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Leo was just talking about the perks of simply existing in the world and having big boobs… not about joining onlyfans or doing some other form of sex work. The majority of women wouldn’t be okay with doing sex work.

That’s generally not how relationships with women work. Be social and make lots of male and female friends and acquaintances. And when you’re spending time socializing, an organic attraction will eventually arise between you and a woman in your social circle. You don’t need to be in the top 10% of guys. And you don’t even need much game. Just socialize and have a good time and connect with people and your loving cup will eventually be filled.

I think you over-estimate how many freebies women tend to get. The cooks at a restaurant will give you free fries if you’re a waitress. And men at clubs will buy you drinks. I still say that it’s best to take a non-receptive response even to those small gestures, unless you’re genuinely interested in a guy. But that’s about the amount of freebies that you get consistently as a woman… even as a very attractive woman. That is… unless you position yourself for the male gaze and as being receptive to bigger gestures. There’s a personality frame and persona that has to be embodied in order to get that kind of treatment. So, the woman you were seeing who was given the car by the billionaire, probably positioned herself in a way that evoked that reaction. He didn’t just see a hot chick on the street and say, “Hey there miss! Can I buy you a car?” She had to be a certain kind of person to even be interested in embodying the persona of being the woman that receives a car from a rich guy for being hot. And therein lies the cost. It also encourages you to see men as the “middle man” between you and your personal power… and you become reliant on your looks as how you secure resources and power. And once you lose that power to turn the heads of men, you will feel powerless. And that looks-based power fades about ten years into adult life with 40 or 50 years left to go. And woe betide the woman that makes the mistake of getting into a relationship with a billionaire who gives cars to hot women.

Ever since I was a little girl, I noticed that boys/men have a very different idea of what makes men attractive compared to what women actually find attractive about men. One example that I noticed way back then, is that many boys/men tend to think about having big muscles as the ideal male body type. But most women (according to surveys) tend to find men attractive who have a body type that’s strong and lean where the muscles aren’t super huge. (That’s just when women are asked in a survey though. Actual attraction is much more nuanced than that.) But that’s just one example… and a physical one at that. There tends to be some common beliefs among men about men’s attractiveness physically and personality-wise. And this creates a desire to match up to the “ideal” male image that men believe is attractive. And the desire to emulate that image in terms of looks and personality often acts as a spoiler to their natural attractiveness in the eyes of women. Through a woman’s eyes, it looks like a guy covering over and interrupting his own natural Masculinity with a mask of his internal image of the ideal Masculine. It’s a man who doubts his Masculinity and thus feels he needs to pretend to be a man. Here’s a video that talks about this phenomenon in depth…

@something_else Let me rephrase this… those freebies come at a cost that’s greater than sex.

I wasn’t strawmanning. I was being facetious to convey my point that tits don’t confer any kind of real power. And I doubt this billionaire just gave your girlfriend a free car without expecting something in return. The free things that men give to women are never actually free. It’s a good practice to avoid taking “free” things from men. Otherwise you’re like Persephone eating pomegranate seeds in the Underworld.

Women generally aren’t looking for the top 10% of guys. Women don’t tend to be very strategic when it comes to picking a partner unless they’re using their logic-mind to choose. But using the logic-mind to choose will get a woman into relationships that aren’t fulfilling at all. Logic pales in comparison to emotion and intuition as it comes to finding a match. Its all very emotional and has 98% to do with how she feels about a guy. Women honestly aren’t picky enough about their standards. They just fall for a guy, and then forgive all of his short-comings because of how she feels about him. Women are selective. But they’re not picky at all in how they select.

And did you know that 99.9% of female CEOs have huge tits? Not! Trust me… the only doors big tits open are literal planks of wood on metal hinges. Not as to say that having a door held open for you here and there isn’t nice sometimes… and of course making an extra $10 in tips during a shift as a waitress is helpful. But tits really won’t get you far… because simply being attractive to men (or in general) is an ineffective path to power. This is especially true given the fact that aging happens… and any soft power that looks did confer will gradually fall away. And in the options that an attractive woman could choose to propel themselves ahead financially based on looks come at great cost to them. They either marry a rich guy who has so much more power in the relationship compared to them because they hold the purse strings… and who might just be looking for an accessory to his own self-image and status. Or they become a model and deal with all the objectification and noise that comes with that option.

The active campaign of calling LGBTQ people groomers started about a year ago. So, while this tactic has been used before in history, the groomer rhetoric is a new intonation of it.

Would you consider it a big deal once the children/teens you’ve told to wait commit suicide? Perhaps it doesn’t look like a big deal to you. But if you were struggling with gender dysphoria, you’d probably feel differently.

It’s always that way. The rule is… if you’re trying to be Masculine, you’re failing. Masculinity is a very subtle and graceful quality that shines through in the small gestures a man makes as he moves and speaks.

Consider that there is also a wisdom to viewing food this way. Of course, it’s good to eat healthily. But if she’s struggled with things like body image and hating her body, restricting food choices could be a very unloving choice for her to make for herself. Many people (most commonly women) who struggle with body image, go through cycles of food guilt where they over-eat and then restrict. And what often works for people in the cycles of food guilt is to get into the mindset that there is no bad food and to allow themselves to eat intuitively. Sometimes it’s wise to focus on self- improvement. But other times, self-improvement can get in the way of self-love.

Like I said, it is very difficult in these cases.

One thing to take into consideration is that late-term abortions tend to happen because the life of the mother is at stake or the pregnancy isn’t viable (meaning the baby won’t be able to survive outside of the womb). Very few people would go through 8 months of pregnancy and decide to abort, unless they had to. So, even though the idea of late-term abortions tend to put people off, those tend to come from people who want to keep their babies but cannot. The vast majority of abortions happen in the 1st trimester.

That is a difficult one. Overall, I don’t believe that you should be able to euthanize someone against their will. So, I wouldn’t be in favor of euthanizing a baby… even if they’re suffering. I would, however, be in favor of palliative care for the duration of their short life.

Your body, your choice… I guess. ?

I disagree with that too. I view existence as a good thing. I value life with all its pains and joys. There is no need to wage war with life. Those who are so resistant to pain that they’re unwilling to allow life to be are lovers only of death.

In the first couple months in the womb, the fetus hasn’t developed the nervous system. So, it won’t feel anything. But afterwards, there is pain that’s felt. This is important to realize for anyone who’s deciding to have an abortion. But babies after birth (which is what I was referring to in the post you replied to) definitely have a fully developed nervous system and the capacity to feel pain.

My issue with your viewpoint isn’t that it’s extreme. There’s plenty of extreme viewpoints that are better than the moderate position. My issue is that your viewpoint is inhumane and doesn’t belong in the contemporary world. Infanticide is murder and an affront to bodily sovereignty. So, there should be no legalized killing of someone who isn’t capable of consenting. And that’s true no matter how painless the killing is.

That’s because people naturally pair up when they’re around one another. And things like looks and status and all that other stuff fall to the background when you develop a connection with another person like that. Women are often more social. And in social circles, you will find someone who is mutually attracted to you. It’s honestly not that difficult to get a partner. Just be social in a circle of people that you interact with frequently and something will eventually spark up.

Thank you ?

Unfortunately, hot girls aren’t even loved for being who they are. They are admired for being hot by men who want to use them for their own selfish aims. Hot women are ‘loved’ by men like a slave is ‘loved’ by their master. And if she makes the mistake of accepting one of those opportunistic guys as a partner, she will be left in 10 years for a younger model. Hot women (if they’re not super discerning with the men they keep company with) get the least amount of unconditional love of all women. And hot women have difficult lives too. They work and go through things like everyone else. And to say that they don’t need to develop character is just false. If a woman is under that impression, she will pay dearly for that mistake.

If you could imagine an inverted world where men were the ones being pursued by women, and women were always throwing themselves at men… and women were also stronger and more aggressive than men… then you’d get a more accurate sense of what it would be like to be a woman. You’d walk down the street and be sexually harassed by hyper-strong women your grandmother’s age. And starting at age 13, hyper-strong women of all ages and levels of attractiveness would just see you as a semi-sentient walking penis and conceptualize you as a pawn to meet their own sexual needs. And some of them would even be aggressive about it and grope you without permission. And because they’re much stronger than you, you can do little about it. And if you tried to tell people about it, half of society would tell you that you were lying or asking for it. And tons of women would get together and create philosophies about how men’s only value is their penis and their ability to be a sperm donor. Whole political systems would even be constructed around that idea. And you’d be all through your life bombarded by the idea that your sexuality is your only value. And you’d internalize it to some degree because you’ve seen that message reflected on a daily basis since early childhood. And then, since you’ve been brainwashed to see your value as your sexuality… as you aged and lost your physical attractiveness and stamina for sex, you’d be devalued by society. And you’d struggle to find an identity as you aged. Honestly, I used to be so jealous of men in terms of dating and relationships. Just develop yourself and you’ll be golden. However, many men don’t realize the advantages that they have because they only have a two dimensional idea of what the female experience is. This is why many men are not actually capable of sufficiently appreciating a woman outside of the role she plays in relation to himself. Men often imagine the experience of the most attractive woman they can think of and they imagine that she’s never been younger and will never be older. And because men’s obstacle is developing attractiveness, they conceptualize that women are able to open doors for themselves with just a smile. But life is hard for everyone. And they don’t understand how shitty the experience is of being bombarded by men who want to use you for their own selfish ends. And yet, a sizable minority of men still end up worse off than women somehow, because they got wrapped up in victim’s mentality and didn’t understand the privilege of having control over their sexual desirability… and of being conceptualized of as a human being separate from their sexuality. For women, our sexuality and our nature is constantly being weaponized against us to disempower us… sexually, socially, and politically. If you were suddenly a woman, you’d be in for some very unpleasant surprises.

The line I draw is bodily sovereignty. And I draw that line absolutely. If there is a baby in the womb of the mother, the baby relies on the mother’s body for its life. But the mother still has absolute bodily sovereignty. And so, the power over the decision to abort or not, sits with the mother. And she can make that decision for any and all reasons because it is a decision about her own body. Every single person is the absolute god-emperor over their own body. But with great power comes great responsibility. When you have the power over life and death (as all pregnant mothers do and should under the law), then it’s very important that you know that the being that’s growing inside of you is alive and sentient once it gets past the first couple months. It’s important not to self-deceive and say it isn’t. But once a child is born and the cord is cut, then they are no longer under the dominion of their mother’s bodily sovereignty. And they have their own absolute bodily sovereignty.

I disagree with anti-natalism because it mis-attributes the many global issues to over-population and it puts the onus of blame for things like climate change onto individuals instead of onto systems. And it poses the solution “just don’t have babies” to issues that require more complex solutions. The reality is that most anti-natalists probably didn’t want babies in the first place. So, they probably didn’t stop themselves from having babies to help the climate. It’s that they didn’t want babies and saw one of the perks of that decision as being that it puts less strain on the environment. And then they developed an ideology around that decision as more and more nosy people tried to pressure them into having children. I don’t believe anyone actually makes the decision to not have babies to save the climate. This is why the rhetoric of anti-natalism will always fall flat. But the issue isn’t over-population, it’s the way that society operates that makes it such a burden on our planet. And there are many structural changes we could make to curb things like climate change. Also anti-natalism and concerns about over-population can and often have led to Eco-Fascist eugenic arguments.