Tyler Robinson

Ok?

My biggest struggle with people is that I'm always running into people who I can never trust. Their emotions aren't genuine. They aren't sincere. They don't mean what they say. They say one thing but they don't really feel that way in their heart. It causes me immense frustration because whatever I say to someone comes directly from my heart. So when I'm trying to help someone, I really mean it. I don't say it to impress. How Will I know that someone is being genuine with me? That they really mean what they say and they are being authentic with their intent. I'm tired and fed up constantly dealing with inauthentic people who present themselves as well meaning or well intentioned but later turn out to be phony. This is the usual pattern with the men I date. I'm bad at screening sincerity in people because I often take people at face value What should I look for while screening people for authentic intent? What tools or strategies. What are the green flags for detecting authenticity? Please. I really really need help with this.

My greatest regret in life - I could not seek value in relationships. What's yours?

One day the only privileged status on the forum will be - > member That day everyone will be a Mod except me.

Stranger, I love you.. I know you mean best for me. I'm too sleepy. Slept all night. Slept while typing shit in this journal. You covered me with a blanket You also offered me food

How can domestic violence be stopped

I agree fully. Also the executioner thing is making me sick in the stomach. Maybe we shouldn't have death penalty. Not worth putting people through bad karma as an executioner

You made enough money.

I woke up with a lot of pain. I also felt like the only way for me to sustainably feel happy was to have a man who has a deep sexual bond with me.

@Carl-Richard I have no clue what your position is. I read all the posts. I'm not able to follow what your argument is.

Hair transplant. Expensive. Being bald does not look good. It impacts self esteem.

Shouldn't we be compassionate towards them?

How can a domestic abuser be compassionate?

Thank you.

And I imagined being in the arms of a man who wanted to hold me tightly and fuck me. And I was scared as shit. I was panicking. My heart was pounding. And he held me again.. I didn't know what was going on.

There's a video of him openly declaring about how he would love to rip apart a woman's face. Just please don't support this violent thug. The stuff he says about women is in the danger zone He is a massive threat.

Andrew Tate has talked about hitting a woman with a belt? Are you relishing that too? Please stop supporting that guy here.

Proceeding further (refer above post) This means that guys who approach a woman just for sex can never be genuine. They will be phony as FUCK. They are not only phony but they are also abusive. Because only an abusive guy would treat a woman as a personal sex object for jerking off. My past 3 short flings after J were guys thirsting after me for sex. At first I didn't think much of it. I thought that guys need sex and that's how guys are. How could I judge them when I myself was greedy for sex too? Yea that makes sense. But either way, a man who only wants sex cannot be a good man. I also saw sexual attraction as an important part of intimacy. But there is a problem. Sex is important. Definitely. No denying it. Sex cannot come before heart. This applies to both men and women. For women it's obvious. But even for men with a decent amount of integrity, the same applies No decent guy would only want sex. He would want a heart connection and then proceed to sex. For the simple reason that he wants a woman to feel at ease with him. He wants her to enjoy his company. He really wants her to feel good. He wants her to feel respected. It's only then he will make his move. He doesn't want her to feel like a sex object. He doesn't want her to feel used. He doesn't want her to feel like a pair of tits. And he would never pressure her sexually at all. In fact he would restrain himself as much as possible till she is okay opening up sexually to him. Till then he will ensure that she feels safe with him.

Ok I'll apply the Golden Litmus Test here. Asking myself - Will I approach a girl just for sex? Will I want a woman as a private slut? Will I want a woman for my sexual needs only? Will I be okay treating a woman like this? (if I were a dude) The answer - NO FRIGGIN WAY I would consider it abusive to treat a woman as a sex supplying machine. I wouldn't want to use her for my pleasure. I would never ask her for sex unless we have had a lot of conversations. She needs to first feel perfectly comfortable being my girlfriend. I need to know everything about her. Then I need to connect with her heart. I must first know that she really loves and wants me. Once it's established that we have a strong connection and that we really get along and have a smooth sailing relationship where both of us feel committed and comfortable with one another, that's when I will begin to talk about sex. Not otherwise. I won't escalate to sex as long as a proper connection doesn't exist between us. I won't treat a potential girlfriend as a personal sex toy for jerking off. I would consider it abusive and meaningless.

I think these lines in the paragraph are important - I think a better way of going about it is asking "What is their intent behind telling me this? What are they gaining from it?" Just look for intent and what is motivating them in that moment. That will tell you their character very directly. That is definitely behavior to be cautious around though. What kind of a person is looking for sex with me? A fuck boy right? Why should a fuck boy be considered a good man? Whats the intent of a fuck boy? Whats their motivation in approaching me? The answer is simple. There is no point in being non judgemental to a fuck boy. That's like being non judgemental to a tiger in a cage. When the tiger pounces on your leg, you are going to regret not judging the tiger. A tiger is a tiger. A fuck boy is a fuck boy. These are predatory people. They will hurt one way or another. A person not wanting a heart connection but only sex simply cannot be a good person. Sex can be premarital. That's okay. That's fine. But sex should always succeed a heart connection. Sex should never happen first. A sex first relationship is a bad relationship right from the get go, the dynamic is going to be upsetting, drill this in the mind.

My nickname is Berry A man who only wants sex with me is obviously going to be a bad person Berry. Even if I try to be as non judgemental as possible, FACTS ARE Facts. My mind might not appreciate judging someone beforehand.. But someone said something important in this paragraph.

◉ I need to write an acknowledgement letter. ◉ ✸ ◉_◉ ◉ ◉

Whatever.

I'm a good girl at heart.

I'm so sleepy. I worked so hard for last 2 days. Nobody notices my hard work. Everyone takes me for granted because of my low IQ. Fuck it.