Principium Nexus

Everything is thought, even the 'physical' world. Reality is only what you think it to be. Perception literally bends the matrix, breaking free from conditioned thinking will set your imagination free and broadens the way how you can see reality.

@John Iverson My apologies those were some quick somewhat poorly translated thoughts. When I try to explain things I take nature as reference because these phenomena repeat themselves at every level, especially waves. I don't try to explain what non-duality is, because that is not possible. What I try to understand is how relativity is created from non-relativity. In some way 'thought' takes form from oneness/non-duality. I try to go back to the utmost origin that is understandable in intellect where this transition process starts. I want to know what thoughts are and why they arise. My idea is that most of reality, which is percieved through some cultural filter, is heavily affected by preconceived notions (even this one) and therefor the idea what it is supposed can be extremely varying. But the idea that reality is only an idea does only apply within the context of duality, where symbolic language exists. I do meditate and really dont want to claim to know it all.. Thats why I try to open a thread after all, to discuss, but maybe I started out too vague and have to read my stuff twice before posting.

@Aware You could go even further and say that there are infinite gradations between the fire and smoke so the line where one begins or ends starts to fade away.

From my own experience I can tell that moving forward into new understanding, more detailed areas or fixing things that previously felt incomplete is key to my hapiness and fullfilment. Is it possible to feel fullfiled if someone would stop doing anything and on what would this fullfilment be based?

@Extreme Z7 Yes because the 'I am' is only an idea. 'You' never do anything because that doesn't exist, but you think you do, because thats the requirement for the illusion. The illusion that you think you are seperated, have identity because of relativity. 'Your' whole life is an idea because it is an illusion, this is what we find when we dive into non-duality and see that these labels are only symbolic. All presumed things are only ideas, reality is only an idea.

For example the mind is calm and ever so quite. You perceive this world without any attached labels, but then suddenly you look around. This action of looking around is a silent thought. Lets break this down, why did you look around? What is the urge, the why? This is because our identitity is still present, very hidden. It's action can be due interest to experience or percieve something else.

I know what you guys are trying to say. But silent thoughts are only an illusion. Not hearing a voice in your head doesn't mean you are not thinking in thoughts. You can think in all senses, ever thought of a smell, a taste, a sound, a picture? I think you guys are limiting yourself to one certain type of conceptual form of thought which is in words. Thought is way broader than you guys think.

So if the world dissappears with the last thought 'I am', then can I conclude the world only exists with thought. Oh and I understand what non-duality is, because I think that is what @Leo Gura refers to, but in that state its all void or infinite without discrimination or distinction. So reality is void and non-existent, nothing to compare to because there is no end or beginning. Reality or the matrix instantly gets created when you take a position within non-duality. A perspective arises with the corresponding thoughts of identity in space and time. It's a pretty big paradox.

@Leo Gura That's also just an idea. Who says there is absolute thought? We never have fully experienced complete nothingness, since we are 'alive' to an agreeable degree. The absence of thought you think is complete going on at micro level, it's so hidden that you almost call it non-existent. You see functioning is thinking, moving is thinking, organized action is done because the body wants to complete some goal. You exclude the micro thoughts that make arise the more prominent personal thoughts which entail complexer concepts. You are always thinking wether you like it or not to stay alive. A nice comparison would be throwing a pebble in a silent lake. The ripples represent heightened awareness or so sense of identity that comes with concepual thinking. The ripples spread, broaden their identity, but get weaker in the proces. Eventually the enivornment, the edge of the lake, echo's the identity back in an exact mirror image. The amplitude has reversed in the wave that is bouncing back an it redefines itself searching for the orgin. The point is, the mind works in a similar way. No matter how small the wave is, it is still present. Relatively speaking, the less thoughts you have, the more silent the mind becomes again, but the echos will follow you till your 'death'.

@Maxx Correct reality is only an idea so everything in it too. Even the idea of it being an idea or thought.

Basically the mind creates relativity and the whole matrix of thought is ideas expanding into and from each other, ever defining what they themself inherently mean.

@Moreira But there is a difference by being cared of and stepping into adult survival. If you can turn survival into a playful act then you are doing something right.

I have come to the conclusion that doing nothing is actually not possible for something that does exist. Basically to keep existing is a continious progression on it's own even if the time is filled with non-discrete goals (whatever arises contents). So staying alive is the ultimate goal, because that is the ultimate fullfilment then?

@ajasatya Then it's still based on something on the notion of whatever arises is satisfactory because we are in awe of reality itself. I wonder what degree of silence or absence of stimulation (doing stuff yourself or have a busy environment) is acceptable? For example living alone on mars would be very lonely and boring in the longterm. Even if your fully enlightened and could let go off all grasping to do things, I bet it would be driving you nuts.

@Shiva Everyone has their phase, if they have fun and enjoy their time, then nobody can blame them.

Get your priorities straight, make a list what is important to you. Focus on doing those things with care because they are important. The other things therefor need less attention and this should help you with planning and balancing energy. Also do not overwork, plan breaks, freetime, mindfullness/meditation. These are as important as working to get things ordered and have clear vision or just to relax in general. So getting some sort of general scheme is great, but also know how to be flexible when things around you change and you have to adapt. It takes time and practise and is an ongoing process.

I basically stoppes make the distinction of sleep dreaming and waking life. Ofcourse I know the difference, the waking one reality seems solid and stays where it is, but the whole idea is too wicked that it feels like some miraculous play. Waking like certainly has some serious dream-like qualities, they become more appearent when you self-actualize and learn things are quite groundless.

I think it puts up a slight boundery. You can love someone but ultimately if you are not able to love yourself than that doubt is also reflected in holding back some love because you are afraid that the other person also think in a similar way. But love is luckily an evolving thing, it dynamically. Its possible to rediscover self-love through the eyes of the other person. To love someone fully with hes flaws and beauties is very powerful and relaxing. It eases the mind about self-judgement. Dont judge yourself too much, just be kind hearted, in the end thats what its all about.

Don't cling to a state of mind or mood. Just relax, go with the flow. That's the only thing you can do, nothing to fix or to lose.

Feels like there is so much to discover about mystical hidden cultures (elves/trolls/etc) I wonder if the locations or structures we see in altered states of awareness have some sort of solidity to them. Like that different people can actually visit the same place or come in contact with the same being. The Akashic records would be such a place then imo.

They say the 'hallucinations' are different in each culture, but what if there is another dimension on top of ours but location wise like to our geographical space Would be a world on top of ours but only been seen with the minds eye. Just a thought

I don't know whether trolls are real, but check out this cool documentary about Nazca aliens. One of the best I've seen so far with pretty legit findings.

In exactly one week I will be flying from Amsterdam to Indonesia to finally meet the girl I have been dating and talking to for approximately half a year. This is the largest step I have ever taken to completely step out of my comfortzone. So I know here very well now from talking almost dayly, but I am still nervous how things will play out in person. I do have good faith and know that there is no doing wrong. Still I wonder if you guys have any good tips? Even if it's the usual advice. I'm glad to have any response.

I promised to write something after being back from holiday. Hmm where to start? So to recap, during the past several months I learned to know this girl, one who turned out to be even more special in my life than I could ever imagine. We first met on this website where you can talk to complete strangers, at that time I was very eager to learn more about what other people's interests are, what they think of the world, what they do, to better learn who I was and the world around me. What I found was that most people are not able to have a decent conversation or are willing to take some time to learn from other people. Still between all the trolls and perverts there are some people who I had a really great conversation with and even have some contact with those from time to time. However this post is dedicated to the girl I happened to fall in love with over the past 5/6 months and eventually took the step to travel half the world to go on holiday with her . I have always been careful to avoid any possible scams or some sort of catfish scenario's and luckily none of those are part of my journey. During this time until now I have always seen how important trust and being open about anything that is on your mind is crucial in completely opening up, breaking any boundaries and pushing personal comfort zones with care and feeling. During the time I first met her I was going through a very tough time, strong social anxiety, got out of university because it was to overwhelming and couldn't cope with all these feelings about where my life was leading to. I would say these are the darkest moments of my life and it was hard to see any light at all in the future. Somehow I'm very thankful for these phases, because without these I wouldn't be where I am now. I see depression as a forced psychological state deep from within the unconscious mind, that something, somewhere you have to fix/change the way you approach life. Some people will never manage to find out what their problem is or are to afraid to look within and anti-depressants can be a short-term fix, only covering up what is still fundamentally flawed. Luckily, I was getting tired of this refrained manner of acting and started to learn as much as I could. I wanted to know it all, learn why I am me, why the world is doing what it is, understand the human construct of mind, the game of psychology, preconceived roles, what generates joy, good/euphoric/sexual feelings by the way we speak or touch. What is timing, rhythm and feeling? How do we dynamically exchange this in any conversation or act. That's where I was after at when I opened this chat talking to complete strangers. I wanted to know the common thinking, how identities of people form, why, how and where. She was also having quite a hard time at that moment, being diagnosed with "borderline/bipolar illness" and we both helped each other a lot during these times. Sharing joy for silly things, talking about religion, philosophical things, human behavior, gender roles and much more. I'm so grateful to have found someone who is open to talk about anything, who I can trust with all my heart and who I can call my soulmate. Do I think any a soulmate or the one exists? No, absolutely not, but I willing to make this work with any means and that's the mindset you got to have. You can only receive what you give, if you or your (future) partner is not able to fully go for something eventually then this will be limiting and cause some sort of boundary (fear). In the beginning I was kind of afraid, things began to click and I was falling in love. I was afraid that I might not be able to give or promise that I could be eventually be there for her. This digital means of communication was after all so easy and with the severe anxiety I experienced I didn't know if she could ever handle that I couldn't do it. She was still quite emotionally unbalanced, with mood swings and sometimes some suicidal thoughts because of her situation*. Somehow I made a vow, if I could prove that I could love this girl unconditionally, throw away all my doubts and prove the universe that true love exists. Ever since my doubts have significantly decreased. I know that if I can be there for her and she for me, that anything else doesn't matter. We started to plan a holiday. At first we wanted to go to turkey, but because there is some political conflict we decided to go to Thailand. It was closer to her country and I didn't really care too much about my long flight or expenses. At first I was quite nervous, this imaginary idea/digital world of communication would finally materialize and it felt so exciting/dream-like and absurd. I took my flight from Brussels to Bangkok, which was my first time ever flying solo (to the other side of the world basically) and took the taxi to the domestic airport where she would arrive. After long time waiting, there was a long immigration queue for her I saw her for the first time . I was kind of speechless and tired (8 hours of waiting) but felt so relieved. It didn't really felt strange to me because I had been talking to her so much, still it felt so unreal . We decided to go to the hotel and get some rest after long time of travel (for me). Next several days we explored Bangkok, temples, boat tour, general sight seeing. It was fun and to cool to see all this culture, but I found the city pretty busy. After Bangkok we fly to Phuket, some great beaches, another boat tour and visiting islands. Further more we visited, Phi phi, Krabi and Kuala Lumpur. They have some amazing thai massages there, if you ever go there, check them out! We had a great time and it went even better than expected. I think out bond has become even stronger now and we will be going on holiday again next summer. This still is a long distant relationship, but we don't really care, we stay in good touch, share a lot and are very happy to have found each other. I hope this might be motivational for some, help you, as it did for me. Everyone seeking a relation, being in a relation. Remember to understand one another, talk about trust and the fears one has, take a leap of faith and there result unimaginable. Happy actualizing, break those boundaries downnnn!!!! Principium Nexus