Marc Schinkel

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  1. I'm sorry. I haven't read the novel and hadn't heard of it before. I might check it out. After reading the wiki article on it, I'd say Portman is the perfect nymphet as seen in Leon, yeah. Oo, la la. I have to agree with @Zigzag Idiot , I don't see teenage guys in these situations as victims, having been a fantasizing teen myself . Reminds me of tame impala's mind mischief. That's cool. I've had glimpses of the past, so I know it's a thing, nothing extensive though just images and experiences here and there.
  2. I'm mid 20's now, so it's mostly not caring with a dash of legit cluelessness. I have zero interest in the grey zone... ugh, could you imagine? This discussion brought Lana Rhodes to mind, apparently she decided by the age of 14 she was going to be a professional porn star. I'm curious what you make of something like that. Do you think this is a reflection of changing culture or the result of personal issues/abuse on her part. It seems weird to me that someone would decide something like this so young, but then again she could just be one of those DGAF girls like Sable Starr, and HOW OLD IS 15 REALLY!? I'm not sure what effect an interview like this would have on other young girls out there though... Logan Paul being a huge teen influencer and such.
  3. Maybe I could offer some of my perspective on this as your typical young guy to the exclusion of violent criminals and psychological/physiological edge cases. It's not that young men aren't able to understand that rape is a violent crime and is bad in so so so many ways. We also get a lot of mixed messages to the contrary. For example "rape fantasies are extremely common for women" "women want you to be aggressive and domineering generally" I think I've seen Leo saying stuff to the effect of "rip her panties off grab her by the throat and fuck her brains out". Then there is the classic "nice guys finish last" cliché that does have an element of truth to it. Then you hear/read about rape victim stories and find out that a part of them sometimes enjoys the experience. As a dude I feel like it's generally my job to lead a sexual interaction and that means learning to read a situation with fluid implicit boundaries ... consent isn't really black and white until she explicitly says "NO!" or something to that effect. How do you teach young men to navigate this? I don't know. It only really comes with experience because that implicit/intuitive/read-between-the-lines style communicating is generally feminine and it's harder to learn for men. In much the same way that directness/assertiveness/clarity are masculine and typically harder for women to learn. To get that experience you have to fuck up A LOT. What makes matters worse is generally the point of least experience is when testosterone levels are highest. This is also something that I don't think women appreciate that much. I remember watching a video that @Zigzag Idiot posted on his journal where Ken Wilber discussed how shocked women who undergo testosterone therapy are at their increase in sex drive. I also think women don't really appreciate sexual shame from the masculine perspective which is something along the lines of fearing inadequacy, not being good enough, and therefore easily dispensable, likely to be cheated on etc. Of course this can all happen to women and it sucks, but when it happens to a guy I believe it's MUCH worse because of hypergamy and the difference in sexual market value men and women have. As a young guy it makes more sense to approach younger women because they are probably equally inexperienced, easier to lead (therefore easier to please) and are less likely to make you feel bad about how shit you are when you're starting out. There might be a predatory aspect for some men, but I think this also plays a big role in why men generally avoid older/more experienced women ... you're less likely to make a fool of yourself and end up accumulating sexual shame. None of this justifies rape of course. It's terrible and shouldn't happen. It's just that there is much more ambiguity about it than other violent crimes. Imo opinion anyway. I could be just a complete idiot, but this is interesting to me. I want to learn I'm open to being violently corrected. If I were to tl;dr this it would be something like I've been taught: >Rape is BAD ... VERY VERY VERY BAD >Borderline Rape is GOOD ... VERY VERY VERY GOOD >I need to be good so I won't be cheated on >I need to borderline rape this girl to give her the best experience possible >I need to try this while I have the least experience and most testosterone coursing through my body Obviously this ignores the entire emotional and sensitive aspect to it, I'm just trying to elucidate the aggressive aspects that are tricky to navigate as a guy.
  4. I thought this analysis of Calvin and Hobbes was really good. It explores some of the things that set it so far ahead of its contemporaries.
  5. This is a fascinating read. I hope you don't mind me occasionally dropping into your journal(s), people sometimes aren't clear about that. The reference you made to the R-Kelly scandal brought Dave Chappelle's skit on the ambiguity of the teenage developmental stage to mind. He also ties in differences in societal expectations of race when it comes to people in these age brackets. I also thought of Bill Burrs segment on pedophilia and how the stigma causes a lot of pain for the 99% of men in society who aren't creeps and who want to show love and affection to kids in a platonic way. I definitely feel this in my own life. This also crosses over into the "grey zone" of adolescence where I might have genuine platonic paternal instincts towards someone, yet I also understand that they aren't kids, and because I'm fucking hilarious I crack a sexual joke and everything gets awkward.
  6. @Equanimity Hi!
  7. Ah, I see what you mean. I'm reminded of the distinction between "passionate" and "companionate" love that I read about in the book "The Happiness Hypothesis". There was a graph in there that described the most dangerous phase in a relationship was somewhere between 2-5 years when passions die down, familiarity breeds contempt, and companionship hasn't had sufficient time to grow.
  8. srs? Even stage red thugs know it's bad form to talk smack about peoples mothers. To My Mother - Edgar Alan Poe Because I feel that, in the Heavens above, The angels, whispering to one another, Can find, among their burning terms of love, None so devotional as that of “Mother,” Therefore by that dear name I long have called you— You who are more than mother unto me, And fill my heart of hearts, where Death installed you In setting my Virginia's spirit free. My mother—my own mother, who died early, Was but the mother of myself; but you Are mother to the one I loved so dearly, And thus are dearer than the mother I knew By that infinity with which my wife Was dearer to my soul than its soul-life.
  9. I wouldn't worry too much about it. If I were in my shoes, wait ... no ... your shoes, I would keep my eye on getting closer and closer to the solution, without beating yourself up about not being there yet. You don't have to figure it all out today. You can slowly discover it over time. Of course you will arrive at something similar to what @Zigzag Idiot and @DrewNows described, but you will need to go on a journey to get there and it will end up being way more awesome, for sure. It's natural that you would be interested in the things that Leo teaches, we all are. As the saying goes "birds of a feather flock together" Well done for maintaining your challenges... I'M SO PROUD OF YOU!!!
  10. Been a while since I worked some Billie magic.
  11. Spent many nights bathing in the moonlight after long soliatary walks listening to this song. TIL the the song was originally titled 'Promenade Sentimentale' meaning a 'sentimental walk' but was changed as it was inspired by the poem 'Clair de lune' written by Paul Verlaine in 1869: Votre âme est un paysage choisi Que vont charmant masques et bergamasques Jouant du luth et dansant et quasi Tristes sous leurs déguisements fantasques. Tout en chantant sur le mode mineur L'amour vainqueur et la vie opportune Ils n'ont pas l'air de croire à leur bonheur Et leur chanson se mêle au clair de lune, Au calme clair de lune triste et beau, Qui fait rêver les oiseaux dans les arbres Et sangloter d'extase les jets d'eau, Les grands jets d'eau sveltes parmi les marbres. Your soul is a chosen landscape Where charming masquerades and dancers are promenading, Playing the lute and dancing, and almost Sad beneath their fantastic disguises. While singing in a minor key Of victorious love, and the pleasant life They seem not to believe in their own happiness And their song blends with the moonlight, With the sad and beautiful moonlight, Which sets the birds in the trees dreaming, And makes the fountains sob with ecstasy, The slender water streams among the marble statues.
  12. @Zigzag Idiot Its an understandable affliction. Some of them can get a little catty though.