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@Leo Gura Yes but how do you know it's the truth? How would I know when I am being myself? How do I know what my destiny is?

I am a person who is committed to apply the concepts of self-development into every aspects of my life, but should I apply it to dating? For example: self-development concept: (never give up) When I ask a girl out and she rejects me, if I apply this concept, I would just keep asking her out and keep bothering her to the point that she finds me disturbing and annoying. I know that I am not suppose to give up, but would this get me girls? Wouldn't girls just see this type of behavior as uncool and not sexy? concept: (keep on asking girls out until you get what you want) If I get out of my comfort zone and ask one hot girl out per day, what if the girl that I asked out yesterday sees me ask or kiss another girl? What would she think of me? Or worse, would she tell all her hot friends to beware and never date me? Self-development involves a lot of planning and committing. But relationships are unpredictable, one moment it goes well, the next I might fuck up. Should I plan what girl I'm going to ask out and commit to that one girl? (probably not right?) Basically: Am I suppose to be pushy in terms of my relationships with girls? Or should I just don't (plan) expect anything and let it happen? (isn't this the loser's way? But maybe it works with dating only?) I'm lost as F. Where does relationships and self-development meet? Is this the only area that I shouldn't apply the concepts of self-development? I am 18, only had one girl friend. I don't get girls in general. If anyone can answer my questions or just explain what girls want that would be appreciated. Also how do I have as many one night stands (Or just hot fuck buddies) or just have a good sex life in general without appearing to be an asshole who cheats on woman? thank you, jordan wang

@egoeimai Yes ambitions never end, but while you are improving your situation by taking action, you also need to try to be happy as much as possible. it is about the mind, but actions are really important. (can't emphasis this enough)

I have many goals and dreams, but I don't know if I really want them, (AKA I don't know if they are really my goals and dreams) For example: I want to join the SFU varsity swimming team. I am really good at swimming, but doing so would require hard work. Furthermore, I don't know if swimming is actually my passion or not. Every since I was young, my parents had been throwing me into the swimming pool for me to learn how to swim, but not once had they asked me if I liked it or not, as a result, I don't even know myself if I like it. I just know that I am good. Joining the SFU varsity swimming team would definitely hard work. I know I can do it, but with every stroke in the water, I feel like giving up, because you have to go through some inhumane training to join a team like this one. So now I ended up asking myself this question: "Do I actually like swimming?" If I do, then why do I feel the pain in the water? Shouldn't every swim practice be fun and exciting? If I don't, then I guess I'll just find my true passion. Are there any techniques to finding my true passion? I guess another way of asking this question would be: Should passion be intrinsically motivating or extrinsically motivating. I understand that if I want to be good at anything it would require hard work which I probably won't enjoy (this is human nature), in order to get a payoff in the future. (Extrinsic) But if you can be happy by doing something (intrinsic), even if there are no payoff in the future, it would be even better. I just don't know if such a thing exist. Some of my goals are: Joining the varsity swimming team, become a hacker, become an entrepreneur... I always enjoy some aspects of it: the Payoff part, what I get if I actually achieved it. But I don't actually want to put in the work. Should true passion be soooo good that it would get me excited to the point that I want to work at it day and night, and in which I would even enjoy the process of working at it? Would I enjoy puting in the work into my true passion? In general: How do you find your passion exactly? anything helps, thank you, Jordan wang

@egoeimai How do I let things flow exactly? Just go about life with no expectations? Or is it trying new and different things everyday? When the passion comes, how would I know that it is actually my passion? What does it feel like to suddenly come up with a passion? Just curious, when did you discovered your passion? Also are there activities that you can suggest me do in order to discover mine? thank you, jordan wang

To be honest, There might be several things going on: 1, Your friend doesn't have a specific target that he wants to hit. (ex. making an album by December 2017; Selling 20,000 CDs by 2018...) 2, Your friend isn't using any of the success techniques. (Ex. Power of visualizing, law of attraction...) Sometimes being passionate about something is just not good enough, you also have to know if you really want to be successful in this field. If you really do, set some goals (specific targets that you want to reach by when) hope this helps, Jordan wang

Hello Leo, How do you know if you really want something. How do you know if you are actually passionate about something? For example: I have many goals, but I am unsure about a lot of them. For example, I want to join the SFU varsity swimming team, I am also really good at swimming, but I need to train hard in order to join. Furthermore, with every stroke, I feel tired and I want to give up. Am I just mentally weak, or am I actually not passionate about swimming. In which case I would do something else with my life. Jordan wang