Emerald

I apologize for the misinformation on the Mayor Pete giving money DIRECTLY to the Shadow company for that app. That said, Pete Buttigieg's campaign STILL has financial ties to the company. How do you know they actually paid for another service and it wasn't just a way to funnel money to the company? The fact of the matter is that a company who creates such an app for elections should have ZERO financial ties to ANY political candidate. Otherwise, there is the potential for corruption and a conflict of interest. Mind you, it could all be coincidental. That said, to assume that it's all coincidental is rather foolish considering the stakes that a Bernie Sanders presidency presents to the establishment and their already very well-known corruption. I think it's best to err on the side of caution, and consider that this could indeed be a politically calculated move to keep the status quo in place. So, it's not like I'm saying the moon landing didn't happen. I'm saying that it's very possible that the DNC is trying to keep the person out of office who will most disturb their cash cows. Don't pretend like this isn't a valid concern. If you're looking for the establishment to confirm their own corruption to the public, that just naive at best.

The Animus possesses the identity when a woman either has not developed their masculine side or resists against masculinity (which can come from negative experiences with men or simply being instilled with exaggerated beliefs about gender). With an integrated masculine side a woman can set boundaries, have emotional mastery, communicate clearly her perspective, and has developed her sense of self-preservation and independence. So, she has access to all the positive qualities of the masculine principle. A woman with a disintegrated masculine side will often feel over-whelmed, unsure of herself, and unsafe... especially when interacting with men who feel like a threat because of the disintegration. This is why the Animus comes in to possess. It's a protector but it does so in unhealthy ways in its disintegrated form. So, the disintegrated Animus is over-protective, harsh, and disempowering. It sees the feminine as weak and seeks to dominate the personality to avoid being seen as weak. So, there is often a yo-yo effect with women who have disintegrated Animus... they go from very vulnerable and vague in the non-possessed form or they go on heavy defense in the possessive form of the Animus. And women who have disintegrated or underdeveloped Animus will attract and be attracted to men who have a disintegrated or underdeveloped Anima. And they attract each other like the north and south poles of a magnet.

No, there are exceptions and there are never any black and whites because masculinity and femininity are poles on a single spectrum... and in that sense there is no true distinction. So, what I shared is a very general rule. It will fit most people... but a significant number of people will diverge from that, which is normal. Someone who is more masculine than feminine in how their energetic signature crosses over the sexual instinct will generally have an upward moving relationship to their sexuality... regardless of gender or identification. And vice versa. And as with the Yin and Yang symbol, everything always contains both. So, no one's sex drive is only masculine or only feminine. So, even if you take someone with the most masculine sexual baseline, there will still be some of their energy flowing downward and not upward. And again... vice versa. So, there are tons of nuances to where everyone's sexual energy flows in unique ways... which is why I call it an energetic signature. But a general rule of thumb is that men's sexual energy tends to flow upward and women's sexual energy tends to flow downward. And in Tantric practices two partners can cycle this energy... The man penetrating the woman upward through the sexual center and the woman penetrating the man downward through the mind.

That's actually not true. I've never been in a relationship where the guy didn't love me back or where there was some lack of emotional reciprocity. But I can tell you why it seems that way. Most men don't have an integrated Feminine side, and because of this they end up incapable of opening their hearts. They fear vulnerability too much. And the obsessive sex drive is a direct result of this Feminine disintegration... because they crave the love of a woman (the woman inside themselves) so much. But this translates in the external to being hyper obsessed with women and their sexuality as they are projecting the disintegrated Anima that they both worship and revile. But energetically speaking, men and women work differently in terms of how the libidinal energy flows. Women's flows from the top down and men's from the bottom up. So, women's sexual energy begins in the mind, travels to the heart, and then eventually reaches the sexual center. Men's energy starts in the sexual center, travels to the heart, and eventually reaches the mind. Now, the challenge here for men is that the sexual center has the most gravity to it. So, it takes a well-developed man to transmute baser sexual impulses to love and devotion. So, if a guy is immature or if he has beliefs that tell him that he should never love a woman or be vulnerable, then the energy will just stagnate in the sexual center... and his life will be noting more than a lonely bender of chasing tail. So, if you want to attract a man who is both capable of loving and prefers pair-bonding, you must first deal with your own internal barriers and Animus possession. When you do this, you will naturally attract and be attracted to more mature men. You must be the one to attract the one... even though there is no "one".

That's not true. The degree to which men and women get along is the degree to which they are able to have integration within themselves relative to their Feminine and Masculine sides. A man who represses his femininity, will both be obsessed with and hate women. A woman who represses her masculinity, will feel both feel dependent upon and victimized by men. So, it's really only disintegration and lack of understanding that causes the issues between the sexes. That said, society does have a huge issue with this... which is really a symptom of our current stage in human evolution and the limitations that are still there.

Actually I've watched the video, and Teal Swan talks about the root cause of the male castration dynamics being the millennia-long repression of female power in society. When men control women and society denies them agency, those women unconsciously find Shadowy forms of agency in the one venue they had control over... child rearing. And they would end up taking the feelings of powerless that society granted them out on their sons and try to "neuter" the masculine out of them to remain safe. And that's because it isn't really safe to be Feminine in society. So, women naturally grow to fear the masculine because it is very rare to find a man who has a healthy relationship to his masculinity. I've only really met a few who embodied Divine Masculine before... and zero of them would ever be into the Red Pill stuff. When a man is trying to reclaim his masculinity, he is usually just aping masculinity and becoming as stiff and impenetrable as a brick wall. Or he is repressing his masculinity because he either hasn't developed himself yet or has developed himself but doesn't want to seem like the other group of men. But of course, that causes a huge issue because when men are not in touch with their natural energy, they will try to look for it in really distorted external examples. They will put on the mask of masculinity as opposed to finding themselves in the masculine. So, once again, the root of male suffering is the repression of the Feminine just as much as it is the root of female suffering. Again, men and women have the same Feminine wound as does the world itself (aka masculine-principled industry choking out Mother Nature). It just affects them differently, and women tend to be more aware of it because the source of the pain is more straight forward and clear. In this way, many men feel that pain but tend to think root cause is repression of the masculine when it's actually rooted far more deeply in repression of the feminine. Also, men are often punished and policed (by men especially) for any display that is anything shy of the most extreme masculine stereotype... including from you, as you really tore into men in your last post. Calling men "blue pilled cucks" is misandry steeped in even deeper misogyny, and it objectifies men's worth by their ability to be masculine then denigrates them for not being masculine enough. And with red pill, MGTOW, and Incels and all those other groups, those groups all share two things in common... feminine repression and toxic femininity. When men repress their Feminine side because society punishes Feminine expressions in men most of all, men's Feminine side doesn't go away. It goes down into the Shadow and possesses the identity. And it causes men to become catty, petty, self-hating, jealous of women, and vindictive.... which are all shadow Feminine qualities. So, in men's desire to reclaim their masculinity they actually end up being possessed by their repressed femininity... which of course is then put out into society. And it creates a whole vicious cycle of repeated feminine repression in men and women. Just look around at the world. And if you have an awareness of the problems going on, you'll see that most of them are rooted directly in an imbalance that favors the masculine principle at the expense of the feminine principle. And this imbalance has real effect on both men and women. And the root cause is a feminine wound not a masculine wound... though any issue with the feminine will beget an issue with the masculine and vice versa. Also, you should probably look inward and see why you are so bothered by all of this. You will find that the wound is actually a Feminine issue based in disintegration from your Feminine side. And until you integrate the Feminine side, you will not be able to realize your Masculine potential. The Feminine is like the soil from which the Masculine in a man takes its nutrients and grows. No Feminine integration... no healthy Masculinity.

I try to. But it's not always perfect. You have to be able to hold uncomfortable emotions with a certain degree of equanimity. And the ego is still there. The main understanding I try to bring into what I share is that everyone (including myself) is already doing the best that they can. And if they could do better they would be doing better. This is true of everyone... including extreme cases like dictators and serial killers. It's hard to imagine in these extreme cases that serial killing is a person's best... but if it weren't their best, they would be better. So, every person on this planet just pops out of the womb one day with no control over their nature and no control over their nurture. So, if I, in any way, have ended up landing on my feet, then I can only be grateful for that. For others, perhaps they landed in a situation that wasn't as fortunate in some regards, and it put them in a spot where they couldn't become aware of things that I have happened to become aware of. So, if someone is being obtuse in some way to me, I try to remember that I could just as easily be them... literally. I could be born as them and experience the same experiences and have the same nature... and end up reacting to me (Emerald) the same exact way. And if I (by chance) ended up as them, I would certainly react that way. If I can remain cognizant of that, I can practice moving myself out of the way to try to help that person understand why they are mired in the things they're mired in. So, I try to make my goal to help them. That said, I also have an ego and enjoy sparring for the sake of sparring because I have a competitive nature. So, I have to watch this impulse if I want to keep my goal of helping in focus.

It's a process of subtraction. You remove what isn't authentic and are left with what is. But sensitivity is really important to develop to feel into your natural energy. I experienced the divine feminine only when I was receptive enough to it. It's very subtle. I'd imagine it's the same for divine masculine energy as well.

In the absolute sense, love is just what is. So, to express that in the relative is to consciously choose to recognize the other as yourself. That means, you relate to the other person compassionately and with their best interests in mind... regardless of your own self-agenda or how the other person behaves. So, to love is a conscious choice that requires expansion of the self-concept beyond the individual self. And unconditional love is to orient to everyone and everything in this way... including yourself. So, in a romantic relationship, there must be conditions set so that it is a mutually beneficial and growth-allowing situation for both people. Sometimes this is possible and sometime not. When you run into an irreconcilable incompatibility, the only loving choice is to dissolve the relationship for the good of both people. This is why you can't have an unconditional relationship... because it's very unloving to yourself and the other. So, there is a middle ground where those that can co-exist together symbiotically can practice loving eachother and holding eachother's best interests at heart... helping eachother grow. But love is fundamentally about a recognition of the other as an extension of the self, and to choose to do what's in the best interest of all... even if it's hard to do.

Actually, esoterically speaking, Femininity is related to groundedness and Masculinity related to flight. It's why many religions have Earth Goddesses and Sky Gods. It's also why the masculine is associated with air and fire while the feminine is associated with Earth and water. Femininity is about being, stillness, and stability. Masculinity is about doing, activity, and change. Femininity is about the body and the emotions. Masculinity is about intellect and spiritual ideals. Femininity is about substance without movement. Masculinity is about movement without substance. Femininity is the particle nature of reality. Masculinity is the wave nature of reality. Of course, they are both one. Just don't confuse these polar principle in terms of what people in society generally display. Most people are cut off from their natural energetic signature.

Exactly what I'm trying to articulate. Hard to get people to hear it though.

If you're under 18, don't try to hit on older women at all. If they respond well to your advances, then that is a serious problem and they don't have good character. In the future, when you are an adult, just talk to older women as a fellow adult. There is no big age distinction after a while.

You sure are doing a lot of assuming and putting words in my mouth. I have actually experienced the territory before, though it isn't the state I consistently abide in. But maps are necessary for most things. Our intellect's only function is to create maps. And that works for 99.999% of endeavors... except realizing the absolute. And our desire to map that territory is what insulates us from that territory. So, in that regard, you are correct. But go ahead and try to destroy all your maps. It's not actually possible. But if you somehow managed to do so, you wouldn't even be able to open the window (or even know what a window is) because every practical function or piece of knowledge connects to a mental map of meaning. Creating these maps is what the intellect does as a tool. And it's a necessary tool if we want reality to be more than an abstract smear of color and sound. Meaning-making (aka map-making) is necessary for living. Just as you need false dichotomy to function practically in life. So, "up and down" is a false dichotomy that only exists from the practical perspective. So, the idea of up and down is a map based in a relative perspective. But if you "destroy" that map, what stops you from walking off a building? Nothing. And that's why we need the map. In order to truly be conscious we need not destroy any maps. We need only to recognize that they are indeed maps. So, you must understand that truth and falsehood is a false dichotomy in and of itself. And you can't live a life without relative truths... aka absolute falsehoods... like up/down, beginning/end, inside/outside, here/there, Yin/Yang, masculine/feminine, etc. And again, the wound doesn't exist on the absolute. Everything is perfect from that perspective... even pain and war. But on the relative, the wound is experienced as an issue. And it affects everyone. So, everyone will be engaged with this wound, either consciously or unconsciously. And those in the former category will be far more equipped to deal with the changes that are coming in society. And I share my perspective to do a small part in helping those changes be birthed into existence. Also, you are making a distinction between the Shiva nature of reality and the Shakti nature of reality... thus creating a dualistic delusion where none exists. You pretend that only absolute truth is valid. That isn't true. Only absolute truth is absolute. But relative perspectives and truths are also valid. And to really be non-dual, you must be able to hold space for both the relative and the absolute... as the relative is a part of the absolute. And the absolute wouldn't be the absolute without the relative.

I understand this. And I don't have an issue with men generally doing pick-up or game. It can be an important phase in a man's life. And if I were a man, I'd do the same to increase my chances. Sex is important and there is nothing fundamentally wrong with wanting lots of sexual experiences, regardless of gender. That said, I do have a problem with misrepresentation of the female perspective and female sexuality. So, I'm pushing back on the idea that men who study pick-up understand female psychology... because they really don't. They just understand what works for them practically in terms of their agenda... which is getting laid usually or even getting a girlfriend. But success in men's agenda, doesn't mean that it's success in terms of women's agenda. And that's a common misconception that I see a lot of PUAs and game guys make. And that includes Leo, which is why I was pushing back on what he said. So, I'm illuminating women's biases (which are rarely articulated precisely) to push back on misconceptions about women that come from men's biases that tend not to be pushed back on enough in the proper way. But the male misconceptions about women are really clear from the female perspective, and they stand in the way of men and women being able to truly connect. If you think you understand something already, but your understanding is false and biased, then you'll never be able to learn. It's like, if your cup is already full of falsehood, no truth can be poured in. And that's especially true if those falsehoods generally serve your agenda. So, if you just want to bust some nuts, then you don't have to listen to this perspective. But if you want a real relationship, you have to drop misconceptions about women's preferences and sexuality that are born out of only WHAT gets the response that you're looking for, versus WHY it gets a response and what the internal experience of that is like.

Actually, I speak directly to what causes Incel and MGTOW to crop up... which is the disintegration of the Feminine in men. It's Anima possession on the collective level. So, I am very intimately aware of men's struggles with this because they are dealing with another form of the collective wound... because it's the same collective wound that women are dealing with. It's the mother wound, of the repressed feminine. So, when I speak about the Feminine I do so for the sake of men who are in the throws of dealing with Anima possession which could also be why you think that women hold the male perspective lower in their minds. You project a lot onto me, and think I'm being misandristic. But that comes from Anima issues, and disintegration and underdevelopment of the Feminine side of yourself. If you connect to that part, women won't seem as threatening and you're less likely to perceive that which is not misandristic as misandristic.

Listen, if you really want to share with me something that I don't already seem to be aware of, you should be more specific. I am receptive to learning new things and getting myself out of the way. Mind you, when I share from a particular relative perspective, it doesn't mean that that's the only perspective that I'm aware of. I pick whichever perspective has the most efficacy in a given situation. It's important to meet people where they are. And on this particular part of the forum, this perspective is the most clarifying and actionable for cutting through misconceptions and mindsets that cover over a deeper and richer experience of their own natural energies and ability to connect. And this comes directly from my experience of myself and what I've heard from others that my perspective has opened them more to. So, if you think I'm stuck on this particular thing, then I have to disagree. This is just one perspective among many perspectives to explore. And I see this as quite akin to a framework like Spiral Dynamics. It explains a lot of things through framework, but the map isn't the territory. Maps can be useful though, unless you're already at the place where 'x' marks the spot. It's only at the 'x' that all maps lose their efficacy. But it's like a teacher who is teaching 9th grade algebra. They aren't 'stuck' on 9th grade algebra themselves. They are TEACHING 9th grade algebra. But they are there to help their students understand 9th grade algebra, which requires them to speak about it a lot. The same is true for me here. This is a perspective that I've explored a lot into. So, I want to give people the 'next right thing' that they need to individuate and grow. So, I talk a lot about the same things because the collective is at the stage where I was when I began my journey a decade ago. And I want to help as many people as I can to understand these issues at a deeper level.

I do enjoy teaching. That's why I do it. And your attempts to dissuade me are equally adorable. And I am a PUA... so you better watch out little lady.

The main questions to ask is if you want to teach is, how is this perspective actionable for people? And if it isn't actionable, there is no point in sharing it in the first place. It just confuses people more. This is why I don't teach from the absolute perspective or any perspective that is likely to cause more confusion than clarity... aka "Cast not pearls..." You need to use words, interpretations, symbols, and narrative to effectively communicate to people. Now, all of these things are misleading in the sense that they don't reflect absolute truth (no perspective truly can) because they are based in relative truths. But relative truths are not invalid and do lead to a lot more clarity. They are true from their own perspective... just like the length of the day and year on different planets or the false but practical notion that dichotomies like up/down and big/small exist. So, if we are aware of the non-duality (not two) that means there is no true distinction between absolute and relative truth. Therefore, to invalidate relative truth is to create a split and a distinction within reality as to which perspectives are valid and which are not. But the real truth is that all perspectives is what infinity refers to. Here is a video on not invalidating relative truths, so that you understand how to teach to people where they are and are able to actually understand things from different perspective instead of invalidating all perspectives... Also, I do have many perspectives on Ego. Here is a couple though these are not the only valid perspective, of course. I have another video on the topic as well and may cover the topic from other perspectives in the future...

Actually, I've gotten quite a lot out of interacting on this forum friendship-wise, business-wise, and influence-wise. Also, if you feel that you have a better way of addressing the current situation (in which wounds do exist... though you could say that they are more like growing pains on the macro level), then feel free to share your perspective. And if you can point to specific areas where my perspective is false, go ahead and share it. I'm an open book. I look forward to having a more complete perspective on the matter since I'm always diving deep to discover more about these collective phenomena. That said, I am sharing from things that I've observed. So, you won't be able to convince me that what I experience is not what I experience. But I have found that many people have benefitted from my perspective and garnered a deeper understanding of the world and themselves, and that it's given them a framework for understanding their own pain and discomfort at deeper and more actionable levels.

On the absolute this is true. On the relative, we do have a lot of individual and collective wounds. So, unless someone abides in the absolute, this perspective you're sharing will just cover over important things that need to be addressed. Imagine making this argument on the physical level. You go into a hospital room where someone's just been shot ten times. And You say, "Hey great new! There are no "wounds, there's just luggage." What you must understand is that, just like a gunshot wound, trauma wounds are still there in the absolute. It's just that your relationship to them changes. But let's be real here, most people will never taste the absolute. So, your perspective just shrouds more things in invalidation. It makes people less conscious, not more conscious, to ignore an aspect of reality just for the sake of some abstract truth that you don't even live in yourself.

You're really straw-manning me here. I don't think you've ever read my posts on this forum before, because it's so off the mark. You're projecting that I'm okay with misandry... which is simply not true. Number one, if I see a woman who's off base, I'm just as willing to push back on her perspective. And it's not as though you can find ANY posts of me beating up on men. But I do call out distortions in perspective when I see it. And whenever I see self-biases that I know are not based in truth, I try to educate. Also, I don't go around calling people sexist. But I'm not going to pretend that certain sexist behaviors are not sexist just because it offends people to call a spade a spade. So, it isn't mean. It's factual.Also, I'm very unlikely to use the word 'sexist' in the first place to refer to these distortions and biases, unless it's relevant and helpful for the person to see past their delusions. Often times, it just requires an explanation. So, if you think I just go around "calling people out" or shaming people or something, then you are not reading my posts. And those that are fragile to gender/sexuality issues and really dug in on their distortions will never hear it. But since it's a public forum, that person doesn't really need to be the one that hears it. Many others will. Also, your last paragraph is partially true. Very few people on this thread are seeing past their own self-biases. But given that men's self-biases are far more prevalent here and that women's self-biases are being looked at as a false perspective by many of the men who believe that they know better, it is incumbent upon me to share the ins and outs of the female perspective at a deeper level. So, while women's self-biases are just as much biased as men's are and are thus untrue... it is true that those are our biases. And most men here have an incredibly distorted idea of women's biases based in lots of false notions about women's sexuality and perspective. Too many men think they read a few pick up books and watch some RSD and suddenly they "know female psychology". And of course that's not true, and even believing so is a defense mechanism because they feel powerless and want to feel more control. Whether men realize it or not, they really do want the love of a woman... especially the inner woman. So, these sources can tell you what generally works if you want to get laid... but they don't tell you why it works in a way that's accurate. And this misrepresentation of women's sexuality, self-biases, and perspectives is a burden to men as well. So, just because other people on here are sharing from their self-biases, doesn't mean I'm doing that in the same light as they are. My goal is always to bring new perspectives to the light of consciousness. I understand that men work differently and have different agendas than me... usually. Women tend to naturally orient to men through the heart. Men tend not to orient to women through their heart until they've gone through years of maturing first. When this happens, the agenda is similar. But before a certain age the male agenda and female agenda is apples and oranges. Young men are in a developmental phase where it's about meeting women and gaining experience. The problem comes when these men have a few one-night stands because they watched some videos on pick up and attended a couple seminars and think they have women figured out and they tell themselves all kind of distorted stories that are simply not true and are a misrepresentation of women's sexuality. And if those young men continue to cling onto these distorted ideas of female sexuality, they will never be able to grow into a mature man with an integrated feminine side who can actually have a functional relationship from the heart. He will run around in circles chasing the things he "knows" and never step a foot out of that safe ideology. So, I offer my perspective and biases as a woman, to push back on their misconceptions about women. And not just for women... for men too.

I'm not sure if you're referring directly to me or not. But I am definitely not making mean or snarky comments, nor have I ever attacked anyone's personality in my posts or critiques. And I don't diagnose anyone as I am not a psychoanalyst. I simply share what I perceive and what I've learned in regard to the topics at hand whether they relate to sexuality, consciousness work, or any other topic, just like everyone else on this forum. Now, Anna is correct in that there is objectively a lot of sexism that goes on here on this section of the forum. And it is very uncomfortable to be a female in this section because lots of stuff men say here does feel like lemon juice in wounds. And the uncomfortable feelings that get triggered are very natural. So, if a woman reacts defensively outwardly, you must understand that it's a very strong instinctual emotional reaction that is based in a real collective wound. But calling something sexist is not a "mean" thing to say. That's just an accurate label to describe the phenomenon. And though I practice remaining respectful and understanding in all my interactions, I don't sugarcoat things or handle people with kid gloves. It's very important to call a spade a spade, even if some people have a bias that prevents them from perceiving it or they get offended by it. But I don't do it to be mean or to belittle anyone, even if that's how they are likely to perceive it. And I don't even behave in a mean way to those who are outright antagonistic to me... which happens often because of the perspectives I share and how threatening they are to many people's status quo. But in order to understand and be of help to anyone, you must be able to hold space for people even if they are incapable of affording you the same courtesy. So, when I call a spade a spade, I do it to be accurate and to illuminate new perspectives to people to help them get un-mired from traps that I've grappled with myself. There's no value in mincing words just because it offends some people or challenges the status quo. Sexism is real and it is common and it is here. And it's unwise to keep one's eyes closed to it.

I'm not saying don't moderate them. What I'm saying is that if you block something out as fundamental as human sexuality, you end up with a contents under pressure situation... that ends up getting in the way of consciousness work and self-actualization. And that's why I disagree that the dating/relationship sub-forum should be deleted. That's all I'm saying. But I understand your feelings, as I feel the same way about sexism. It really doesn't feel good and it salts collective and individual wounds. There's a lot of pain and anger and fear there. And the wounds are deep and ancient and infected. And they effect both men and women, but it's only women who tend to realize it and feel it strongly. And this gives us a unique advantage in helping men and women with this issue. And this is a space where you can bring things to light that can help people that would otherwise be stuck in a bad position. It's a space where you can push back and influence people (men and women) to see what's actually going on. And of course there are many people that don't like to look at this. But I'm not just sharing for their sake. Talking to brick walls is not helpful for the brick wall... and I certainly don't do it for me because it's not fun. But some of the onlookers on this public forum will be deeply influenced. Because I share in this way, so many people are not aware of these things. And I've had quite a few men and women who seek out my services to help them integrate their feminine side. Also, your age is not so relevant to me. And I find it strange that my disagreement with you is being met with the level of resistance that it is on this topic. So, if your assessment is that you have healed your wounds because you're twice my age, then I have to push back on that notion. These are ancient wounds and collective wounds as much as they are individual. And it takes a lot of equanimity to be receptive enough to get deep into the wound enough to start healing it. You have to understand it at such a deep level that you can find compassion even for those men that are spitting vitriol toward women and trying to diminish us. And the compassion grows out of understanding why the wound is effecting them that way. It's really about systems thinking. And because it's a collective wound, you won't be able to fully heal until it's healed in the collective for men and women... which probably won't happen completely any time in my lifetime. But it's about the journey and making things better and better. And if you only focus on the substance of what the 'too far gones' say, you won't see how helpful this kind of awareness is for people. So, the existence of the Dating/Relationship forum tends to produce some low quality content. But it's also the space where the most transformation can happen. Issues always play out on the sexual stage eventually. Repression (in the mind or internet) is not healthy.

Burn out is a good sign for you personally to either step back and take a breather or dig deeper and find the wound it aggravates. The former is good for immediate recooperation, and the latter helps to develop a deeper understanding and higher degrees of equanimity in the face of these pervasive issues. When you become aware of the wound, it has less of an effect on you. You see it for what it is and not what you fear it is. And then, you can help people. This is why the internet's darknesses is so helpful for collective Shadow integration and social evolution. When you face with darkness, the high consciousness thing to do is to shine light on it. The Shadow can't remain in the light. But it can be draining and frustrating sometimes to be on the receiving end of the Shadow. So, breaks are necessary. That said, to cut out the sexuality section, just allows the collective shadow to hide and languish in the dark unconscious. It's best to have things rise to the surface as opposed to suppressing them.

When the desire for sex becomes excessive, it is usually not because of the sex... but instead what the sex represents. So, a man who represses his Feminine side (Anima), will project the disintegrated Anima onto women as whole group. And there will be a simultaneous hatred and resentment as well as an incredibly strong obsessional desire to connect. A man who has an integrated Anima will have a much healthier and non-excessive sex-drive based in the desire for pleasure, procreation, and/or pair-bonding. But it won't be this sense of extreme thirsting for a dearth of the Feminine internally. And because there is no split, he will generally have neutral feelings about women... basing his feelings only on the particulars of the individual woman he interacts with. He will see women as complex individuals capable of both good and evil. But you want to think about the Anima as literally being a split off woman personality inside of a man. Like there is a shadow aspect of him that is literally female, and has all the access to his feminine strengths and wisdom. It gives him access to the subconscious, the intuition, and his emotions. But when this internal woman gets rejected, she behaves as any scorned woman does. She gets jealous and petty and possessive of his personality. And he starts expressing shadow feminine traits... all the while believing he's being masculine in his rejection of the feminine. And his Anima aspect behave with smallness, cattiness, and pettiness toward women... because the Anima is jealous of the attention he pays to them and not her. And so she sabotages his relationships. And projects her own face onto all women which is vengeful and cold because she wants him to feel the same rejection that he has dealt out to her as he pushes her out of his conscious awareness.