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Instead of saying "fuck off", tell her how you actually feel and why you feel that way. This should start to open up dialogue without you needing to swallow your pride about things or pretend you're over something. But you're also not being hurtful yourself. It's a matter of being able to communicate clearly to her how you feel and why. Then hopefully she is mature enough to engage in the dialogue too without resorting to flinging insults. And this is best to talk about her behavior and it's effects on you instead of one her as a person's effects on you. So, something she does/did, instead of something she is.

No, becoming a therapist requires at least a masters degree in psychology and a license to practice. But with life-coaching, you can just be one even though it's best to get trained and certified. As you know, I'm currently a life-coach but I plan to start my training in March to become certified. And you can facilitate people's growth toward particular goals, which requires high degrees of self-exploration on their part so that they can see where they have unconscious blocks. With life-coaching, it's a lot more about asking questions to facilitate personal growth. Then if you mix that with being a consciousness work facilitator, you can provide your insights that you believe would spark new connections. So, life-coaching definitely crosses over the psychological in many ways as you're helping people self-explore. But it is not the same thing as being a therapist. So, I always recommend trained psychologists for anyone who's dealing with a serious issue that would require a trained professional. But for all the goal-oriented stuff and basic anxieties that keep people from reaching particular goals (spiritually, financially, etc.), I feel comfortable helping them discover where those blocks occur. So, if you're in a position where you need a steady and fulfilling way to make money now and you believe that you can facilitate self-exploration, I recommend looking into life coaching. Then, if you enjoy it, you can study to become a therapist/psychoanalyst. This is something that I'm considering in the future, as I'd like to eventually become a Jungian Analyst somewhere down the line. But for now, life-coaching is giving me a way that I can assist people by providing my own insights, intuitions, self-observations relative to my motivations, and a lot of other things to help people see things from new angles. Sort of as an extension of my channel. So, I highly recommend this to see if it's for you. Because if you do well as a life-coach, then it can be a sign that you would be a good therapist once you get the training.

First off, if a person is in stage Green, they have already integrated Orange and all the stages prior to it... unless of course they are reacting against it. But more-so, how does deciding to go camping equal gullibility? Unless, Morocco is known for women being killed while camping, it doesn't really seem fair to characterize that as gullibility. I mean, bad things happen all the time. You can't stop living just because there could be murderers everywhere. There's always a chance that bad things could happen, but to hide away from the world just because of this takes all the joy out of living.

You're already psychologically starting in the negative. So, you feel like you're already failing. But if you can switch your mindset to thinking, "any progress that I make is positive" then you'll be able to celebrate your small victories. This will give you the energy and motivation to ride the wave fo inspiration... instead of feeling like you're already behind. Every step into the positive is cause for celebration, not a cause to see how far you have to go to get out of the negative and break even. Just changing this mindset will help you tremendously.

The reason why is because I like to call people on when they're engaging in self-deception, projection, and transference since it is a huge burden to carry around. And it is ultimately a way to avoid feelings of self-hatred that the individual harbors toward themselves, more than anyone else the projection is projected onto. Also, on a personal level, it is uncomfortable and upsetting to be the projection screen for so many insecure men's inner turmoil. So, it becomes my business. So, it's not really about you particularly, as I've seen this pattern in quite a few men many many times before. And it does still salt a lot of wounds for me, as a woman in the process of working through many conditionings that I've been afflicted by that are designed to keep women in a state of internal discord and out of alignment with their libidinal energy and authentic feminine power. So, I'm still slightly hurt by this projection, but I'm working through it. Plus it's a huge block to personal growth for you. So, I see you as someone who is afflicted with an issue as opposed to someone who truly is acting of your own compunctions. But people need people. So, there is no particular thing about men that women need beyond the need for companionship and community that is needed by all people. There are plenty of women who survive without a male partner. For example, I'm sure lesbian couples are just fine without a man in the picture because they have companionship and support from eachother. Also, as long as a single woman (or man for that matter) has a strong support system and many rich platonic relationships, they don't necessarily need a spouse even though that may not be ideal to go without a romantic partner. Of course, people survive being lonely too, even though sustained loneliness can be very unhealthy. And people get lonely without having someone there for them, whether that be romantic or platonic. So, even though most will survive this, you could certainly say that having someone there is an emotional need shared by all people... especially since our ancestors relied heavily on the group for survival. So, those who were exiled and shunned were pretty much doomed to death, regardless of gender. Plus, who really wants to married to a person that you need who doesn't need you back? That sounds like hell to me, as it would be a relationship based in an imbalance of power... and therefore not a relationship at all. You'd be lonelier in that dynamic than if you were actually alone. At present, my husband and I literally need eachother for practical reasons. Without one another, we'd both be in poverty but together we are lower middle class. Also, if we were separated then we would not be able to see our kids everyday, because we'd have to share them separately. So, we do have some genuine mutual needs for eachother. But otherwise, our relationship is based upon mutually wanting to be together, so there is no power imbalance. And it makes the difference between being in a marriage versus being imprisoned in a power play where you will lose every single time. And if you ever have the choice to be in a relationship based in an imbalance of power or staying single, it's best to choose single every time.

Haha! Thank you.

I made the original post more-so as a response to what Yousef said about women needing men and men not needing women. I really don't think there is much of an imbalance in terms of need. It's more like people need people to live fulfilling lives as relationships are very important to humans as a social species. I tend to think of this, "Men don't need women but women need men." to be an idea proliferated by insecure men who try to imagine themselves in a position of greater power relative to women, because they are compensating for feelings of powerless in relation to women. And this is probably why it's such a popular sentiment because it works as an effective self-soothing mechanism for men who feel powerless relative to women. So, an insecure man, when a woman rebuffs their affections or they aren't successful with women in general, it can be cathartic to be misogynistic and say, "Yeah well... I don't need you! I don't need any of you! You need me! Without me, you won't survive!" That way the negative feelings toward one's self can be projected out onto women as a whole group. So, if you're familiar with Harry Potter, in the third book in Defense Against the Dark Arts class, they learned about a creature called a Boggart. And the Boggart's power is to transform into whatever the person is most terrified of. And the way to fight the Boggart is to use the spell "Ridiculous", which turns that terrifying thing into something funny... which makes the Boggart lose its power. So, this is the thing that insecure men do when they are feeling powerless and scared of women. They try to paint women as people that have less power than they do. So, they'll say, "Women need men. But men don't need women." or "Women are emotional and men are rational." and they'll say a ton of misogynistic things to themselves (and sometimes others) to self-soothe and transfer their feelings of low-self-worth and powerlessness onto women. And they perceive this not as an aggression committed against women, but as a righteous evening of the playing field. Like giving those all-powerful women a taste of their own medicine. Since they put women up on a pedestal and project that out onto reality, they also feel the need to drag women down off of their pedestal. Where women are mostly oblivious to this projection happening until they're dealing with an insecure man's feelings coming to a head with them as the target... which sucks. So, I don't really think it's good advice to feel compelled to get married. It's not for everyone. And marriage won't solve anything. And I don't think marriage itself, is the thing that creates longevity in a man. But it was my very scientific way of telling Yourself the equivalence of, "Those who live in glass houses should not throw stones." Gotta keep the projectors in check.

I agree. I think it's probably akin to what the people who conducted the study posited about being unmarried making it more likely for men who live the bachelor lifestyle to engage in self-destructive behaviors like excessive drinking and partying. Where married men may not have the degree of freedom to engage in self-destructive behaviors that bachelors can because of a responsibility to their wife/children/grand-children. So, it's more about lifestyle and self-care than about marriage itself. Though loneliness could itself be an issue. Also, to be noted, this study was done on men from the older generation who might not have been taught or encouraged to cook or clean for themselves like men are expected to in contemporary society. So, these men may not have very healthy lifestyles in these ways either and really struggle with these domestic things that make a home livable. Women from older generations also have issues like this where, when their husband dies, they have to learn how to write a check, pay bills, and do other tasks that in their generation were the sole responsibility of me. So, they either weren't taught or were actively discouraged from. But these tasks absolutely have to be done, where cooking and cleaning could be neglected without immediate consequences. So, the learning curve happens more rapidly due to necessity.

Actually, they did a study of older single men and women who never married. They found that the unmarried men tended to die very young compared to married men, where the single women lived about the same amount of time as compared to married women. The study posited that this was perhaps because single men didn't take very good care of themselves when they were living alone and being engaged in self-destructive behaviors that they would perhaps not have partaken in had they been in a relationship. So, I would argue, of course, that people need people to live a fulfilling life, regardless of gender. But scientifically, in terms of which gender benefits more from being in a committed relationship in terms of health and longevity, it's men. So, even though men don't need to be married, they are more likely to live longer healthier lives if they are married, where unmarried and widowed little old ladies are like the energizer bunny who keeps going and going and going. I have one grandma whose husband died 31 years ago, and the other whose husband died 42 years ago (and the man she married after my grandpa died, also died over 20 years ago), and they're both still kicking. One of my grandma's turns 90 in a few days. She lives alone too.

Thank you! Animus possession, which stems from a repression of both the masculine and feminine in a woman at most is a real beast to tangle with. Like I said, this has been the main thing that I've been exploring for years and years.

Thank you!

Wrong!!!! Bomp!!!! j/k Uniqueness is just another arbitrary hierarchy, and one that is strongly valued in Orange by some individuals and not by others. The point is that hierarchies aren't real, and reality is empty of value as a quality. So, reality neither has value nor lacks value. It is simply empty of it. So, a person is not valuable... but neither are they lacking in value. Value on the existential level is just an irrelevant concept created for practical functioning in the human intellect. So, a person is valid without the concept of value needing to be applied at all. So, if we think of a person's validity as relating back to arbitrarily chosen values in terms of success, Instagram followers, uniqueness, kindness, goodness, edginess, intelligence, money, etc., then we are always creating a situation that is in resistance to unconditional love. And since unconditional love is the Truth of existence, we are creating our worldview out of alignment with Truth. And we will suffer and become unconscious as a result.

A lot of people are already past it. But if it really bothers you, then it does so because you're thinking of things in Orange terms... in terms of value hierarchies. And the really negative thing here is that we start thinking of ourselves in relation to where our position in the value hierarchy is. And since you feel like you're not up in the particular hierarchy that you mentioned (and a very specific one at that), then you feel bad and want to retreat from society. But a lot of women don't care about how many Instagram followers someone has. That's the most random thing ever, to be honest. It's an arbitrary thing. In fact, anything that you could potentially even have value relative to is an arbitrarily chosen value... including success with women. So, notice why you feel bad about this social pattern... because it writes a narrative in your mind based around imaginary hierarchies that makes you feel bad about yourself and your place in those imaginary hierarchies... and shallow women are the arbitrarily chosen judges of your worth and status within that hierarchy. But this is all a projection. You have deemed that women in contemporary society exist in such a way that you can never "win" their affections and thus climb in the hierarchy. You feel like the hierarchy is rigged against you because of your lack of value. But this hierarchy and value are both illusions. Only people in Orange feel intrinsically bad about their position in the Orange hierarchies. Just like Blue people are the only ones that feel intrinsically bad about breaking a social more that harms no one... like wearing a hat on a Sunday in May when you're not supposed to. So, the solution is to develop yourself more, and get out of the delusion that you're somehow low down on some imaginary hierarchy that a most people don't even know exist. Life is not a meritocracy or a zero sum game. Life is just living. Just allow yourself to be.

I had to share this, because I think it's really illuminating, creative, and just downright amusing. And from a Spiral Dynamics perspective shows why it's so important for humanity to make the collective jump from Orange to Green at the present time to avoid planetary destruction.

I, as a person with over a decade of adulthood under my belt, would aim for the more personally developed woman if I were in the situation of picking a partner. To be with someone like that long-term could be very draining, as you'll always be "in trouble." But if I recall, you're quite young. So, it's just really important for you to be social and get acquainted with dating. So, it wouldn't be a good idea to hold out for someone who meets that standard... especially who's your age, as it takes a while to develop one's self. So, in dealing with a woman (or a man for that matter) who is acting passive aggressive or being very indirect and confusing, you'd want to approach them with a sense of being very solid and okay with them and unphased by their behavior. In the past, when I was a teenager, I'd get a lot of girls being kind of catty and passive aggressive to me. And you could always tell when that kind of tension was in the air. So, I identified strongly with being above that kind of thing. So, I'd just do my best to be cool with that person regardless of their reaction, and I could almost always win them over and get them to trust me. And then I'd just be aware of things that could potentially set them off and minimize it. And I got a kick out of being able to roll with the punches and to be the laid back one. And this worked swimmingly for a casual friendship or acquaintanceship. Now, if I were in a relationship, it would be a bit more challenging since the level of closeness is much more extreme. So, you'd probably have to get really good at accepting their volatile emotions, remaining laid back, and help them communicate and address their concerns/fears/needs/desires. And the latter thing is most important, as this is the reason why they're like that in the first place. They believe that you're somehow preventing them from understanding, expressing, and/or addressing these concerns/fears/needs/desires. So, this could get tiring. So, you might find a happy medium where the woman is perhaps still under-developed in terms of emotional discernment but is actively interested in becoming a better person. Now, when I was in my first major relationship at 16, I was a bit like the girl that you're describing for about the first 5 or 6 months of the relationship. And this was the case despite identifying with being very laid back and always being cool with even the most challenging of behaviors. But at that point, my then-boyfriend would do just the smallest thing and I'd act like I was really upset... but I wasn't aware that I was acting. I realized it at about month 6 that I had been acting out this way because I was addicted to his reaction to it, since it gave me something that I needed but didn't know that I needed. So, if he were to accidentally bump into me, I would (unconsciously) act like I was very hurt. And I would do this because he would apologize to me and he would make sure that I felt okay, and he was genuinely sorry. This was something that I had subconsciously craved my entire life. I really wanted him to show me that he cared about going over my boundaries and that he cared about me enough to apologize and dote on me. It made me feel really good and safe. So, I kept acting upset at things that I would never get upset about in a million years, simply because I craved his response. But after the first several months, I became conscious of this and realized that I was being very manipulative... and in the process making him very upset. So, once I became aware of it, I stopped. So, this could be the case with your girlfriend and why she's always getting upset at you. She may be unconsciously trying to manipulate you into showing her that you care about her, because she doesn't know that's what she actually wants. So, instead of coming right out and telling you what she wants, she automatically defaults into behaving a certain way to elicit a desired response out of you.

Perhaps the particular women that you're talking about don't know how to express their emotions or read their emotions very well. So, it comes out in an indirect kind of way that's very confusing and can be passive aggressive. I've seen a lot of women in this pattern before. But it comes from lack of personal developments and a dis-integrated masculine side on their part. So, it's not really your fault for not understanding them. They probably don't understand themselves or just can't communicate their understanding very well, and are just getting frustrated about that. So, to understand what I mean, I want to explain women's and men's relationship to emotions (speaking very generally, of course) like this... So, men and women have the same capacity for emotions and have the same emotions. So, women are not any more or less emotional than men are, and vice versa. There is no profound difference in the thing itself. The difference has to do with he vantage point relative to those emotions. Men tend to default to a further removed perspective relative to the emotional experience. So, if you imagine the emotional experience like it's a big city, imagine that the default masculine view of the city (aka emotions) is like a bird's eye view. This makes the emotions more vague and general so men are less sensitive and less likely to pick up on details and nuances. But it also makes men a lot more clear on their major emotions because they can more easily get a general sense of them without getting lost in the details. So, men tend to make decisions more quickly and easily and can communicate them more quickly and easily. It's very straightforward but lacking in nuance. The default feminine perspective relative to the emotions is one that's very close up. So, in the city analogy it's the same city in the feminine pov. But instead of it being like the masculine bird's eye view, the feminine perspective is the view of someone walking around on the street. And they are more directly experiencing the subjective experience of what's happening. So, they are more sensitive and pick up on all the nuances of everything happening on the street. And they're experiencing so much relative to where they're at, that they may not be able to quantify the experience as easily as someone from the masculine perspective. They may get lost in all the nuance of the experience. So, out of the two, the feminine perspective is experiencing a more direct experience of emotions that is closer up and more nuanced. And because of this, it's much more difficult to read and has a steeper learning curve. If the masculine experience of emotions is like reading "Clifford the Big Red Dog" and the feminine experience of emotions is like reading "War and Peace," then it is clear why men tend not to understand why women have a harder time being clear about things and communicating their emotions accurately. Men tend to think as the stereotypes go, "Why does she struggle so much to read a kid's book. It's very simple. Clifford ran fast. What's so hard about that?" Meanwhile, she's not reading about Clifford at all. She's trying to read a huge thick book and understand what, "Kings are the slaves of history.” means. And this will be difficult if she's still working at a 2nd grade reading level... relative to her emotions of course. And there's no "emotion school" out there. So, most women will unfortunately never develop that latent potential. At least not in my generation. Now, of course, this isn't necessarily a pure disadvantage for women. In fact, with the development of feminine skills, a woman can become quite adept at reading her emotions, and she will be able to provide emotional insights that are very profound. But society doesn't teach feminine skills like this. So, many women go through their lives completely misunderstanding themselves and as a result, everyone else does too... especially men. So, what you're seeing is what happens when women haven't learned that skill. Also, learning that feminine skill is highly contingent upon integrating the masculine side and being able to utilize the masculine bird's-eye-view to put words and concepts to those otherwise subjective and intuitive experiences. Otherwise, the experience won't crystalize into a workable insight. So, the best thing for men and women is to find their natural default stance (mine is the feminine pov) and learn how to shift back and forth between those perspectives, so that we don't just get jammed into one viewpoint or the other. And it's this oscillation between the detached and close up picture that allows us to understand and master our emotions.

Find any points of resistance that you have toward women, feminine men, and other things that have a direct association with the feminine.. (i.e. the color pink, glitter, shopping, etc.) And really try to find everything that you label as feminine and any subjective judgments and negative feeling you may have toward those things. Then, work on releasing resistance to them. Then, also, you should look at how you define femininity. The societal definition of it has mostly to do with appearance. But the feminine is so much broader and deeper than that. So, discovering what is esoterically feminine will help, as society has a very distorted image of femininity.

With the looks thing, I was more-so talking about what they value in women. And this whole, become a high status man to get a hot woman. So, looks are not a huge part of the RSD community's thing relative, because that would make them less effective and less successful in their business. They are sought out by men who are seeking to be more attractive to women. So, many of the guys who are interested in their services will be guys who maybe feel negatively about their looks. So, the RSD guys will be like, "Looks don't matter." since looks are something men don't have very much control over. And instead they'll focus toward technique and status, which is something that men do have control over. But yes. It's a lot about who he's marketing to, and how they read value in a woman. So, they are going to value the woman's looks most of all, because they understand that attention from attractive women as being the thing that brings them value. And most guys who get involved in pick up in general tend to come from a place of lack and scarcity and negative self esteem relative to their self-worth. So, it's definitely a very specific kind of social circle and aegis about dating that makes a lot of RSD/PUA guys a match to women who value themselves in the same way that the men value them... which mostly on looks without regard to much else. So, you end up with a lot of otherwise underdeveloped hot women, hooking up with guys who are employing techniques specifically designed to hook up with otherwise underdeveloped hot women. And it creates an empty and lackluster transaction in the sex because they are only engaging in it for the man to mirror the desirability of the woman back to her and the woman to mirror the status of the man back to him. So, that way they both get to feel worthwhile.

Be sure to always bring a virgin sacrifice and a chalice of goat's blood before speaking with any of us of the female persuasion. To come without bearing gifts offends our people. So, that's the first step right there. You may want to take notes...

Haha! No worries.

Well, work and finances in general really creates the proper infrastructure to live a fulfilling life. So, I you live your life doing a job you hate that isn't fulfilling, this will impede your ability to really enjoy the other aspects of life. So, there is no other choice between spending tons of time at a job you dislike that you don't feel a strong sense of contribution and having a life purpose that is fulfilling and meaningful to you. One of these will happen. And if it's the former, you will live a rough life as your work will steel energy from all other facets of life. So, work is an absolute necessity. Now, relationships are also a necessity for living a sane and healthy life. So, this needs to be in place as well. So, you have to both work and create relationships. And since life purpose won't take anymore time or energy away from you than a regular job will, it's in your best interest to make your work be the thing you already love. But right now, you're probably getting an intuitive sense that you need relationships more. So, focus on that and setting up the infrastructure to have good friends and a healthy social life. Your intuition will tell you what you need to focus on next. I think that's the reason why you're asking the question in the first place. You want confirmation that it's okay to pursue relationships/friendships? Is that correct?

Thank you! The thing to realize is that this issue has not too much to do with sexuality itself. But it plays itself out on the stage of sexuality. And these types of fetishes, can often indicate where there is an issue... where that issue may only slightly relate back to the sexual. And this has been one of the most difficult things for me to transcend. And I've been working on this for years. So, I've come to realize how and why these patterns come up when and how they do. And I can use these signs and symptoms as a road map to be sure that I'm going in a fruitful direction relative to my inner work. So, the solution is to integrate both the masculine and feminine side and own whatever is there and repress none. And when this happens, both aspects can be in perpetual embrace and intercourse with one another, conceiving and giving birth to ever more exalted intonations of the self as the more these two aspects are in intercourse the deeper the connection is to that which has been unconscious. So, is like Yin and Yang just flowing together naturally. And it is a way to tap into hidden waiting potentials and to reclaim aspects of ourselves. This is referred to as the "sacred child" in alchemy. Now, most often women will have a predominantly feminine energy where men will have a predominantly masculine energy. But there are exceptions, and absolutely everyone has both. So, it's a bit like the story of the phoenix, where the old phoenix disintegrates into ash only to be born from that same ash as a more exalted form of its previous self.

There is a desire for natural feminine vulnerability that the fantasy give a really intense and dysfunctional version of... because that vulnerability can't be felt in healthier ways due to feminine repression and Animus possession. But to be noted, you are the one that is 100% in control of the fantasy. So, it sets up a situation where you can both feel out of control and vulnerable while also simultaneously being in control of everyone in the fantasy: yourself and the men. So, every character in the fantasy is you. And you are the ring master for all of them. I have had this same fetish before, that has now given way to healthier sexual fantasies that are still based around vulnerability... but not in a dysfunctional way. So, there is actually more to it than this. A lot of it comes from internalizing misogyny, and a desire to be punished for your womanhood that has been subtly indoctrinated into you over time. And because of the way that the media sees women and their value as being mostly a type of pleasure giver and pretty decorum for a man, this solidifies this problem. So, when you are being raped in the fantasy there is an association between dehumanization, masochism, and sexual pleasure. And feeling like you derive pleasure only from the man receiving pleasure from your body. And that you're fulfilling your purpose of being a sexual object by supplying that pleasure to men who don't respect your humanity. And in that fantasy, you can just be thing and you can feel like you've successfully embodied your only purpose as a passive object for male pleasure by having your boundaries totally breeched and submitting yourself to utter dehumanization. And it being able to submit to the utter annihilation of your humanity, there is a release and a feeling of vulnerability that you're unable to feel in a healthy feminine way. So, instead of a natural blooming, there is a prying open and breaking. And the pain of being pried open is something that you've come to associate pleasure with... even if you know that it would be very unpleasant if it really happened. Society hates the feminine. So, those with low self-esteem cannot express healthy feminine vulnerability or receptivity. So, that aspect gets relegated to the shadow and comes out in these fantasies of extreme domination of the masculine over the feminine. So, this is what happens when a feminine woman is in resistance to her femininity and her masculinity at the same time. The masculine side becomes a domineering tyrant over the feminine side, and you succumb to Animus possession. So, in the fantasy it is your unconscious/rejected masculine side running amok in the shadow and dominating your suppressed feminine side that is hiding away in shame and fear. This is what Animus possession is. And the shadow masculine can be very violent and rejoice in the suffering of the feminine. So, it's important to see that you are the men in the fantasy as well.

Thanks. Although, I noticed earlier that he was doing it to someone else in another thread. So, he may just be a troll that goes around randomly trying to stir the pot. My interpretation is that his attack was pointed toward me specifically, as he had done it before and wasn't doing it to anyone else at the time. So, I may have been mistaken and just given him what he wants if he's just a troll, which sucks if I fed into that trolling. But either way, it's a good practice for me in terms of reacting when someone is challenging or disrespecting me.

I agree with what Space said. As a famous RSD guy, he's mostly going to get with easy hook-up women who are looking for status through being picked up by him for who he is. But the vast majority of Orange women aren't like that. Orange generally, is all about meritocracy based upon relatively arbitrarily chosen standards. So, when I was in Orange, my meritocracy wasn't based upon money or status. I didn't think those were very important at all, and I considered those things as indicators of being a boring person who had everything handed to them. So, these were signifiers of weakness and boringness relative to my Orange hierarchy. My Orange values were based upon intelligence, being interesting, being kind, having good taste in art and moves, worldliness, struggle, etc. So, these were my hierarchies of the time and how I determined who was valuable and who wasn't. So, even though it's shallow in terms of always thinking of things in terms of value and hierarchy, not every woman's hierarchy will be the same. But the women who are most available to a famous RSD guy, are going to be women who are Orange whose hierarchy is all about money, status, looks, etc. So, to him, that's his conception of what a woman is. All other women are irrelevant to him as they aren't in his dating pool. So, it has a lot to do with like attracting like. Since the RSD guys are all about looks, status climbing, and the mainstream conception of social currency, they're going to attract the women that mirror these values.