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I think that the reason why men tend to resist green is because green takes Masculine-principled values off of the pedestal and critiques their value within the context of contemporary society (things like strength, competition, achievement, trials by fire, hierarchical thinking, dominance, conquest, etc.) In the context of earlier societal structures, these qualities are highly valuable over Feminine-principled qualities... as they help our survival in pre-industrial times. But these values reach a point of diminishing returns very quickly once the progress from the industrial era blooms (which is the impetus for Stage Green to come online in the collective) And it upends male dominance narratives, which are easily fetishized and dangle like a carrot that many men are invested in chasing as it is seen as a salve to shame and disempowerment that men feel in Stages Orange and below. And in this image is a promise to have all needs and wants fulfilled (money, attractive women, respect, status, power, etc.) through embodying this idealized Stage Blueified Masculine image that Stage Orange dangles there as the ultimate meaningful goal for a man to pursue. So, many men hold very tightly to Stage Orange and the idealized image of Stage Blue Masculinity that Stage Orange asserts as ideal Masculinity... where men can imagine having the power imbalances of Stage Blue WITHOUT all the added responsibility and hardship of living in a less developed society. Plus, it can even be difficult to relinquish an attachment to Masculine values over Feminine values for a woman who's patriarchally conditioned... despite that her gains are much more evident. I had a hard time making this shift myself. It took me like 10 years to relinquish the idea that Masculinity is better than Femininity... and all the archetypally Masculine and Feminine values that aren't even labeled as such in the collective that go along with that. So, it can be extra difficult to relinquish and deconstruct these values for men because it feels like golden handcuffs... and losing Stage Orange can feel like a permanent loss of power. And Stage Green is rife with questioning the long-held valuation of Masculine values over Feminine values... and of men over women. The main thing that will help men deconstruct from Stage Orange is to recognize that the power you get from moving up the spiral is far greater than sticking around in Stage Orange... or in larping as Stage Blue. And we begin to see this already... as in the past 10 years, there's been a renaissance of out and proud polarized Masculinity that you see in Manosphere guys, Andre Tate, Donald Trump, Elon Musk, pick-up artists, grind-set entrepreneurs, tech bros, conservative influencers, etc. Before, there was a lot of mystery around this because it was shrouded in the collective Shadow. And 10 years ago, when it first began to break above the surface, a bunch of men were like "Thank God! We're sooo back!" But now, 10 years later, seemingly at the apex of its power... it is laid bare as insecure and easily lampooned by comedians. And that is how we learn to leave it behind collectively.

I've noticed that too. Most men who have developed themselves tend to resist green. So, they end up stuck in Orange with a few Yellow viewpoints around the edges. I can't even think of a man who values personal development who isn't in this bind to some degree or another. And then, Stage Green is the comfort zone for women because all phases before it are quite hellish, unsafe, and disempowering to women. And moving to Yellow and Turquoise requires looking at some really ugly things that are very disempowering to women. So, it's a sticking point for women. So, women will tend to hang out in green once they get there. It's a bit like running away from zombies for many millennia.... and then you finally get to the safe-house. It's not perfect there, but you have to go back out into the zombies and study the zombies and their ways deeply to get to tier two.

With the development of Stage Yellow, the thing to 'show for it' can manifest itself tangibly as friends, community, creativity, and career success. But it's really just the frame of mind... and being able to put on multiple lenses. So, a person would need to develop other skills to actualize the potentials and power that having Yellow multi-perspectival opens you up to. It's very much a "knowledge is power" kind of thing... where multi-perspectival thinking plus strategic skills plus work ethic = desired results. You just become a lot more aware of the levers of power you have to bring about your desired ends because you can find levers of power from many angles and vantage points. But with Stage Turquoise, this is less about intellect and is more about intuition, being, belonging, and basic heart wisdom. It's more of an intuitive sense of belonging within the greater whole of existence itself that requires Stage-Yellow multi perspectival thinking to intellectually parse out... but a small child naturally experiences before all the stuff of society is added. But it requires the intellectual skills learned in Yellow to do the exploration, deconstruction, and subtraction necessary to get to the core of being. It's a bit like Nietzsche's metaphor of beginning life as the camel that is a beast of burden that society lays all sorts of "stuff" onto. Then, being the lion that tears through and devours all the stuff the camel is burdened by (this is what Stage Yellow allows for). And after we go through the phases of the camel and the lion, we get to be child. So, it's much more like a heart wisdom and an immersive recognition of how the whole and parts are one and the same... and an intuitive recognition of the clockwork of reality and how you are part of it and all of it. And there is a deep recognition of belonging within the whole. It's essentially a recognition of the Dao in yourself and outside of yourself... and a total collapse of the false dichotomy of inside and outside. And this can be used to get tangible results that others might recognize as great results. But not necessarily so. It's more about enriching your relationship to yourself and existence at large. It's not really about getting anywhere... it's about being.

Very interesting! How accurate do you feel the AI was in describing you through these people/characters?

My experience has been that fictional characters and famous role models are a great reflection through which we can find parts of ourselves. This is why kids tend to naturally imitate who they admire... as it gives form to yet formless aspects of the personality.

I thought about it. But I decided against it because others felt more resonant. Here are some that I considered but decided to leave on the cutting room floor, given that I could only do 8... Carl Jung The Hindu God Shiva Alice from Alice in Wonderland Bjork Frida Kahlo Luisa from Encanto Thunderella from Happily Ever After Elrond from the Lord of the Rings Vash the Stampede from Trigun

This is an interesting mixture of characters!

Cool! Thank you for sharing. I looked up the ones I was unfamiliar with. I'm getting a sense of the vibe of the mixture of these personalities.

Yes, just feel when you're interested in listening to music and want to move to it. And notice anything that stands in the way. A lot of this is the process of subtracting resistances rather than adding skills.

What Leo is describing in that blog post is a very spontaneous Feminine energy way of approaching dance and your relationship to your body and your emotions. If you're scheduling it in and doing this kind of calculus, it's a very Masculine energy way to approach things. Even the idea of practicing it is kind of iffy because it treats it like a goal to be achieved... which is also Masculine energy. Too Masculine is stiff and nerdy... and systematized and scheduled... and too controlled... like an algorithmic brain in a jar. To really engage in this, operate spontaneously from how you feel and let it come naturally.

If it comes across as needy or desperate that's a problem. And it shouldn't be excessive or at an extreme imbalance. The thing I'm talking about is much more subtle and just woven in to how he shows up. I wish I could do justice in my description of it. But it's very subtle and mundane but makes a huge difference to how it feels to be in a relationship with a guy. Like if a man is serious about making things work with a woman, he will invest time, energy, and resources into the relationship and into her because that's just how he shows up when he's serious. And you can tell by a few months in how interested he is in pursuing something serious by how much of himself he invests in the relationship.

Just for fun, here's a video project that I created when I was 20 years old and in art school. The assignment was that we had to create a piece of art in a medium that we'd never tried before. And I was mostly focused on 2-d art (drawing and painting. So, I chose claymation. And I found a story that I wrote about my dog Pickles and my cat Oliver when I was 7 years old that I called "Double Trouble with Pickles and Oliver." I would frequently write stories about my pets back then. But over the course of 3 days... with a couple cans of Play-doh and a camera, I made a stop-motion animation of the story that had over 1000 still images. Enjoy...

It took me 3 days constantly working from 7am to 2am (those were the hours the art studio at my college was open). So... 18-19 hours per day for 3 days straight... which is about 54-57 hours. But I don't do any art now-a-days. Art was at the very center of my life from the time I was 15 until I was 22. Then, I became a mother at 22. And art took a backseat. Like once I was pregnant (which was happening during my senior BFA) I REALLY did not want to make art. I think it was because all of my creative energy was turned inward. But I was in my last year of college... so I had to push through and make some paintings (they're the pictures of the large heads of my husband with him standing in front of them, which I've added below). But I was really resistant to it. I made one painting when my daughter was a baby of me nursing her, which I never finished. (which I've also posted below) But that was the last complete painting that I made from my own inspiration. From 24-26, I was a high school graphic design teacher... and also a drawing and painting teacher. So, I did lots of art to demo the projects I was having them do. But none of that was really speaking to me in a deep way, though it was good to sharpen the sword. But what my intention is with the new moves I'm making in my business, which will free up some more time for me eventually... is to get back into creating. I want to start painting again... as series of surreal landscapes. And I want to create a book of illustrated fables to teach my insights in a simpler way. I also have an idea for a show that I would like to eventually create... which explores the concept of the Shadow more deeply through the lens of alternate dimensions. So, I anticipate reclaiming creativity in the not so distant future.

Thank you! Here's a plot synopsis... In the story, my dog Pickles and my cat Oliver are out on a walk with me and Pickles breaks the leash and they both run away... leaving me on the ground because I fell over when Pickles broke the leash. Then, they find a ball and they start playing with the ball... but they accidentally knock the ball far away and it goes inside of the door of a spooky mansion. So, Pickles and Oliver go inside the spooky mansion but they're too scared so they run quickly through the house and out the back door because they see the ball in the doorway of the backdoor. And in the back yard of this spooky mansion there is a spooky pond. And this pond is where the swamp monster and the bride of Frankenstein live. And the ball gets pushed over the pond and the swamp monster and the bride of Frankenstein steal the ball and take it under the water with them. And Pickles and Oliver are so scared that they run away. The end!

@LifeEnjoyer Nice! Keep it up! I did open mic comedy once 7 or 8 years ago, and it was fun but a bit stressful to be up in front of everyone.

I don't recommend over-filtering. It's much more intuitive than that. And you should keep your expectations realistic and lead with your heart. What I'm describing is what many women make the mistake of not considering. Hence why it is the advice I'm emphasizing. The intimacy and emotional connection part tends to come easily for most women. And it can even be difficult to sort a man out where there is the potential for intimacy. So, if a woman finds herself having chemistry with a guy... she'd be wise to keep my advice in mind, as these are the things a lot of women tend to throw right out the window when there are some feelings because the feelings are so inviting. And before growing too attached, she'll want to sort out who isn't a good fit or whose feelings for her and investment in her are not at least equal to or greater than hers. If the man's feelings for a woman are equal to or somewhat greater than hers, then things will tend to be more likely to work out. But if the woman likes the man more than he likes her, it's probably not going to work out. Nothing will ever grow there. And she'll get anxious and start chasing which will push him further and further away. My advice is for avoiding the latter situation... which is very common for women and painful, and wastes her time... as plenty of men will still want to hang around because it's convenient. And most women are not taught how to wield that sorting power, so there can be a lot of mis-steps without this information.

I still don't see what the disagreement is. The point of dating is to filter out most people. That's the entire point of the advice is to get really good at sorting. Sort the 99% that doesn't work and isn't compatible to find the 1% that is. And the rest of it is just exactly what I'm saying... or even if not explicitly said, doesn't contradict in any way with what I'm saying.

I think the main thing you're trying to say is that my advice will filter out "marriage guys". But it absolutely won't. That is part of the sorting process for the woman to vet guys based off of longterm compatibility on more than just crushy feelings... and to say no to men who are wishy washy and not that into her. And when you prioritize WHAT you want as the priority, you will naturally pull your energy off of him and back onto yourself and your own boundaries and standards... which gives him space to pursue you and invest in you to earn your appreciation, which is what helps the seeds of love grow for him. That's why I see, "Is he putting in over half of the effort in the courtship process?" as a good litmus test for if he's invested. The things that a lot of women end up doing (and before I learned these things, I did this a TON), is to feel really intense emotions toward a particular guy and begin investing in him and trying to win him over... and sacrificing her boundaries in order to make the relationship work with him. It's really easy for a woman to choose one specific guy who she sees as THE guy for her... and then starting to chase him and pursue him based on potential... and putting him on a pedestal. And that gives him no space to invest or pursue. And that kills it with a guy who does have the seeds of love. And it keeps around low investment situationship guys who just want to hang around and get easy sex.

Yes, if men have the seeds of love for you... those seeds will grow over time. And you can help them grow with the advice in Princess Arabia's video about allowing him to invest and allowing space for his inner child. But if a man does not have the seeds of love for you... there is simply nothing there to grow. The reality is that a man knows quite quickly who he sees as a serious prospect for a longterm romantic relationship and who he will never see in that light... even if she is attractive to him and he likes her as a friend. And a lot of guys look for easygoing low-investment female companionship but will never want to put labels on things or go deeper. And that is what my advice helps women avoid.

It's all observation and experience. My advice is about avoiding low investment situationships... and knowing your boundaries. And through knowing your boundaries you create more space for the man to invest and pursue. There's nothing crazy about this advice. It's pretty straightforward and it works because the greatest power a woman has in finding a good partner is the power of no... and learning to say no to what isn't good for her. Perhaps (if I'm understanding you correctly) you originally felt wishy washy about your partner and didn't feel like you were that into her and saw her as a situationship that you didn't take seriously as a longterm relationship prospect... but over time you grew to fall in love with her? Did I get that right? If not, there's ZERO reason to be arguing with my advice... as it is specifically about weeding out guys that aren't that into you and who don't actually see you as a real relationship prospect. If a guy's not that into you in the beginning... he's going to continue to not be that into you in the future. And you don't want to wast 10 years of your life in an anxiety-producing and unsatisfying situationship where you only ever get breadcrumbs.

I recommend checking out Feminine energy-based dating coaches like Adrienne Everheart, Helena Hart, Rori Raye, Matthew Hussey, Mike Rosenbaum, and the guy whose video you sent me earlier. While every individual has their requirements and deal-breakers, it's not very effective for women to do this kind of calculus as it shifts her mindset out of the Feminine selector role... and has her questioning her value, feeling more insecure, and scarce because "Oh no. What if I get percentages deducted?" This calculus is ultimately counterproductive as the woman must stay in her Feminine frame as the Beloved and ask "Does he fit with me?" instead of being concerned about "Oh no. My score is low. Will he have me?" As a woman, you get what you're willing to tolerate. And if you feel like you're a low value partner, you will tolerate a lot out of desperation... and you'll be unlikely to pair with a man who does value you in particular. But men DO NOT grow to fall in love with you. They're into you or they aren't. They are not persuadable.

Most men aren't consciously looking for marriage as marriage curtails sexual freedom which doesn't appeal to the average man... but will want to marry his partner if he falls in love with her. So, the majority of men aren't interested in marriage until they feel like they've actually found their Beloved. What I would ask you is... are you more motivated by a desire for marriage itself because you just want to get married and you're vetting for someone who pragmatically fits as a lifetime partner? Or are you more motivated by your feelings of love for your specific partner and a desire to spend your life with her in particular? I recommend that women select for the latter as it makes for a more secure and intimate relationship.

My advice is 100% aligned with all the advice in this video... especially the parts about avoiding putting him up on a pedestal, avoiding emasculating behavior, and avoiding the instant relationship scenario. When you lean back as a woman and rest in the Feminine Beloved mode and give him space to pursue and to invest... instead of putting him up on a pedestal and trying to woo him and chase him and give to him like he's the Feminine Beloved, like women frequently make the mistake of doing... he is able to feel appreciated for the efforts he's putting in. And allowing him to invest more in you in the courtship process is about avoiding over-giving and keeping yourself in the receiver role... and then expressing gratitude and appreciating the investments he makes in you so that he gets to feel like a man and that he can play a positive role in your life. That is why I recommend a slight imbalance during courtship where he's putting in over half of the effort. Not only does it help you avoid putting too much energy into a guy who will never be that into you. It also gives the man the ability to step into the Masculine Lover role. Like in the part of the video where he was talking about the woman who tells the guy "You're perfect"... that is a woman who is over-investing her energy in a guy and trying to give to him like SHE would like to be given to. And it's a subtle way to try to control and to have that behavior reciprocated. And when a woman does this, it's just like the example of the woman stepping in and fixing the thing because she knows she can do it better than the guy... only with regard to the courtship itself. When there are subtle attempts to control and manipulate a reciprocal response (even if she is unaware she is doing that), it will send the message "You're doing the courtship wrong. I can do it better than you." This is also true when women nag a man to invest more. It's emasculating and gives him a sense that there is no space for him to invest as he is and be appreciated for what he can bring to your life.

I've watched plenty of this guy's content. He's got great advice. Is there anything in this video in particular you're trying to draw my attention to?

I have a few questions... How old are you? Have you ever felt like you wanted to marry a woman? Have you ever been in love with a woman? How appealing do you find the idea of marriage in general? And how much of a priority is finding a serious relationship and getting married at this juncture in your life? Now, I'm going to make some assumptions about you... which is always dangerous because I could be assuming incorrectly. My assumption is that you're a young guy under the age of 26 who has never been in a serious relationship with a woman nor felt the desire to commit deeply to a specific woman over the longterm. And I also assume that that isn't a high priority for you right now because of your age... and that your focus in more invested in getting better at meeting women and attracting women, rather than finding a longterm partner. If my assumptions are correct, then everything that I've said will probably feel unrelatable to you. And that makes sense from your perspective as you're focusing on a totally different type of dynamic that's more based in the attraction phase of relationships. This advice around investment I'm giving is more for the range of a couple months into dating.