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@eputkonen I feel when I try to appreciate something it's not honest, how do I do that exactly?

Didnt fap for 2 weeks, failed a few days ago, and I dont feel like anything changed. Same energy, same procrastination, same mood, same relationships, only a few less random erections. Should I try for a longer period? how much time? I felt like I could go on for eternity but I didnt find the reason to.

lmao they go so well with each other

differentiate between being and awareness of being

Labeling is the thing that the mind got used to do to every thing, in order to save up energy. The mind is lazy. By labeling sitting without thoughts as "meditation" or as labeling the consciousness path as "the path", you create an image and certain feeling associated with the label. It's the same with prejudice, jews want money, americans are fat, but more subtly. Please see that everything in your life that has any meaning to you is labeled. (This is one of the concepts of Carl Jung btw, as I understand it at least) The thing you're trying to do may be authentic to you in nature, but because of the label you see it as something else. Try to contemplate what do you really like, what lead you to the path in the first place. Try to create a new label for the same thing, that has better feelings associated with it. Try different types of meditation. I would recommend concentration oriented practices, because if you really get them right, you will have a very pleasurable time meditating, im talking about better than orgasm. Every time I start a new meditation I seem like im doing everything from the start again, I feel like a newbie. Try to meditate in a different place, meet other people who meditate, all that in order to change your label about it, which will give you motivation.

I am noticing in the last few months (also when i started to meditate) that while im walking around people im checking them out(especially women) im doing it completely unconsciously. now when i notice it more i see that its so automatic i cant seem to be able to do anything about it. it just happens and i dont see people as people, but as things i can get somethinf out of. how do i break this habit?

@Eva I think the thing is that you are the "problems" too

There's this theory going around that consciousness affects water. I got this concept from the book Mt best cook by tom j chalko. he says in the book that he met some old man and that old man turned water that smelled like water with fluoride to water that smells like ozone, after he put his hand and concentrated on getting out the "bad stuff" and inserting the "good stuff" into the water. What he continued saying, is that if you appreciate the food you eat, the appreciation will turn the water in that food into "good" water and will make your body more harmonious and will align this food more with your metabolism. Have you heared about it? I try to be really openminded here.

@Natasha I dont see how im objectifying myself, I dont quite get you

@Spiral how do i do that?

@OBEler kill you

IMO you have 2 options: 1. more meditation until the meditative state stays without meditation. that means strong determination sitting, remember that the worse the sitting, the more results. - this way works if you're more devoted 2. 24/7 mindfulness, as @Shin mentioned- in case you dont have enough time that you're willing to spend meditating.

or is it completely unnecessary and psychedelics should be left for spiritual purposes?

Though we dont have the illusion of control while watching a movie

In other words, should one just go around his life and one day he may stumble upon someone or should one deliberately try to get a girlfriend? I feel like a relationship should arise naturally, but at the same time the chance of that happening is very small. Most of the day I study (going to lectures, doing homework) and in my free time (about 2 hours a day are free of studying) I do self development stuff (reading, watching videos, contemplating), so to get more free time I have to sacrifice self development. One of my biggest fears is wasting time, and I feel like if I dont do self development or study my time is wasted, so I never go to places where I might meet girls, ever. I also dont find interest in these kind of places. I am most of the time alone and ok with it, im not lonely, but I wont lie to myself, I do have a certain desire to have a girlfriend. I think my course of action should be just continuing what I do, what are your thoughts on it?

@Girzo @WaveInTheOcean I discovered during this post that I have no desire for a girlfriend really, but I have the desire to feel love. By aiming to have a girlfriend im missing the point. I believe that if I get a girlfriend from an active pursuit I wont feel that love, because love I think cant be forced. Aiming for a relationship would be counterproductive because it's not the relationship that I want, I want the love, and the love comes spontaneously.

conor mcgregor is that you? lol jk. be mindful of this monkey mind and continue practicing. this too shall pass

@LaucherJunge What is meant was the saga of fears. Of course there is no perfect state and there is always something to master and learn, but fears I think could be conquered completely with some realizations.

@Moreira how do I learn that?

@LaucherJunge oh so what you mean here is kind of shadow work. do you have any guides or books on how to find fears and heal them? and I think this work will end, you can gain full emotional mastery, doesnt mean you wont experience it, but you will be ok with it, thats the goal

@aurum I definitely have a fear of approaching girls. This fear is part of a more general fear to make people uncomfortable. Im trying hard to do my best to not interrupt people's lives for the worse with my presence and from that sometimes fear is created, so by approaching girls I fear I might make them uncomfortable. But that does not affect my desire for a genuine relationship, because approaching women doesnt bring those genuine relationships. I tried that before and I realized I just dont want it that way, I want it to be authentic. I tried tinder, had a few matches and was simply disinterested after a few days. The only relationship that will satisfy me is that accidental romantic one, which is by definition by chance, so I have a desire that cant be fulfilled forcibly. @LaucherJunge I actually did that about a year and a half ago, had my cringe, and kind of dealt with it. (I dont have any trauma from that just in case) My desire is different from the one that approaching girls will get me, as I said in response to @aurum I want the accidental girlfriend and not the deliberate one. These are completely different. My opinion thus far is that I should just continue doing the same stuff I did until now and just live with that desire until it gets naturally fulfilled. @Spiral As I mentioned, there are 2 types of girlfriends, and I dont want the one you're suggesting I believe I will grow a lot from having a girlfriend but even more so If I will do personal development (spirituality and life purpose), so I prefer to spend my time on that. P.S. I was in the middle of answering @aurum and your comment brought real breakthrough thanks @Pelin Fucking amazing . I just finished to contemplate and write out my comment and you come and say the exact same thing. You added a bunch, though

@aurum When I say personal development I mean the higher level of personal development, spirituality. This is all material stuff, I want the good internal stuff.

@Spiral personal development is more important to me than having a girlfriend, but the desire to have a girlfriend is still there, how do i deal with that desire? and if i understood you correctly, a girlfriend doesnt "just come" I have to work for it if i want it but how? in my eyes going to places just to meet girls seems desparate, im not that desparate to do that. also having a girlfriend as a trophy for some work kind of seems unnatural and not as romantic, defying the purpose of doing the work. so from that i guess wanting a girlfriend in the first place is unnatural. So the REAL question is how do i deal with that desire? P.S. Lol actually while writing this I remembred some talk of osho that having a girlfriend is not what I really want, but what I really want is to feel love, but the way to get that love is through personal development, therefore having a girlfriend is just a bonus, and if it happens it happens and theres no need to pursuit it. the real question still remains though, can i project that desire into my personal development or how do i deal with it?

Do you think it's necessary? Do you think it's extremely effective or not at all? is it true that after a fast you dont have cravings, so you can easily reorganize your diet to a healthy one? Does it make the mind more clear?

@LaucherJunge any more specifics as to how it helped you think?