Extroverted things as an introvert

[Olaf]

I have realised lately, that as an introvert doing extroverted stuff is very exhausting on me, I have been more reguarly going out, talking to people, not even to get laid, rather to gain social skills. I have realised that the main things that drain my energy as an introvert doing these are a few things. One, excuse making, you spend time thinking if you should approach or not, not knowing when to stop, you have not set a rule on how many sets you open or how many or for how long you will talk to people, they also call this decision making fatigue. Another one is putting too much pressure on yourself, you have to do it well or you have to not fuck up, all these outcomes are very exhausting and something I am still learning to let go of. Insane, cause I have been approaching people for the longest time and still find myself stuck in basic level stuff.

Then lastly I would say taking moments, breaks, in between, sometimes, you just need to breathe for a second, 30 or 50 seconds of just connecting to yourself and then go into the next conversation. Not to the point that its so long that you start to make excuses. Also another thing I would say its self judgement fatigue. Due to recently going bald, I have had to face insecurity around my hair loss, but I am working myself through it not by hiding it, but facing the fear.

I feel the best way to overcome fears are gradual exposures where your not BOOM facing your fears, but rather gradually expose yourself so that you can integrate and learn the body to feel safe, have a relaxed nervous system, cause the goal is not to have balls, but for the `scary` thing to start to feel safe or safer. If you were once scared of sky diving, doing it 100 times in the next 100 days would make you less afraid of sky diving. I know this, cause I have done tons of things in my life that made me scared, but through habit, repetition, it becomes more normal.

Any introverts dealing with the same issue of remaining high energy and also socialising? I am glad to hear some people talk about this, its an intresting topic especially because allot of my work is based on socialising and its a real struggle for me sometimes to have energy throughout my day. These are the ways right now I gain or remain the most energy while also being social.