego does not always equal bad intentions. A person can possess extreme, brash confidence while still using their social dominance to help others rather than exploit them.

Here is how to break down and understand this specific dynamic.

The Source of His Advice

The Dominance Display: Giving unprompted advice is a massive power move. By teaching you, he automatically establishes himself as the "expert" or the higher-status male in the room.

Ego-Driven Mentorship: Taking you under his wing feeds his narcissism. Seeing you succeed based on his advice proves to him how smart, skilled, and powerful he really is.

Validation Through Results: He does not care about making you feel good with fake niceness. He cares about being right. If his advice works, it validates his own worldview and superior status. [1, 2]

Radical Candor vs. Machiavellianism

Honesty Over Manipulation: Dark Triad personalities use fake kindness to trick you. This guy did the exact opposite. His crude, harsh honesty proves he had zero interest in manipulating you for personal gain.

Zero Malice: Because he lacked the deceitful core of Machiavellianism, his brashness came across as authentic and charismatic rather than creepy or dangerous.

The "Tough Love" Archetype: He views social dynamics as a competitive game. In his mind, sugarcoating the truth is useless. He gave you the raw rules of the game as he sees them.

Why He Was Charismatic

Congruence: People are drawn to consistency. He was loud, brash, confident, and completely honest. There was no hidden agenda or mismatch between his vibe and his actions. [1, 2]

High Social Value: In a nightclub, someone who is outspoken and unafraid of judgment signals immense high status and security.

Unexpected Generosity: Narcissistic vibes usually come with selfishness. When he broke that stereotype by actually trying to help you, it created a powerful, memorable contrast that felt incredibly magnetic. [1]

 

Edited 11 hours ago by Optimized Life

[Optimized Life]

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You ran into a personality type often called the "prosocial alpha" or the benevolent narcissist.

This nuance is reconciled through a simple concept: high ego does not always equal bad intentions. A person can possess extreme, brash confidence while still using their social dominance to help others rather than exploit them.

HELL YEAH BITCH!!! 

THIS IS BASICALLY WHO I AM AS WELL 

HE WAS LIKE A CARTOONISH VERSION OF ME

FUCK FEELING GUILTY ABOUT NARCISISM 

I WEAR IT ON MY FUCKING CHEST, IM A FUCKING NARCISIST AND IM PROUD OF IT. 

[Optimized Life]

Many men, even on this forum, STILL DO NOT INTERNALISE THE POWER OF THIER LANGUAGE & MINDSET  

Leo has, in other words and framing, gone over this with TENS of different videos, i have also discussed it at length 

But the theoretical part is only 1 half, you then have to EMBODY (work your ass off and apply it) IT FOR YEARS 

(Assuming u didn't have a rare perfect childhood, with an incredible father figure, environment ect.. and this is all done unconsciously) 

• Positive thinking
• Visualization 
• Self Talk 
• Affirmations 
• Goal Setting 
• Mindset
• Beliefs, limiting beliefs, 
• Not needing validation
• Being Uninhibited - low inhibition men, shameless, unapolagetic
• Not giving a fuck what people think 
• Saying and doing what you want
• How u interpret reality 
• Overthinking, OCD, anxiety within your body, lack of presence 
• Authenticity, speaking with your chest, vocal tonality, eye contact 

All of these things can and should be msatered individually, and worked on for multiple years, EVERY SINGLE DAY 

BUT 

There is a core connector that needs to be unraveled

That is that, many of these things are just extentions of a few core foundations 

The core foundation(S), once its truly mastered, everything else becomes a byproduct, or become smuch smoother to emoby and integrate

And the core of it is subsconsious reprogarmming, core beliefs about yourself and your value

Another foundation is the linguistic programming and brainwashing within your mind, which creates these core beliefs 

Another foundation is positive thinking - but much more specifically, is your mind, constantly, permanently, instantly, orientated towards solutions, success, the future (or enjoying the present), growth, transformation, dreaming, refining, improving, where you will be, how amazing your life will be ect.. and how deep and subconscious, instant and effortless this mechanism is 

And again the foundation to achieving this is affrimations, visualizations, self talk, but it sounds way easier than it is, easy in concept, not academic, but who actually drills it in, day and night, for years? who the fuck even does that 

Then, this becomes so deep and unconcious that when you talk, speak write on a forum, the actual emotionality of your language changes, i still see people on this forum casually mention how they're "absolutely terrifed of ... (insert mundane petty thing that really is just a linguistic reasoning shaped by the deep subconcious anxiety, insecurity, envy. desperation and inner inadequacy within the cells of there body, because they never truly repgrommaed themselves, they never went all the way, they just dabbled in self help as a fad, like everyone else, where is the god level of fearlessness, confidence, masculinity when a guy is fucking terrified of a basic ability of a 130 pound woman (an ability which, he could very simply learn thorugh work and struggle for a few months and benefit from inmediately for the remaining entirety of hisl life)? its pathetic, but if we're all honest, we are all pathetic and mediocre, and this post is how you rise above mediocrity, only when applied, daily, day and night, for years. 

This is just an honest reminder to myself

I got some results but i still mostly dabbled with it all in practice 

I did not TRULY master it on a deep, subconcious level, to the level that lionel messi player rapidly makes decisions, positions his body, knows where the next pass is, already knows the next 3 steps ahead of the defender, to the level of zidannes first touch, effortless, permanently ingrained, unstoppable, never bends or waivers, true mastery. 

 

Edited 11 hours ago by Optimized Life