Truth Addict

I agree with some what @FoxFoxFox said earlier in his 'locked by now' thread: In my opinion: 1) Some threads are clearly trolling. 2) Some people could be facing serious emotional issues. 3) Some locked threads are just simple questions from beginners. 4) Some threads are clearly useless to most members. In the case of trolling, yes, I think locking, warning, and banning are good to consider, because trolling causes more harm than good. BUT, in all the other cases, I think it's better to give space for people to express themselves where they can, because they are going to be repressed otherwise. Repression is the reason why they came here in the first place, because their societies had kept repressing them for their ideas. I think we need to appreciate and respect that. Now, Leo said that he wants to raise the quality of his forum. And I like the idea. But I have something to say though: The other members of the forum (not the posters of threads) determine the quality of the threads with the quality of their responses. The original posts themselves are mostly spontaneous and in many cases neutral in my opinion, which gives them the potential for creating growth and bringing positive results. Locking such threads is the online equivalent of laughing at students for their honest questions/opinions, which I don't see is helpful/healthy by any means. I think harmless threads, no matter how naive and silly they may seem, shouldn't be locked. Because if they're truly naive/silly/useless, then other members will see that and respond accordingly. And if other members don't see it, that's also fine, because that means that they're at the same level with the poster, and the discussion can help them all. I think we need to be able to see through the posters and what they need to hear before we jump to conclusions, because after all, we are here to help and get help. I hope this thread won't get locked up as well. It's not a questioning of anyone's level of consciousness, or ability to judge fairly. It's just a discussion for making this place a better place.

Nonsense.

Gotcha. Sorry for the misunderstanding.

Where do you get these toxic ideas from? Happiness is not sustainable, maybe. But it has nothing to do with bringing more suffering. @Meditationdude You forgot to count your comment as 4% for irrelevant answers.

Peace can be found everywhere, in the words and in the spaces between them. Mind and no-mind are identical without the resistance. In fact, there can exist suffering in that 'empty space', independent of thought. Why would anyone resist their thoughts anyway? Thoughts have a purpose, and achieve it they must. If they get out of control, then that's ego and must be killed. Sometimes I think that life is completely out of anyone's control, and some other times I think that thought affects life. In the end of the day, it's a strange-loop, the two are entangled and cannot be separated. However, death is the nearest escape. Whenever I catch myself suffering, I surrender to death, and suffering usually goes away. @arlin Suffering is optional. It's not up to anyone to decide what they want or where they want to go. If you are interested in self-actualization work, you will not suffer from it. In fact, quite the opposite. For example, I used to use meditation and Leo's videos as an escape from suffering. Right now, it takes special effort to sit down and watch anything or read any books or do anything related to self-actualization unless I have a real problem with something. So, basically the thirst for wisdom is gone, and the only valuable thing for me to pursue right now is healthy practicality and systems thinking. I don't pursue it in books or videos, I try to find it in my own life. The point is that self-actualization and happiness are not identical. You can be happy and a complete loser, and you can be happy and very successful. Same thing for suffering. It's attachment to outcomes that creates the suffering, not the outcome. Nope. And in fact, quite the opposite.

Perhaps it's something you would do, Mr. ego.

Well that's interesting! Sometimes I wish I could lower the level just a little bit.

Almost no suffering in general. Happiness is more of a spectrum. Some days can be really happy, nearly blissful. But not all of them. At least for now.

ISFJ-T

I have no problem at all with other races, ethnicities, nationalities, religions, cultures, etc... Except with gender and sex preferences. (and more recently with highly intellectual people, but that's kind of irrelevant here). I don't understand how homosexual people are normal people. I don't know if it's good for me to understand them right now because my society rejects them entirely, so it might be dangerous for me to think differently. And even though I already think differently, the people I interact with would call it just philosophy, but with sex preferences, it's a different matter. Sex and marriage are serious matters where I live, i.e. among Muslims. I don't understand transsexuals, bisexuals, lesbians, gays, etc... I don't even know how many genders are there. However, I can watch lesbian/bisexual female porn. But I can't watch gay porn at all, it disgusts me. I haven't seriously thought about this until now. Some people say that it's just a defence mechanism that I don't accept homos, and that it means that I have inhibited homosexual tendencies. I don't think that is the case for me. But who knows? I could be wrong.

It's not just black or white. It's a highly nuanced matter. Sometimes, it's most fulfilling to take. Some other times, it's most fulfilling to give. Some other times, it's most fulfilling to step back and just observe. Okay, but I meant ego-death. At some point, you will get enough of suffering and say that's it, fuck everything. I want freedom, I want peace. And you will find them.

Actually, my most ecstatic period of my life was when my life was going to hell. You have no idea how good it is to die.

Mikael89 vs. The whole forum.

Solipsism and relationships can't work together, can they?

@DrewNows What I said was directed at me, you idiot ?‍♂️

Great thread! I think it should be reactivated and get more serious, and better answers. I don't think the shadow has to necessarily be an entire stage, it could be only some characteristics. Blue: Clinging to maps, especially high quality/highly accurate ones, and fear having no-maps. Trying to spread the word because it is the absolute truth, not just as a relative tool. Speaking in an absolutist way; i.e. this is that. Orange: Clinging to reason, logic, data, and scientific research as absolute truths, or at least think they have an actual objective value in the real world. Not being able to see beyond one's own interests, i.e. to 'poopoo' other agendas. Confusing Orange for Yellow and using SD for selfish goals, i.e. manipulating systems like in politics. Green: Clinging to 'positivity' and demonising 'negativity'. Examples: I must love everyone, no harm should ever be made to anyone for whatever reason, etc... Being easily misguided due to being overly submissive, especially in the political aspect, i.e. having no independent identity, and adopting any humanitarian political agendas. That's all I can think of for now, and it's from my personal experience. I can't talk about the higher stages since I still haven't really gotten into tier two.

@DrewNows Be smart. Attract infinity directly without the help of psychedelics. That being said, let's stop derailing this thread.

Nonsense.

Love is the opposite of fear, and it includes fear. To love is to have no fear. What are you afraid of? Let that go.

I would have gladly done them, but I have no access to any of them whatsoever.

Because Absolute Infinity is just a concept to me, yet.

I don't agree with these videos, but there you go.

@Leo Gura I would say just quite the opposite. There's no possible way to discern purity from impurity unless you try for yourself, and here open-mindedness is most crucial. I consider that everything I'd already learned could be impure, so I stick with the stuff I find most helpful.

No one who'd realised nonduality would waste their time on converting others to it.

Balance is the hardest thing to achieve. But it is the more rewarding thing as well.