Lise

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  1. Some concrete actions you can take that has helped me: - remind yourself about the reason why it ended - remove things that remind you of the person if you can - give yourself time. It's unrealistic to expect that you will be any good at work or studying right after a break up. It's like a drug withdrawal. - call a friend or someone you trust (if you have people like that in your life). It really helps to get all of the feelings out, and feel that there are someone there to support you. - after you've grieved and the break up isn't so fresh, start doing things that spark joy for you. Also, probably don't do shrooms. I just run straight back to my ex when doing them (don't know why). And I regretted that, because there was a reason for why it ended, and I didn't remind myself of it enough. Know that you're not alone <3 Breakups are tough, we're here for you! And there is an end to the pain, even though it doesn't feel that way:)
  2. Hello to you who's reading this, I'm here because I'm in love and in a relationship with a guy who has a lot of issues with pride. I feel like we do love each other, but sometimes he gets stuck in a mindset of being right, and not for example apologizing, even though I know he is sorry (or am I projecting?). The consequence is that I have to be good at reading him and understanding his psychology to not get hurt by what he is saying. And this doesn't feel right. What is the real issue? I don't believe that the relationship culture today is any good, as I feel like we're in a throwaway society where we just throw away partners without realizing that we're the issue, not the relationship. We're very damaged, and we have to fix this. So what would the issue be in my (and probably many others) situation? What are the real mechanisms behind one partner having to be more understanding than the other? And what about love? I'm actually willing to bear the relationship on my shoulders alone (as of now) because I'm so deeply in love. What are the mechanisms and "flaws of character" behind this? Or am I totally misguided? Peace and love, Lise from Norway
  3. Quite a few people here are saying that you absolutely can attract a girl way hotter than you. What not a lot of people are saying are that your approach should be different. That's what I think at least. A little anecdote: one time I was in a club, there was this short asian guy* trying to dance with me and my friend. Which didn't work, because neither one of us found him to be attractive the least. But if he would have talked to girls at the bar or something, I think he would have had a way better chance, especially if he had this masculine, but still friendly attitude to him (Leo's video about masculinity is really good at explaining this). *No, being short (and asian) does not necessarily ruin your chances with women! (Another anecdote: I remember there was this guy who was shorter than me (and I'm only 1,6 m / 5 feet 3) flirting with me a lot, and after he moved, I found myself really attracted to him. He was really confident though, and I think that has a lot to say.)
  4. @Leo Gura WTF. How do you not know where your shirt was made? Don't you see it every time you look at the label? At least you know what kind of brand produced it (e.g. H&M). To be honest I don't see a reason to not buy from transparent brands who are claiming to source things ethically. I personally have started only buying jeans from Nudie jeans, and other clothes at thrift shops or Gudrun Sjödén. That is because I kinda feel guilty when I buy stuff from places where the workers very likely aren't paid a living wage. And I don't see why you, the person reading this, shouldn't do the same?
  5. @nahtanoj @Omni So refreshing to hear your opinions. This is exactly what I needed. Thanks a lot. This massage therapy thing really amazes me. And Omni, I think you're very right. Your outlook on life matters a lot. "Maybe it's good luck, maybe it's bad luck" huh?
  6. Hello world! Currently I'm studying computer science (freshman), and I find it extremely unfulfilling and boring. I want to quit. Now. Should I, or should I power on until september? Background info: - I've been thinking about this for a few weeks already. Heart says: "PURSUE YOUR PASSIONS" but mind says "finish this year because of money". - If I finish this year, I will be done in september because I failed one of my exams (and will probably fail more this year). - I had much better work ethics in high school, and graduated with good enough grades to get into all "programmes" in Norway (where I live). Fun fact: so good grades that if you don't pick certain subjects in norwegian high school, it would be "impossible" for you to get. - If I finish I'll have 60 000 NOK / 7000 USD / 6200 euros in debt. - If I don't finish I'll be having 110 000 NOK / 11400 euros / 13 000 USD in debt. - I will probably work my ass of if I decide to actually pass everything, because of quality. That means no time to experiment with life. Which I will if I quit. I've never been more productive, or inspired this semester, than when I'm in one of my LPC-crams. Do you have any advice? ANY at all will be much appreciated.
  7. @thesmileyone In some countries it's free to study. I think it's free to study in Sweden. At least it is in Norway, so the TS wouldn't necessarily be in debt other than having to lend money for surviving as a human.
  8. Wow, thank you very much! I finally understand now! *bowing down in the dust*
  9. Hello! I'm confused about the negative values release exercise. When Leo tells you to find a positive lesson you learnt from the traumatic experience - how? Personally, I thought about the moment I found out that the other pupils called me "monkeygirl" behind my back, because they thought I looked like a monkey. Now, I'm supposed to find a positive lesson I got from that experience? Have I misunderstood completely, or is this really what I'm supposed to do? If yes, I'm not sure how? I'm kind of confused. I sincerely hope that somebody can help me. - Lise
  10. Still, I think that being your authentic self also can decrease your social status / make you an outcast. Being a part of the masses though, especially being pretty, smart, having charisma, connections and attending parties can increase your social status. I don't know if I've misunderstood, but social status is kind of dumb... Especially in high school. What matters is how you feel about your life when you eventually die. That's at least what I think (I think).
  11. @Lorcan Thanks a lot. You other peps as well. I think I'll benefit from doing something efficient with my life
  12. Fuck it, I'll just do the course I will probably thank myself later.
  13. @Girzo I was thinking about just trying something out (architecture, product design or some kind of engineer), and if I didn't like it, I could quit. I was also thinking about taking philosophy, but only as one subject, so I would have some time to think, and ponder about life (and more time to take the course!) I'm probably stressing to much, hehe
  14. @Lorcan Ooooh, thank you for the insight! I've never really thought about school that way!
  15. Hello! I was wondering if anybody has experience with being in their senior year in high school and doing the life purpose course at the same time? As many high school students, I take my schoolwork kind of seriously, but at the same time I'm spending around one (maybe two) hour each day on distractions (although it's not TV-series, more like documentaries). Will it be strategical if I sleep less, and do the LPC? In return I'll maybe get a motivation-boost, drop my distractions and do even better in school? Or should I wait with the LPC until the vacations, and do it then, and mainly focus on school this semester? Any experiences? Comment: I only have a few months until graduation, in addition to that I live in a country (Norway) where it is necessary to deliver good results all of the time to get good grades. Also, to enter university this year I have to apply by 15th of April (in other words: pretty soon!). All replies will be deeply appreciated! Regards A confused 18 years old girl.