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That's an interesting question. From the perspective of power dynamics, the answer is no. Straight white men do hold the most potential for power in society, and they are seen as default. So, because of the way people understand the world, straight white men are in the most optimal position to be in power. This doesn't mean that all straight white men get that power... but they are at least in the race for receiving the lion's share of the all the potential power if they can rank in the hierarchies of society. But power dynamics are only one perspective... and they aren't even the perspective to look at that will actually effectively "cure" the issues that happen within the power dynamics perspective. But from the perspective of emotions and authenticity, the more the expectation of power and responsibility is place upon a person, they will have tremendous difficulties with being in touch with emotions and being authentic. There is a fear of losing one's status within the hierarchy if somebody feels obligated to have power. And men are strictly punished for not being "man enough." I see this in a lot of men. So, they have issues with being in touch with their feminine side. This causes Anima possession, where men basically repress their feminine side. Then their feminine side is in the Shadow and that feminine aspect of self is resentful because it's in the Shadow. So, this repressed feminine side desperately wants to A.) Seek revenge on the man who rejected it, by making him feel rejected. and B.) Be reintegrated. So, the Anima develops a push/pull kind of relationship with the man. So, the Anima projects itself onto women as a whole group, and mirrors the same sense of worthlessness and rejection that it has experienced. And it manifests as a deep resentment of women who are seen as all-powerful purveyors of male worth and status... the desire for which is why the man rejects his feminine side to begin with. And every time a man is turned down by a woman, the scorn of the Anima is projected upon the situation making it feel much worse making him feel powerless in the same way she has felt when the man turned "her" down. Then, this is also coupled with a sexual obsession. This obsession comes from desperate desire to reconnect with the feminine side and reintegrate the Anima. So, the Anima projects itself onto certain women or sometimes a particular feminine ideal (aka hot chicks in general). So, there becomes an obsession with seeking sex with women because it is the only acceptable outlet they feel safe in being in touch with the feminine. So, this causes a simultaneous misogyny and sexual obsession rolled into one... which in turn creates many issues for women power-wise as it makes it more difficult for them to own their femininity and thus their power. The man's inner woman is too jealous to allow that to happen. So, being a man is not a walk in the park by any means. Many of the obstacles men have are quite difficult. But they aren't really related to the potential for social power. There is nothing in their image that stops them from being recognized in that way, which women don't get to have. But with that potential for power comes a lot of expectations, responsibilities, inauthenticities, and fears. And the potential social punishments for not matching up to the ideals of masculinity set out by society.

Green SJWs against all the Blue Conservatives and their traditional value and Orange Libertarians and their money as conveyor of personal worth, status, and character. So to think Orange to Green revolutions think women's marches, Occupy Wall Street, getting money out of politics, Black Lives Matter, Third Wave Feminism, LGBT acceptance, the body positivity and fat acceptance movements, #MeToo, Intersectionality, Vegan activism, environmental activism (like the straws thing), and other such progressive movements. But Liberals aren't the only people progressing up the spiral. In fact, there has already been a major shift in the Conservative way from a more Blue traditional ways to the more Orange Libertarian ways. In fact, I'd wager that the average millennial Conservative is probably a Libertarian as opposed to the Conservative of old like the church-going, moralistic type of person. Then Liberals ever since around 2012, have begun shifting from a more Orange and Libertarian meritocratic way of thinking about the world... like "give everyone the freedom to be successful and pull themselves up by their bootstraps by virtue of their own individual character." to a social systems perspective that's very Green. In fact, many current liberals and leftists have left behind Libertarian beliefs that they now see as quite regressive. But some Liberals have not progressed. This is why a lot of Libertarian Conservatives (who used to be considered progressive) call themselves "Classic Liberals." They are ultimately Conservative by today's standards, but they like to identify with the Liberal values of ten years ago as they still see themselves as Liberal. And they feel like their Liberal identity has been hi-jacked by a bunch of idiots. But it's just a natural shift. It's just that a lot of Conservatives have caught up with them on the spiral, and many Liberals have progressed up the spiral to something they can't yet relate to and aren't aware of yet. But with regard to Green, you can tell it's a Green revolution because it looks to create positive change in social systems to help the marginalized and create a truly fair society. And they get very upset by heresy because their cause is important to them, and they see enemies of that cause to be enemies to justice and fairness... which certainly has a lot of merit. They just tend to think it's done on purpose, where for most people they're just not seeing things from the wider perspective.

This doesn't really sound like her using you. It just sounds like she is a bit immature and doesn't know that it's not always appropriate to talk about these topics to you in the same way she and her girlfriends might talk. She also should develop a little bit more awareness about what men generally like to talk about versus what women generally like to talk about. I see it as the equivalent of a guy always steering the conversation to a very stereotypically male topic of conversation (like body-building or something like that that a lot of women an't related to), and not being aware when the women he's talking to are getting bored. Female friends tend to like to talk about relationships and guys. And to me, when I was younger and single, those conversations with my female friends were always exciting because it gave me a chance to talk about the guy that I liked or to get validation if there were troubles. So, it always felt good and like an intimate friendship thing. When I was in middle school, my friends and I would always talk on the phone (this was before texting). And our favorite topic was boys and anything kind of sexual or taboo... since we were preteens and it was all very exciting and new. And we would always see how many people we could get on the phone line to talk... I think our record was 7 or 8 people. So, it was always a bunch of girls and my friend Joe. And he would understandably complain sometimes about how the conversation would be a little one-track sometimes where the conversation would end up steering to conversations about boys, which he couldn't relate to. Now, it wasn't so bad because we would also talk about shows we liked, our thoughts on the world, or just randomness too. So, it just sounds like your friend is a little bit unaware socially and perhaps has difficulty switching topics. So, I'm going to guess this isn't special treatment for you in particular. It's probably what she likes to talk about in general around all her friends and that she doesn't pick and choose the conversation topics to cater to the person. So, I'm more inclined to see it as a lack of awareness in what the person she's talking to is interested in, and not picking up social cues.

Nothing is ever completely empty of self-focus. Even someone who has transcended the ego does things out of self-focus. It's just that they realize that the self doesn't stop at the barrier of their skin. So, it's normal that your life-purpose is done for ego reasons if you have an ego. There is no escaping it, and you didn't choose it, and it doesn't make you a bad person. Just accept it's the best you can do for now, and continue focusing on becoming more aware. And know that self-focus will still be a thing, even beyond ego.

Funny... I just made a video that relates to the idea of possession. It's about something that happened with me back when I was ten.

I think that this is something that happens in a guy's mind, as opposed to the girl's. The girl probably would just think that the guy is her friend and treat him as such. So, this means talking about things that made here feel this way and that way. That's how women talk to their friends. They don't change their friendship style to accommodate someone's gender. But in the guy's mind he think's he's being 'used for emotional support' because male friendships are different and non-emotional and he has a sexual agenda. So, to him, it seems like "How dare she use me for emotional support, when all I wanted a relationship/sex." But the reality of the matter is that the guy was just pretending to be her friend to get with her... and she didn't reciprocate the feelings. But that's a very bitter pill to swallow. So, a lot of guys rewrite it to make themselves feel better. So, it probably feels a lot better for a man to say, "She used me for emotional support and put me in the friend zone." as opposed to "I pretended to be a girl's friend just to get in her pants, but then she wasn't attracted to me so I kept pretending to be her friend... with resentment." It's easier to project that the girl is the user in the situation. But I don't really think that your situation qualifies as that. Usually it happens when a guy becomes a girl's friend just to get in her pants or to potentially date her. But the girl isn't attracted to him and sometimes doesn't realize that he likes her, so she treats him like her friends. Then the guy makes up stories about friend zones and using him for emotional support.

From a woman's perspective, I can tell you it's possible. I see 99.5% of men in a completely platonic way, so it's rare that I develop an attraction at all... even when I was single. It was always only one guy that ever caught my attention at a time. So, literally everyone else was platonic to me or platonic with a very mild possibility of future attraction. So, this never got in the way of my friendships with guys. Now, a lot of these guys would end up getting crushes on me that weren't reciprocated. So, that complicated things. And it sucks to have a guy-friend get angry at you and tell you point-blank that your friendship "wasted my time", when you just enjoyed that guy's friendship and all he saw you as was a potential sexual partner. But this has helped me screen people out better, to avoid low-quality relationships. At this age, I can tell generally who values my company and who doesn't, and when a friendship will be a waste of my time. It becomes easier to intuit with experience. So, the male friends that I currently have are really great. They come into town every once in a great while and we'll go out to get coffee, to a bar, or to a comedy club. Most of them are into politics, and one of them works in D.C. in the department responsible for fixing the financial deficit. So, I tease him about not doing a good job. But we have fun times. Now, I'm also bi-sexual. So, I'm attracted to probably about half of my female friends... but most I've never been attracted to in a serious way. So, that doesn't really get in the way of my female friendships either.

@eskwire I have dealt with a lot of what you're talking about. The masculine principle rules the world, and the feminine principle is largely suppressed. So, if you were a smart little girl, most likely you learned quickly to avoid associating yourself too much with the feminine to get praise and avoid social scorn. And you may have even decided that your least favorite color was pink too and that you're really more like one of the guys... These are common, anyway. Having said that, over the course of the past century or so there has been a lot of progress made in terms of the re-emergence of the Divine Feminine in human society. A lot of it has been in the form of priming society to be ready for such a re-emergence. But the biggest issue at this point, is that most people don't recognize their anti-feminine biases. And most who are actually looking to undo anti-feminine biases are only looking as far as women's status in society. But that's just one branch off the anti-femininity tree. But this is because they don't know what femininity actually entails. They think of femininity as wearing makeup and heals or motherhood or being emotional. But the feminine principle is much more than these things. These are just the tip of the iceberg with regard to the feminine principle. So, the problem is that we have half of the society that's wants women to fit in the box of traditional feminine ideas, which is like a version of femininity that's stripped of all the aspects that are threatening to the status quo of traditional "Blue" values.... which is honestly most of it. The Feminine and traditional values go together like oil and water. The Feminine, however, is most treacherous to Orange values. Then, the other half of society has found refuge in the idea that masculinity and femininity are mere social constructs. This has been good in a sense, because it's allowed us to progress to this point. But the problem is that masculinity and femininity are in absolutely everything in the form of Yin and Yang. So, most people in this more progressive camp are unconsciously anti-feminine principle and pro-masculine principle... even if their goal is to make things equal and empowering for everyone. So, my recommendation is to learn more and more about the feminine principle and what it entails. The biggest obstacle to feminine integration is an unawareness of what femininity actually is. If you don't become aware of what it actually is, you will continue to repress it without realizing it as this is the social default.

Just forget about what that person said. It really doesn't matter what they think. If you want to find a partner, just put yourself out there. And do your best to be selective when it comes to personality flaws. Like if a person is going to treat you badly, you should feel entitled to turn them down. They are not your only option, even if it seems like it. What are you doing right now to try to get a partner?

Wishing you had never been born can be perceived by others as being ungrateful. And that you have a generally negative outlook on things can be perceived as being ungrateful. And being judgmental of others who are ungrateful and fixating upon that judgment, can also be perceived as ungrateful because you are focusing pessimistically toward your experience of the people in your life. It is often that when we judge others, it is because we are unconscious to those aspects within ourselves. And because we are unconscious, they become part of our shadow and play themselves out without our knowledge. So, others can see our shadows before we can.

How old are you?

@Revolutionary Think High school graphic design. But I also had a couple drawing and painting courses my second year. But prior to and after that, I have been a substitute teacher. So, I've been in a lot of different classrooms from Headstart pre-k all the way up to teaching 22 year-olds at the technical high school. I also frequently sub in self-contained ESE classrooms. So, my classroom experiences have been varied. Most often, I teach middle schoolers though.

I knew you understood because of our conversation.

It was moreso to take victim's mentality to level 11, so that it shows the absurdity of it. And to also show the emotional rollercoaster of what victim's mentality feels like, and what a release a person might get out of it. I talked to Mikael on a post the other day about it being like a release to succumb to victim's mentality and self-deprecation. In a sense, it's a lot like the emotional version of cutting and other forms of self flagellation and self harm. It's done for a release. And I talked about how there is a tendency of those with victim's mentality to manipulate others into giving them their "fix." So, they say things like "I'm useless and I can't change." Then others step in to disagree with them and share with them the error in their thinking, by saying "Hey. You have victim's mentality. You could change if you wanted to." Then, they get the pleasure/pain of responding with something really self-deprecating to engage in that release again with he resistance of another person intensifying the release. It's kind of like how it's really hard to punch a tissue... but it's easy to punch a wall. The resistance intensifies the release. So, I just decided to go balls to the wall with the notion of victim's mentality, to make those emotional sweeps and releases more apparent to him and to others on the forum. If you really follow what I wrote and try to empathize with someone who believes in the extremes of what I wrote (which of course would be totally absurd), you can see what kind of thrill/release a person might get in abandoning themselves to hopelessness in a harsh and chaotic world that's out to get us.

Gee... I guess you're right... everyone like you who thinks they're helpless and unable to change is totally correct, and as an expert victim of circumstance yourself, you know an inherent victim when you see one. They might as well not even be on this forum to try to change because it's futile. You're just not one of the normal people who can change. You're just a strange exception to the rule and are so ineffably hopeless that it's beyond your capacity to do anything for yourself. This makes you special and different... perhaps even a little deeper than other non-victims who haven't realized the inherent wickedness of life on Earth. You might as well check yourself into a home for hopeless cases because it's not victim's mentality... you LITERALLY are a victim.... a victim of the sad, sick, hopeless world that hates your very presence in it. So, victim's mentality for you an you only is just the utmost realism. In fact, even inanimate objects hate you and wish you suffering. Only one who has truly accepted their victimhood can realize this. And you have ben wise enough to realize your inherent victim status. If a car were coming right at you (without its owner... just because the car hates you and everything you stand for), you wouldn't even be able to register its presence and duck out of the way of harm, as you are totally right that you're totally helpless and can never make changes that benefit you. And if you ever came up against the slightest adversity, your body would immediately disintegrate into a pile of dust like a vampire exposed to the sun. You are the ultimate victim... the Metatron of victims... which makes you the best of the victims... or is it the worst of the victims... at any rate the "something-est" of the victims. So, of course you have victim's mentality... victims are right to have victim's mentality. And you are the master of victimhood. Best not even to try anymore and accept your superior inferior status as top victim. If an ant punched you, you would have to go to the hospital immediately as all your blood would be quickly leaving your body. If a cow looked at you the wrong way, you would shrivel where you stand. And reality hates you so much that it plans to suck you into the sky one day, and tear off all your skin, then spit you back out to make you wonder the desert as a skeleton for the rest of you misbegotten life. And even in death, you will still be a victim for eternity, wondering the deserts of hell as a skeleton. ... But seriously though, just stop. You know your full of it.

More-so the terms for all the gender delineations exist for the use of people that are in the gray areas, and not so much other people who aren't non-binary like you and me. In the non-binary communities, these terms actually mean something of substance to them and aide them in getting to know themselves better. So, to use a blanket term, would not serve this same purpose, as the value of the term lies in the specificity of the definition. But most people who are non-binary don't require that people address them with these identities or even really know a lot about them. They usually use they/them/their pronouns, which is how they mostly prefer to be addressed. And it's a safe bet to use these terms for trans-people as well. I guess there might be some people who get fancy and prefer that people use some really uncommon pronouns like xir, xim, or all those other ones. But I've never met or seen anyone who preferred those to they/them/their which are a lot closer to common uses of the English language.

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Don't try to balance them. The conscious mind rarely knows the proper "balance." Just own whatever energies happen to be there, and remove limiting beliefs and barrier to those energies. When you get rid of resistance, those energies will do whatever they're naturally supposed to do without the conscious mind having to be involved at all. For most men, they'll be mostly masculine with some feminine. For most women, they'll be mostly feminine with some masculine. But everyone has a unique Yin/Yang signature. So, instead of trying to keep masculine and feminine in balance, which is a very active process, just own and allow whatever happens to there. But gender is a huge contributing factor. So, it does actually have quite a bit to do with gender. But everyone's Yin/Yang signature is different, and some men are more feminine and some women are more masculine and some people are closer to the middle of the spectrum with a 50/50 split. So, there are plenty of exceptions to the rule. But gender has a huge correlation with how one's energetic signature is composed.

I understand what you're saying and why you would say that. But I was pretty much a newbie when I found the resources that I recommended. And it will get them immediately acquainted with the feminine principle from the get-go. And it's not the type of material that a beginner will struggle with as much of it is just recognizing what has always been there but never been given words. For me, it was like a breath of fresh air as I had always been having to step out of my natural energy to function. And I know that if I had started with something else, I wouldn't be as grounded as I am. When I began reading from the authors that I recommended, I saw in them the best possible older version of myself if I continued to develop myself in the areas of the feminine. All the authors I listed are either in their 70s or 80s or dead. And they give their work in a very relatable way through stories about their lives and how myths, archetypes, dreams, and the divine have played a role. And it really opened up an entire facet of myself that I had scarcely been able to name. Nothing else ever fit quite as well. I threw myself into it for a year, and I learned more in that year than any other year of my life. But most of the mainstream feminine stuff that caters to women is actually just masculine with a feminine facade. That's why it's made its way to the mainstream. If it were truly feminine, it wouldn't make it there. That's why I said, you have to look somewhat underground if you want really high quality feminine content.

Don't do this. You have to go underground if you want high quality material. All the feminine stuff that's mainstream is very milquetoast.

Thank you for recommending me!

Check out the work of Jean Raffa... especially her blog and book, "Healing the Sacred Divide". She also has a TON of resources listed in the bibliographies of her books all about the integration of the feminine principle, dreams, and the unconscious. She, like most of the others that she recommends is an author working under the Jungian framework Also... "The Heroine's Journey" by Maureen Murdoch (as an alternative to "The Hero's Journey") "The Pregnant Darkness" by Monica Wikman "Goddesses in Every Woman" by Jean Shinoda Bolen "Androgyny" by June Singer Also, anything from Marian Woodman and Merlin Stone are good places to start. You can also check out my YouTube channel, as @Etherial Cat recommended. I have a lot of stuff about Yin/Yang, Masculine/Feminine, and other polarities like it. There's probably about 6 or 7 videos on my channel that relate in some way to the feminine principle and the divine feminine.

Again, this feels a little blind to the deeper patterns at work. I work in the public school system (no one there is a RICH douchebag... I assure you.), and I have been in some form of teaching role in many different classrooms over the course of the past 10 years. And I came in bright eyed and bushy tailed at the idea of reforming the education system from the inside to make school more interesting and challenging. I always felt that I was always getting watered down course work throughout my school years. I assume that a lot of people who are interested and capable of high level learning tend to think this way as they believe everyone is mostly like them. And I thought that students who did poorly were just not properly applying themselves. But once you see things from the other side of the desk, it becomes quite clear that the education system is complex and the positives and TRUE negatives tend to be taken for granted. And that my issues with lack of creativity were the very least of the issues. I was already a person who was going to go on to higher education and who had the intellectual capacity to learn without an instructor if I wanted to. I always thought the teacher was kind of an extra helper in the classroom and that the learning happened mostly independently. But the majority of students NEED the teacher... and not just because they don't want to do the work. For about 1/3 of students school is like a really intense workout for them. The bigger priorities come about in that it provides kids a sense of community, a routine to follow, the ability to participate in social roles, access to mentors, the ability to strengthen their thinking capabilities through thorough linguistic and mathematic education... and for some, an ability to escape a toxic situation for six hours a day. Plus, I've been in all sorts of classrooms on all grade levels as a sub, long-term sub, and as a full-time teacher. The honors kids are catered to plenty enough. And if they don't develop a sense of creativity and work ethic on their own, it can only come down on their shoulders. When you're a teacher, you only have so much time and energy. And most teachers work 50+ hours per week, much of which is on their own time. So, if you want to teach a class with Jimmy who has an IQ of 87 and Jake who has an IQ of 130 and Suzie with an IQ of 120 but with an SLD, and Sheila with an IQ of 115 but her mom sells her for money to random men (based on a true story btw), and Beth with an IQ of 52 but she was mainstreamed because your class is an elective... but she doesn't even know how to work a keyboard, then 20 other normies with their own stuff, and then finding a way to make your lessons fit with all of them and their unique circumstances is a huge part of doing that job. But the priority academically isn't going to be Jake and his personal enrichment and jazzing things up for Jake so that he finds coursework more interesting. The focus is going to be about getting everyone else at a level they can function at in life. And they're never going to break from routine because of Sam, Tim, Gina, Tina, and Ray are on the autism spectrum and get thrown way off if schedules change unexpectedly. Plus, the five students in every class who are just waiting for there to be a point of weakness in the schedule so that they can side-track the lesson so that they don't have to do something that they struggle with. Also, if you expect to give students a truly creative project with the standards totally in their hands, you can expect that 80% will totally fail at it. And in the remaining 20%, 19% will produce worse creative work than if you gave them clear standards. But 1% of students will flourish and be enlivened by the creativity. I was always one of those students as creativity is a strong suit of mine. So, I was like "Why isn't there more stuff like this? Why isn't school geared more toward creativity?" But now I see why. I was blind to my own privileges. Now, if you want to talk about inadequately preparing students for life, okay. We definitely should have mindfulness in the morning and secular yoga. Then all the usual cores. Then interesting elective. But the main thing that's missing is classes about how to handle emotions and relationships as well as practical adult situations. We're not preparing kids for the unpleasant realities of adulthood either.

Mostly Red/Blue/Orange. But it can be Green too, but that's rare. It tends to present as mostly Orange with quite a lot of shadow Red and Blue in many of PUAs. Green - "I like sex and so do women. I want to have lots of it for the sake of a novel pleasurable mutual experience, but I'm not interested in settling down. I want to explore my sexuality." Orange - "I want to have sex with lots of women to validate my social status." aka vagina as social currency to validate one's own existence within the materialistic society. In Orange, sex is currency and is a purely transactional experience, where a man uses his status to make a "sex purchase" from a woman who is the "pussy gatekeeper". Blue - "Female sexuality should be controlled through the institution of marriage. Therefore, women who are slutty have proven themselves non-virtuous. Therefore, I (as a man) can seek anonymous sex with loose women as they have proven themselves to be morally deficient and thus unworthy of significance in my life and in general. Degenerates have no place in society anyway. But my future wife will be virtuous and chaste, and I will treat her like a delicate flower, provide for her, and make all the decisions." Red - "Women are literal property. I will amass as many women to my harem as I can because I always get my way. And I will kill any man who even looks at my women." (followed by Guteral monkey noises and lots of knuckle dragging) - (in Orange sex from a woman is currency. In Red, women themselves are currency.)

To be honest, it feels a little more decadent than revolutionary. I could see it easily become a bunch of ideological rich guys who fancy themselves intellectuals paying lots of money to fly on a plane and do armchair philosophy with their equally rich buddies. Then, there's also the air pollution element. I think only extremely rich people would even consider taking a flight just for fun. And that most would do it as a status symbol. But most of all, it doesn't feel like it would have a positive and consciousness raising effect on society. It would just be a fun thing for people who are already doing well, and enriching their status quo. But if you like this idea, you could totally do it. But I don't see it as a consciousness raising idea.