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@Insane butterfly That would’ve been a good idea too! @Meditationdude oh helpful thanks lol

@BornToBoil Good points. Like I mentioned, the design is not yet finalized and obviously the final design won't be a bunch of boxes of stock photos layered out exactly like the compilation I just attached. Most of it will be blended in together, + a lot of it in the background. This is for me mainly and what is meaningful to me. Plus most people aren't usually inches away from me for them to analyze every single part of my tattoo. People will only see it from a distance for the most part. Also, most tattoos are just a bunch of random photos put together anyway, I'll attach some examples below. I think the wrist area for Beige makes more sense. My wrist is a tad bit skinny, so Beige would start there with one small idea/photo then moving up my arm there would be more space for the stages up the spiral. Basically Beige is the less significant stage so it belongs on my tiny wrist with the one caveman hunting photo. Well how would that look like? It just makes more sense to have photos as shown in the compilation to represent the stages. To create some unique art would probably end up just being abstract art and won't have anything to do with spiral dynamics. Tattoo sleeve random photos put together examples:

@Byun Sean My excuse is that since I have no friends to go out with, it just looks lame if I go out on my own to social events. There's so many videos on "how can I go out and meet girls if I have no friends?" Which sort of help I guess but not really. It's just advice like "oh in the coffee shop line up talk to the girl next to you." But sure I guess I can agree the best advice is to go out there and meet people where ever you are, and there's no way around that. No one deserves anything for being lazy, that's just the harsh truth of reality. Another excuse I have is that the pandemmy makes it even more of a challenge to meet people. It was already a challenge for me to go out before all of this, now its 5x more difficult. I've done pickup before for a while but results sucked. It's hard for me to imagine myself doing something like that again now that I'm a bit older. Results on dating apps suck but that's all I have. I'm pretty much screwed. The best place for me to meet people though is in a workplace at a job, but I don't work right now. Maybe at some point I'll get a job again just for the social life.

I mean I'd say attraction is a whole different topic on its own since its just the initial phase of getting to know someone, but I guess my question is more about what it takes to maintain a long-term relationship after the attraction phase. Initially we can attract females with our personality, confidence, physical appearance, etc. And they don't know too much about our personal lives yet until later on in the relationship, so this is sort of my concern here. As a woman gets to know more about my personal life it seems like it may or may not be a turn off to them to realize I don't have much of a life outside of the gym and the internet. Of course though if she becomes a part of my life I'd go out and do things with her, but I just wonder if my own life outside of the relationship matters. I think it would be attractive though that I try to work on myself and my situation every day. Although as I age I would imagine its somewhat of a turnoff that I'm at a specific age and don't have my shit together yet. I think every man should have most of their shit together by 25-30 at least. And yes I agree "challenging" is the correct word to use here. I don't know if its "impossible" but maybe in some cases it could work out, its probably just super rare to find the right one. Maybe I'm looking for the spiritual non-judgmental type of girl who would appreciate this type reclusive lifestyle. Perhaps you may be looking for the same? Real question is, where can we find someone like this.

I can agree, and I don't mean to limit myself or think on the negative side of things but I think that even though that's true, the idea of having fun in the relationship and the importance of having a good financial situation still applies. Sure introverted girls would enjoy a simpler lifestyle but what does that mean exactly? They may not care about their partner not having a ton of friends but I'd imagine you still need to add spice to the relationship through fun experiences together. And fun experiences would mean spending some money. Although I guess that's just pretty much expected before entering any relationship, you'll be spending money. I mean its fun and better than a hand, but that's basically what it is to me. Although I can imagine its a whole lot of a different experience when you're having sex with someone you deeply love because of the emotions that are involved, but I don't know what that's like.

@Reciprocality @neovox Thanks for the feedback

I wrote something similar to this in the past on these forums, but seemed like a bunch of people here left hate comments on that thread for some reason lol. Maybe I was a jerk back then, at that time I was in my PUA phase. Anyways. What I wrote in that previous thread was that, it always seems like people always stare or quickly glance at me in public and it bothers me. People in the comments were basically asking if I'm ugly, no I'm not. I consider myself at least a 7/10 in terms of physical appearance. I believe it's because of the way I walk or carry myself. Which brings me to the topic of this thread, I view myself as an insecure alpha male. One co-worker at a previous workplace one time described me as "hard on the outside, soft on the inside." Often times when I walk in a room, I see in the corner of my eyes, people take a glance at me. In their minds they're probably thinking "Huh?! I better stare at him because maybe he's up to something!" For them to later realize I'm literally doing nothing or just walking in the room. This bothers me. It happens so often that it makes me a bit insecure. Naturally I carry myself in a confident way like an alpha male, but sometimes I try to carry myself in the opposite way in order to avoid people glancing at me. I also often try to avoid eye contact with people because if I look at them they instantly sense I took a glance at them. WHY?! With normal people this doesn't usually happen. It's a common occurrence for other people to walk by, but when its me I got people's heads turning breaking their necks. I don't know where my eyes should go, sometimes I close my eyes and walk. If I look and walk in their direction it's as if they think I'm about to approach them. Sometimes when I'm speed walking towards my destination, people look in the direction I'm walking towards, as if I'm some undercover cop about to arrest somebody. "Woah this guy is walking, I wonder what's about to happen." If I'm behind someone at a fast food line up, its like they feel my presence behind them and they look at me. wtf. This is a weird thing to struggle with I know. Being in the gym is also a struggle sometimes because it feels like all eyes are on me. And sometimes its not even just a feeling, people are LITERALLY looking at me, and this reinforces my insecurity, the feeling of being stared at. If anyone sees what I look like in person, I seem like the tough guy type, its the way I look and dress. But on the inside I'm pretty soft, I like cats, often times I'm kind, I like my childhood favorite TV shows like Spongebob. Get to know me on a personal level and you'd know I'm not the type of guy people initially would assume I am. I own a pair of white sneakers with Mickey Mouse on it, for the style, but also to let people know I'm no harm. With girls I appear to be somewhat of a weak man around them. Mainly through text, text is the death of me and the girl. In person I can be normal with them as if they were another normal human being, but with text I scare them away with awkwardness. Not sure what answers I'm looking for here but anyone got any comments? Is there some sort of imbalance here, are certain chakras blocked? Advice on the last thread were basically to just let it happen, be you. But that didn't really help, it still bothers me from time to time.

@Espaim I mean maybe what you're saying is true to some degree but using those words make it seem a bit overexaggerated. It's not a crippling insecurity that makes me stay stuck at home and never want to be in public. I obviously still go outside, gym everyday, interact with people sometimes, had a somewhat of a decent social life in my past. So its not as extreme as you make it seem to be, or as extreme as I probably made it seem in this thread. But I understand its not easy to figure out the extent of something just based on text itself. @Barbara I'll check it out thanks

@Parththakkar12 Definitely got some good points there. Although I often feel the way I carry myself is just natural to me, it just happens without me even trying. @NoSelfSelf I have many characteristics that make up an Alpha, but also many Beta male traits. I guess I'm sort of in the middle.

That's true. I find a lot of Alphas tend to be successful business leaders or pickup artists and often times use manipulation to get their way. Manipulation usually comes from a place of insecurity deep down, even though on the surface level they may seem pretty confident in themselves. I actually remember I tried to do something similar to this one day. I committed to looking at every single person in the eye who walked by me and tried smiling at them. It just made me laugh cause they were probably wondering what was going on . This reminds me, maybe I might start trying this again

I have done them a couple times already and have some acid, shrooms & weed sitting around. Haven't touched them in a couple months though but thinking of doing a tab or a half this weekend possibly. Last time I took a tab I had complete ego death for the first time which was pretty intense and really deep. Got me more in touch with my spiritual side after that experience. But over time I stopped focusing on spiritual practices and now I'm at a point where I'm focused on the external reality chasing pleasure. Maybe this explains the amplification of my insecurities, or not who knows. Would you really recommend combining LSD with weed? Seems more about chasing fun rather than for spiritual purposes. LSD on its own is already a lot.

So are you saying Alphas can't be insecure? Is there a specific checklist that you follow where every point has to be checked in order for someone to be considered an Alpha? How about a masculine female with a vagina, does that make her a female or a male? At what point is she not considered a female according to your checklist?

The way I carry myself definitely changed significantly for me when I got into pickup. But it could also be a combination of that and doing meditation, working out, working on myself overall. Seems to be a permanent change. I feel fine but its just different when there's people around or near my personal space bubble. When I'm in the gym, I do feel hyperconscious of my surroundings. People using the bench right next to me for example. It always feels like they're looking at me, but in most cases they're not. And yeah definitely. Like what Preety_india and I were talking about above, subconsciously I do put out somewhat of a strong vibe in the way I walk without even trying and causes people to look at me. And since I get a handful of glances per day, this reinforces an insecurity that makes it feel like if these handful of people stare at me, then maybe everyone else is staring at me also, when they're most likely not. My eye contact is really strong too, a quick glance usually will make people automatically sense it. I never really know where to put my eyes so I always just look at my phone to try and avoid this. Maybe it could also be a personality thing about us introverts (assuming you're the introverted type).

Like a normal person. What is normal though anyway I'm cool with the way I am now, I'm just not cool with other's initial perception of me. I don't want people to be afraid of me or cautious around me, because that's how it can seem to me at times. Maybe they think I'm up to no good and about to steal shit or something. When in reality I'm not that type of person. But this is just how reality is, this would only be fixed if I changed my physical appearance completely or if I went ahead and had a friendly conversation with every single person in my vicinity. Sometimes I just want my physical appearance to match my personality. It surprises people when they get to know me and my silly side, because I probably look like the type to be stuck up. But then I also don't want to change just for others. This is one reason why I tend to hang out on my own these days. Around other people it always seems like I'm being criticized for something. "Too shy, too quiet, too this, too that." I like people but also don't like people. Whatever I've done to work on myself in the past is how I became the person I am today so it is what it is

Certainly could be the reason why. This could also be a reason why additional stares at me occur. This subconscious behavior wouldn't happen though if a bunch of people didn't stare at me in the first place. So its a combination of both, people actually staring at me for no reason which reinforces the insecurity within' me, then later on me subconsciously staring at others believing everyone else is also staring at me which leads to the additional stares. I try, not easy though

These are some Youtube channels I follow. They basically talk about how the US economy is going to shit and how we're headed towards a depression. Kitco News mainly talks about news related to crypto and precious metals. https://www.youtube.com/c/TheSchiffReport/videos https://www.youtube.com/c/kitco https://www.youtube.com/c/BULLBOOMBEARBUST

In terms of looks I consider myself above average honestly, I've been using online dating apps for more than 5 years and my results suck. I haven't gotten laid once. Maybe my city has high standards? My game sucks though for the most part, so game is pretty important in my opinion. Pretty interesting though, I went on a trip to the Philippines once and got 4x the amount of matches I get back at home. Although, there's a lot of trannies in the Philippines using the app.. lol

Famous black t-shirt making a comeback?

Apparently they're targeting silver stocks next. Spot price for silver already jumped up $1-$2 in price per oz from $25 within' a day before market close.

I'd say its a pretty accurate understanding of what goes on in these types of relationships from a psychological perspective. From a scientific perspective, one thing to add here is that, attachment or the development of feelings from one party could also be the cause of the release of oxytocin in the brain after sex/physical intimacy. I think its more common for girls instead of guys to develop feelings in these types of relationships. Not exactly sure if this is true or not but often times I think that girls hook up with guys because they think that it could lead to a potential relationship with a guy and then they get hurt if the guy doesn't want to commit. One time, my pickup friends back in the day had a house downtown. They all lived together, went out to the clubs every weekend and pulled girls home. Then one day one of them told me that someone threw a rock at their window and broke the glass. They don't know who did it but it was most likely one of the girls they slept with because one of them probably broke her heart. So like Leo mentioned in the Pickup Rant video, pickup causes a lot of collateral damage and this is a pretty good example of that. For guys, while I did say they deep down want a meaningful connection with a woman, the ego also does want what it wants which is to sleep with a lot of girls and make a bunch of money. It could also be our Higher Self who desires this deep meaningful connection which could explain the development of feelings in fwb relationships. Just some ideas, could depend on the individual(s). The only thing that I've heard so far that science says about this, is the fact that your testosterone levels see a significant increase after 7 days of retaining your semen. Then it starts to drop to normal levels days after. So in that case it does work, because testosterone helps with your overall drive and willpower as a man. But for people to go months and years of not fapping, I'm not exactly sure what to say about that. If the benefits come within' 7 days then I don't see the purpose of going 100+ or 1000+ days of not fapping. Beyond the 7 day mark could potentially be where the placebo effect comes into play. At the same time, all these benefits could also be the cause of other daily practices such as eating healthy, going to the gym, meditation, etc. And their anxiety may not even be the cause of watching porn and fapping, but the cause of eating unhealthy, drugs, video games, not exercising, etc. So this is where it gets a bit tricky. Another benefit the community talks about is the fact that it changes the way guys view women. Often times guys objectify women and see them as a sexual object rather than a real human being. Maybe because they watch too much porn, that could be the cause of this. So nofap could change this. Definitely depends on the individual. But I still think that everyone would be better off without it, maybe watching porn is the real problem here. If watching TV is unhealthy then porn must be just as bad.

Not immediately before trading but I've always had a meditation practice that I try to do as often as I can. Enlightenment probably can help with managing your emotions when trading but I don't have too much experience with that to have a specific opinion. The best way to control your emotions in the market is to continually experience the market. Open trades, experience the volatility of the market, understand how price moves, etc. Keep practicing or live trading until the point you're just so used to what goes on in the market. There's a lot of traders out there who aren't enlightened and are really good traders. And some of these traders do drugs, drink, & smoke cigarettes. They became good traders through experience. If we had the opportunity to observe an enlightened person with 1 month of trading experience VS a smoker & alcoholic with 8 years of trading experience, the one with 8 years of experience will most likely do 10X better than the enlightened person. Experience beats anything any day. Its up to you and your strategy if you want to decide to trade patterns. I only trade the patterns that work best for me which is double/triple tops, double/triple bottoms, H&S, and inverse H&S. Doji, hammer, etc. are all patterns too, they're candlestick patterns. Personally I don't trade candlestick patterns. Not that they don't work but its just not part of my trading style. If you find they're helpful for you then you can trade them. I use Fibonacci, it's a really good tool if you're trading pullbacks/retracements, I enter around the 50-70% retracement levels. Fibonacci can also be used to set take profit levels. I don't use indicators, I mainly trade just price action, some patterns & Fibonacci. I wouldn't say Fibonacci is an indicator, I say its more of a charting tool. Biggest mistake I regret is not following the idea of strict risk management. Everyone tells us to risk 1-3% per trade, but as a newbie its tempting to risk big, and most newbies are too confident in themselves that they end up losing quite a bit in the beginning. In most cases I imagine it starts off that way for every trader where they don't follow risk management rules in the beginning, and until they actually lose a shit ton of money they start to take the rules more seriously.

We don't know enough about him or his personal life to even say anything. We know him through the forums and the videos but that shows nothing.

@soos_mite_ah Yup, red pill/pickup mainly teaches men how to get laid and have an "abundance of women" but doesn't teach you how to get a quality long-term fulfilling relationship. Men think that they want all the women in the world but deep down they probably genuinely do want a long-term intimate connection with a woman. It's like how most people desire millions of dollars and all these materialistic things but those are all just the desires of the ego. Nofap is this whole entire "self-improvement" movement that has become pretty popular amongst men on the internet. I've heard of women following it as well. Basically the people who follow the practice see certain benefits to it such as overall confidence, increased strength in the gym, clarity of thought, increased happiness, motivation, discipline, less anxiety, etc. Just a lot of general health benefits that come with it. It's often a topic for debate though cause one side thinks its bullshit and placebo while others genuinely believe it can improve your overall quality of life. IMO its just another additional self-improvement or spiritual practice that one can add to their list of other daily practices along with meditation, working out, eating healthy, breathwork, cold showers, etc. And it should never be the one and only practice that guys rely on for all these sorts of benefits. Because people could be eating healthy salads all day but to not include working out at the gym or jogging to their daily routine, that wouldn't maximize the health benefits that they acquire and perhaps desire. Longest streak I've been on was 70 days, I definitely noticed the benefits. But at the same time it also could've been a placebo effect. Honestly though it probably does work because you're basically removing yourself from the strong addiction of fapping & watching porn. An addiction that almost everyone has which definitely isn't healthy if its excessive and consumes part of your life. Casey Zander is popular for talking about it because it adds to the quality man that men can become. Men who fap all day are the horny ones who most likely would be the type of guys to do pickup. While removing the addiction helps with your overall motivation to find your purpose/start a business, and to stop chasing pussy. So I really see it more as an internal work process rather than an external work process. Of course I probably just scratched the surface of it but there's a lot more to learn about it online

I'm alone too for the most part, I'm in a similar situation. I live with my dysfunctional family, I talk to them sometimes but barely. Planning to move out to another province on my own. I've been single my whole life, I'm in my mid-twenties. I've had a lot of good close friends though growing up, but these days I mainly look for quality friendships so guess what I have no close friends now. I can message some old friends I've had in the past if I wanted to, but I choose not to. I just don't feel like we're on the "level." But I don't mind it, I'm used to it and learned to love it. There's no reason for me to dwell on it.