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@Revolutionary Think High school graphic design. But I also had a couple drawing and painting courses my second year. But prior to and after that, I have been a substitute teacher. So, I've been in a lot of different classrooms from Headstart pre-k all the way up to teaching 22 year-olds at the technical high school. I also frequently sub in self-contained ESE classrooms. So, my classroom experiences have been varied. Most often, I teach middle schoolers though.

I knew you understood because of our conversation.

It was moreso to take victim's mentality to level 11, so that it shows the absurdity of it. And to also show the emotional rollercoaster of what victim's mentality feels like, and what a release a person might get out of it. I talked to Mikael on a post the other day about it being like a release to succumb to victim's mentality and self-deprecation. In a sense, it's a lot like the emotional version of cutting and other forms of self flagellation and self harm. It's done for a release. And I talked about how there is a tendency of those with victim's mentality to manipulate others into giving them their "fix." So, they say things like "I'm useless and I can't change." Then others step in to disagree with them and share with them the error in their thinking, by saying "Hey. You have victim's mentality. You could change if you wanted to." Then, they get the pleasure/pain of responding with something really self-deprecating to engage in that release again with he resistance of another person intensifying the release. It's kind of like how it's really hard to punch a tissue... but it's easy to punch a wall. The resistance intensifies the release. So, I just decided to go balls to the wall with the notion of victim's mentality, to make those emotional sweeps and releases more apparent to him and to others on the forum. If you really follow what I wrote and try to empathize with someone who believes in the extremes of what I wrote (which of course would be totally absurd), you can see what kind of thrill/release a person might get in abandoning themselves to hopelessness in a harsh and chaotic world that's out to get us.

Gee... I guess you're right... everyone like you who thinks they're helpless and unable to change is totally correct, and as an expert victim of circumstance yourself, you know an inherent victim when you see one. They might as well not even be on this forum to try to change because it's futile. You're just not one of the normal people who can change. You're just a strange exception to the rule and are so ineffably hopeless that it's beyond your capacity to do anything for yourself. This makes you special and different... perhaps even a little deeper than other non-victims who haven't realized the inherent wickedness of life on Earth. You might as well check yourself into a home for hopeless cases because it's not victim's mentality... you LITERALLY are a victim.... a victim of the sad, sick, hopeless world that hates your very presence in it. So, victim's mentality for you an you only is just the utmost realism. In fact, even inanimate objects hate you and wish you suffering. Only one who has truly accepted their victimhood can realize this. And you have ben wise enough to realize your inherent victim status. If a car were coming right at you (without its owner... just because the car hates you and everything you stand for), you wouldn't even be able to register its presence and duck out of the way of harm, as you are totally right that you're totally helpless and can never make changes that benefit you. And if you ever came up against the slightest adversity, your body would immediately disintegrate into a pile of dust like a vampire exposed to the sun. You are the ultimate victim... the Metatron of victims... which makes you the best of the victims... or is it the worst of the victims... at any rate the "something-est" of the victims. So, of course you have victim's mentality... victims are right to have victim's mentality. And you are the master of victimhood. Best not even to try anymore and accept your superior inferior status as top victim. If an ant punched you, you would have to go to the hospital immediately as all your blood would be quickly leaving your body. If a cow looked at you the wrong way, you would shrivel where you stand. And reality hates you so much that it plans to suck you into the sky one day, and tear off all your skin, then spit you back out to make you wonder the desert as a skeleton for the rest of you misbegotten life. And even in death, you will still be a victim for eternity, wondering the deserts of hell as a skeleton. ... But seriously though, just stop. You know your full of it.

More-so the terms for all the gender delineations exist for the use of people that are in the gray areas, and not so much other people who aren't non-binary like you and me. In the non-binary communities, these terms actually mean something of substance to them and aide them in getting to know themselves better. So, to use a blanket term, would not serve this same purpose, as the value of the term lies in the specificity of the definition. But most people who are non-binary don't require that people address them with these identities or even really know a lot about them. They usually use they/them/their pronouns, which is how they mostly prefer to be addressed. And it's a safe bet to use these terms for trans-people as well. I guess there might be some people who get fancy and prefer that people use some really uncommon pronouns like xir, xim, or all those other ones. But I've never met or seen anyone who preferred those to they/them/their which are a lot closer to common uses of the English language.

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Don't try to balance them. The conscious mind rarely knows the proper "balance." Just own whatever energies happen to be there, and remove limiting beliefs and barrier to those energies. When you get rid of resistance, those energies will do whatever they're naturally supposed to do without the conscious mind having to be involved at all. For most men, they'll be mostly masculine with some feminine. For most women, they'll be mostly feminine with some masculine. But everyone has a unique Yin/Yang signature. So, instead of trying to keep masculine and feminine in balance, which is a very active process, just own and allow whatever happens to there. But gender is a huge contributing factor. So, it does actually have quite a bit to do with gender. But everyone's Yin/Yang signature is different, and some men are more feminine and some women are more masculine and some people are closer to the middle of the spectrum with a 50/50 split. So, there are plenty of exceptions to the rule. But gender has a huge correlation with how one's energetic signature is composed.

I understand what you're saying and why you would say that. But I was pretty much a newbie when I found the resources that I recommended. And it will get them immediately acquainted with the feminine principle from the get-go. And it's not the type of material that a beginner will struggle with as much of it is just recognizing what has always been there but never been given words. For me, it was like a breath of fresh air as I had always been having to step out of my natural energy to function. And I know that if I had started with something else, I wouldn't be as grounded as I am. When I began reading from the authors that I recommended, I saw in them the best possible older version of myself if I continued to develop myself in the areas of the feminine. All the authors I listed are either in their 70s or 80s or dead. And they give their work in a very relatable way through stories about their lives and how myths, archetypes, dreams, and the divine have played a role. And it really opened up an entire facet of myself that I had scarcely been able to name. Nothing else ever fit quite as well. I threw myself into it for a year, and I learned more in that year than any other year of my life. But most of the mainstream feminine stuff that caters to women is actually just masculine with a feminine facade. That's why it's made its way to the mainstream. If it were truly feminine, it wouldn't make it there. That's why I said, you have to look somewhat underground if you want really high quality feminine content.

Don't do this. You have to go underground if you want high quality material. All the feminine stuff that's mainstream is very milquetoast.

Thank you for recommending me!

Check out the work of Jean Raffa... especially her blog and book, "Healing the Sacred Divide". She also has a TON of resources listed in the bibliographies of her books all about the integration of the feminine principle, dreams, and the unconscious. She, like most of the others that she recommends is an author working under the Jungian framework Also... "The Heroine's Journey" by Maureen Murdoch (as an alternative to "The Hero's Journey") "The Pregnant Darkness" by Monica Wikman "Goddesses in Every Woman" by Jean Shinoda Bolen "Androgyny" by June Singer Also, anything from Marian Woodman and Merlin Stone are good places to start. You can also check out my YouTube channel, as @Etherial Cat recommended. I have a lot of stuff about Yin/Yang, Masculine/Feminine, and other polarities like it. There's probably about 6 or 7 videos on my channel that relate in some way to the feminine principle and the divine feminine.

Again, this feels a little blind to the deeper patterns at work. I work in the public school system (no one there is a RICH douchebag... I assure you.), and I have been in some form of teaching role in many different classrooms over the course of the past 10 years. And I came in bright eyed and bushy tailed at the idea of reforming the education system from the inside to make school more interesting and challenging. I always felt that I was always getting watered down course work throughout my school years. I assume that a lot of people who are interested and capable of high level learning tend to think this way as they believe everyone is mostly like them. And I thought that students who did poorly were just not properly applying themselves. But once you see things from the other side of the desk, it becomes quite clear that the education system is complex and the positives and TRUE negatives tend to be taken for granted. And that my issues with lack of creativity were the very least of the issues. I was already a person who was going to go on to higher education and who had the intellectual capacity to learn without an instructor if I wanted to. I always thought the teacher was kind of an extra helper in the classroom and that the learning happened mostly independently. But the majority of students NEED the teacher... and not just because they don't want to do the work. For about 1/3 of students school is like a really intense workout for them. The bigger priorities come about in that it provides kids a sense of community, a routine to follow, the ability to participate in social roles, access to mentors, the ability to strengthen their thinking capabilities through thorough linguistic and mathematic education... and for some, an ability to escape a toxic situation for six hours a day. Plus, I've been in all sorts of classrooms on all grade levels as a sub, long-term sub, and as a full-time teacher. The honors kids are catered to plenty enough. And if they don't develop a sense of creativity and work ethic on their own, it can only come down on their shoulders. When you're a teacher, you only have so much time and energy. And most teachers work 50+ hours per week, much of which is on their own time. So, if you want to teach a class with Jimmy who has an IQ of 87 and Jake who has an IQ of 130 and Suzie with an IQ of 120 but with an SLD, and Sheila with an IQ of 115 but her mom sells her for money to random men (based on a true story btw), and Beth with an IQ of 52 but she was mainstreamed because your class is an elective... but she doesn't even know how to work a keyboard, then 20 other normies with their own stuff, and then finding a way to make your lessons fit with all of them and their unique circumstances is a huge part of doing that job. But the priority academically isn't going to be Jake and his personal enrichment and jazzing things up for Jake so that he finds coursework more interesting. The focus is going to be about getting everyone else at a level they can function at in life. And they're never going to break from routine because of Sam, Tim, Gina, Tina, and Ray are on the autism spectrum and get thrown way off if schedules change unexpectedly. Plus, the five students in every class who are just waiting for there to be a point of weakness in the schedule so that they can side-track the lesson so that they don't have to do something that they struggle with. Also, if you expect to give students a truly creative project with the standards totally in their hands, you can expect that 80% will totally fail at it. And in the remaining 20%, 19% will produce worse creative work than if you gave them clear standards. But 1% of students will flourish and be enlivened by the creativity. I was always one of those students as creativity is a strong suit of mine. So, I was like "Why isn't there more stuff like this? Why isn't school geared more toward creativity?" But now I see why. I was blind to my own privileges. Now, if you want to talk about inadequately preparing students for life, okay. We definitely should have mindfulness in the morning and secular yoga. Then all the usual cores. Then interesting elective. But the main thing that's missing is classes about how to handle emotions and relationships as well as practical adult situations. We're not preparing kids for the unpleasant realities of adulthood either.

Mostly Red/Blue/Orange. But it can be Green too, but that's rare. It tends to present as mostly Orange with quite a lot of shadow Red and Blue in many of PUAs. Green - "I like sex and so do women. I want to have lots of it for the sake of a novel pleasurable mutual experience, but I'm not interested in settling down. I want to explore my sexuality." Orange - "I want to have sex with lots of women to validate my social status." aka vagina as social currency to validate one's own existence within the materialistic society. In Orange, sex is currency and is a purely transactional experience, where a man uses his status to make a "sex purchase" from a woman who is the "pussy gatekeeper". Blue - "Female sexuality should be controlled through the institution of marriage. Therefore, women who are slutty have proven themselves non-virtuous. Therefore, I (as a man) can seek anonymous sex with loose women as they have proven themselves to be morally deficient and thus unworthy of significance in my life and in general. Degenerates have no place in society anyway. But my future wife will be virtuous and chaste, and I will treat her like a delicate flower, provide for her, and make all the decisions." Red - "Women are literal property. I will amass as many women to my harem as I can because I always get my way. And I will kill any man who even looks at my women." (followed by Guteral monkey noises and lots of knuckle dragging) - (in Orange sex from a woman is currency. In Red, women themselves are currency.)

To be honest, it feels a little more decadent than revolutionary. I could see it easily become a bunch of ideological rich guys who fancy themselves intellectuals paying lots of money to fly on a plane and do armchair philosophy with their equally rich buddies. Then, there's also the air pollution element. I think only extremely rich people would even consider taking a flight just for fun. And that most would do it as a status symbol. But most of all, it doesn't feel like it would have a positive and consciousness raising effect on society. It would just be a fun thing for people who are already doing well, and enriching their status quo. But if you like this idea, you could totally do it. But I don't see it as a consciousness raising idea.

Integrate your inner feminine or else suffer forever with these insecurities.

Thank you. I haven't done one talking too much about contemporary topics relative to gender, as I feel like it's too close to the political debates of today to yield good results. The core of what I'm saying would be missed, and it would devolve into a political debate. So, because my channel is about consciousness work, it would be a distraction and may even cause an aversion in some people who would otherwise be interested in consciousness work, to add in an extensive amount of information about controversial topics in the political arena. The way I see it is that if I'm able to succeed in making people more conscious and empathetic, that they will naturally realize the reason behind the multiple genders idea and will be able to understand the value it provides to some people. But I have quite a few videos about Yin and Yang, the Feminine Principle and the Masculine Principle, the Divine Feminine, the Anima and Animus, and other related topics. These will give quite a lot of information on the topic, which should illuminate a lot of things about how gender works in the first place psychologically, energetically, and socially. And from there, it can be extrapolated why there are common patterns in gender expression as well as exceptions to those patterns.

Gender is about identity, and as such is inherently contrived. You can decide that you're a man, woman, or somewhere in the middle, or neither, because all identity (including gender identity) is inherently false, as it is an ego construct. So, if there are trans/genderqueer people who say that man and woman is a construct, they are correct. When there are people who say that the multitude of genders is made up, they are also correct. All identity is a contrivance. But because all identity is inherently contrived, it's in a person's best interest to choose whichever one they feel most comfortable with and whichever one serves as the best and widest lens for their Yin/Yang signature to be expressed. The identity is the lens for the more subtle aspects of our nature. It's how nature and nurture work together to create an outward expression. So, if someone assigned male at birth, genuinely has a lot of Yin energy, they may feel like the identity of "woman" is a better lens for which to express their natural energy. To identify with maleness, would be an innapropriate lens as it would block their most basic essence from being expressed fully. Or if someone feels like neither male nor female are good lenses for their most basic nature, they may consider themselves genderfluid or genderqueer. Knowing these words as concepts can help people navigate their relationship to the gender spectrum. The reason why all these delineations of gender exist, is because some people have a genuinely complex relationship to gender and their place on the gender spectrum. So, they invent new terms for better understanding. It's kind of like how in Florida, there is like three words for snow that we might use, as we don't really deal with snow that often... in fact we never do. But in Eskimo language, there are like 30 different words that mean snow with like slight variations on the meaning. This is because Eskimos have a much more complex relationship to snow than Floridians like myself. For someone who feels comfortable with the gender identity that matches with their biological sex, it may seem silly to make up these identities. We take so much for granted that gender isn't a part of identity and think of it as just a fact of who we are. We don't really have to think about it because the default works for us. But for some, the default doesn't work, and I think if these different gender delineations help them know and express themselves better, then I can't see it as anything else than a positive thing. Identity is important to people. People want to identify certain ways that make them feel happier and more fulfilled. Gender identity as an extension of that is a very important aspect of identity.

I take this short reply as a sign that you recognized your own machinations at work for a moment in reading my post, and had to leave everything on the table without addressing it. I've been in similar mindsets to you in the past, so I know the way my mind worked then. And I see the same tendencies in you. Sometimes it just feels good to catastrophize, self-flaggelate, and surrender to utter hopelessness. It's like this fetid rush followed by a partial letting go and relaxation mixed with some painful emotions. And there's a strange kind of pleasure/pain there to have in self-flaggelating and then giving up. So, it's not that you can't change... It's that if you recognized that you could change, you'd be unable to get your fix. This you extract from others by posting about your utter hopelessness, which creates many trigger points for you to get your fix. You can subtly manipulate others to say, "No. You're wrong. You can change your life." To which you reply, "No I can't. I'm a hopeless loser who no woman would ever want." And in typing those self-deprecating words, you can feel the emotions you crave to feel. Deep down, I know you don't really believe that you can't change. Also, there is probably a fear of change... or moreso a fear of failure, if you invest the time and emotional energy to make a change.

@Mikael89 Ask yourself what it is that you get out of thinking this way about yourself and women. You seem to get a kind of masochistic pleasure out of self-flagellating and exaggerating your own helplessness, as well as exaggerating and catastrophizing about the supposed cruelty and impossibility female sexual attraction. I'm not going to come to you and tell you that you're fine. That's part of the way you're getting whatever self-deprecating satisfaction you get out of thinking this way, is by people telling you you're wrong. It give you more stimulus to be able to double down and self-flaggelate to. Some people cut themselves to feel that feverishness and then a strange release. But you 'cut yourself' emotionally instead. You like on some level to feel the pain. Deep down, you and I both know that you know that your worldview is distorted. But if you admitted that to yourself, you would actually have to take action to change the status quo... something you are afraid to do. Plus, if you're getting such a strange masochistic rush out of self-flaggelating, there's a kind of comfort that comes with it in that if we all ourselves a hopeless piece of shit, then we don't ever have to change because we hopeless pieces of shit. Victim's mentality hurts so good, that it's additive.

I don't recommend engaging with this kind of fetish. If you identify with the masochistic role, and climax to images of men (that you're identifying with) being harmed by women, then it's going to create and strengthen a neural pathway and thus an association between extreme pleasure and self-degradation. And this will be engrained almost like it's in your muscle memory, and it will make it more difficult to climax when you're not either imagining yourself being abused or actually having a woman abuse you. I've dealt with a masochistic leanings in the past, and I do think it's a reflection of some other issue as opposed to just normal spicier sexuality. But I always noticed that I alway felt terrible after I would climax because I had just associated the extremes of sexual pleasure with my own objectification, subjugation, and sense of powerlessness. So, it was a mixed bag of sexual excitement plus all the negatives that made me feel lesser in the first place. Perhaps it was more clear to me as being unhealthy because I'm a woman. And there are images everywhere of women being submissive, objectified, and sexualized. And I've had this projected onto me many times in the past, which is unpleasant. So, I always thought, this probably isn't just something that I like during sex... this is probably something that is indicative of deeper issues and traumas form my past. Probably, it has a lot to do with repression of my sexuality in general coupled with past sexual traumas. I could see the potential that men, who are seen as normal for wanting novel sexual experiences, could come to find it much easier to like what they like sexually without it feeling abnormal. So, I could see a man get into something like this, and just think "Oh well. I like kinky stuff. This is probably normal. Everything's consensual and I like what I like." And if that kinky stuff is centered around self-subjugation, it could potentially just feel like good fun that doesn't actually bear out in your own life, because there isn't a lot of images of sexually subjugated men floating around everywhere and being used to sell things. So, the connection between your sense of objectification/inferiority and your sexuality is unclear. But there is likely a deep objectified/inferior feeling that you carry with you. I would look for that to find the core of this issue. So, I would honestly consider what it is that you get out of this fetish, and figure out where it comes from. Also, I would work on training yourself to climax more to your imagination and real life vanilla sexual encounters, as opposed to these third-person perspective images of women abusing men. Your neural pathways that allow you to climax during real-life intimate (non-role-playing/femdom) sex, are probably weaker because it's easier to climax to the extreme violent images as they're so extreme and the neural pathways have been well-established. So, strengthen the neural pathways around actual intimate vanilla sex, by learning to associate pleasure with less extreme and more reality based sex-acts.

Look at these sexy bitches. I'm gettin' all hot and bothered just lookin' at 'em... Especially the Hitler-looking guy. He's like double evil, so he's like double hottie. He's a serial killer who looks like Hitler... how much sexier can one possibly get?!?!? Honestly, you should know that what you said is bollocks. The only women who go for these kind of guys are deeply scarred women with no standards. And they go for them specifically because they have not standards, and feel like no one else will want them. And the women tend to be meth heads and like someone who rides a motorized scooter in Walmart at 3 am in a slum. They're usually just as dysfunctional as the guy.

I agree. That's why I've been in such long-term relationships. I value monogamy as it is (in my opinion) the most stable relationship structure. But I also recognize that monogamy begets lots of sexual repression as well, which has to be addressed and integrated in some way or another. That said, I do think that some people can pull off polyamory. It just doesn't really work for me. It's not appealing to imagine myself with multiple boyfriends or girlfriends. It just doesn't feel intimate enough. And many people who are polyamorous tend to be that way because they're flakey or unable to commit. But technically, my relationship with my husband is an open relationship. One insight that I had had during my experiences of ego transcendence, that occurred just slightly before my promiscuous streak, was that adding the idea of "only one person forever" was actually creating a lot of noise and bitterness to the relationships that didn't need to be there. So, I told my husband (then boyfriend) that if he wants to sleep with someone else as some point, that I'd let him do it as long as it didn't destabilize the relationship. And even though he was not really comfortable with it, he tried to extend the same courtesy to me. But ultimately, he never has taken me up on this open-ness nor have I. But I know it took a lot of pressure off of him, as he didn't have to think, "If this one works out, I will never have the freedom to experience anyone else sexually ever again." That's a really heavy psychological weight to have to bear and it really does add a lot of bitterness and fear to an otherwise beautiful thing. But I personally don't quite know how to reconcile all of this, if a person is not polyamorous. Polyamory is probably the only way to really get both. But again, I just don't feel like that's for me. And I suspect that a truly functional and stable polyamorous is rare at this point in history, because it is still part of humanity's shadow as its not socially acceptable. So, many times the only people who are open to it are people who have no care for social acceptability. This is what happens when something is in the shadow. Only the least socially accepted people are going to be brave enough to try it, because they don't have anything left to lose. But with this social rejection, many of them have become dysfunctional. But I'm sure those desires can be transcended if they're integrated properly as well.

When I was with my first boyfriend from age 16 -20 who I lost my virginity to, over the fours years we were together I swallowed many curiosities about what it would be like to experience other men. I didn't really admit to myself that I wanted this, because I was ashamed of these feelings and I loved him very much. I was also very moralistic about sexuality and monogamy. But beneath the surface, I was always curious what it was like to experience other partners, and it left me with this feeling of being trapped between a rock and hard place. Luckily, that relationship ended when I was 20... as it was a terrible relationship for TOTALLY other reasons. And I had a brief promiscuous streak, with several one night stands a couple of brief flings. And by the time I was done with those sex capades, I had no idealized version or fantasy about what being with other guys or going home with strangers that I met at bars was like. It's not as epic as the movies make it seem. It was somewhat enjoyable physically and emotionally exciting the first few times. But it quickly got boring, and it made me a bit jaded as well because of some negative situations that happened toward the end. I also had a lot of societal beliefs about becoming less valuable every time I had sex with someone, as I had not yet explored or unpacked these ideas. So, now that I am with my husband (we've been together for 8 1/2 years), I don't feel like I've missed out on anything in the hooking up department. I don't have a desire to be promiscuous. But if I had remained with my first boyfriend, and hadn't experienced those sexual adventures, I think I'd be constantly bothered and regret missing out on something. So, I would definitely find a way to address this issue, as it is weighing on you. If she's open-minded, you can try bringing it up to her. But most people are not that open, and feel negatively if their partner has a sexual desire that strays from them. But if we're all honest, I'm pretty sure that everyone has more intense attraction to other people than to their long-term partner, as they are used to their long-term partner. It's hard to desire strongly what you already have, and human emotions just don't really work that way. We're designed to have those strong "hot and bothered" emotions only in the first few months of a relationship with a new partner. So, it's not a wonder why people miss that feeling. It's one of the best feelings there is. Unfortunately our societal norms are built in such a way that we have to swallow many of our most natural desires and emotions and repress them away. Sexuality is frustrating for this reason, as it's difficult to reconcile with societal norms and the flow of human social interactions. Even still, I am a monogamous person, even though I don't think this is the most natural way of being for human beings. But I do think it's one of the more functional ways to exist at the same time. Sexuality is a tough nut to crack (or bust hahaha).

@universe It's best to think of things in terms of masculine principle/feminine principle and Yin/Yang, as opposed to man/woman. People are energetically androgynous by their very nature. And being too identified with ideas of manhood or womanhood will cover over our ability to experience the true interplay between the masculine and feminine that occurs within us and within reality as a macrocosm. So, if we identify too strongly with manhood or womanhood, we will cut off a significant part of our Yin/Yang energetic signature. And speaking psychologically, we will cut ourselves off from our Anima and/or our Animus. A well developed person allows the Yin and Yang in themselves to flow freely and be in constant intercourse with one another, which creates an electricity between the two natures that accrues more libidinal energy. It is this allowance of opposites to intermingle chaotically within us that creates the tension and energy necessary for psychological, emotional, and spiritual growth. So, I find that a lot of men, because they associate empowerment with societally constructed masculine gender roles based on a caricature of masculinity and the idea of male dominance. And they also tend to desire women at the extremes of femininity and beauty. So, they tend to get caught in the trap of repressing their Yin energy to the extreme. And it doesn't help that society's values mirror this Yin repression. They think, if I am like a woman, then I will lessen my status and fewer women will be attracted to me and I will have less power and I will fall in the hierarchy. So, they contort themselves out of shape to fit into those social roles and reject their feminine aspect (the Yin energy). And they shift away from their authentic self. And because their feminine energy is blocked, it cannot be in intercourse with the masculine or flow freely and chaotically. So, their energy gets stagnant and they can't accrue the libidinal energy necessary for growth. As a result, they're emotions begin to go bitter and stale with lots of hatred and projection. And they feel disconnected from their own feminine nature, which is then projected onto women as a whole group. They reject the feminine, and this mirrors onto women in the form of feeling rejected by them. The disowned Anima in a man will become spiteful because of the rejection and seek revenge on him through projection and creating an illusory version of reality where women hold all the power over him and he is powerless to them. And he will spend his time feeling vengeful toward women. So, it's a pretty nasty trap to fall into, and it's INCREDIBLY common. It's called Anima possession. And the primary cause is taking societally constructed gender roles too seriously, and disowning so much of themselves as a result. Also, being a woman, I hear people make these kinds of generalizations all the time. And some of them, I'm like "That doesn't fit me, but I can see that there is a general pattern like that." But more often than not, I'm like "Nope. Totally a misrepresentation." It's best to get to know your own feminine nature than make guesses or listen to other men about women as you (and probably Osho too) can't know their internal motivations and what makes them tick. I've been in this woman vehicle for 29 years, and I'm always learning new things about it that I didn't have enough subtlety or sensitivity to pick up on in earlier years. So, it takes quite a bit of nuance and first-hand experience to speak intelligently about female nature in general, without sounding ignorant or heavy handed. And to me, it's quite clear to me that your insight about female nature is nothing more than an intellectual speculation about the female experience from afar. But if you don't yourself embody your own feminine nature, you cannot be aware of female nature in general. This is one of the subtle benefits of being a woman. Society doesn't mind us embodying the masculine too much, because society views the masculine as superior to the feminine. Also, society is built in tune with the masculine principle. And even all the defaults tend to be set to the male perspective including default pronouns. So, women have a whole life-time of having to shift into the masculine perspective, in order to function in society. So, it's not uncommon for many women to understand men quite well and be able to empathize with them. But most men never actually shift into the feminine perspective as society punishes it, and society isn't set up in such a way that it requires them to do so. So, they tend to get stuck only existing in the masculine perspective. As a result, women are a huge mystery to them. And even trying to empathize would be a major shift out of their comfort zone. This especially hits them hard in the sphere of dating and attraction, because men who have no access to their feminine side have NO IDEA what makes them attractive. So, watch out for this trap. Just notice and accept whatever is there without getting to into social ideas around these energies.

I watch Charisma on command from time to time. I think it's pretty useful from what I've seen. I've never really field tested anything though. I mostly just used it as a "good to be aware of" kind of thing, as opposed to actively trying to practice anything.