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@Shin I'm certain of it, I'll keep working hard.

@Shin Sure, I have converstions with people at work and my tiny social circle. But, I want to be able to cold approach though and be responsible for my succes with meeting new people.

I actually do this every day in combination with therapy.I had very severe social anxiety before starting self-actualization, now after about 3 years I feel a lot more at peace in general. I cannot approach girls yet like I want to so I’ve just been doing whatever I can every day. The furthest I’ve come is saying hi, smiling, and looking everyone in the eye. I feel like soon I will be able to do more

This is just a thought, I’m very early in developing my own sexual maturity so take this with a grain of salt. Maybe because you avoided your feelings about liking men when you where at the age of 15, you now crave what you did not allow yourself to feel back then. Because you deprived yourself of feeling exactly how you felt back then it is showing up now. You did not allow yourself to be into guys at the age of 15, so now your mind wants what it couldn’t get back then. This often also happens with guys who were never able to get a relationship with a girl when they were in their teens. The result of that is that at a later stage of their life they crave intimacy with a teenager. Ponder if this is true for yourself.

It's not even about believing what Leo is saying though. He gives us interesting ideas and way to look at certain things, but they won't do anything unless we experience and find out about them for ourselves. Who cares if Leo is right or wrong? Is he someone who can point us into the right direction, that's the question

Recently it really hit me that for the last year and really all my life I've been saying to myself that my social anxiety and fear is okay and I can cope, but I've finally now come to the point where I can really say that I need help and I cannot cope anymore. I talked to @aurum in the past when I booked an initial session to see what Life coaching is all about, and now it is clear to me that if I really REALLY want to move forward with my life, I have to focus my attention on this anxiety find someone that will go with me into the field to talk to girls, throw myself in social situations, and work out this issue. I went to a psychologist this past year but I haven't really seen a lot of improvement. Not because his approach was that wrong, but because I think I wasn't actually facing and going into my fears, taking action on them, but only really theorising and talking about them. I'm now looking for someone that has wisdom on personal development, psychology, and can help me get more insight into what is happening. I've looked at The Natural Lifestyles, as I really like their approach towards this and think they could help me a ton but for now I cannot afford to go so far abroad. I need to find preferably a Life Coach, that can do these things with me in person. My question is, do you guys have any idea on what the best way is to look for someone like this? Thanks.

So far my Me Sheet looks like this Life purpose statement: "Giving people a deeper connection with life" Zone of Genius: "Reflection" Domain of Mastery: *blank* Ideal Medium: not sure yet, I'd actually love to give seminars and do videos but writing is also something I'm passionate about My question is about my Domain of Mastery. For a while now I've had the intuition of becoming a spiritual teacher. Teaching about a variety of things to help people make sense of life. I have been thinking a lot about having myself as my Domain of Mastery. Developing myself and being able to be an example for people as I help them through life. Can I have myself as my Domain of Mastery?

I thought this was an interesting video to share. It seems like lots of mainstream youtubers/celebrities are getting shifts in their consciousness and their overal view about life in this recent time. This is an example

@Leo Gura Alright, I’ve thought about it and this is what I came up with. As my Life Purpose, I will deepen my connection to life and learn more about how life works. I’ve always loves languages and writing , so for my domain of mastery I will learn to master expressing my wisdom through written words in multiple languages so I can reach a wide audience. Basically, I work towards being a sage and sharing wisdom with the world. My domain of mastery is to evolve in how and with what I deliver that message.

@PhilGR Ye, I find it very interesting to see him evolving over the years as a person. I’ve been watching his videos since I was 10 and I am 18 now.

@Shroomdoctor All of them. Investing my energies into become a master of being human

Since I was about 10 years old I have had deep social anxiety. Fear of how people perceive me, fear of what might happen tomorrow, fear of every situation I perceive as a potential threat to the image I have of myself. So, when I started meditating and self-actualizing 3 years ago, my main goal was to become still and grounded. Although this goal has shifted a bit throughout the years, I still want to develop into someone who stands firm and doesn’t need validation to feel worthy. This summer vacation I pretty much spent on contemplating my fears and learning how work with them. Finding a way to become a strong individual and not so needy for being “liked”. I feel like this has come a long way and I now have a strong sense of where all this insecurity and fear comes from; I want to be validated and liked to feel a sense of worth. If I don’t get this sense of worth, I fear losing a reason to exist. So, this is what all comes down to. Not knowing why I exist and being scared if I don’t accumulate worth, I will suddenly stop existing. If I don’t have a reason to exist, what keeps me from vanishing? Why I wrote this, is because of this reason: Just now I had an introduction day at my school. I’ve been dreading going there for weeks. While I was there I experienced something weird. Because I now know the reason of my fear, I actually felt relatively calm. I was really taken back by this because normally, these big events scare me so much, I feel close to a panic-attack. My mind was calm and felt at ease but my body was restless and shaking of fear. TLDR: Why is my mind calm, but my body in deep anxiety? It feels like my body is so used to being afraid, it started showing signs of anxiety in a situation that would normally cause fear. Yet, My mind felt at ease. How come?

I bought them both one year ago when I was 17. For me they are very much worth it.

Man, this touched me. Thank you for posting!

About a year ago something terrible happened in the Netherlands that really hit me. A young girl was murdered and raped while she was taking a ride on her bike through the forest. For some reason I still feel a deep emotional connection to what happened to her which causes me to feel a lot of sadness and anxiety. I've always been quite empathic but since a while now, this has really deepened a lot. When other people feel sad, I feel sadness, when people feel depressed, I feel their trouble. I don't really know how to deal with these abilities. I feel quite a lot of guilt because of how I feel about what happened to this girl. I don't even know her, yet what she dealt with really pains me. Does anyone here have experience or knowledge on how to live deep empathic abilities? I want to find a way to use these abilities for helping people instead of letting them get to me as much as they are right now.

@St Clair Damn, awesome message! Becoming a word wizard, i’ll keep that one Writing a blog is definitely a good idea, I’ll think about it. What I really want to do though is write a book that not necessarily directly points to consciousness but conveys it, just by reading the words. I don’t know how I’m going to do that, but if I find my way, It’ll be something amazing.

After a lot of digging, becoming a writer is what is most prominent in my mind. I think about it all the time. Yet, I have a lot of trouble deciding that this is what I will choose for life. From an early age I've always been someone with an all or nothing approach. If I decide I want to do something I commit to it until the end. This is exactly what is making it so difficult for me to fully commit to this path. How do I know I'm making the right choice? How do I know I won't regret this? So much fear and limiting beliefs are going through my mind that it's very difficult to separate if I truly don't feel sure about this or if my fears are effecting my perspective on becoming a writer. It is just so frustrating not knowing what to do, it makes me crazy. I'd like some help with this.

@Nahm Your message is so deep and carry so much wisdom, I'll have to go back to it again and again. I have a hard time trusting that wherever life leads me, it'll get me on the right path eventually. It feels like I need to neurotically control everything so that I can get the outcome of a fulfilling and beautiful life. How do I gain this trust? I'd like to just relax and let everything happen as it is supposed to happen, but something inside of me says that if I do that, I won't have control over what will happen and that will potentially lead me to tragedy. I've been trying to find a way to deepen this connection with life. One of the most beautiful moments during my day lately is going to the park, sitting under a tree, and start admiring how the branches and leaves move when the wind blows through it. Moments like that really make realise that life is happening, and most of the time I'm unaware of it's essence. How do I reach a point where I'm connected enough with life to help others? It's a question I ask myself a lot, and have a lot of trouble answering. Thank you. @ajasatya Even though I'd say your suggestion is very interesting, I don't know how I will find the motivation to master something without there being complete and deep commitment. I don't know how I can go all the way with something without completely committing. I usually have a very all or nothing approach to everything. Commitment is one of my top values.

@ajasatya I will look into it, and try my best to find a way to use these abilities to help others, thanks for your suggestion. @zoey101 Thank you for your empathy. It is hard for me to not be consumed by these emotions, they hit me so deep. I guess like @Preetom says, I will need to sit down and share love and compassion with these feelings. Hopefully I can reach her spirit or whatever remained of the energy of that situation. @Sahil Pandit I have a strong imagination so whenever I think about what happened to her, these images and scenarios start playing into my head. It makes me quite sad. @Toby It's like I don't have control over these boundaries, these strong emotions just hit me and fill me up out of nowhere.

Follow your heart, don't let the stigma of gaming-videos turn you away from what you are really passionate about. A lot of young people watch gaming videos on youtube. Think about the influence you could have on them if you share higher consciousness wisdom through your speech. It could be really powerful.

Good suggestion, thanks. I will give it a shot.

@pluto Beautiful, thank you.

@aurum Thank you for your comment. I've since found that I indeed want to write right now, it feels authentic. Even though there is still some doubt in how I feel about it, I will pursue it and see where it leads me. Writing to make people have a deeper connection with life, seems to be my Life Purpose.

It seems like a waste really. You’ve been given this body and a world to play in and explore, learn and grow, experience awesome things. Why end it?

Why do I feel so pulled towards ‘doing’ every day? It seems there is this inner motivation driving this urge of ‘doing’ because of the fear of wasting my life if I don’t do anything. After realizing how fast my life is passing by and that I’ll die eventually, this fear of not-doing has become intenser. I’m aware I can’t directly change this since it feels like I have no control over it, but maybe unraveling the motivator of this urge could help. I’ve tried not-doing and sitting still for 1,30 hour multiple times, but for some reason everything seems fine while sitting and it doesn’t change how I feel about ‘doing’.